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Do you let other people sleep in your bed?
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I haven’t had any guests stay for 6 years 
But if I did I might let them have our bed - it would depend who it was. I’d possibly put them in a child’s room as they have 3/4 size beds & it’s less inconvenience for me.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If I didn't have one nor a study with a sofa bed... then yes, I probably would.  But I'd have to do clean sheets and wash after. I'd rather someone have the bed and I slept on the sofa, would feel too guilty to sleep if not. |
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Yes. I've shared beds since I was younger, so I'm comfortable sharing with many others - very selectively. Likewise, I've camped and had guys snuggle up, when they're cold, or wanting to shag. A lot of my friends come to bed for a snuggle, chat and snooze.
But, I love sleeping alone, all the space it gives, especially in hot weather, when others heat you up. So it depends on weather, who the people are and what I fancy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my boyfriend's mum came to stay I would have no hesitation to offer our bed to her. We could sleep in my son's room and he could have a camp bed. But in all honesty I very much doubt she would accept as we are not a married couple and she probably wouldn't stay with us if he and I slept in the same bed. We have to sleep separately when we visit her  Her beliefs and we accept her rules at her home.
Friends have stayed over and they get my son's bed when he is at his dad's house.
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
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My awesome bestie yes... especially when she's dog sitting... she's allowed whatever she likes in the house as she's doing me a massive favour. Even change the sheets for her!
If I'm not home.. the bed is hers |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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There are so very few people that I'd have stay at my house. But the one or two I would, yes, they could stay in my bed.
Given it's over 6' wide and 7' long I'm pretty sure I'd not even notice if they were there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends were i pass out im known for sleeping on a washing line.its only a bed the sheets wash i wouldnt mind really.
Sure as hell pulling you out by your feet when i wake up for a piss at 3.30 though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually no. But depends who it is.
My “twin” bff yes. We always sleep together whenever we can 
But apart from that no, I love my own bed so much x I’d need to build a lot of trust to have some guy sleep in my bed. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To he honest I'd feel like a bitch making someone I care about sleep on a sofa or elsewhere if the other half of the bed is free. Same if we're staying away together and sharing a room. Male or female, make no difference xx |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Do you let guests sleep in your bed, if you don’t have a spare room.
Parents, siblings, friends…."
It depends on who it is.
If its my parents or bon kinky friends then sure.
If its kinky folk, they sleep in the dog cage, or chained up next to our bed!
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Kids when poorly, but that's a rare thing now they're older. Not had a lot of need for family or friends to stay over as they're all near by and in that event we have a spare room.
Stayed in the sister in law's bed once - make of that what you will.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this  )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
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Oh. Nah. I don't like my family that much. They can stay elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
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are they .... Still intimate? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
are they .... Still intimate?"
Probably, eww |
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
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I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise "
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty. |
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty."
Ahh if that happened then me and children would be in my bed and they would be in seperate single beds |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty."
do they ? I'd not visit and expect a bed to be provided if it meant the person was on the sofa (tho I'm not quite in back pain land yet). Are they thinking you should be giving up your matteress for them ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty.do they ? I'd not visit and expect a bed to be provided if it meant the person was on the sofa (tho I'm not quite in back pain land yet). Are they thinking you should be giving up your matteress for them ?"
Yes, and I’ve finally saved up to replace the mattress that I shared with my toxic ex, and it’s all lovely and mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty.do they ? I'd not visit and expect a bed to be provided if it meant the person was on the sofa (tho I'm not quite in back pain land yet). Are they thinking you should be giving up your matteress for them ?
Yes, and I’ve finally saved up to replace the mattress that I shared with my toxic ex, and it’s all lovely and mine. "
without knowing all the deets... That feels an unreasonable IMO. Especially if it leaves you on the sofa. I'm guessing splitting a b&b bill is also out the question.
TL;Dr you are not the asshole. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the replies (totally didn’t forget I’d posted this )
I don’t mean to share with me, I mean my mum and step dad to have my bed, with me on the sofa.
I knew what you meant
My bed and food on my plate are things I just don't share
Hotel is a happy compromise
Well, me too, but the problem is, I don’t have the funds to pay for a hotel for them, so I feel guilty.do they ? I'd not visit and expect a bed to be provided if it meant the person was on the sofa (tho I'm not quite in back pain land yet). Are they thinking you should be giving up your matteress for them ?
Yes, and I’ve finally saved up to replace the mattress that I shared with my toxic ex, and it’s all lovely and mine. without knowing all the deets... That feels an unreasonable IMO. Especially if it leaves you on the sofa. I'm guessing splitting a b&b bill is also out the question.
TL;Dr you are not the asshole. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We tend to give over night guests the choice of our room or the yurt.
Not that the yurt has been out of the barn for a few years, hopefully it’s not been eaten by mice."
You should have been renting it out for a million pounds a night in the Great British Staycation goldrush. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s not for selfish reasons really, because I’ve given up my bed for them loads of times, it’s just, my new mattress, it probably doesn’t even make sense, but I had to save really hard to get a new one, that didn’t feel polluted by exes energy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not for selfish reasons really, because I’ve given up my bed for them loads of times, it’s just, my new mattress, it probably doesn’t even make sense, but I had to save really hard to get a new one, that didn’t feel polluted by exes energy "
A new mattress is a precious thing, I dont think I would let anyone on it either; family or not |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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It depends. I had a friend who had split from her boyfriend.. She was so sad and I felt like making her sleep on the sofa would be even sadder. I bunked in with my daughter.
Otherwise, my sofa is super comfy, wide when you take the back cushions off. It's long and in the morning, the light is lovely through the curtains.
I love making lovely nests for my guests. With close friends I snug in with them in my bed. If you stay over at mine. I promise you'll be super cosy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. I had a friend who had split from her boyfriend.. She was so sad and I felt like making her sleep on the sofa would be even sadder. I bunked in with my daughter.
Otherwise, my sofa is super comfy, wide when you take the back cushions off. It's long and in the morning, the light is lovely through the curtains.
I love making lovely nests for my guests. With close friends I snug in with them in my bed. If you stay over at mine. I promise you'll be super cosy. "
Cosy you say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are quite lucky to have a spare room most of the time and a massive king size sofa bed downstairs. However, if we had someone to stay if we were going away (that was a friend) and was looking after our little man  we would offer our bed, it's a king-size and very comfy!
Danish x |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends. I had a friend who had split from her boyfriend.. She was so sad and I felt like making her sleep on the sofa would be even sadder. I bunked in with my daughter.
Otherwise, my sofa is super comfy, wide when you take the back cushions off. It's long and in the morning, the light is lovely through the curtains.
I love making lovely nests for my guests. With close friends I snug in with them in my bed. If you stay over at mine. I promise you'll be super cosy.
Cosy you say "
Cosy.. At the very least  |
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"We tend to give over night guests the choice of our room or the yurt.
Not that the yurt has been out of the barn for a few years, hopefully it’s not been eaten by mice.
You should have been renting it out for a million pounds a night in the Great British Staycation goldrush. "
We did consider it but we remembered that as a general rule of thumb we don’t like people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who’s staying but I’ve had female friends sleep in my bed with me. No funny business going on although I have given them a poke when they start snoring |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To he honest I'd feel like a bitch making someone I care about sleep on a sofa or elsewhere if the other half of the bed is free. Same if we're staying away together and sharing a room. Male or female, make no difference xx"
What guests would you be likely to have that aren't friends or family? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you let guests sleep in your bed, if you don’t have a spare room.
Parents, siblings, friends…."
Parents, siblings, friend - all in the spare room. Only angels (fallen or not) get to sleep in my bed |
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I have a spare room so I've never had to consider it.
My mum at a real push because I'd feel like a dick making her sleep on the sofa. The real question there is why is she staying at my house? She never has, is her house ok? Where is my younger brother staying if there's an issue with her house? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. I had a friend who had split from her boyfriend.. She was so sad and I felt like making her sleep on the sofa would be even sadder. I bunked in with my daughter.
Otherwise, my sofa is super comfy, wide when you take the back cushions off. It's long and in the morning, the light is lovely through the curtains.
I love making lovely nests for my guests. With close friends I snug in with them in my bed. If you stay over at mine. I promise you'll be super cosy. "
U sound like an amazing friend u just made me emosh reading that especially the snug in with them part 
Everyone needs a friend like U!  |
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"Do you let guests sleep in your bed"
If sex is going to be involved...hell yes! As a straight man I love the plural notation used in the question (FFM, MFM, MFF, MFFFFFFFFFF+ etc.)
"Parents"
I'd need a shovel and besides, they probably wouldn't smell too great.
"siblings"
They can sleep in the garden or they can piss off home!
"friends"
ROFL. OK, there are a few that could have the settee for a night or two, but...what was the question again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our (almost) ten month old baby gets our bed lol just last night he was star fished in the middle asleep so me and K had our snuggles on the floor (laminate flooring with a piss poor rug to lay on) so not to wake him.
This is coming from a guy who once put tape down the middle of my bed to ensure an ex stayed on her own side lol.
I must be going soft.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a girlfriend that stays in our bed, when we go out
On a night out that is lol
She keeps it warm for your return "
Lol no... He keeps it warm for when she and I return from the pub lol |
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