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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you lady's prefer aggressive Dom's or more playful Dom's I:E actions have repercussions spanking etc. I have always been curious as I have had a mixture of both women and was wondering what the majority thoughts are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Like forceful but within safety obvs hair pulling picking up throwing on bed etc just acts that seem like aggression but you know your safe I have had so many mixed women over the years in just curious what women act mean over all by Dom |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like forceful but within safety obvs hair pulling picking up throwing on bed etc just acts that seem like aggression but you know your safe I have had so many mixed women over the years in just curious what women act mean over all by Dom "
I think "aggressive" is a poor choice of words 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i like a dom who ''fits me'' and what i want i love a sexual dom who not shy a little force here n there but mainly just sexual dom ... no bdsm but that the main prob most doms think it all whip n chains rather than just natural dom |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's what I mean a natural Dom or whips and cuffs and that? I'll admit I may have phrased it wrong assertive would have been the better way to put it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer a controlled Dom who knows limits and boundaries, respects and is constantly working with his sub to bring out the best in both of them.
Its not all about spankings, whips, chains and the like it's about communication, trust and a special bond.
Anyone who uses the term aggression to describe their Dom/me should be out of there as it shows a lack of understanding about the scene. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Surely you've answered your own question by saying you've had so many women liking different things over the years...
I dont like people that call themselves a dom - but I like to be dominated on occasion. |
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"That's what I mean a natural Dom or whips and cuffs and that? I'll admit I may have phrased it wrong assertive would have been the better way to put it "
Unsure that natural Dom is the correct phraseology either. Comes across as one kind is better than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's the point they try and classify you as a Dom when really you just adjust to what your sexual partner at the time likes its just varies so much I was curious I can adjust accordingly to the other person wether it's passionate or otherwise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a good friend of mine once said, "you're not a Dom, you're my Dom" I think thats sums it up. Everyone wants something unique to them and every dynamic is different 
That's the joy and wonder of BDSM |
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I like a dom who takes his time to get to know me, reads my body and adjusts his approach. I had a dom who knew me better than I knew myself so he knew how firm to be and also knew I hated humiliation so he always praised me which made me want to please him |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"That's the point they try and classify you as a Dom when really you just adjust to what your sexual partner at the time likes its just varies so much I was curious I can adjust accordingly to the other person wether it's passionate or otherwise "
As a Dom(me) its not on you to adjust to what your partner wants, its a two way street and ideally you find someone who enjoys what you enjoy. Sure you can tailor or hold back some things you enjoy that they don’t, but if you stop doing what you enjoy then you aren't being true to yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer a controlled Dom who knows limits and boundaries, respects and is constantly working with his sub to bring out the best in both of them.
Its not all about spankings, whips, chains and the like it's about communication, trust and a special bond.
Anyone who uses the term aggression to describe their Dom/me should be out of there as it shows a lack of understanding about the scene."
This ^  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's the point they try and classify you as a Dom when really you just adjust to what your sexual partner at the time likes its just varies so much I was curious I can adjust accordingly to the other person wether it's passionate or otherwise
As a Dom(me) its not on you to adjust to what your partner wants, its a two way street and ideally you find someone who enjoys what you enjoy. Sure you can tailor or hold back some things you enjoy that they don’t, but if you stop doing what you enjoy then you aren't being true to yourself. "
Tbf that's a bang on answer I tend to adjust to what ever the vibe is I don't act have a preference either way I can do either I'm very fluid I enjoy all types of sex I'm very much more aware of making sure the other party enjoys the experience as much as I do I would never do anything I'm not into obvs but I'm very flexible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems that people want to take the S&M out of BDSM. As a sensual Sadist is so hard to find willing play partners. It's all foot worship, face sitting and pegging these days. Sadly they are not my thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like a dom who takes his time to get to know me, reads my body and adjusts his approach. I had a dom who knew me better than I knew myself so he knew how firm to be and also knew I hated humiliation so he always praised me which made me want to please him"
I agree. My Dom also knows me better than I know myself, because he listened, watched and learnt me. He can push me because he knows how to read me, and will notice the smallest reaction from me. |
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Dom has nothing to do with being aggressive rather assertive and trust. Getting the lady to relax and understand her kink, what she enjoys, what is her fantasy? it is role-playing and exploring, getting deep in her head with the right words, touches, read her face and body. Some like it gentle, some aggressive and some a bit of both. the end goal is a pleasurable experience on both side.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of men who clam to be Dom’s have actually no idea takes two communication. "
It does, but if you have someone who doesn’t listen, and doesn’t respect your boundaries and limits, it doesn’t matter how good your communication is? |
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"A lot of men who clam to be Dom’s have actually no idea takes two communication.
It does, but if you have someone who doesn’t listen, and doesn’t respect your boundaries and limits, it doesn’t matter how good your communication is?"
Same though vice versa (and I was guilty of this in the past) of not explaining what I wanted/needed from a scene and placed too much pressure on M as a consequence. We work so much better now we have a better 2 way communication. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dom has nothing to do with being aggressive rather assertive and trust. Getting the lady to relax and understand her kink, what she enjoys, what is her fantasy? it is role-playing and exploring, getting deep in her head with the right words, touches, read her face and body. Some like it gentle, some aggressive and some a bit of both. the end goal is a pleasurable experience on both side.
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Agreed |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Dom has nothing to do with being aggressive rather assertive and trust. Getting the lady to relax and understand her kink, what she enjoys, what is her fantasy? it is role-playing and exploring, getting deep in her head with the right words, touches, read her face and body. Some like it gentle, some aggressive and some a bit of both. the end goal is a pleasurable experience on both side.
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You can’t just rule out aggression in dominance , some women like that , you can’t dictate what kink people are into because it’s uncomfortable, some don’t want to relax and want to be ja little outside their comfort zone with someone they trust . The key thing is consent and self control , not style. Styles like primal and even lustful can appear quite aggressive |
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"Surely you've answered your own question by saying you've had so many women liking different things over the years...
I dont like people that call themselves a dom - but I like to be dominated on occasion. "
About right for me too.
I have a guy who organises blindfolded gang bangs for me.
I have to trust him to check for condoms etc.
He is more an organiser than a dom but I like him to run the night and tell me what to do.
But at the end of the day he knows and so do the rest of the guys it's really me in control. |
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