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By *tanners86 OP Man
over a year ago
Milton Keynes |
I’ve noticed a lot on here that ‘swirling’ is a huge thing. But I rarely seem to come across black women looking for white men… at least not in my location search anyway!
Is this a rare match?
I’ve always been attracted to black women and have had two long term partners who were black.
Do the ‘swirler’s’ exist on here? Where are you?! lol |
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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago
taunton |
Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. |
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By *exfordMan
over a year ago
discombobulated land |
"I’ve noticed a lot on here that ‘swirling’ is a huge thing. But I rarely seem to come across black women looking for white men… at least not in my location search anyway!
Is this a rare match?
I’ve always been attracted to black women and have had two long term partners who were black.
Do the ‘swirler’s’ exist on here? Where are you?! lol "
I'm my experience a black woman and white male is a grey area... |
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By *exfordMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve noticed a lot on here that ‘swirling’ is a huge thing. But I rarely seem to come across black women looking for white men… at least not in my location search anyway!
Is this a rare match?
I’ve always been attracted to black women and have had two long term partners who were black.
Do the ‘swirler’s’ exist on here? Where are you?! lol
I'm my experience a black woman and white male is a grey area..."
Yes... Think about it....  |
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By *olfie26Man
over a year ago
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My preference is for black women and i have met many over the years who prefer white guys. I have had long term relationships with a couple of black beauties, one from Zimbabwe and a few from the Caribbean. |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
Other stereotypes are available, but not many others - most are in here already |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
21st century Britain.   |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
I don't understand this comment.
What do you mean?
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
black guys being what they are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nice racist trope lives on.
This guy doesn’t even realise it.
"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
What the fuck.
What the *absolute* fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you work for Mori poll or Ugov?
"My last partner was black Caribbean. I find the trend in my area seems wanting one of BWC or BBC… so basically big cock race is preference like big boobs or big ass I guess"
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
Good grief. |
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The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
But ironically you use BBC to describe yourself in your profile. Which people use to objectify black males.
How helpful is that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
Objectification on a site like this? Shocking |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
Couldn’t have said it better myself and before someone comes for me (like yourself) I married for love |
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
Bizarrely I seem to match with a lot of black women on dating apps. Been in quite a few dates too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
Surely this is a joke. |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions.
Surely this is a joke. "
You’d hope so wouldn’t you … I said it once and I will say it again |
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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago
taunton |
I do apologise profusely, on reflection that was another one of my jokes of rather poor taste didn't think anyone would take it seriously, I am hanging my head in shame and off to hide in the bushes for quite some while. Well I will probably come out for formula 1 later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have seen many many black snd women of other ethnicities that I fancy the pants off
It’s a funny thing but it’s the eyes, so sexy, obviously other attributes but for me the main difference is the eyes |
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"I do apologise profusely, on reflection that was another one of my jokes of rather poor taste didn't think anyone would take it seriously, I am hanging my head in shame and off to hide in the bushes for quite some while. Well I will probably come out for formula 1 later."
Fair play for your apology … good on you |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
Black guys being what they are? What are they? And what are you on about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My 2 cents.....
I absolutely detest the term 'swirling', just find it repulsive.
I'm seeking a MAN. The fact that he happens to be white is just my preference but not something that I would write on my profile as the abuse from men of ALL colours is hideous and just not worth it.
White guys feel it's an opening to objectify/fetishize i.e.....I've never slept with a black woman (even more patronising 'a black girl'  ...)
and black guys just get butt hurt!
I already get enough abuse for seeking a bi male partner on a swinging site (clutches her pearls)!
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions.
Black guys being what they are? What are they? And what are you on about?"
She’s apologised for the comment |
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"My 2 cents.....
I absolutely detest the term 'swirling', just find it repulsive.
I'm seeking a MAN. The fact that he happens to be white is just my preference but not something that I would write on my profile as the abuse from men of ALL colours is hideous and just not worth it.
White guys feel it's an opening to objectify/fetishize i.e.....I've never slept with a black woman (even more patronising 'a black girl' ...)
and black guys just get butt hurt!
I already get enough abuse for seeking a bi male partner on a swinging site (clutches her pearls)!
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I very clearly say bi guys only in my profile. Oh my days the messages i get from guys always questioning me and why only bi guys, and the sense of injustice they can get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn’t sound like remorse or a genuine apology. No I’m not saying people can’t make mistakes or be poorly educated.
That old trope of ‘just banter or just a joke’ doesn’t really wash with people of colour. We’ve seen plenty of this type of ‘apology’.
If he has genuinely apologised then I say well done for acknowledging it.
"I do apologise profusely, on reflection that was another one of my jokes of rather poor taste didn't think anyone would take it seriously, I am hanging my head in shame and off to hide in the bushes for quite some while. Well I will probably come out for formula 1 later."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My 2 cents.....
I absolutely detest the term 'swirling', just find it repulsive.
I'm seeking a MAN. The fact that he happens to be white is just my preference but not something that I would write on my profile as the abuse from men of ALL colours is hideous and just not worth it.
White guys feel it's an opening to objectify/fetishize i.e.....I've never slept with a black woman (even more patronising 'a black girl' ...)
and black guys just get butt hurt!
I already get enough abuse for seeking a bi male partner on a swinging site (clutches her pearls)!
I very clearly say bi guys only in my profile. Oh my days the messages i get from guys always questioning me and why only bi guys, and the sense of injustice they can get "
I know that feeling! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
Glad everyone else was creeped out by this comment to.
To answer your question tho there is loads of black women that like white men. Not sure about on fab but def in the world. I love my black girls.
What I have noticed tho. Most black girls into white men don’t tend to go for black men.
Most white women into black men don’t go for white men. That’s the sad part about it. I love all ethnics. It’s not a defining factor when I attract to someone. |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
There’s so much wrong with this statement, I almost don’t know where to begin.
But first coffee…
It’s too early for this crap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
Mr"
Was about to revisit this, but now there seems to be little need.
Agree with all of the above.
Good man. |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions. "
There’s always one!! FFS why spoil a thread with such a dumb comment! |
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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
Mr
Was about to revisit this, but now there seems to be little need.
Agree with all of the above.
Good man. "
I totally agree with the above too - A x |
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
Mr"
Excellent response. I was going to chime in but this pretty much says what I wanted to say. Thanks!
Being of mixed heritage makes it a little more complicated too. |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
This. I cannot begin to unpick the many, many problematic statements on this thread. I don't think that most white men who make the ridiculous statements would be able to empathise and understand what it is like to be black, or a woman, or a black woman (who is talked about in such a monolithic way on this site and in the white media. So most black women read these things silently and just figure out who to block, or don't pay it any attention.
I have many stories as sooner rather than later, most white fwbs slip up and say something that is still a microaggression or reveals a prejudice they have about non-white people. |
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This. I cannot begin to unpick the many, many problematic statements on this thread. I don't think that most white men who make the ridiculous statements would be able to empathise and understand what it is like to be black, or a woman, or a black woman (who is talked about in such a monolithic way on this site and in the white media. So most black women read these things silently and just figure out who to block, or don't pay it any attention.
I have many stories as sooner rather than later, most white fwbs slip up and say something that is still a microaggression or reveals a prejudice they have about non-white people."
You can transfer this kind of experience over to any interaction with some white people. Over the years I’ve had so many friends, work colleagues or exes, and their families slip up in some way. I just try to call them out and educate them, as it’s the only way they can learn. |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
Mr
Excellent response. I was going to chime in but this pretty much says what I wanted to say. Thanks!
Being of mixed heritage makes it a little more complicated too. "
I have mixed heritage but white men are not approaching me with that in mind, it's all just about my dark skin or whatever preconceived notions they have about my "race" or a tickbox of sleeping with a "black woman" |
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By *ikAshCouple
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
Mr
Excellent response. I was going to chime in but this pretty much says what I wanted to say. Thanks!
Being of mixed heritage makes it a little more complicated too.
I have mixed heritage but white men are not approaching me with that in mind, it's all just about my dark skin or whatever preconceived notions they have about my "race" or a tickbox of sleeping with a "black woman" "
I think that is the sad reality, but it won’t be the case for every white man! |
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"Well black guys being what they are nature would make sure black woman were made to match so a white guy is generally not going to be suitable for a black girl, probably will be one or two exceptions.
What the fuck.
What the *absolute* fuck. "
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"Genuine question, what turns a sexual preference into a fetish? For me it is when a particular part of a person becomes more important than the person as a whole.
The thing with swinging is that a big part of it for many people is a chance to explore new experiences whether that is simply playing with new partners, or new genders or new sex acts. For example, if I wanted to try gay sex I could say on my profile that I only want gay/bi men to respond and thus use someone's sexuality as a deciding factor in whether I want to converse with them. Is that me expressing a preference, indulging a fetish, exploring my own sexuality or fetishizing gay people?
Personally I don't like to use terms like BBC to describe a person - though if they're happy to be viewed that way crack on. On the other hand, there can be something incredibly erotic and beautiful seeing a mix of skin colours together. Would I find a woman attractive simply because of her skin colour? No, not at all. Would I find the colour of a person's skin part of what I find attractive about them? Absolutely. I love her ladyships freckles but equally like a peaches and cream complexion or a deep tan - they're all beautiful in different ways and I would be lying if I said I'd never wondered what it would be like to watch the contrast of skin colours while playing with a woman of colour. For me though I wouldn't only chose a woman to play with because she had the right colour skin, she would need to have all the other attributes I would look for in a sexual partner. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong in choosing to look for those other characteristics in a subset of women defined by their skin colour. In this case the person themselves remains the deciding factor, where it crosses a line for me is where a person's character is ignored and their colour becomes the sole criteria by which they're judged or, worse still, is considered an accurate method of knowing their personality.
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Excellent response. I was going to chime in but this pretty much says what I wanted to say. Thanks!
Being of mixed heritage makes it a little more complicated too.
I have mixed heritage but white men are not approaching me with that in mind, it's all just about my dark skin or whatever preconceived notions they have about my "race" or a tickbox of sleeping with a "black woman"
I think that is the sad reality, but it won’t be the case for every white man! "
I nearly questioned the comment "white men are"
To say white men *have* is to describe experience, to say they *are* implies a level of pre-judgment on events that haven't yet happened based (in this case) on the person approaching being white and male. I accept as a white male I have absolutely no clue how it feels to be a black woman and language like this doesnt hurt or offend me. I do think it is important to acknowledge it though if only so that we can understand each other better.
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I'm mixed ethnicity and do prefer white guys. Which I state on my profile. However I still get loads if messages from black guys and plenty from white guys who want to 'try black'
I just roll my eyes and move on..
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This. I cannot begin to unpick the many, many problematic statements on this thread. I don't think that most white men who make the ridiculous statements would be able to empathise and understand what it is like to be black, or a woman, or a black woman (who is talked about in such a monolithic way on this site and in the white media. So most black women read these things silently and just figure out who to block, or don't pay it any attention.
I have many stories as sooner rather than later, most white fwbs slip up and say something that is still a microaggression or reveals a prejudice they have about non-white people.
You can transfer this kind of experience over to any interaction with some white people. Over the years I’ve had so many friends, work colleagues or exes, and their families slip up in some way. I just try to call them out and educate them, as it’s the only way they can learn. "
This works both ways and the fact a few of you are speaking one sided like this says a lot more about you then the people (a whole race) you pointing it at. |
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People need to stop making such a big deal about skin colour. It’s a colour get over it. If someone wants to fuck U cause your black it’s not an offence. Just the same way if someone wants to fuck U if your big or small. Tall or short. Can’t believe people actually complaining that someone wants to fuck them cause of their colour lol and Yh people stereotype colours. Just the same way they will stereotype body types. Career choices. The way people dress or what area they live. Why is it only skin colour that people seem to make a big deal about tho? It’s pathetic. We all humans and we all judge and stereotype. That won’t ever change so just find your tribe. Your people who u click with. But if your going to see someone wanting to fuck u cause of your skin colour as a negative then your really going to live a sad life. U must have a lot of hate an judgment an stereotypes of your own on others built up to make a negative out of a positive. Reality is people. Your colour ain’t important. It’s just a colour. It doesn’t make you who you are. Never has never will. Just people been Brain washed into thinking it means something more then it is. |
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"People need to stop making such a big deal about skin colour. It’s a colour get over it. If someone wants to fuck U cause your black it’s not an offence. Just the same way if someone wants to fuck U if your big or small. Tall or short. Can’t believe people actually complaining that someone wants to fuck them cause of their colour lol and Yh people stereotype colours. Just the same way they will stereotype body types. Career choices. The way people dress or what area they live. Why is it only skin colour that people seem to make a big deal about tho? It’s pathetic. We all humans and we all judge and stereotype. That won’t ever change so just find your tribe. Your people who u click with. But if your going to see someone wanting to fuck u cause of your skin colour as a negative then your really going to live a sad life. U must have a lot of hate an judgment an stereotypes of your own on others built up to make a negative out of a positive. Reality is people. Your colour ain’t important. It’s just a colour. It doesn’t make you who you are. Never has never will. Just people been Brain washed into thinking it means something more then it is. "
People are entitled to feel what they feel. Not up to you, me or anyone else to decide what they are allowed to get upset about.
You say skin colour is unimportant, biologicaly it is,we are all the same underneath our skins. But in human history it has dictated the fate of millions of humans. Many of the people on here will have been name called, bullied or even violently assaulted because of it.
Instead of trying to understand why they feel the way they do about being stereotyped because of it, you say just be grateful someone wants to fuck you because of it.
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"I’ve noticed a lot on here that ‘swirling’ is a huge thing. But I rarely seem to come across black women looking for white men… at least not in my location search anyway!
Is this a rare match?
I’ve always been attracted to black women and have had two long term partners who were black.
Do the ‘swirler’s’ exist on here? Where are you?! lol "
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"People need to stop making such a big deal about skin colour. It’s a colour get over it. If someone wants to fuck U cause your black it’s not an offence. Just the same way if someone wants to fuck U if your big or small. Tall or short. Can’t believe people actually complaining that someone wants to fuck them cause of their colour lol and Yh people stereotype colours. Just the same way they will stereotype body types. Career choices. The way people dress or what area they live. Why is it only skin colour that people seem to make a big deal about tho? It’s pathetic. We all humans and we all judge and stereotype. That won’t ever change so just find your tribe. Your people who u click with. But if your going to see someone wanting to fuck u cause of your skin colour as a negative then your really going to live a sad life. U must have a lot of hate an judgment an stereotypes of your own on others built up to make a negative out of a positive. Reality is people. Your colour ain’t important. It’s just a colour. It doesn’t make you who you are. Never has never will. Just people been Brain washed into thinking it means something more then it is.
People are entitled to feel what they feel. Not up to you, me or anyone else to decide what they are allowed to get upset about.
You say skin colour is unimportant, biologicaly it is,we are all the same underneath our skins. But in human history it has dictated the fate of millions of humans. Many of the people on here will have been name called, bullied or even violently assaulted because of it.
Instead of trying to understand why they feel the way they do about being stereotyped because of it, you say just be grateful someone wants to fuck you because of it.
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I’m not even gonna justify these stupid responses with a reply. That’s all I’m gonna say. A victim will always be a victim no matter what logic comes their way… |
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Another school day on fab swirling - never
Knew what that was - i always ask the question - why do we need a label for an activity all the time - who you prefer to meet is a personal preference? I have 2 classifications for people here and in real life - good people who i will go out of my way to chat and interact with - and dickheads which is a genderless pronoun ( some will be proud of me for that) who i will avoid at all costs. Gender, race, sexual orientation religion or any other defining characteristics will be ignored as irrelevant. Thats my 2p spent ! |
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"The majority of the Black women on here - and in the world in general - probably don't want to meet any white men because of the overwhelming fetishization/objectification of them.
They are not just body parts, and some of these comments here are just a sliver of what they get here. I don't even have to guess. I know enough Black women using this site that relay this to me, because we see it as a tremendous problem here and in the 'real world'."
Do you not think the same applies to Black guys? Women engage a lot for 1 reason.. BBC , EVEN the guys objectify themselves "Blavked" "Hung" its posted everywhere on profile etc But you don't hear the guys complaining- why? Oh yeah, they are getting sex.!
I've dated mixed race and black carribean women, why? Because of their personalities, usually funny and upbeat and a bloody good laugh. But, it is damn harder to date a black woman because of the taboo that seems to be apparent.
On a sex site, its all about objectification and fetishization as you put it, that's the whole point, engaging in the fantasy world and hopefully getting what one desires.
That's my thoughts, either way I hope all enjoy the moments they get. |
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