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I'm single because I split up with my long term partner nearly two years ago.
I currently live with a female friend who I pay rent to, i.e. I'm her lodger.
She knows I swing and, although not involved herself, has agreed that when we move to Clacton in a few weeks she's ok with the prospect of me playing in her new bungalow, with the caveat that it's only women who visit as she's not comfortable with guys she doesn't know.
I'd love to have a FWB at some point in the future, especially as I'd like a partner to attend clubs with, but I'm realistic enough to know it's unlikely to happen.
Having said that, I'm a single guy who does get regular play with two couples and one married lady (her hubby swings separately and knows me) so I'm very lucky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not by choice, work gets in the way, I work away for 6 months at a time and only home for 2, would love to find someone it’s it’s difficult with such limited time at home and finding someone who understands my work schedule
Looking for a FWB while home right now, if something better came along then all the better |
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"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"
I am single by choice and I prefer casual encounters with the people I choose whether at a venue or through this site. To tell you truth, I don't think I could live with someone now xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came back onto fabs without the intention of finding a partner. It just happened (and I couldn't be happier). We don't live together though.
If anyone needs a bucket, feel free to ask and I'll pass it over... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl 
Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol"
We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks! |
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"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl
Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol
We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks! "
So did we, but she had a birthday, we got d*unk, yadda, yadda. |
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over a year ago
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"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl
Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol
We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks!
So did we, but she had a birthday, we got d*unk, yadda, yadda. "
Lol nope... Still wouldn't happen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.
I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat "
Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus |
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"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.
I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat
Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus "
If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice, would prefer someone to share my life with, but content to not rush and just enjoy life till I meet someone special "
I feel exactly the same way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.
I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat
Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus
If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna"
I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth |
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"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.
I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat
Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus
If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna
I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth "
I may have to steal your goat. He sounds badass |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.
I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat
Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus
If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna
I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth
I may have to steal your goat. He sounds badass "
He is awesome but it does get tricky getting past him when it's time to take the bins out |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I’m sort of single by circumstance.
I have a very unsexy home life situation going on that is not conducive to dating (live with doddery mum, two young kids).
I’m also fat.
Super tall.
And I don’t think I could live with a fella again. I would prefer he had his own place, and we saw each other a few times a week.
I also have hairy pubes and armpits and according to most men on Fab, that’s pretty horrific, and I’m not landscaping my body hair for no-one.
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not by choice. I'd love a relationship but I can't even get anyone to talk to me on a swingers site nevermind in public.
Most people look down on truck drivers and the hours are shit so I basically have no social life. |
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Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no "
oh christ i am sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no "
I'm so sorry  |
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no
I'm so sorry "
Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.
I think I’m undateable tbh.
No one wants a widow with two children |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no
I'm so sorry
Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.
I think I’m undateable tbh.
No one wants a widow with two children "
Don't you talk like that missus!! Or I'll be walking the long trek up there to tell you off in person! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no
I'm so sorry
Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.
I think I’m undateable tbh.
No one wants a widow with two children "
I know this feeling too. I was widowed five years ago. I’ve tried conventional dating and a few women find it intimidating dating a widower which is understandable. I also find it more comfortable keeping things casual or in a fwb arrangement |
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over a year ago
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I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love. |
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no
I'm so sorry
Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.
I think I’m undateable tbh.
No one wants a widow with two children
Don't you talk like that missus!! Or I'll be walking the long trek up there to tell you off in person!"
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I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm single by choice, I think. I enjoy going on dates and having a boyfriend but I don't want to live with someone. I have a very busy life which I enjoy and sometimes I like time to myself which I might struggle to get if I was in a relationship. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "
I think this isn't a good place if you're already telling yourself you're only good for sex. I've thought that way before - it is hard to turn it off. But you're much more than that. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "
I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering |
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"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"
I would like to find someone to live with.. And we could play together x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By choice.
Have my mind focused on other goals.
Fab fills a need without the need for all the commitment and stuff
I’m not a cold hearted person just single is good for me whilst I concentrate on other things  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect
I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "
This is so wrong. You're both beautiful women worth so much more. Real men would see that. |
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect
I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "
You're worth more than that. Sometimes things come along when you least expect. I'm of the opinion that actively seeking relationships can set you up for failure |
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"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times"
I know that feeling!
I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..
Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.
I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.  |
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"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love. "
The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not by choice, recently became single and because of my disability it makes it difficult to socialise and meet people which is why I come onto these forums. Gives me that little bit of normality and to interact with others.  |
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over a year ago
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"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.
The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy. "
I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary. |
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect
I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "
Big love |
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect
I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering
This is so wrong. You're both beautiful women worth so much more. Real men would see that. "
Thank you |
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"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times
I know that feeling!
I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..
Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.
I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together. "
I've definitely become more hard nosed over the past few years. I've managed to say no on lots of occasions to someone I couldn't before but she's still trying but she's never going to be forgiven let alone back in my life even as a friend.
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"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times
I know that feeling!
I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..
Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.
I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.
I've definitely become more hard nosed over the past few years. I've managed to say no on lots of occasions to someone I couldn't before but she's still trying but she's never going to be forgiven let alone back in my life even as a friend.
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I've got a friend well.. Soon to be ex friend who has really hurt me. He has broken my heart previously & now it's just too much. Isn't it hard to step away tho... |
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"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.
The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy.
I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary. "
I hope you feel more at ease soon... Xx
I feel I struggle with vanilla dating sites - how do you tell anyone what you're really into |
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By choice! After a horrible experience with my ex. It's easier sometimes just to have fun and have intimacy on your own terms, Guess we all like regular fun though whether single or in relationships/or open relationships. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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I'm single but not by choice. I've been single now for about 4 years now and been searching for that special someone in that time. I'm assuming it's just not my time yet I suppose. I've stopped trying so hard and now just enjoy life as it is until it happens. You just never know really. She may be on here somewhere |
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Being single again has reminded me of how I used to be and have reverted to... I can speak to, see and befriend whomever I like without my ex placing her own limitations ... should have realised a lot sooner! Never felt better! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.
The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy.
I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary.
I hope you feel more at ease soon... Xx
I feel I struggle with vanilla dating sites - how do you tell anyone what you're really into "
I think that's a quote from 3 women which looks like one - thank you if that was meant for me!
I can't do vanilla sites anymore - I'm not vanilla, I'm not monogamous - spent too much time trying to explain. |
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Kinda choice after breakup from last partner in 2004 ! Certainly never want another conventional relationship again! B nice to have a true fwb rather than a fb though! Best of both worlds then! As love my life as it is but be nice to share days eves out as well as sexy times! Found this once couple years ago was ideal till he wanted more! But maybe I will find this again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single by choice and staying that way.
No interest in commitment of any kind, even socials are too datey for me.
Very happily single and too selfish to relinquish any of my freedom. |
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
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I’ve chosen to be single and very much doubt I will ever have another live in, long term relationship after my last experience. A true FWB is what I’m really hoping for. Someone to share fun times with and not just sex but that feels elusive right now. I’m not interested in being anyone’s FB. |
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"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"
I tell myself it's by choice but I'm probably a bit of an Uggo as well lol
I go through stages of trying to date but it all comes round to sex in thd end. I wouldn't really want to gucd up arranging bbw nights and going to chams. Playing I was never bothered about when seeing someone from here but the buzz of chatting to naked people in the club was what I liked.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it was my choice to leave every time but it's not been my plan to stay alone. As desperate as I am I just can't be with the wrong guys."
better to be single than in a bad relationship xx  |
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No one wants a widow with two children "
Not true hunny. When I began dating my ex she had 4 young kids. Our relationship lasted 18 years and most of them were memorable for all the right reasons.
There will be someone out there for you. The difficult bit is finding them but I hope it happens for you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m single my choice in as much as I’d rather be single than date a dickhead. However I would like to meet someone and have a relationship but like a few I feel that I’m only wanted for fun or by attached guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I listen to my mariried friends moaning about their husbands and having to check with them before they do anything or go anywhere and I think fuck that! I do what I want, when I want and with whoever I want and I answer only to myself! It’s liberating and I wouldn’t change a thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone. |
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"Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone."
I know the feeling! I have my kids every weekend and every weekday too Older though, so I can sneak out  |
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"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times
I know that feeling!
I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..
Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.
I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.
I've definitely become more hard nosed over the past few years. I've managed to say no on lots of occasions to someone I couldn't before but she's still trying but she's never going to be forgiven let alone back in my life even as a friend.
I've got a friend well.. Soon to be ex friend who has really hurt me. He has broken my heart previously & now it's just too much. Isn't it hard to step away tho... "
It is hard but it's often the case that doing the right thing for yourself is hard |
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No one wants a widow with two children
Not true hunny. When I began dating my ex she had 4 young kids. Our relationship lasted 18 years and most of them were memorable for all the right reasons.
There will be someone out there for you. The difficult bit is finding them but I hope it happens for you xxx"
After so many years have passed you sort of resign yourself to the fact it’s not gonna happen.
Hope is a dangerous thing, it just breaks my heart |
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"I’ve been single by choice for a long time. I don’t want the whole cohabitation shiz but I miss the someone to spend quiet time with. One day… "
I'd like this but I'm starting to think it's a pipe dream. Love the word shiz, makes me smile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not single by choice. Husband died.
I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.
If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no
I'm so sorry
Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.
I think I’m undateable tbh.
No one wants a widow with two children "
Dont Be silly anyone would be lucky to have You - xxx. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had one date in that time.
Not for want of trying.
So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.
Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "
thats normally when it happens xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone."
Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m single very much By choice - I have found men can be obstinate arsehole‘s
and I’ve no time for that just now.
I want to focus on other things  "
This fact you speak of men is hardly “news”  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!"
Why would you need to explain !
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over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!"
You know what and I'm sorry to have to say this but I think a lot of people get together with others that cover mutual weaknesses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m single very much By choice - I have found men can be obstinate arsehole‘s
and I’ve no time for that just now.
I want to focus on other things
This fact you speak of men is hardly “news” "
Good !! I was not declaring it as news |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!
Why would you need to explain !
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When the time comes to introduce her to your friends and the "so how did you meet" question comes up... or how to explain why one of them has a ball gag in their mouth  |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner! You know what and I'm sorry to have to say this but I think a lot of people get together with others that cover mutual weaknesses."
Yeah, I can agree with that. Its maybe why some relationships that start that way work and some don't? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner! You know what and I'm sorry to have to say this but I think a lot of people get together with others that cover mutual weaknesses.
Yeah, I can agree with that. Its maybe why some relationships that start that way work and some don't?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By choice/laziness.
I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.
It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.
Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!
Why would you need to explain !
When the time comes to introduce her to your friends and the "so how did you meet" question comes up... or how to explain why one of them has a ball gag in their mouth "
Mm that could make for an awkward - conversation - but if you want something enough you will find away!
or you will always find an excuse why it will not work! |
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over a year ago
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"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy. "
12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self? |
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"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.
12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self? "
in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that |
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"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"
I'm currently on a 1 year ban from being in a relationship |
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Was single by choice but after 5 years of singledom I would like to find someone to be with again. Since joining this site I think I'd only ever enter a relationship where swinging was involved though. |
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"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.
12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self? in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that "
Phew - I was worried for you then -
sorry about the break up!
totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was single by choice but after 5 years of singledom I would like to find someone to be with again. Since joining this site I think I'd only ever enter a relationship where swinging was involved though. "
This I am trying to find out - what kind of relationship I would like |
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"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.
12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self? in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that
Phew - I was worried for you then -
sorry about the break up!
totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x"
be something wrong if I wasn't happy after 12 years lol. 5 years single and in the happiest place |
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"Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone.
Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people "
It has been in my case, if I'm at a Park or cinema I'm with my kids, that's my time with them. Have had dates, but the fact that I work until midnight and have only 1 weekend out of 4 free is a big issue for any woman I have tried dating. I know this to be true as generally when they say " you don't have time for me " its pretty conclusive. So to reiterate, not single by choice but life dictates I am for the time being. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone.
Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people
It has been in my case, if I'm at a Park or cinema I'm with my kids, that's my time with them. Have had dates, but the fact that I work until midnight and have only 1 weekend out of 4 free is a big issue for any woman I have tried dating. I know this to be true as generally when they say " you don't have time for me " its pretty conclusive. So to reiterate, not single by choice but life dictates I am for the time being. "
Yer can see the restrictions - but never say never sure you will find her ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.
12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self? in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that
Phew - I was worried for you then -
sorry about the break up!
totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x be something wrong if I wasn't happy after 12 years lol. 5 years single and in the happiest place "
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Entirely by choice: previous FWB arrangements have ended when the guy wanted some form of relationship progression (monogamy, moving in together and in one case he desperately wanted kids).
The whole reason I signed up here was because I figured it would be easier to find the FWB arrangement I wanted without that drive towards a relationship I've no use for on here than it is on other sites.
Poor, naive fool that I was  |
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