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over a year ago
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe "
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I wouldn’t say should my shots as such but I’ve recently messaged a guy with which I don’t do often and it was more a compliment rather than me grafting, I have to say that I’m really enjoying the way that the convos are going so far  |
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"I wouldn’t say should my shots as such but I’ve recently messaged a guy with which I don’t do often and it was more a compliment rather than me grafting, I have to say that I’m really enjoying the way that the convos are going so far "
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"I wouldn’t say should my shots as such but I’ve recently messaged a guy with which I don’t do often and it was more a compliment rather than me grafting, I have to say that I’m really enjoying the way that the convos are going so far
Thank you "
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?! "
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?! "
I've never had to graft, whether in online messages or in real life striking up conversations.
Maybe I'm doing it all wrong and it should feel harder graft, but I'm having a laugh and it seems to go down well with my conversation partners so it's all good. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
I've never had to graft, whether in online messages or in real life striking up conversations.
Maybe I'm doing it all wrong and it should feel harder graft, but I'm having a laugh and it seems to go down well with my conversation partners so it's all good."
Congrats on being in the top 10% then!
I’ve had 2 this week that were just painful. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe "
So my "how you doin'?  " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were?? |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before."
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going"
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
So my "how you doin'? " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were??"
Honestly that wouldn’t be too bad
I had 2 this last week that were basically just “hey how r u” and “yeah I’m gd”.
Makes me wonder why they messaged  |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
I've never had to graft, whether in online messages or in real life striking up conversations.
Maybe I'm doing it all wrong and it should feel harder graft, but I'm having a laugh and it seems to go down well with my conversation partners so it's all good.
Congrats on being in the top 10% then!
I’ve had 2 this week that were just painful. "
Some are, but I tend to think that's just showing we're not compatible.
When I click with someone we're rarely at a loss for things to chat about. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting "
But how do you know they’ve not grafted a guy before. 
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
So my "how you doin'? " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were??
Honestly that wouldn’t be too bad
I had 2 this last week that were basically just “hey how r u” and “yeah I’m gd”.
Makes me wonder why they messaged "
I think that's standard for most people to be honest. I get them from people I've been seeing for years. It's not inspiring though, I have to admit, and can make my brain blank out. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting
But how do you know they’ve not grafted a guy before.
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Well if they ever had, it really didn’t come across in any of their messages. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
So my "how you doin'? " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were??
Honestly that wouldn’t be too bad
I had 2 this last week that were basically just “hey how r u” and “yeah I’m gd”.
Makes me wonder why they messaged
I think that's standard for most people to be honest. I get them from people I've been seeing for years. It's not inspiring though, I have to admit, and can make my brain blank out."
I think she wanted me to take over and do the grafting for her, but as you said, it’s not exactly an inspiring convo starter. If you message first, bring the good convo, and I’ll match it
But I’m not chasing after a “hey how’s u” |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting
But how do you know they’ve not grafted a guy before.
Well if they ever had, it really didn’t come across in any of their messages. "
Hmmmm I’ve had guys on here who probably are trying to graft the whole site but some naturally flow with some and not with all.
Maybe the flow was just not there. Like I said it always takes two to keep a convo going. Even if it is the female/male starting things off. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
So my "how you doin'? " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were??
Honestly that wouldn’t be too bad
I had 2 this last week that were basically just “hey how r u” and “yeah I’m gd”.
Makes me wonder why they messaged
I think that's standard for most people to be honest. I get them from people I've been seeing for years. It's not inspiring though, I have to admit, and can make my brain blank out.
I think she wanted me to take over and do the grafting for her, but as you said, it’s not exactly an inspiring convo starter. If you message first, bring the good convo, and I’ll match it
But I’m not chasing after a “hey how’s u”"
I usually reply with how I'm feeling; as that's what they asked.
That can lead to an interesting conversation, or a dialogue around my crap day. |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting
But how do you know they’ve not grafted a guy before.
Well if they ever had, it really didn’t come across in any of their messages.
Hmmmm I’ve had guys on here who probably are trying to graft the whole site but some naturally flow with some and not with all.
Maybe the flow was just not there. Like I said it always takes two to keep a convo going. Even if it is the female/male starting things off. "
Absolutely, but ask any female on here, would they bother replying to a “hey how’s u”? It just shows a low level of effort. Followed by a “yeah I’m gd”?
It’s takes 2 to tango, but if you start it, at least have your dancing shoes on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
So my "how you doin'? " messages aren't as sexy as I thought they were??
Honestly that wouldn’t be too bad
I had 2 this last week that were basically just “hey how r u” and “yeah I’m gd”.
Makes me wonder why they messaged "
A large majority of messages we receive are about as good as those 2 u received this week |
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"They do and 90% of the time it’s absolutely cringe.
Watching a woman whose never in her life actually have to graft for a guy, try to shoot their shot. Honestly, it’s next level cringe
Sending messages is grafting now ?!
Not just messages, it just really comes across when they can’t even keep a convo going that they’ve never actually had to try before.
Aren’t convos a two way thing? Surely both need to put effort in to keep something going
Exactly, so why would that shoot their shot if they aren’t going to contribute? Like the 2 I had this week
It’s cuz they don’t know how, coz they’ve never done the grafting
But how do you know they’ve not grafted a guy before.
Well if they ever had, it really didn’t come across in any of their messages.
Hmmmm I’ve had guys on here who probably are trying to graft the whole site but some naturally flow with some and not with all.
Maybe the flow was just not there. Like I said it always takes two to keep a convo going. Even if it is the female/male starting things off.
Absolutely, but ask any female on here, would they bother replying to a “hey how’s u”? It just shows a low level of effort. Followed by a “yeah I’m gd”?
It’s takes 2 to tango, but if you start it, at least have your dancing shoes on "
Personally no I don’t reply to those messages or sometimes just say good thanks and delete.
They could just want to know how you are and that is all.
Anyways we all do things differently. If they’re not for you then just move on. |
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