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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have seen on profiles statements like....
Newbies pay for the hotel.
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The hotel cost gets split.
What are your thoughts on this?
Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?
If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?
Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this. |
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I guess the thinking is that if someone pays to reserve a room then they're less likely to flake out/ have better odds they are who they say they are.
Personally I'd be pretty pissed if someone suggested that though. I'd be happy to make a reservation but I think payment should be split in most cases.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have seen on profiles statements like....
Newbies pay for the hotel.
Or
The hotel cost gets split.
What are your thoughts on this?
Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?
If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?
Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this. "
If I couldn’t host, then I would offer the pay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have seen on profiles statements like....
Newbies pay for the hotel.
Or
The hotel cost gets split.
What are your thoughts on this?
Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?
If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?
Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this. "
I would always like to pay for the first hotel meet, I don’t see why newbies have to pay though surely it’s either a discussion or someone offers |
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It generally is something to share. If someone has already got a room booked and is using it for their other enjoyment, then it's not typical to share costs.
Imposing this on to new users seems more like a scam and inappropriate |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
If its a hotel meet then we are more likely to pay for the room, as we are likely going to be spending the night there.
If the person we were meeting insisted strongly in paying some or half of it we wouldn’t fight it, but we also wouldn't expect anything.
The last few hotel meets we have had, we paid for both rooms, as it was our idea to take her to a club.
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I’m not going to start arguing over a hotel bill…although more often than not we’ve played for a few hours and we’ve kept the room for the night.
When me and C met in hotels in the early days, I paid the hotel, she’d get food and drink…
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
I've done all of them paying for, being paid for and splitting, depends on the person you're meeting. If I get any hesitation about of the person is genuine I'll suggest they book and I'll give them the money towards, soon whittles out the time wasters as they disappear |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My view is 50/50 is fair most of the time/instances.
I would never insist on anyone paying if couldn't or wouldn't accommodate. Certainly wouldn't in a newbie either.
A first meet on neutral territory in a hotel makes sense and I guess you both figure out the cost side along the way. I would say that the one who's idea it was to book a hotel would assume they pay and the other then offers towards it or offers dinner and drinks.
Personally I've been treated to a hotel stay once.
I just find some statements like in my post utterly crazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.
if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.
if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.
if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "
I don't think it would be right to expect you to pay if they can't accommodate and won't travel. But I probably would still offer to pay half.  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "
If we are taking/escorting them to the club and traveling together we will likely pay for their entrance unless they insist.
If we are meeting at a hotel, then as above we would pay as we would likely stay in the room over night, unless they have already booked the hotel. |
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "
Still split the hotel cost but they can pay their own club entry unless we go in as a couple and play there as a couple. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.
if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.
if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.
if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.
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I want 5star treatment lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.
if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.
if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.
if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "
Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had all three situations but if someone was demanding I pay then I wouldn't want to meet them. I'll treat people I want to treat not treat others that expect it.
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.
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Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.
Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though!"
Thats my thoughts. Are we agreeing!  |
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"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.
Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though!
Thats my thoughts. Are we agreeing! "
Again?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems pretty obvious to me. Who ever eats the little packets of biscuits that come with the tea and steals the teeny tiny bottles of shampoo has to pay"
Can we splitthe biscuits and shampoo as I definitely have no use for shampoo |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
I don't really care who pays.. You, me or sharies. But I'm not really keen on any demands on profiles. I prefer a bit more of a chat and flow with arrangements.. I'm meeting humans not transactions or contracts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends if it’s a local meet whare staying not a thing then probably say 50/50
If it’s not a local meet ie down south Newcastle Manchester or London
Then I pay for my hotel room as I be staying there the night after the meet
So don’t think it’s fair to have them pay hafe |
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"I don't really care who pays.. You, me or sharies. But I'm not really keen on any demands on profiles. I prefer a bit more of a chat and flow with arrangements.. I'm meeting humans not transactions or contracts.
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Well put if I do say so myself totally agree |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry  |
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"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry "
I don’t know where I stand now  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry
I don’t know where I stand now "
I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.
Does that help? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I’m not a fan of hotel meets. I can accommodate and would rather do that then a hotel room. It’s a personal experience and hotels can be noisy in the corridors at times which could distract you |
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"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry
I don’t know where I stand now
I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.
Does that help? "
 yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first?? |
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We cant accomodate more often than not so hotels are something we use. We wouldnt demand anything of anyone but we do find each situation can be different. Theres a point where it's all fair if we pay and a point where costs should be split. Just depends on the situation.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry
I don’t know where I stand now
I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.
Does that help?
yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first?? "
That's a whole different thread..... |
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"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.
Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.
It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.
Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry
I don’t know where I stand now
I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.
Does that help?
yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first??
That's a whole different thread..... "
Ops sorry what’s it called and where can I find it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We love hotel meets. But, we always book our own room in a nice hotel, we are happy to share the room for fun, but we incorporate fun with a hotel break. Best of both worlds for us. If they want to stay the night they can book their own room
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've done all three options.. Paid full bill, gone 50:50 and been the 'guest' "
So have we 
In fact we are currently planning a meet with a couple and we have suggested a hotel as it suits our circumstances better and therefore wouldn't ask the couple to pay towards it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite honest with who I'm meeting. At the moment I don't work so I always say I'll contribute half but so far I haven't had to as the guys have been very generous. I usually pick up drinks for us instead. |
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It has always very much depended on the individual circumstances...but generally worked out a more or less even split for all expenses (one travels a long way, the other pays for the hotel, one buys dinner, the other gets breakfast etc) |
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"It has always very much depended on the individual circumstances...but generally worked out a more or less even split for all expenses (one travels a long way, the other pays for the hotel, one buys dinner, the other gets breakfast etc) "
Like that approach. Happy to travel and pay for one of either meal or hotel |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I won't meet anyone who's anal about this kinda thing. It's like going to a restaurant and working out how much your individual bill comes to.
Sometimes they pay, sometimes I do. I've never met anyone where we've agreed to pay halves, but it normally does work itself out to be mostly equal. |
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