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You get talking, hit it of then BLOCKED
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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Because, I'm guessing the other person didn't actually feel like you were hitting it off. I've had people message me saying 'oh we were getting on so well a few months ago'. I check back and we set two or three messages that I felt like we're trying to get blood from a stone...
I've had someone message me recently who I met with ages ago (like probably about 9 or 10 years ago).
They said how great it was, how they would love to meet up again, how well we got on etc...
They have a very different view to our meet than I do. It was ok, they talked about themselves the whole time, the sex was entirely focused on their pleasure. It wasn't what I'd call a great meet or one I'd want to repeat.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The thing is I actually thought we were going on like she said that I was good-looking she said that she would like to see me and then suddenly like out of the blue you come on the next day and and you're blocked and it's like it would be nice to have a reason for it as she found someone else did I say something wrong which I highly doubt |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up |
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Could be a number of reasons
1. It wasn't going as well as you thought and they weren't honest enough to say so or just block you at the time
2. They just enjoy the banter, chat and photos- still a bit dishonest not to just tell you their intentions
3. Teasers
4. Deliberate time wasters
5. Second thoughts
Just move on and have no ex0ectations so you won't be disappointed or you could have a nice surprise instead |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened"
She changed her mind, try not to take it personally, she just wants to avoid the awkward conversation of being blamed for leading you on. |
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up"
It’s NOT a sex site  |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up"
1. I wouldn't say your profile was that different, what do you feel is different about it?
2. Technically it's a social media style site for swingers. Everyone uses it differently but most people get a little angry when it's called a sex site. Mainly because women are often treated like sexual/fetish vending machines.
3. We all probably need to care less about what others think of us, it's a good, but hard, life lesson for all. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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It seems to happen often here sadly,
Maybe life got in the way, or she changed her mind, people do and block to stop any abuse (that happens too). It might be she wasn't comfortable with something that was said.
We'll never know unfortunately op.
Don't drive yourself mad trying to suss people out here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened"
The person changed their minds, that is their right.
By the sounds of this thread you would have argued with them about it anyway and possibly demanded a reason why they did not want to meet you after all. So they did the right thing in blocking you.
They don't owe you anything OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you were talking to a woman, maybe she was too polite and came across friendlier than she meant to in order not to be rude.
If it was a couple, maybe the other half didn't feel the same.
There's lots of possible reasons. Just brush it off and try to move on. |
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People change their minds. Often people are put off by something but are too polite to say or don’t feel like they can give a clear rejection so they take the easy way out. People can be treated a bit like they’re disposable on here which isn’t especially nice. Don’t let it worry you too much, it’ll likely happen again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've always said that people can always change their mind about the situation and I completely get that but when you feel like there is a little bit of connection you like the same stuff.. like I said maybe from a guys point of view because I don't get many messages and it's nice to actually receive 1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When she asked you how you were did you reply ‘Not three bad!’ cause sometimes that could be the reason, or maybe you said ‘holibobs’ or ‘staycation’ when referring to going away on holiday in the UK ?! |
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"When she asked you how you were did you reply ‘Not three bad!’ cause sometimes that could be the reason, or maybe you said ‘holibobs’ or ‘staycation’ when referring to going away on holiday in the UK ?! "
Exactly this. Sometimes you just get the ick and there’s nothing you can do about it. And you can’t say why because it’d make no sense. Blocking is the only way sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" 2. Technically it's a social media style site for swingers. Everyone uses it differently but most people get a little angry when it's called a sex site. Mainly because women are often treated like sexual/fetish vending machines.
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I kinda resent this. Because in my experience it is the ladies who treat the site like a vending machine, trying to decide what treat they want.
Nothing wrong with that, but it's not all one-sided  .
Back to the OP topic, if you feel hard done by when a chat just ends with a block for no reason, you should probably learn to be less concerned by it. It's even worse when you are talking face to face at a social and they vanish in front of you . |
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"When she asked you how you were did you reply ‘Not three bad!’ cause sometimes that could be the reason, or maybe you said ‘holibobs’ or ‘staycation’ when referring to going away on holiday in the UK ?!
Exactly this. Sometimes you just get the ick and there’s nothing you can do about it. And you can’t say why because it’d make no sense. Blocking is the only way sometimes "
This is very true.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up"
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up"
She might not of liked those who have given you verifications.
Maybe she talked to another guy and liked them better......
Just move on - doubt you'll get an answer, even if you've mentioned it on the forums and she reads it...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This was time ago this didn't happen like recently it just one of my mates mentioned as well so I thought I will mention it just to see if it happens to anyone else. At the end of the day all of us are here for different reason |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
T"
You're making me sound like I think I am God's gift or anything they my times that I put myself down on my videos they my times but I don't think good about myself at the end of the day I don't think I'm too good for this website I'm just me at the end of the day. All of us are on here for different reasons some people want no strings attached some people want to find out one person and some people just come on here to have a bit of a laugh, at the end of the day I'm not perfect no one is perfect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This was time ago this didn't happen like recently it just one of my mates mentioned as well so I thought I will mention it just to see if it happens to anyone else. At the end of the day all of us are here for different reason"
It's more common than actually meeting on here ....
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
T
You're making me sound like I think I am God's gift or anything they my times that I put myself down on my videos they my times but I don't think good about myself at the end of the day I don't think I'm too good for this website I'm just me at the end of the day. All of us are on here for different reasons some people want no strings attached some people want to find out one person and some people just come on here to have a bit of a laugh, at the end of the day I'm not perfect no one is perfect"
"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
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You're making me sound like I think I am God's gift or anything they my times that I put myself down on my videos they my times but I don't think good about myself at the end of the day I don't think I'm too good for this website I'm just me at the end of the day. All of us are on here for different reasons some people want no strings attached some people want to find out one person and some people , just come on here to have a bit of a laugh, at the end of the day I'm not perfect no one is perfect"
Succinctly put!!...pand you've answered your question at the same time. Generally any advice I offer, I'd recommend doing the opposite of what I've said, I'm hardly prolific on here. But I reckon if you didn't start threads whining about why someone stopped their interest in you, then it wouldn't come across in your banter to them and your chance of moving into day 2 territory improves. If you continue to be bamboozled by it, just keep it to yourself and don't mention it. I'm generalising but its the sort of thing that won't blow wind up a girls skirt.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
T
You're making me sound like I think I am God's gift or anything they my times that I put myself down on my videos they my times but I don't think good about myself at the end of the day I don't think I'm too good for this website I'm just me at the end of the day. All of us are on here for different reasons some people want no strings attached some people want to find out one person and some people just come on here to have a bit of a laugh, at the end of the day I'm not perfect no one is perfect
Anyone that takes a look at my profile or anyone that sees my videos can clearly see that I'm a little bit different even though we are on a sex site maybe that's why I need to toughen up
This in my humble opinion could be were the problem sits as you are just one person out of over 40,000+ people and not that many people would have looked at your profile or seen your videos and just going on the amount of fans I’d say that you are not as popular as you think you are which is of course fine and indeed dandy but you are not going to fit every woman’s wish list.
Time and time again you start threads that can indeed give clues as to why you were blocked but to be honest this just the way of fab so chin up and just enjoy your adventure on here even if you think that you are different for a sex site!!!
Best of luck op.
T
You're making me sound like I think I am God's gift or anything they my times that I put myself down on my videos they my times but I don't think good about myself at the end of the day I don't think I'm too good for this website I'm just me at the end of the day. All of us are on here for different reasons some people want no strings attached some people want to find out one person and some people , just come on here to have a bit of a laugh, at the end of the day I'm not perfect no one is perfect
Succinctly put!!...pand you've answered your question at the same time. Generally any advice I offer, I'd recommend doing the opposite of what I've said, I'm hardly prolific on here. But I reckon if you didn't start threads whining about why someone stopped their interest in you, then it wouldn't come across in your banter to them and your chance of moving into day 2 territory improves. If you continue to be bamboozled by it, just keep it to yourself and don't mention it. I'm generalising but its the sort of thing that won't blow wind up a girls skirt.
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Mate that’s the only way you’d get to see up a girls skirt is if the wind blew it
Best advice I’ve seen you give all night do the exact opposite of you !
I agree !
I’d like to give you constructive advice but I doubt you’d listen ?
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Most people just aren't compatible with most other people. It can take some time to get to know for sure if you are or are not compatible.
You're not potentially very far off but if they have a red line that you cross, it's curtains. It may also be about availability or preferences.
It is about them. Their life is unknown and different to yours. Work, partners, family, friends etc will take priority and plans and ideas change.
What you can do is to have realistic expectations. Read my first sentence again. |
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Communication can be abrupt here. Several reason can be the cause. One outcome in every case is that they don’t want to talk with you anymore.
I perfer the “Thanks, but no thanks”. Unless you are persistently trolling or unnecessary rude. |
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"I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened"
What I find curious is YOUR perspective and the perspective of so many others that think the way you do.
You have some internet contact with a stranger. Pass a few hours and come to the belief that this is going to be a very long term if not LIFE LONG friend.
When I read this type of thread I sometimes think of little children putting on the telly and wondering where Thomas the Tank is cos he was in there yesterday. Or crying if they look at the cat basket cos the cat went out while they weren't looking and the child just can't fathom how that happened. .....
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"I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened
What I find curious is YOUR perspective and the perspective of so many others that think the way you do.
You have some internet contact with a stranger. Pass a few hours and come to the belief that this is going to be a very long term if not LIFE LONG friend.
When I read this type of thread I sometimes think of little children putting on the telly and wondering where Thomas the Tank is cos he was in there yesterday. Or crying if they look at the cat basket cos the cat went out while they weren't looking and the child just can't fathom how that happened. .....
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Thank god for that.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't understand where you start talking to someone you search pictures with each other you both like what you see of each other and then suddenly you go back onto it the day after and it comes up saying you cannot view this profile it's like I don't understand how one day you can really get on with someone and then the next day it's like what's happened
What I find curious is YOUR perspective and the perspective of so many others that think the way you do.
You have some internet contact with a stranger. Pass a few hours and come to the belief that this is going to be a very long term if not LIFE LONG friend.
When I read this type of thread I sometimes think of little children putting on the telly and wondering where Thomas the Tank is cos he was in there yesterday. Or crying if they look at the cat basket cos the cat went out while they weren't looking and the child just can't fathom how that happened. .....
Thank god for that.."
You Complaining again |
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"Every now and then it's accidental.
You mean Him complaining?
Na he’s worse then me always moaning !!  "
It was response to granny crumpets comment. Total opposite of a complaint. ....was in agreement. If I have to caveat everything including nuionce and context then it's true....you can't argue with stupid, leave em to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Every now and then it's accidental.
You mean Him complaining?
Na he’s worse then me always moaning !!
It was response to granny crumpets comment. Total opposite of a complaint. ....was in agreement. If I have to caveat everything including nuionce and context then it's true....you can't argue with stupid, leave em to it"
deleted that cause I had to read that again
Mate Relax yourself it wasn’t a dig rain that neck back in I was joking 
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"When she asked you how you were did you reply ‘Not three bad!’ cause sometimes that could be the reason, or maybe you said ‘holibobs’ or ‘staycation’ when referring to going away on holiday in the UK ?! "
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