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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Be honest. If that was a guy people would be ripping him a new one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Play along with what? Only one playing would be you. I would be honest.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?"
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here 
Not good on a ladies ego |
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Why would you want to mess someone around? What's the point? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What’s the outcome if you do? What’s the outcome if you don’t? Which one is positive (do that) which one isn’t (don’t do that) "
Don't expect a positive outcome either way tbh |
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego "
If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website. |
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego "
I’d probably ask him a few questions etc… see if he is honest with you … then come clean |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego
If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website. "
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego "
But you said things had cooled off on real life? Maybe ask him outright, why he's no longer interested (not on here!). Then, judging by his answer, tell him the truth here. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Be honest op
You're on here too, so can't get annoyed he is.
If it's just casual, maybe he doesn't realise that you expect him not to be on sites like this.
Talking is the best way in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's cooled off in real life and is using this site actively, I'm sorry to say it sounds like he's lost interest.
I would just end it with him (unless he's a boyfriend, then I would talk about things first) and block him on here too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be honest op
You're on here too, so can't get annoyed he is.
If it's just casual, maybe he doesn't realise that you expect him not to be on sites like this.
Talking is the best way in my opinion. "
Yeah it was casual, no feelings.
Still shitty though in my opinion.
Honesty it is
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games?? "
Fair point... |
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games?? "
This was my thoughts too |
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games??
This was my thoughts too"
Great minds  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm calling bullshit on the entire premise. I hope I'm wrong. I'd like my cynicism to be proved wrong once in a while. Sadly it never is."
What do you mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Life's too short for playing games. Tell him it's you, and block him here and I'm real life. It's obvious he is playing games , don't stoop to his level.
Oh and before you block him, update your status to "I'm not meeting" - that should get the message to him loud and clear LOL |
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If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.
If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.
If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him. "
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Maybe you being on here and into swinging might add attraction to you that he might not have known about or was missing in real life.
It could make the real life relationship better so I'd be honest. |
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Am I missing something..??
It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.
One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
Both hiding the fact from the other party..
Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..?? |
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"Am I missing something..??
It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.
One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
Both hiding the fact from the other party..
Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"
He's not being slaughtered at all.
Most replies are telling the OP to be honest & not play games.
I'd be giving the same advice whatever sex the OP was |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something..??
It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.
One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
Both hiding the fact from the other party..
Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"
Huh
People have said be honest to the OP |
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"Am I missing something..??
It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.
One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.
Both hiding the fact from the other party..
Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"
My advice was based on that he had suddenly gone cool with her irl for no reason and had ignored get today when she tried to reach him, but messaged her on here not knowing who she was. So he’s not treating her well irl. It was nothing to do with him being on here, that doesn’t matter. |
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"If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.
If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him. "
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Don't see what the issue is if things have cooled off. You're here for your own reasons as is he and your relationship irl may or may not be connected to those reasons but either way playing along isn't the answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the outcome if you do? What’s the outcome if you don’t? Which one is positive (do that) which one isn’t (don’t do that)
Don't expect a positive outcome either way tbh "
Then tell him who you are and that you’re not happy he’s been ignoring you and block him everywhere. |
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Depends.
Do you want more from him?
Do you think it's s bit shady of him that he's cooled of only to go on FAB and flirt with babushka..?
Only you can decide and make the decision.
If you do decide to be honest are you mentally prepared for the next step.
He may block you or ghost you or you may have to block him.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego
If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website.
True"
I think either way the connection is lost , probably best to just tell him who you are , it’s never going to end well sadly … I get why your pissed , but he’s going to feel like a right fit when he finds out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you 100% sure it's them?
Yep it's defo him.
Surely we all faced this dilemma?
I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here
Not good on a ladies ego
If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website.
True
I think either way the connection is lost , probably best to just tell him who you are , it’s never going to end well sadly … I get why your pissed , but he’s going to feel like a right fit when he finds out "
Tit ,bloody predictive lol |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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The point is he doesn't know it is you, I assume therefore when he eventually works it out he will most likely ghost you on here as well.
Either block him or be honest. If it is an ego thing for you then it is a selfish and shit thing to do.
A bloke would get ripped to shreds if he suggested playing gamed with them so why should you get away with it because you are female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.
Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?
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Block |
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