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By *igsy8 OP Man
over a year ago
Accrington |
yes I realise the amount of mail women get vastly outnumbers guy's, in general. Even if i get mail from gay guys I try to txt back saying thanks but no, because theres a thought behind the message regardless of gender etc they may have overcome any amount of nerves fears what have you. I know exactly how it feels to reach out to nothing after writing a out a polite cleanish considered pm. kindness costs nothing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I understand the frustration of no replies, if some of the women were to reply to every message they get fab would become an unpaid full time job.
It states in the site FAQs that no reply is a reply and is to be taken as a no  |
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By *igsy8 OP Man
over a year ago
Accrington |
"While I understand the frustration of no replies, if some of the women were to reply to every message they get fab would become an unpaid full time job.
It states in the site FAQs that no reply is a reply and is to be taken as a no "
I'm not frustrated anymore and i do understand that many have mail. water of a ducks back these days. Just saying if you can see someone anyone m/f/t has really thought about what they wrote then i'll express thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its been suggested many times about a thanks but no thanks auto reply button but its never been actioned.
Comes down to reading.  . People do not read FAQ’s or profile bios so here we are - disgruntled people who would like replies.
Hopefully there’ll be a remedy one day.
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"if you can see someone anyone m/f/t has really thought about what they wrote then i'll express thanks. "
Oh if only that would happen!
Getting a message from someone that has made a real effort is a dream of many of us. |
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"if you can see someone anyone m/f/t has really thought about what they wrote then i'll express thanks.
Oh if only that would happen!
Getting a message from someone that has made a real effort is a dream of many of us."
I've had them ignored, I don't think it makes a difference how long and how much effort went in if attraction isn't there |
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"That reminds me, I must reply to Abu Omar about those millions that have been left to me
Ha ha 
And I need to double check on that warrant for my arrest from HMRC "
I had a pre recorded message phone call not long ago saying there was a fraud case in my name being opened and I needed to call the investigating officer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always reply, but I might get a message or two a month, normally from a forum ‘message the profile on top…’
Always polite responses though, even when a guy was hassling for photos (it’s not my thing)
Have no idea how the popular one’s would even have chance to read all theirs let alone reply!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people  
get the kettle on
I replied!"
Ffs Nora i was wanting someone to bite and shoot me down, then i could be sarcastic |
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied with a NO I will not do that you weirdo !"
Feel your pain Nora. |
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied!
Ffs Nora i was wanting someone to bite and shoot me down, then i could be sarcastic "
Ah yeah should’ve known  |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on "
Might need a head start I'm 100 miles from home nearly |
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied with a NO I will not do that you weirdo !
Feel your pain Nora. "
. He asked you to do that too?! Gross |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied with a NO I will not do that you weirdo !
Feel your pain Nora. "
I said i would provide the lube though  |
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied with a NO I will not do that you weirdo !
Feel your pain Nora.
. He asked you to do that too?! Gross "
Yup… dirty sod |
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"Awww i know. I never get replies. Just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I even read a profile, twice.
Messaging the wrong people
get the kettle on
I replied with a NO I will not do that you weirdo !
Feel your pain Nora.
I said i would provide the blue waffle though "
That’s the point!!!
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"yes I realise the amount of mail women get vastly outnumbers guy's, in general. Even if i get mail from gay guys I try to txt back saying thanks but no, because theres a thought behind the message regardless of gender etc they may have overcome any amount of nerves fears what have you. I know exactly how it feels to reach out to nothing after writing a out a polite cleanish considered pm. kindness costs nothing "
Yes, kindness does cost something. In this case it's time.
You seem to be under the impression that the majority of messages have some thought put into them. Believe, that is definitely not the case. The vast majority of guys who write to us no interest in what we have put in our profile, have not in any way considered if we are compatible, and have not put any thought into what the write to us. Messages like that do not warrant a reply. We reply to decent messages, but not to the rubbish ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It isn't kind to me to spend time i don't have replying to everyone and entering into pointless chat. In this respect I put myself first. Not sorry either. |
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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago
Milford Haven |
Each message on merit, polite and compassionate yes or no does not really matter. It all depends on day time also minute the message is opened the yes or no reply will be on the persons feelings at that moment. |
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
Newcastle-under-Lyme |
I manage my time on Fab in my own way. I have a life outside of Fab too so I’m not going to waste lots of time replying to one word or one sentence messages that have completely disregarded what I’ve said I’m looking for in my profile. |
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"yes I realise the amount of mail women get vastly outnumbers guy's, in general. Even if i get mail from gay guys I try to txt back saying thanks but no, because theres a thought behind the message regardless of gender etc they may have overcome any amount of nerves fears what have you. I know exactly how it feels to reach out to nothing after writing a out a polite cleanish considered pm. kindness costs nothing "
Only message those you already know from parties or clubs.
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I have a girl friend on here.
Part of the issue is that when she replies with a polite no, the men still messages a number of messages. Multiply that by all the letters she said no to, and you have a load of messages she had to read all from men she has said no to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I can’t understand why women don’t spend their days replying to men they have zero interest in and who haven’t read their profiles, when they’re only spending their time chatting to people they like and want to meet, what’s up with that, I mean it would only take several hours a day to reply and then of course several more hours to reply to the follow up messages, then there is of course the ‘just give me a chance!’ messages to reply to, I mean what else would they be doing with their time, only paintballing or yoga, or maybe out with friends and family, come on ladies kindness costs nothing. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
This site can be harsh. It must be tough sending out lots of messages to get no replies no matter what it says on the site rules, it’s frustrating. I stopped replying when I realised it meant that the person could send me messages even when I changed my filters. I also found this site rubbish for meeting people. Clubs worked better for me. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"I have a girl friend on here.
Part of the issue is that when she replies with a polite no, the men still messages a number of messages. Multiply that by all the letters she said no to, and you have a load of messages she had to read all from men she has said no to.
Vic "
I have to say that my experience was different. Most just accept it or send a thanks for replying back. It’s the rare few who start to pester. They just stick in your mind more. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a girl friend on here.
Part of the issue is that when she replies with a polite no, the men still messages a number of messages. Multiply that by all the letters she said no to, and you have a load of messages she had to read all from men she has said no to.
Vic "
Even when you delete some messages without reading and they still message again so either way you can't win |
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A load of fake women profiles.
A load just want replies for ego reasons.
Too many women vs men.
Like i said before, get to know people in clubs or parties. That works well. Then message them on here after you given them a good fucking. They tend to reply then!! |
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I try to answer every message but the number of people that don’t read my profile and message me to meet today just beggars belief. If they can’t be bothered to read my profile then I don’t feel compelled to answer them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Today I ran an experiment.
A man messaged me. So I responded with a polite 'No, thank you'.
Apparently I am just a cheap worthless whore who is just pretending to be choosy.
That is the perfect example of why I don't reply. |
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"Today I ran an experiment.
A man messaged me. So I responded with a polite 'No, thank you'.
Apparently I am just a cheap worthless whore who is just pretending to be choosy.
That is the perfect example of why I don't reply."
Ask him how he can say you are cheap and worthless. You are either cheap or worthless, can't be both. That will get his little mind wondering.
Or tell him you are to busy fucking others from this site to reply to him.
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By *igsy8 OP Man
over a year ago
Accrington |
"The point the OP appears to be missing is that, "it's only polite" to read a profile before wasting someone's time with a message they do not want :-
KM"
I dont get it why would I pm them because theyre pics are nice. Of course I read profiles no bull if i like them sometimes i'll read them twice . I always read a profile before messaging |
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"The point the OP appears to be missing is that, "it's only polite" to read a profile before wasting someone's time with a message they do not want :-
KM
I dont get it why would I pm them because theyre pics are nice. Of course I read profiles no bull if i like them sometimes i'll read them twice . I always read a profile before messaging "
You might, many don't |
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