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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.
While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on. |
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"Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.
While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on. "
Yes, always.  |
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In personal hell currently, suddenly a lot of shit has come my way. Personal and health stuff, hopefully some of it is behind me, but I still have more to deal with before I see happier times again.
Due to this I had to log out of Facebook and some other social media. There’s nothing worse than feeling that your life is spiralling out of your control and seeing other people enjoying their lives. Or at least pretending on social media that they’re having a great time.
So unfortunately it’s not only in a room full of people that you can find yourself feeling alone and missing out.
So yes I’ve been there recently and can totally be empathetic to that feeling   |
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I think it's very easy to look at other people and think their lives are better, happier, more fulfilled etc. Possibly they are but most people live lives that are mundane the majority of the time.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies. Not new to the site but newish to starting discussions here
While it's nice to see am not alone I do sympathise with anyone who feels the same. And agree that social media can make the feelings worse at times.
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Yep, I get that feeling regularly, unfortunately.
Conversely I am often happy to go and sit on my own in a busy pub or café, reading a book or on my phone, content that there are people around if I want them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep, I get that feeling regularly, unfortunately.
Conversely I am often happy to go and sit on my own in a busy pub or café, reading a book or on my phone, content that there are people around if I want them"
I so get this and in fact doing it now as wanted to be around people, even if strangers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's very easy to look at other people and think their lives are better, happier, more fulfilled etc. Possibly they are but most people live lives that are mundane the majority of the time. "
Have to agree
When I go clubs I'm lively and fun ,will talk to anyone and always include people on there own.
But my real life I'm just a stay at home mum with a very boring life waiting for the hubby to come home and liven me up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ya unfortunately it happens to most of us but the most important thing is to not let it get you down and if it does talk about it and don't bottle it up inside |
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Most of the time in social gatherings tbh.
I want to get involved and have fun, but I just find it really hard to start talking or to get involved with existing conversations, so I end up not saying anything and then just drifting around aimlessly.
It's something I'm massively working on though and trying to push myself out of my comfort zones. When I have I've had the best of times. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.
While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on. "
All the time but it doesn't bother me, certainly don't crave adoration or validation. Rather be alone in a crowd being me, than center of fake attantion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I think people think this about me. I'm happy to take time to myself in clubs and just watch from afar. I don't feel the need to be the life and soul of the party. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes. When it does happen it is very uncomfortable. Best way I can describe it is like the comedy Peep Show. I look around and it is like I am watching a show as an observer. They're all talking and laughing but I have zero clue what is going on. I don't even hear words, I just see lips moving and noises emitting from their mouths. Meanwhile my internal monologue is turned up to volume 11. And all of a sudden time seems to have slowed down.
'Do something... Say something... I have no clue what! Don't just stand there... Its OK, nobody noticed. Maybe I'll just count to 100 and then leave. I must have been here for at least half an hour now. Wait, I've been here six minutes? No... I must find someone and talk to them. Oh my god... Why does my mate look like an alien. What's happened to me? OK... I'm going to talk to this person, they look like they're bored and would welcome a chat. I'm a cool, friendly guy. OK here goes... '
Me: Hi! Oranges! |
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