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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you show them? Do you not?
We can't decide whether to or not.
Just wondering what other people views are and the reasons as to why they do or don't show them."
To be honest I share some as I like to read someones I am interested in messaging to see if we would click |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep them private, to ensure privacy and confidentiality of those I've been with. If a connection is made and someone asks, I'll make them available for them to read. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I have a fair few. I show a handful - no obvious ones that someone has penetrated me with fingers or penis. I like the ones displayed, they remind me of happy times and come from some of my favourite people. |
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We show a few, more the social ones though.
I have had someone message me about a meet I had because of a verification I showed once and although they were polite to me I didn’t like being pulled into any drama so it does make me think twice now about showing them.
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"We show a few, more the social ones though.
I have had someone message me about a meet I had because of a verification I showed once and although they were polite to me I didn’t like being pulled into any drama so it does make me think twice now about showing them.
Kx"
Oh crikey, we would hate the drama too, thankfully we haven't experienced any of that. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you show them? Do you not?
We can't decide whether to or not.
Just wondering what other people views are and the reasons as to why they do or don't show them."
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. Some are from socials & some are from fun meets. Depends on my profile text & who or what I’m looking for. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now."
I haven’t met you…are you sure you are real |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would be nice if I had some verifications to make a choice about!
However, in a previous Fab life, I used to just show the green tick then share verifications temporarily if someone I was interested in meeting asked to see them. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service. |
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"Would be nice if I had some verifications to make a choice about!
However, in a previous Fab life, I used to just show the green tick then share verifications temporarily if someone I was interested in meeting asked to see them. "
Quite liking this idea |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service."
How is it a mockery? Webcam veris can literally just be you sat there going hi it's me, chat for a while and boom get verified |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
I haven’t met you…are you sure you are real "
I think so...... we should sort that out |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service.
How is it a mockery? Webcam veris can literally just be you sat there going hi it's me, chat for a while and boom get verified "
To add veris are to prove you're real, not a bonkadvisor |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service."
Verifications aren't a feedback system. They are quite literally a verification of being the person that you say you are. Just because some people have decided that they'll use them like the Amazon or TripAdvisor review system doesn't mean that's how it should be.
So having 6 or 7 webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining just means those women went in the chat room and talked to people, thus verifying they exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont show them, im not a fan of them.
Ive never looked at a veri and thought 'ohhh god yeh i want to meet her/them'
However i have looked at vari's and been put off meeting from them. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"Seemed to do better when I didn't display them. Had some strange reactions now I've got mine displayed."
Really? But yours seem quite complementary. Why would anyone react to something someone else left you? |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service.
How is it a mockery? Webcam veris can literally just be you sat there going hi it's me, chat for a while and boom get verified
To add veris are to prove you're real, not a bonkadvisor "
Is there a job as bonkadvisor? I’d like to apply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't show mine anymore. Had some grief from someone about meeting someone on my old profile. Nobody's business who I have met."
Same thing happened to me so they're just for me now. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Do you show them? Do you not?
We can't decide whether to or not.
Just wondering what other people views are and the reasons as to why they do or don't show them."
We have never shown our verifications either on singles or couples profile. We meet people because of who they are and not their verifications. Guessing it is different for us because we been on the scene for a while and a conversation normally tells us what we need to know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do not give them nor do I wish to recieve them.
I have seen ladies on her who have as many as six or seven webcam verifications within 4 hours of joining, it just makes a mockery of the whole system.
As a point of interest I never give feedback for products or services I have received on line, I do however financially reward tradesmen and restaurant staff, et al, when I have been given good service.
How is it a mockery? Webcam veris can literally just be you sat there going hi it's me, chat for a while and boom get verified
To add veris are to prove you're real, not a bonkadvisor
Is there a job as bonkadvisor? I’d like to apply "
Theres an oral presentation to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have mine showing because I like to open about things. I wouldn't expect drama from anyone over them but I know it can happen on here.
I would hide graphic ones though if ever written. |
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I no longer show mine after I was made aware that someone was tracking who I was meeting and creating a fuss about it. Now I don’t show any of them at all. It saves those with green eyed monster tendencies getting their knickers in a twist!
I have some great memories reading back on them though
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We show our more recent ones, some have been lost because the profile has been deleted or we have blocked them for some reason. We also have quite a few repeat meets so often only show the most recent one. Some we don't show because we are no longer in contact with the profile which left it.
Oh we also have one verification which is so over the top we were not sure it was about us. |
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I show some recent ones, but I have had messages about people I've met in the past. It's a weird site for that sort of crap.
I tend to leave veris only when someone verifies me, just in case they feel a bit less open about them than I am! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I should have veris but re-joining again at the start of the pandemic, it seemed unfair to ask people
Now, honestly, I don't have the headspace (nor time) to be meeting, so again, they're just not a priority
You guys know I'm good and there's a few that would vouch for me if needed and, right now, that's all that matters |
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We just show our summary - that's enough hopefully for people to know we are real human beings!
We stopped showing the veris after being cyber stalked by someone & another of our lovely single men being asked why we had met him but not them (they were a couple who also felt they had exclusive rights to him)
We can't be doing with the drama Llamas!!
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"I should have veris but re-joining again at the start of the pandemic, it seemed unfair to ask people
Now, honestly, I don't have the headspace (nor time) to be meeting, so again, they're just not a priority
You guys know I'm good and there's a few that would vouch for me if needed and, right now, that's all that matters "
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I dont show them, im not a fan of them.
Ive never looked at a veri and thought 'ohhh god yeh i want to meet her/them'
However i have looked at vari's and been put off meeting from them. "
That last part for me as well actually, knowing when to steer clear for one and a few other reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ones I've got and display are the only ones I'll ever have. Even if I meet anyone else, I don't want or need a Veri. They cause more drama than they are worth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people I’ve met have now left fab so sadly there verification text went with them…
Snap.... I dont miss the veri text though "
Oh I do I had some really lovely ones that were nice to read back but |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people I’ve met have now left fab so sadly there verification text went with them…
Snap.... I dont miss the veri text though
Oh I do I had some really lovely ones that were nice to read back but "
Yeah mine were way over the top graphic never displayed so don't miss at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people I’ve met have now left fab so sadly there verification text went with them…
Snap.... I dont miss the veri text though
Oh I do I had some really lovely ones that were nice to read back but
Yeah mine were way over the top graphic never displayed so don't miss at all "
Sozzzz |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I show 'em all...verifications I mean.
The way I see it if I've met you I'm not ashamed to show it.
My life, my choice.
The main reason though is so others know what I'm about and get an idea of the real people I meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m glad this post has been put up - I thought I was the only one that pondered over veris and if to show them … I actually have this on the bottom of our profile -
*I have a love/hate relationship with veris … torn between showing them as it gives others a different perspective of us … and preferring to keep them private
We do have some on show - I like the ones that do give a different perspective of us … or say something lovely about us as a couple rather than what we’re good at lol - I’m not a fan of those graphic ones
Interesting comments on here xx
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people I’ve met have now left fab so sadly there verification text went with them…
Snap.... I dont miss the veri text though
Oh I do I had some really lovely ones that were nice to read back but
Yeah mine were way over the top graphic never displayed so don't miss at all
Sozzzz "
Stealthy, invisible, filth bag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seemed to do better when I didn't display them. Had some strange reactions now I've got mine displayed.
Really? But yours seem quite complementary. Why would anyone react to something someone else left you? "
I have absolutely no idea. They're not overly vulgar etc. Just had one or two fairly hostile reactions to a first message and when I asked why the veris were to blame.
Strange folk! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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I used to show them on my previous profile but it resulted in a bit of uninvited drama and actually made me leave the site for a while. When I rejoined I chose to keep verifications off my profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the contributions, interesting to read. We have hidden some veris."
Try hiding the veri summary... or showing all of your veris. Different things attract different people. |
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now."
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown! "
That's horrible but also snacks of jealousy. I really don't understand some people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quite a few people I’ve met have now left fab so sadly there verification text went with them…
Snap.... I dont miss the veri text though
Oh I do I had some really lovely ones that were nice to read back but
Yeah mine were way over the top graphic never displayed so don't miss at all
Sozzzz
Stealthy, invisible, filth bag "
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I took all verifications down 18 months ago because of a stalker issue and couldn't display them again until site restrictions were lifted.
A couple of weeks ago I was contacted by a woman who claimed to have found my profile through a verification I had given to someone she knew through her local updates.
After just a few messages she started to push for a meet in spite of what it says in my profile.
When I refused she contacted another of my verifications and told her to back off.
When I challenged her on this she said she was doing me a favour and then launched into bodyshaming in her final message before she was blocked and also in her status. |
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown!
That's horrible but also snacks of jealousy. I really don't understand some people. "
It had me in tears on occasion - but wouldn’t now. Hopefully they’ve all taken early retirement. |
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over a year ago
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown!
That's horrible but also snacks of jealousy. I really don't understand some people.
It had me in tears on occasion - but wouldn’t now. Hopefully they’ve all taken early retirement. "
I’m so sorry, lovely.
That really shouldn’t happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown!
That's horrible but also snacks of jealousy. I really don't understand some people.
It had me in tears on occasion - but wouldn’t now. Hopefully they’ve all taken early retirement.
I’m so sorry, lovely.
That really shouldn’t happen "
Blimey … I’m amazed other ladies would actually do that?! Jealousy is one thing - to feel it and grumble about it - but actually sending messages like that?!? I hope who they sent to realised the kind of person who’d do that would not be someone they’d like to meet
I’m glad it doesn’t bother you any more P xx
… and there was me thinking I just don’t like the graphic veris - hadn’t even thought of other crap that could happen because of them x |
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown!
That's horrible but also snacks of jealousy. I really don't understand some people.
It had me in tears on occasion - but wouldn’t now. Hopefully they’ve all taken early retirement.
I’m so sorry, lovely.
That really shouldn’t happen
Blimey … I’m amazed other ladies would actually do that?! Jealousy is one thing - to feel it and grumble about it - but actually sending messages like that?!? I hope who they sent to realised the kind of person who’d do that would not be someone they’d like to meet
I’m glad it doesn’t bother you any more P xx
… and there was me thinking I just don’t like the graphic veris - hadn’t even thought of other crap that could happen because of them x"
It’s a funny old world isn’t it?
Having said that - it can also be difficult when someone you really like and had an amazing time with then displays an equally ‘amazing’ veri from someone else soon afterwards. It can bring out a whole world of emotions. On no other platform would people be expected to display all aspects of their sex life in intimate detail. I think this can often be the crux of the problem tbh. Not so much for couples as you already have your ‘someone special’.
But for singles it can take a while to get your head around the idea - and I think it can be problematic.
I know I could never have handled that side of fab had I joined at a much younger age.
Hence whilst I could never excuse all the jealousy and unpleasantness that happens on fab - to some extent I can understand it. |
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"I show some. I don't show others.
There's a variety of reasons for those I don't show, not least there are a couple of people who appear to have had a very different experience when I met them to actual reality.
And quite frankly, I've met enough good people for socials that it should be obvious I'm real by now.
Again I show some (most) but not others.
Some I don’t show because they’re a little explicit for my liking (I’m happy for people to know we had great sex but I’m not into pornographic detail).
Some I don’t show due to fab politics/unpleasantness. Pre-lockdown I had what I termed a ‘Peachy hate group’ who messaged every young hot guy (oddly they had no issue with me meeting ‘un-ripped’ guys close to my own age) I met to tell them that I slept with anyone and everyone - had every STD known to man - and that meeting/showing a verification from me would guarantee that no ‘decent’ woman would ever meet them. Hence they hid my verification no matter how amazing a meet we’d had, and we never met again ofc.
I’m sincerely hoping that these ‘ladies’ all found new hobbies over lockdown! "
That's absolutely horrendous. We really struggle to comprehend how some people's minds work. It's really quite sad that people can stoop so low. Hope you still manage to have plenty of fun on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you show them? Do you not?
We can't decide whether to or not.
Just wondering what other people views are and the reasons as to why they do or don't show them."
Do men ever actually read the profile??? |
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