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Anything you can do i can do better, or can you?
Do you find in life sometimes, you’ll share an experience, good or bad and someone will come along and completely out do or diminish your situation with their own?!
Do you  or salute the person who is one upping you? |
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This is a bug bear with me, I am open to hearing someone's story, but when people don't show importance to my story first and try to outdo me then I shut down and walk away...
If they show importance to mine then tell me theirs then I am honestly happy to listen and provide the right response to them  |
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Im the least competitive person I know, and always seem to attract those who feel they are superior or better! It drives me Insane when people cut you off just so they can jump in and talk about themselves! At that point I’ve lost interest and the convo is over. Miss pc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im the least competitive person I know, and always seem to attract those who feel they are superior or better! It drives me Insane when people cut you off just so they can jump in and talk about themselves! At that point I’ve lost interest and the convo is over. Miss pc "
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Used to have a friend who would do that if anyone had been bad or in hospital.
They had always had it or had worse.
So i used to say oh i had ( would name something that cattle or sheep would get sway back, laminitis.
Foul of the foot, aurgescies disease)
They would say oh yes i had that.
It was fun just seeing how many they would say they had had.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Im the least competitive person I know, and always seem to attract those who feel they are superior or better! It drives me Insane when people cut you off just so they can jump in and talk about themselves! At that point I’ve lost interest and the convo is over. Miss pc "
Some people don’t really listen to what you’re saying, they’re literally just waiting for a gap or a hook so they can talk about themselves. They are completely unaware that they do it or how boring they are and they have no interest in people. I notice these people rarely ask questions , or at least interesting ones, they don’t need to as they know everything already |
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A colleague told me "don't tell them you drive an Aston Martin, just offer then a lift home", i.e. don't brag as the person you are talking to might drive a Rolls Royce.
There is always someone doing better than you, so to try one upmanship is to set yourself up for humiliation! |
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Not to make it all about me, but I do sometimes wonder if I do this.
For me it's not about outdoing anyone or negating their experience, it's about saying "Yes I can empathise, I've been through a similar situation". Lately though I've taken to wondering whether that's how it comes across.
I don't tend to do it when someone is telling me about their achievements or great experiences they've lived, normally because I have a million questions to ask but also because I don't feel like I need to show understanding. I'm just not very good at giving sympathy without sounding sarcastic, so I try to find some commonality of experience. |
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"Anything you can do i can do better, or can you?
Do you find in life sometimes, you’ll share an experience, good or bad and someone will come along and completely out do or diminish your situation with their own?!
Do you or salute the person who is one upping you? "
Those kind of people are very insecure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not to make it all about me, but I do sometimes wonder if I do this.
For me it's not about outdoing anyone or negating their experience, it's about saying "Yes I can empathise, I've been through a similar situation". Lately though I've taken to wondering whether that's how it comes across.
I don't tend to do it when someone is telling me about their achievements or great experiences they've lived, normally because I have a million questions to ask but also because I don't feel like I need to show understanding. I'm just not very good at giving sympathy without sounding sarcastic, so I try to find some commonality of experience."
We have to be careful when sharing similar experiences as not to invalidate someone else’s. I only share when asked |
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It's probably apparent to folks that I dive, one of my dive buddies loves to regale newbies with his tales of derring do and extreme depths he's been to. What he always forgets is I was on all if those dives with him and they weren't as extreme as he's making out |
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