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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment  |
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
Very much so . I would have zero interest in sticking round just for the forum as fun as it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I still get excited yes xx sometimes it can be nerve wrecking haha x
But I try to avoid doing quickies (I’m limiting them to only guys I met before) x
Luckily I have to say I don’t get let down by people at all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every single time, I’d stop meeting if I didn’t feel the nerves and excitement of that first hello…
Not all are lasting memories
But some stay with you and make you smile  |
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I still get very excited at the planning stage. I love getting in my car and driving to the meet with a mixture of nervous excitement.
Sorry you’ve not been feeling it recently op. Hope things perk up soon x |
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
Nearer than you think |
"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
A mix of both... the build up is exciting but my expectation (from experience, not insecurity) is always to be let down. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Absolutely….if I didn’t feel a rush of excitement I wouldn’t have arranged the meet in the first place, got to have that magnetism to someone, that rush of slight nervousness and anticipation just adds to it all xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm jealous of all of you who still get excited.
I used to be like that but the crushing disappointment from every time I've been let down has rendered me to an empty husk of a swinger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm jealous of all of you who still get excited.
I used to be like that but the crushing disappointment from every time I've been let down has rendered me to an empty husk of a swinger "
Stay positive … the good will come |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Amber, try and not be too disheartened by it, hopefully the next one won't let you down. If you're not that excited about meeting people, maybe don't for a bit? You can't live with doubt and lack of joy in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes!! I only ever meet people I’ve know for quite a while so it’s lovely to put a face to a conversation 
How long have we known each other now? Haha
Who are you?!?  "
You remember… the guy you saw once across the room at that place that we were both at for that event |
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For a social I tend to assume they aren't going to turn up, so if they do it's a glorious surprise. I don't let myself get too excited because then I'm not too disappointed at a no-show.
If we've had a social I do tend to assume they'll turn up next time we arrange to meet and that's when I let myself get excited. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Having been looking for meets. This since lockdown easing etc. So far have had one arranged, profile disappear. Day of meet. Now again . Supposed to have one this weekend. Again no confirmation. Profile still up on another site and also on a chat site.Meet not been online since reading my last message. A week ago. I have now no expectation when messaging , chatting. In turn if now get replies etc. Have at back of mind. Is this going to be another waste of time ? |
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I don't get excited but for different reasons than yours op.
I've never been stood up or ghosted so that doesn't come into my thought process.
I suffer from a form of anhedonia which I won't try to explain as Google will be much better but it basically means an inability to feel pleasure.
In my case its not as extreme as that as I am always present and in the moment and anyone I've met can confirm that.
However there is an inability to anticipate pleasure or get excited about anything whether that be a fab meet or a holiday abroad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s always exciting as we have normally talked for a while so I can’t wait to talk to them in person. I only meet people that we have the basis of a friendship there in the first place.
Though I would describe it as nervous excitement 99% of the time. |
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Maybe come to some of the organised socials Amber to meet people and see who you might find x
I'm only meeting my fwbs and consumating lockdown relationships that were formed, so it's a known excitement rather than a nervous excitement |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I get completely terrified meeting someone new, but in an excited way.
If it's someone I already know then i get excited and have butterflies.
Without the original terror and the subsequent butterflies I would know I wasn't actually into them. So they're a good thing I guess. |
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"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
Yes I love the excitement of a meet. And most I have met have been nice people.
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I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
So I’ve never cancelled anything at short notice or been cancelled/ghosted and only cancelled once or twice way in advance , but there was a time when it all just got a bit boring and hard work, particularly couples, they are so much work sometimes, so I only really meet now if I’m super excited and very rarely meet couples anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A mix of excitement and nerves and dread for me as I've had some meets that have gone ahead and been fantastic and some that were non starters as they stood me up and ghosted me  "
What!!!!!! |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"A mix of excitement and nerves and dread for me as I've had some meets that have gone ahead and been fantastic and some that were non starters as they stood me up and ghosted me
What!!!!!! "
Yup  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"A mix of excitement and nerves and dread for me as I've had some meets that have gone ahead and been fantastic and some that were non starters as they stood me up and ghosted me "
Spontaneous visitors are the best though aren't they |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"A mix of excitement and nerves and dread for me as I've had some meets that have gone ahead and been fantastic and some that were non starters as they stood me up and ghosted me
Spontaneous visitors are the best though aren't they "
Oh they are! |
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"I do, but I like the whole getting ready thing as much as the going out. "
This! Me too!
Its the excitement of getting ready, getting in the car, I love the excitement and butterflies more than the meet most of the time haha
Her x |
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"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
We won't be doing this when it's not exciting anymore. We never play on a first meeting so don't have the problem of dashed expectations. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
Think excitement is determined by different factors and levels. Think excitement is linked to some level of positive expectation - not just sexual - will they be nice? - will we get on? Are they really that hot as they look in their pictures.
If you expect to be to letdown then - you have no reason to be excited - negative expectation.
We have more encounters outside of FAB, maybe experience has taught us where is the best chance of something happening and obviously reading people - even on a subconscious level - but we don't go out with that expectation or get excited - but if it happens it is exciting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion "
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?! |
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"When arranging a meet/date?
Or do you think "eh, I'll schedule it but I'm not gonna get excited until I'm actually there and can see him/her" because there's a 99.99999999% chance you'll get cancelled on/ghosted/stood up anyway?
I'm definitely the latter at the moment "
Being stood up is the absolute worse of experiences 
It hurts  |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?! "
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?! "
I meant there’s less chance of a couple or single female ghosting me if we’ve arranged a meet. Not that it’s less likely for a guy to ghost.
If a female or coupke go through all the effort to pick me and arrange a meet, I’m confident they don’t ghost.
Where as for guys, most send out 100s of messages a day. To anyone. They’ll agree to anything on the spot because it’s so rare to get a reply. As that time comes closer reality sets in and they’re more likely to ghost
And don’t think just coz you didn’t send them any wank fodder means anything. They could wake up and wank 3 times to porn before lunch and then just lose the will to do anything. It’s just how lots of guys are sadly. The fantasy, the porn, the imagery of doing it. Can sometimes seem better than the real thing. It’s definitely less effort, and a lower chance of rejection too.
Not making excuses for guys that ghost, just giving an insight into the reality of it all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
I meant there’s less chance of a couple or single female ghosting me if we’ve arranged a meet. Not that it’s less likely for a guy to ghost.
If a female or coupke go through all the effort to pick me and arrange a meet, I’m confident they don’t ghost.
Where as for guys, most send out 100s of messages a day. To anyone. They’ll agree to anything on the spot because it’s so rare to get a reply. As that time comes closer reality sets in and they’re more likely to ghost
And don’t think just coz you didn’t send them any wank fodder means anything. They could wake up and wank 3 times to porn before lunch and then just lose the will to do anything. It’s just how lots of guys are sadly. The fantasy, the porn, the imagery of doing it. Can sometimes seem better than the real thing. It’s definitely less effort, and a lower chance of rejection too.
Not making excuses for guys that ghost, just giving an insight into the reality of it all "
And people wonder why I'm forever alone |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?! "
And I know it’s annoying, but sadly it happens to both sides
You say this happens 99.9% of the time. Guess what happens to 99.9% of messages guy send? Rejected.
It’s just 2 different sides of the same shit coin.
Guys struggle like hell to get any kind of connection or meet
Couples and females struggle like hell to actually get a genuine person to show up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x"
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time. |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time. "
Sadly I feel the same, and for a single guy clubs are 10x harder
Maybe find a girl on here nearby to go with. From what my friend tells me, and she’s brand new, it’s however you want to make it. She says her first time was like going to a pub/club because she didn’t want to play on the first time, she just had a few drinks and chatted to people |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time. "
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time.
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word "
Yeah I get what you mean, but I just don't think the whole environment is what I'm after. I'd much rather a quiet, cosy night in with Netflix and some wine. |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time.
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word
Yeah I get what you mean, but I just don't think the whole environment is what I'm after. I'd much rather a quiet, cosy night in with Netflix and some wine. "
I hope you know I wasn’t propositioning you 
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
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That’s my experience too, no one has ever cancelled or not turned up to meet me but all the women talk to say it’s extremely common for guys to do both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time.
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word
Yeah I get what you mean, but I just don't think the whole environment is what I'm after. I'd much rather a quiet, cosy night in with Netflix and some wine.
I hope you know I wasn’t propositioning you
Sorry if it came across like that!"
Haha no worries!
I'm just not suited to the club scene.
Plus I haven't done the whole going up to someone and flirting/making a move thing since my nightclub days pre-covid. I think I'd throw up if I had to do that now. |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time.
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word
Yeah I get what you mean, but I just don't think the whole environment is what I'm after. I'd much rather a quiet, cosy night in with Netflix and some wine.
I hope you know I wasn’t propositioning you
Sorry if it came across like that!
Haha no worries!
I'm just not suited to the club scene.
Plus I haven't done the whole going up to someone and flirting/making a move thing since my nightclub days pre-covid. I think I'd throw up if I had to do that now. "
Trust me, you wouldn’t have to - they’d be approaching you! *still not propositioning, just an observation! () |
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I get excited when i see a message i have sent has actually been read because its rare as rocking horse shit on here
But yes i do get excited arranging a meet , the lead up and anticipation is great . Just got to make sure its real and set up properly because some people can be let downs . Hasnt happened to me yet but im sure it will . |
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"I think as a guy we struggle more with getting the meet than people cancelling. Generally if a woman/couple has picked me out of 1000s of other guys, there’s a good chance it’s gonna happen
But I understand it’s completely different for woman, with so many guys being keyboard wankers that get off on the idea more than actually doing it.
So yeah, I get excited, because it a rare occasion
OK but both meets I had set up for this weekend are now ghosting me. Both perfectly nice, respectable boy next door types. Feels like the thousandth time this has happened. We haven't sexted or exchanged pics, so I haven't given them any wank fodder. This is literally just what happens 99.9% of the time.
You can't on one hand say it's so difficult to get meets and then on the other bottle out of it when someone gives you a chance?!
Well, it’s most definitely their loss - I know that doesn’t help you now, but surely it’s better that they show their true colours now, rather than later?
Have you been to a club or spa? Even if you don’t play, you can enjoy the facilities and chat x
Thank you x
I'm just not really sure clubs are for me tbh. I'm not much of an exhibitionist, and I think I'd just feel awkward and shy the whole time.
That’s exactly how I felt when I went a few weeks ago for my first time, too. It’s better if you go with someone, then at least you have someone to talk to. I was too chicken to go on my own, but was always curious to go. I think I’d go back on my own, but only on certain days, or go with someone else as ‘backup’, for want of a better word
Yeah I get what you mean, but I just don't think the whole environment is what I'm after. I'd much rather a quiet, cosy night in with Netflix and some wine.
I hope you know I wasn’t propositioning you
Sorry if it came across like that!
Haha no worries!
I'm just not suited to the club scene.
Plus I haven't done the whole going up to someone and flirting/making a move thing since my nightclub days pre-covid. I think I'd throw up if I had to do that now.
Trust me, you wouldn’t have to - they’d be approaching you! *still not propositioning, just an observation! ()"
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