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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad  "
more upset when you're dog died ! How silly |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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For some I guess it could be if that pet has been your only companion for many years but I also think you get over the loss of a pet quicker than you can the loss of a human companion/family |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly"
Don't minimise how other people feel  |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly"
You asked for peoples opinions so I gave you mine so don't criticise . |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly"
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. |
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over a year ago
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"Is the loss of a pet the same as a loss of a human"
For me it was more traumatic the loss of my dog than the loss of my dad. Like yes I was bummed for my dad loads… but I don’t think I’ve cried so much like I did when I had to put my dog to sleep, and bury her… like I swear I cried for hours before when knowing it was her last few hours, and after..
I still can’t think about it …  |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly"
Have you just started this thread to be a dick to people?!  |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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I'd say losing a loved pet is the same as losing a person you're really close to...they're close companions just the same as people. I lost my childhood horse a few years ago and we'd had her for ages, I still miss her every day, she was my best friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends on what you have in life
If all you have is a pet then the live and bond is going to be greater than if you have a parter and / or family
I have had a few dogs and have been affected by different levels of grief when they have passed
But the loss of my parents is life changing
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. "
why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back |
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Surely it depends on the pet and the person.
If its a distant cousin three times removed versus the dog I'd had for 16 years who helped me get through one of the bleakest times of my life, then I was far more upset about my dog.
If it was my dad versus a hamster I had for less than 6 months before it had heart attack when I was 7 then clearly it's a very different scenario.
I don't think it's helpful to lay out hard and fast rules when it comes to feelings and emotion. They're complex things. |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back"
What's the matter OP does someone care more about a pet than you? You sound very bitter to me. Accept there are those different to you and have a wonderful day  |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back"
No, but they love unconditionally and they don't judge. Sometimes that's all that is needed and sometimes it's in very short supply from people. |
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over a year ago
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back"
They are there when I feel sad, we can hug them and I feel like they can try and cheer me up.. so don’t make fun of people who feel a connection with their pets.
Dogs are the ones who literally can give unconditional love… |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly
That's not a very nice thing to say. Sometimes pets are the ones we turn to when we're upset and they know all your secrets. You may not be the same but no need to call someone silly about their grief. why would you turn to a pet if your upset do they talk to you back
No, but they love unconditionally and they don't judge. Sometimes that's all that is needed and sometimes it's in very short supply from people."
Yes girl!!! Worddddddd x |
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"* Must bite tongue *"
I can’t, sorry.
OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be.
I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. |
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"* Must bite tongue *
I can’t, sorry.
OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be.
I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. "
Hahaha awesome. Thankyou  |
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"* Must bite tongue *
I can’t, sorry.
OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be.
I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole. "
Great reply x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I lost my Labrador almost ten years ago now, I hadn’t felt a heart ache like that. I couldn’t look at other dogs especially labradors for a long time after because it made me sad I’ve not had a dog since
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pets become part of the family, and people have great attachments to them, myself included. But losing my dog would in no way compare to losing my husband. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Attachment, companionship, loyalty, love, familiarity.
Is the loss of an adoptepted family member worse than that of blood relative?
Is the loss of a friend worse than the loss of a family member?
Their impact, influence and value they have had on your life dictates far more how hard their loss is than any other factor.
In my life currently there are very few people I would mourn the loss of more than my pets. If I didn't have those people, there is not a single person on this planet that I would mourn the loss of more than my pets.
I'll even push it and say yes, I value my pets lives more than anyone on this thread. If it means saving my pets or saving you, you best look elsewhere for help because you won't find it with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depending on the bond you have loosing a pet or human can be hard.
One of our cats is already living on what I call borrowed time as I didn't expect him to do so well. He had a horrendous start in life and was neglected and mistreated.
He never left my side when I went through cancer treatment and is such a loving boy.
Every day we have him is a blessing but in our hearts we know the time will come sooner rather than later. |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad "
Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x   |
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"Attachment, companionship, loyalty, love, familiarity.
Is the loss of an adoptepted family member worse than that of blood relative?
Is the loss of a friend worse than the loss of a family member?
Their impact, influence and value they have had on your life dictates far more how hard their loss is than any other factor.
In my life currently there are very few people I would mourn the loss of more than my pets. If I didn't have those people, there is not a single person on this planet that I would mourn the loss of more than my pets.
I'll even push it and say yes, I value my pets lives more than anyone on this thread. If it means saving my pets or saving you, you best look elsewhere for help because you won't find it with me. "
Very well said. |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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Wow!!! Lots of elderly people have cats or dogs as there only main companies for whatever reason maybe house bound, partners passed away whatever. Some elderly people can live very lonely lives with only a pet as company. |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad
Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x "
Well how could I refuse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I lost my 14 year old boxer it was sad but expected. She’d been with me through an entire relationship so while sad it was something we got by, when her son died in my arms at the age of 9 during a seizure caused by a brain tumour it was devastating. 3 years on it still is. They were with me through all the mates who went off and had kids. The friends who got into drugs and the friends who simply never returned but the dogs were always there. Some of these comments the OP is making would have landed him on his arse had he made them to me during the time I lost my two. They were my kids and my support. It still sucks that I can’t come home from work and see someone happy to see me.
Damn sure I haven’t had that from a human |
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"When I lost my 14 year old boxer it was sad but expected. She’d been with me through an entire relationship so while sad it was something we got by, when her son died in my arms at the age of 9 during a seizure caused by a brain tumour it was devastating. 3 years on it still is. They were with me through all the mates who went off and had kids. The friends who got into drugs and the friends who simply never returned but the dogs were always there. Some of these comments the OP is making would have landed him on his arse had he made them to me during the time I lost my two. They were my kids and my support. It still sucks that I can’t come home from work and see someone happy to see me.
Damn sure I haven’t had that from a human "
Absolutely get that mate . Sorry for your loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad
Awww hugs grumpy now would you like me to massage your head better with my mouth x
Well how could I refuse "
Ok it’s a done deal one head to mouth massage come up
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, I love my animals, and have an elderly doggo who is on borrowed time. I know her passing will be hard, she has been my constant companion for 14 years, and has saved my life more than once. I dread it.
I lost my Dad a few years ago, and we weren't particularly close, but it was devastating.
I have lost cats over the years and miss their little personalities too.
OP, just because others don't have the same opinion as you, you shouldn't belittle them. That says that you lack empathy, so maybe its something for you to reflect on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I love my animals, and have an elderly doggo who is on borrowed time. I know her passing will be hard, she has been my constant companion for 14 years, and has saved my life more than once. I dread it.
I lost my Dad a few years ago, and we weren't particularly close, but it was devastating.
I have lost cats over the years and miss their little personalities too.
OP, just because others don't have the same opinion as you, you shouldn't belittle them. That says that you lack empathy, so maybe its something for you to reflect on."
So well put |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I lost my 14 year old boxer it was sad but expected. She’d been with me through an entire relationship so while sad it was something we got by, when her son died in my arms at the age of 9 during a seizure caused by a brain tumour it was devastating. 3 years on it still is. They were with me through all the mates who went off and had kids. The friends who got into drugs and the friends who simply never returned but the dogs were always there. Some of these comments the OP is making would have landed him on his arse had he made them to me during the time I lost my two. They were my kids and my support. It still sucks that I can’t come home from work and see someone happy to see me.
Damn sure I haven’t had that from a human
Absolutely get that mate . Sorry for your loss "
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"When I lost my Labrador almost ten years ago now, I hadn’t felt a heart ache like that. I couldn’t look at other dogs especially labradors for a long time after because it made me sad I’ve not had a dog since
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You should get another dog and give it a happy life the way you gave your first dog. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the loss of a pet the same as a loss of a human"
I would say so there has been a study recently that said that it’s just as traumatic an event as losing a loved one. In my opinion I think it is more than the same I have dog and the attachment we both have is incredible I have raised him from a puppy and he has shown me how animals are far great beings than humans the love and unconditional love they give back is incredible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often a pet can hit harder for a few reasons OP.
Firstly they a companion for sometimes the whole of their lives. They rely and depend on their owner and in return give unconditional love. Unlike hoomans who for all our efforts are naturally complicated.
Secondly pets can sense when we are feeling low and are there throughout those hard times without question. They never try to fix things or even ask us to talk about it. Just cuddles and the occasional lick on the face. Isn’t that what most of us want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Often a pet can hit harder for a few reasons OP.
Firstly they a companion for sometimes the whole of their lives. They rely and depend on their owner and in return give unconditional love. Unlike hoomans who for all our efforts are naturally complicated.
Secondly pets can sense when we are feeling low and are there throughout those hard times without question. They never try to fix things or even ask us to talk about it. Just cuddles and the occasional lick on the face. Isn’t that what most of us want? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love cats and dogs.
I have lost many cats to the road, injuries from fighting and sadly killed by other people.
I always get a new cat from the local cat home where I visit to feed, speak too and read a book with them.
I provide funding to the home where I can as they do a wonderful job re-homing cats who (after lockdown) have been dumped.
I build a close connection to any cat I take in. I give them lots of attention, a place in the house that is just for them and quality food.play fight regular and in return I get a lot of love back and a cat waiting on the doorstep for when I return.
Losing a cat for me is terrible they are part of the family. It takes me a few days then I go back to the cat home and look at the available cats. I feel I have to introduce a new cat fairly quickly so I can move on. New cat bed, new food bowls etc and start building a new relationship.
Animals are important and we must always show them love care and that they matter because they do support us without question.
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Just to add, I worked with animals for many years and developed some very strong bonds with some of them. Even trying to maintain a professional distance, it was inevitable, and felt the loss of each keenly. But there was one that was special, and I still miss him. |
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By *igsy8Man
over a year ago
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"I love cats and dogs.
I have lost many cats to the road, injuries from fighting and sadly killed by other people.
I always get a new cat from the local cat home where I visit to feed, speak too and read a book with them.
I provide funding to the home where I can as they do a wonderful job re-homing cats who (after lockdown) have been dumped.
I build a close connection to any cat I take in. I give them lots of attention, a place in the house that is just for them and quality food.play fight regular and in return I get a lot of love back and a cat waiting on the doorstep for when I return.
Losing a cat for me is terrible they are part of the family. It takes me a few days then I go back to the cat home and look at the available cats. I feel I have to introduce a new cat fairly quickly so I can move on. New cat bed, new food bowls etc and start building a new relationship.
Animals are important and we must always show them love care and that they matter because they do support us without question.
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Not a cat lady..A cat man.
well done fella what a good hearted gent. 16 years 3 days apart with my dog, how could it not effect anyone. |
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By *igsy8Man
over a year ago
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"Just to add, I worked with animals for many years and developed some very strong bonds with some of them. Even trying to maintain a professional distance, it was inevitable, and felt the loss of each keenly. But there was one that was special, and I still miss him."
They read emotional stability and have real intelligence, mine brought my t.v buttons.  |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"* Must bite tongue *
I can’t, sorry.
OP, you have obviously never had a close bond with an animal and therefore cannot understand how close and reciprocal the relationship with a pet can be.
I would hazard a guess that this is because animals are excellent at reading people and have probably ascertained that you are an arsehole.
Great reply x "
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For some people the pet is the most important thing in their live.
It is their only companion for most of if not all the day.
I have had pets i have grieved over just as much as i have for a good friend.
My dog i have now is the very close and dear to me and i will be heart broken when the inevitable happens.
As bad as losing a very close loved on proply yes.
They become a part of our lives and are family.
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"When I lost my Labrador almost ten years ago now, I hadn’t felt a heart ache like that. I couldn’t look at other dogs especially labradors for a long time after because it made me sad I’ve not had a dog since
You should get another dog and give it a happy life the way you gave your first dog."
I have thought about it maybe one day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on your connection to the animal. My staffie was like a daughter to me, she got spoilt rotten and when I lost her a month back it ripped something out of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always have to laugh when you get someone pop up like this OP.
You judge everyone after you asked for there opinion.
No one judged you for sitting in your car wearing ladies knickers did they?
No one has queried why your profile seems to be suggesting it's a couples one when it's only you listed.
What's wrong OP, did that lady run off with your pet and left you all alone and bitter?
Cockwomble at it's finest you are, have a good day! |
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I've cried at the loss of every one of my dogs, and over a few that passed through the rescue that I volunteered for...I've yet to cry over the death of a human. Does it hurt more or less? I don't know. It hurts differently. But I love my dogs differently to how I love humans...there aren't many humans that I'd protect with the ferocity that I would protect my dog. |
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"Always have to laugh when you get someone pop up like this OP.
You judge everyone after you asked for there opinion.
No one judged you for sitting in your car wearing ladies knickers did they?
No one has queried why your profile seems to be suggesting it's a couples one when it's only you listed.
What's wrong OP, did that lady run off with your pet and left you all alone and bitter?
Cockwomble at it's finest you are, have a good day! "
Haha |
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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago
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"Always have to laugh when you get someone pop up like this OP.
You judge everyone after you asked for there opinion.
No one judged you for sitting in your car wearing ladies knickers did they?
No one has queried why your profile seems to be suggesting it's a couples one when it's only you listed.
What's wrong OP, did that lady run off with your pet and left you all alone and bitter?
Cockwomble at it's finest you are, have a good day! "
I hadn’t thought to look at his profile. I think you are right, the woman he wants to have sex with has lost a pet and now he isn’t getting any. |
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"I was equally as upset if not more when Pooch went a few months ago .
Wether that's a general thing or just me I don't know.
Buy yes for me it was just as bad more upset when you're dog died ! How silly"
Ok carlo, (clearly there is no Sue) who the fuck are you to say how silly! You asked for opinions and then you take the piss out of people, sad pathetic man!! 1yr tomorrow I lost my rottie and I can tell you now I preferred him to most humans!! I'll tell you what's silly, you using a single person profile pretending to be a couple when all your veris state meeting the man .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cried at the loss of every one of my dogs, and over a few that passed through the rescue that I volunteered for...I've yet to cry over the death of a human. Does it hurt more or less? I don't know. It hurts differently. But I love my dogs differently to how I love humans...there aren't many humans that I'd protect with the ferocity that I would protect my dog. "
Well said!
I thought the process of my dog passing to be extremely traumatic… to be fair |
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
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How can you place a value on the loss of one life over another? I don’t think that’s possible. I lost both my parents and my special girl (my cocker spaniel) all in similar circumstances - after a period of prolonged illness. The difference was that I had to make the decision to let my girl go and it’s the hardest thing I have ever had to do. She was dependant on me to make a choice and although people were telling me it was the right one, I still feel like a murderer to this day. She was a precious soul. More precious to me than many people I’ve met in my life. To deny the bond that can and does exist between human and animals would
be stupid o.p as I think many of the comments in this thread demonstrate.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the love of man and the love of mans best friend are totally different? But equally as traumatic to lose "
yes thats true.
but i think with some people man and women they can decide not to seek company in another human so prefer pets.
many single women i know have dogs, they out walking them some every carrying them like a handbag.
some just get to a point in life that will do for them.
i do get a lot of pleasure visiting the cat home and sitting down with a book reading to the cats.
some may think this is crazy behaviour, it maybe. but you should see them all rush to be first to get the lap or best position. they all lay around sometimes looking up at you and its great.
its no wonder cat cafes are popular places with many having to be booked in advance |
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