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What makes you find someone attractive?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Curious to know what floats ya boats.
For me personally, obviously physical attraction is part of it, but I find that intelligence, crazy sense of humour, the ability to go from healthy debates to a laugh riot, as well as empathetic and caring increases attraction tenfold |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The two tops things I find really attractive are self-worth and confidence.
Others include honest, flirtatiousness, EQ, and the ability to laugh and not take all of life to seriously.
It all starts in the mind for me OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely intelligence, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, gorgeous eyes, attentive and caring."
A potent mix that seems hard to come by, not losing faith though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The two tops things I find really attractive are self-worth and confidence.
Others include honest, flirtatiousness, EQ, and the ability to laugh and not take all of life to seriously.
It all starts in the mind for me OP"
Exactly this and what _uriousscouser said, although I'd say physical attraction and curiosity comes first for me, but grows more and more the deeper I get to know someone if they have those traits you described |
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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago
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Intelligent confidence.
Not "I'm gods gift" confidence, which we just find hilarious, but quiet confidence, body language. The "I know what I'm doing and don't need to brag about it" type. Someone who can talk.
It's incredibly hard to describe, but we know it when we see it. Much more important to us than anything physical. |
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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"If I click with someone and can have interesting conversation and a good laugh with them, then I will find them exponentially more physically attractive.
It starts in the mind for me."
Very much this too ^ |
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"If I click with someone and can have interesting conversation and a good laugh with them, then I will find them exponentially more physically attractive.
It starts in the mind for me.
Very much this too ^"
Yes I agree with that, I don’t have a preference of hair colour or shape, for me they do have to have boobs though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me (Mrs) it's more about the mind than the body but I do like a nice face too.
Someone intelligent who can make me laugh too and a little bit of filth thrown in
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Intelligent confidence.
Not "I'm gods gift" confidence, which we just find hilarious, but quiet confidence, body language. The "I know what I'm doing and don't need to brag about it" type. Someone who can talk.
It's incredibly hard to describe, but we know it when we see it. Much more important to us than anything physical."
Agreed, really can't stand arrogance or overconfident people, but I'm sure they have reasons for being how they are, as we all do.
I get what you mean when you say it's hard to describe, on the rare occasions I've met people like as described in the op, it's like an invisible, instant connection
Side note, love your profile pic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely intelligence, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, gorgeous eyes, attentive and caring.
A potent mix that seems hard to come by, not losing faith though "
I've managed to find it in more than one person on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me (Mrs) it's more about the mind than the body but I do like a nice face too.
Someone intelligent who can make me laugh too and a little bit of filth thrown in
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Perfect mix for me too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely intelligence, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, gorgeous eyes, attentive and caring.
A potent mix that seems hard to come by, not losing faith though
I've managed to find it in more than one person on here"
Nice! As a relative newbie here, maybe I'm in the right place then haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As it’s already been pretty much said previously
For me it
It always starts with a friendly smile and eyes.
But that only works if there’s genuine confidence in herself worth, and honesty, and likeness to help lift other people with a kind word or action.
Being funny and and to laugh at herself as much as others around. And an hint of mischief but what won’t break anyone’s heart x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely intelligence, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, gorgeous eyes, attentive and caring.
A potent mix that seems hard to come by, not losing faith though
I've managed to find it in more than one person on here
Nice! As a relative newbie here, maybe I'm in the right place then haha"
You're certainly doing the right thing by getting involved in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not always about the face or body, some people just make you want them, and personality is such a huge part of it. They can look perfect and be boring. I need to have a laugh and joke around |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely intelligence, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, gorgeous eyes, attentive and caring.
A potent mix that seems hard to come by, not losing faith though
I've managed to find it in more than one person on here
Nice! As a relative newbie here, maybe I'm in the right place then haha
You're certainly doing the right thing by getting involved in the forums. "
I love talking to people and getting to know new faces, it's always fascinating to meet new people. Plus, you never know what life has instore  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like passionate people - it doesn't matter how obscure that passion is nor if it's a common one; I find that fire in their eyes attractive. If that's used to help others even better.
I like people who can genuinely engage in conversation, more than the nice banality that social convention dictates, who can stand up to my know it all self and I can learn from. The wordsmiths who can make me laugh or think with witty quips, a nerdy knowledge base that I can relate to.
I find people who are curious attractive whether that's about people, food, mother nature, whatever. That kind of ties in with openmindedness about things, not viewing the world and those in it as being one way. That's sexy.
And the thing I really find attractive? People who effortlessly make me feel comfortable in their company. Desirable. Knowing that someone finds me desirable increases a person's attractiveness and then you get that feedback loop.
(Oh and if they can cope with my stream of consciousness my legs open easily) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not always about the face or body, some people just make you want them, and personality is such a huge part of it. They can look perfect and be boring. I need to have a laugh and joke around"
That's very true, a good laugh is always important even on just a friendship level |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like passionate people - it doesn't matter how obscure that passion is nor if it's a common one; I find that fire in their eyes attractive. If that's used to help others even better.
I like people who can genuinely engage in conversation, more than the nice banality that social convention dictates, who can stand up to my know it all self and I can learn from. The wordsmiths who can make me laugh or think with witty quips, a nerdy knowledge base that I can relate to.
I find people who are curious attractive whether that's about people, food, mother nature, whatever. That kind of ties in with openmindedness about things, not viewing the world and those in it as being one way. That's sexy.
And the thing I really find attractive? People who effortlessly make me feel comfortable in their company. Desirable. Knowing that someone finds me desirable increases a person's attractiveness and then you get that feedback loop.
(Oh and if they can cope with my stream of consciousness my legs open easily)"
Oh I do love a good stream of consciousness. Can't be bothered with small talk (unless I'm half asleep), much prefer philosophical ramblings and being nutty haha.
I can talk for Britain once I get going lol, so I guess I look for that trait of openness and willingness to talk about things that go way past the banality you mentioned |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Face if possible first, body . If messaging me. Then at least hold conversation. Not one worded replies. Yes on here actually ask me about myself etc.  "
Forgot to say. On Fab. You do not see face . So it is the profile . How written etc. Or if they are using forums . The comments , replies on threads. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone funny, easy going, confident - not cocky! Doesn't take life so seriously.
Oh and sexy as fuck.
Damn. Delete that last bit and I'm a winner.  "
Haha I'm sure I could say the same lol, but then does anyone truly consider themselves sexy? Tis all in the eye of the beholder  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Someone funny, easy going, confident - not cocky! Doesn't take life so seriously.
Oh and sexy as fuck."
As my late mum would say 'life should be enjoyed, not endured', definitely something I can get behind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Face if possible first, body . If messaging me. Then at least hold conversation. Not one worded replies. Yes on here actually ask me about myself etc.
Forgot to say. On Fab. You do not see face . So it is the profile . How written etc. Or if they are using forums . The comments , replies on threads. "
Yeh exactly, hence why I'm a chatterbox in the forums, no idea what to say on my profile haha |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Someone funny, easy going, confident - not cocky! Doesn't take life so seriously.
Oh and sexy as fuck.
Damn. Delete that last bit and I'm a winner.
Haha I'm sure I could say the same lol, but then does anyone truly consider themselves sexy? Tis all in the eye of the beholder "
Oh I'm sexy alright.
Just not 'sexy as fuck'.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone funny, easy going, confident - not cocky! Doesn't take life so seriously.
Oh and sexy as fuck.
Damn. Delete that last bit and I'm a winner.
Haha I'm sure I could say the same lol, but then does anyone truly consider themselves sexy? Tis all in the eye of the beholder "
It is indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to know what floats ya boats.
For me personally, obviously physical attraction is part of it, but I find that intelligence, crazy sense of humour, the ability to go from healthy debates to a laugh riot, as well as empathetic and caring increases attraction tenfold "
Depends what I’m after?
If I want a dick appointment , as long as they are pretty to look at and have a nice dick, she’s happy 
But yeah if it’s someone I want to date or see as a potential something then, yeah they have to be able to have a conversation, have a laugh and lots of humour xx (as well as being pretty to look at and have a nice dick ) |
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I agree with your comments OP, All of those float my boat to! However, the one main thing I look for is equality….. I prefer a sparing partner, someone who is my equal. I don’t much care for weak men or those who feel they are superior to anyone else. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Curious to know what floats ya boats.
For me personally, obviously physical attraction is part of it, but I find that intelligence, crazy sense of humour, the ability to go from healthy debates to a laugh riot, as well as empathetic and caring increases attraction tenfold
Depends what I’m after?
If I want a dick appointment , as long as they are pretty to look at and have a nice dick, she’s happy
But yeah if it’s someone I want to date or see as a potential something then, yeah they have to be able to have a conversation, have a laugh and lots of humour xx (as well as being pretty to look at and have a nice dick )"
So the
D
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I agree with your comments OP, All of those float my boat to! However, the one main thing I look for is equality….. I prefer a sparing partner, someone who is my equal. I don’t much care for weak men or those who feel they are superior to anyone else. "
How are you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to know what floats ya boats.
For me personally, obviously physical attraction is part of it, but I find that intelligence, crazy sense of humour, the ability to go from healthy debates to a laugh riot, as well as empathetic and caring increases attraction tenfold
Depends what I’m after?
If I want a dick appointment , as long as they are pretty to look at and have a nice dick, she’s happy
But yeah if it’s someone I want to date or see as a potential something then, yeah they have to be able to have a conversation, have a laugh and lots of humour xx (as well as being pretty to look at and have a nice dick )
So the
D
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always the D |
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