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Cd/tv and ts group?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So in recent days I’ve come to realize I don’t actually have any cd/tv or ts friends

And it can be a lonely world, especially when none of your friends know about the secret part of your life

So I was wondering if anyone would be up for starting a group ? (Not for sexual purposes)

Where we could potentially all meet up from time to time and just let our hair down with likeminded people (maybe have gurl days/nights out)

Just a thought x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just had a look on a well known site for tvs for venues where tvs meet in Hampshire and there seem to be loads. If you don’t get much response to your thread you could go along to one of those to meet people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awww hugs op

There’s definitely some very lovely tv/ts pokeing around the forums here

Also meet quite a lot off lovely ones in Manchester and such on nights out

It can be lonely at times but I find the forums a grate outlet for that such thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just had a look on a well known site for tvs for venues where tvs meet in Hampshire and there seem to be loads. If you don’t get much response to your thread you could go along to one of those to meet people.

Thankyou! I may have to look into it, just thought I would ask all the lovely girls here first x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Awww hugs op

There’s definitely some very lovely tv/ts pokeing around the forums here

Also meet quite a lot off lovely ones in Manchester and such on nights out

It can be lonely at times but I find the forums a grate outlet for that such thing "

Yeah I’ve only really recently started checking out the forums,

It’s definitely been good coming here,

Just be nice to meet some likeminded people in person x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too. "

No don’t be silly I didn’t take it as cold

I took it as intended and that was advice to help someone out, which is much appreciated

I think confidence is also a big part too,

For me personally I would feel a lot more comfortable going out dressed with others rather then alone (maybe that’s partly due to growing up in quite a homophobic area)

But it definitely does get lonely at times, as for me it’s still a secret and quite confusing at times x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too.

No don’t be silly I didn’t take it as cold

I took it as intended and that was advice to help someone out, which is much appreciated

I think confidence is also a big part too,

For me personally I would feel a lot more comfortable going out dressed with others rather then alone (maybe that’s partly due to growing up in quite a homophobic area)

But it definitely does get lonely at times, as for me it’s still a secret and quite confusing at times x

I imagine it is all very confusing if you’re early on in your journey.

Remember first and foremost: you are not alone. There are loads of people on the trans spectrum.

Lots of these venues have somewhere you can change so you’d be able to go in and then get yourself all dressed up to enjoy an evening with people who understand.

They’rea great place to swap tips as well as meet people.

Are you on the site for tvs? It’s ideal for chix?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too.

No don’t be silly I didn’t take it as cold

I took it as intended and that was advice to help someone out, which is much appreciated

I think confidence is also a big part too,

For me personally I would feel a lot more comfortable going out dressed with others rather then alone (maybe that’s partly due to growing up in quite a homophobic area)

But it definitely does get lonely at times, as for me it’s still a secret and quite confusing at times x

I imagine it is all very confusing if you’re early on in your journey.

Remember first and foremost: you are not alone. There are loads of people on the trans spectrum.

Lots of these venues have somewhere you can change so you’d be able to go in and then get yourself all dressed up to enjoy an evening with people who understand.

They’rea great place to swap tips as well as meet people.

Are you on the site for tvs? It’s ideal for chix? "

I been on the journey for as long as I can remember and I’m still confused lol

Well I say confused but it’s more of a indecisive limbo

And yeah been on the site for chix for a while, although I don’t go on there too often I probably should, I just prefer the layout of fab more easy to function x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too.

No don’t be silly I didn’t take it as cold

I took it as intended and that was advice to help someone out, which is much appreciated

I think confidence is also a big part too,

For me personally I would feel a lot more comfortable going out dressed with others rather then alone (maybe that’s partly due to growing up in quite a homophobic area)

But it definitely does get lonely at times, as for me it’s still a secret and quite confusing at times x

I imagine it is all very confusing if you’re early on in your journey.

Remember first and foremost: you are not alone. There are loads of people on the trans spectrum.

Lots of these venues have somewhere you can change so you’d be able to go in and then get yourself all dressed up to enjoy an evening with people who understand.

They’rea great place to swap tips as well as meet people.

Are you on the site for tvs? It’s ideal for chix?

I been on the journey for as long as I can remember and I’m still confused lol

Well I say confused but it’s more of a indecisive limbo

And yeah been on the site for chix for a while, although I don’t go on there too often I probably should, I just prefer the layout of fab more easy to function x"

I have been on my journey since I realised I was being grouped in with the wrong gender around six or seven years old.

Many of us realise we don’t fit societies expectations very early on in life.

I’m happy to chat if that would Help xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww Tori! Totally get what you mean, it can be a lonely place sometimes x

Believe it or not I don’t know that many other trans girls , I know some from different circles but we aren’t friends or anything. I’m super grateful of some of the women on this forum who i talk to here and there x Rach including shes been amazing with her advice and I have to meet her soon!

Its good to have the confrontation, especially as you are not out so you don’t have the support from friends.

My only piece of advice I can give you is … if you have really good friends, they will be there for you no matter what !! I may not have many trans sister friends in my life, but I am super lucky I have friends who are being there for me throughout xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m sorry Tori. That probably came across all a bit cold and practical just then.

This can indeed be a very lonely world at times, wether you’re someone who dresses quietly at home or even if you’re a ts who’s out and proud somewhere on your transitional journey.

As above, the forums can be a great place to have a laugh.

I’ve made some great friends by attending the socials too.

No don’t be silly I didn’t take it as cold

I took it as intended and that was advice to help someone out, which is much appreciated

I think confidence is also a big part too,

For me personally I would feel a lot more comfortable going out dressed with others rather then alone (maybe that’s partly due to growing up in quite a homophobic area)

But it definitely does get lonely at times, as for me it’s still a secret and quite confusing at times x

I imagine it is all very confusing if you’re early on in your journey.

Remember first and foremost: you are not alone. There are loads of people on the trans spectrum.

Lots of these venues have somewhere you can change so you’d be able to go in and then get yourself all dressed up to enjoy an evening with people who understand.

They’rea great place to swap tips as well as meet people.

Are you on the site for tvs? It’s ideal for chix?

I been on the journey for as long as I can remember and I’m still confused lol

Well I say confused but it’s more of a indecisive limbo

And yeah been on the site for chix for a while, although I don’t go on there too often I probably should, I just prefer the layout of fab more easy to function x

I have been on my journey since I realised I was being grouped in with the wrong gender around six or seven years old.

Many of us realise we don’t fit societies expectations very early on in life.

I’m happy to chat if that would Help xx"

Thankyou ! It’s always nice to know There’s someone to talk to thats has experience

it’s much appreciated xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Aww Tori! Totally get what you mean, it can be a lonely place sometimes x

Its good to have the confrontation, especially as you are not out so you don’t have the support from friends.

Yeah the support throughout on this site has been amazing if I’m honest, and it’s also allowed me to let out apart of me that I wouldn’t of necessarily ever had the courage to do,

It’s just a constant battle most of the time, especially when it comes to transitioning, to this day I still can’t make the decision and it’s just a constant arguement in my own head really x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww Tori! Totally get what you mean, it can be a lonely place sometimes x

Its good to have the confrontation, especially as you are not out so you don’t have the support from friends.

Yeah the support throughout on this site has been amazing if I’m honest, and it’s also allowed me to let out apart of me that I wouldn’t of necessarily ever had the courage to do,

It’s just a constant battle most of the time, especially when it comes to transitioning, to this day I still can’t make the decision and it’s just a constant arguement in my own head really x"

Transition takes many forms and comprises of lots of smaller transitions, including in your own mind.

I’m pretty sure how you feel now will change and develop over time.

One thing someone said to me early in my own journey was that you can’t run away from this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The journey is as long as you want it to be ,as far too, l agree with the earlier comments ,l have made some truly lasting friends ,catching up after lockdown . After a while the desire to be yourself ,wether full or part time will be all consuming if thats what you want , the fun and friendship and even love and marriage are all out there so good luck and stay safe xx Steffie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww Tori! Totally get what you mean, it can be a lonely place sometimes x

Its good to have the confrontation, especially as you are not out so you don’t have the support from friends.

Yeah the support throughout on this site has been amazing if I’m honest, and it’s also allowed me to let out apart of me that I wouldn’t of necessarily ever had the courage to do,

It’s just a constant battle most of the time, especially when it comes to transitioning, to this day I still can’t make the decision and it’s just a constant arguement in my own head really x"

U will know In your bones when u are ready. It’s just a switch that clicks and goes right into place. Don’t force it, think. Enjoy the moments , discover, research and eventually it will all make sense and you will be ready.

At least that’s how it was for me, even tho I had such an early concept. Now I beat myself up for not having done it way way way sooner. But maybe I probably

Wasn’t ready and didn’t have the strength to go through such a strong thing like transitioning. Xx

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