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over a year ago
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Hi, I've come to the conclusion some on here are lieing about their age... By about 20yrs  It's plain to see in their photo they are way older
Why do they do it???...& Then go and meet someone... Shock horror for the peeps that meet them
I met 2 Catfish on another site... both were supposed to be in their mid 30s but both looked close to 60
Silly me for not insisting on cam or live pics before meeting  |
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over a year ago
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Hi, I've come to the conclusion some on here are lieing about their age... By about 20yrs It's plain to see in their photo they are way older
Why do they do it???...& Then go and meet someone... Shock horror for the peeps that meet them
I met 2 Catfish on another site... both were supposed to be in their mid 30s but both looked close to 60
Silly me for not insisting on cam or live pics before meeting "
Something I think people are that desperate for attention and/or sex they will do anything to get it.
From what I've seen and on here your options are limited once you get to about 50ish and seem to decline quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi, I've come to the conclusion some on here are lieing about their age... By about 20yrs It's plain to see in their photo they are way older
Why do they do it???...& Then go and meet someone... Shock horror for the peeps that meet them
I met 2 Catfish on another site... both were supposed to be in their mid 30s but both looked close to 60
Silly me for not insisting on cam or live pics before meeting
Something I think people are that desperate for attention and/or sex they will do anything to get it.
From what I've seen and on here your options are limited once you get to about 50ish and seem to decline quickly."
Not that I've noticed amongst the 50s men I've met here. |
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Our ages aren't correct to the actual day, we don't use our real DOB on the net. The year is correct though
We've been quite surprised at how economical with the truth some can be when it comes to age.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"20 years? 
They're just pulling your legs, surely. How can anyone be that delusional??? "
Nope. They defo lie. They're only fooling themselves & yes delusional thinking they'd actually pass for 20 yrs younger like OMG. A guy text me today claiming to be 41. No way was he 41...he looks like he's in his 60s
Crazy Behaviour |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Because someone, once upon a time, a couple of decades ago said they looked good for their age and could pass for younger. Cue them holding on to this belief for a couple of centuries.
You can tell can't you? I remember meeting someone and asking their real age soon after because it was clear they'd knocked a few years off, so they can meet those they want to apparently. Meh. People. |
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"Because someone, once upon a time, a couple of decades ago said they looked good for their age and could pass for younger. Cue them holding on to this belief for a couple of centuries.
You can tell can't you? I remember meeting someone and asking their real age soon after because it was clear they'd knocked a few years off, so they can meet those they want to apparently. Meh. People."
Necks and hands don't lie.  |
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"Because someone, once upon a time, a couple of decades ago said they looked good for their age and could pass for younger. Cue them holding on to this belief for a couple of centuries.
You can tell can't you? I remember meeting someone and asking their real age soon after because it was clear they'd knocked a few years off, so they can meet those they want to apparently. Meh. People."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"20 years?
They're just pulling your legs, surely. How can anyone be that delusional???
Nope. They defo lie. They're only fooling themselves & yes delusional thinking they'd actually pass for 20 yrs younger like OMG. A guy text me today claiming to be 41. No way was he 41...he looks like he's in his 60s
Crazy Behaviour "
People can't often guess my age but that's largely down to my hair not being grey yet and my small stature perhaps. |
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"I was in a chat group in 2018 with a guy who had a fab age of 55 but he admitted to the group he was actually 58.
The last time I saw his profile a few months ago he was 50. "
Obviously honesty is preferable but I could forgive a couple of years but 8 is pushing it!
I've seen a guy on here who I met in a club and he was in his 40s when I met him 10 years ago but his fab age is mid 30s |
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I laugh inwardly when they out themselves without knowing it.
One guy spent ages telling us about the first pads holiday he went on, what year it was and his fond memories of it. If the age he told us was correct he would have been about 8 years old at the time. How we chortled on the way home.
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There was and old guy who was showing off a picture of his girlfriend.
His mates told him she was really hot, and wondered how he could get a lady like her.
“Well, I lied about my age - by twenty years.”
“She thinks you’re forty?”
“No, she thinks I’m eighty!”
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because someone, once upon a time, a couple of decades ago said they looked good for their age and could pass for younger. Cue them holding on to this belief for a couple of centuries.
You can tell can't you? I remember meeting someone and asking their real age soon after because it was clear they'd knocked a few years off, so they can meet those they want to apparently. Meh. People.
Necks and hands don't lie. "
So true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was in a chat group in 2018 with a guy who had a fab age of 55 but he admitted to the group he was actually 58.
The last time I saw his profile a few months ago he was 50. "
Gosh, are we speaking of the same person, I wonder? The chap I know is also 58, about to turn 59 yet his profile says he is 50. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!! "
Sorry, I read that as 40 DD. |
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" From what I've seen and on here your options are limited once you get to about 50ish and seem to decline quickly.
Hahahahaha! You’re kidding, right? 50 is the new 25 sweetie x"
I didn't join until I was 52 and age has never been an issue |
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"Pads ? Lads 
I was trying to work out what a 'pads' holiday was.
I'm an absolute devil for not proof reading. "
You clearly have not been reading my posts. |
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"I laugh inwardly when they out themselves without knowing it.
One guy spent ages telling us about the first pads holiday he went on, what year it was and his fond memories of it. If the age he told us was correct he would have been about 8 years old at the time. How we chortled on the way home.
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"I was in a chat group in 2018 with a guy who had a fab age of 55 but he admitted to the group he was actually 58.
The last time I saw his profile a few months ago he was 50.
Obviously honesty is preferable but I could forgive a couple of years but 8 is pushing it!
I've seen a guy on here who I met in a club and he was in his 40s when I met him 10 years ago but his fab age is mid 30s "
If he was 58 in 2018 he is obviously 61 now so it's an 11 year difference |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!!
Women are worse I think. "
Yep; I'd agree with this. Once a woman is above 35 I tend to add a couple more years on. You are right though, hands and necks do show age - I don't understand what's wrong with being the age you are (nothing wrong with changing dob or a couple of years at a push). |
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!!
Women are worse I think.
Yep; I'd agree with this. Once a woman is above 35 I tend to add a couple more years on. You are right though, hands and necks do show age - I don't understand what's wrong with being the age you are (nothing wrong with changing dob or a couple of years at a push)."
Oiiiii!!! You leave my age alone mrs!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"20 years?
They're just pulling your legs, surely. How can anyone be that delusional???
Nope. They defo lie. They're only fooling themselves & yes delusional thinking they'd actually pass for 20 yrs younger like OMG. A guy text me today claiming to be 41. No way was he 41...he looks like he's in his 60s
Crazy Behaviour
People can't often guess my age but that's largely down to my hair not being grey yet and my small stature perhaps."
You'd pass for late 40s no doubt about that 
Most can get away with up to 5yrs. Like say it can be difficult to tell sometimes if someone is in their late 40s or early 50s or late 20s early 30s & so on...but some peeps rip the ass outta it. How many are highly stressed then before a meet...knowing they're gonna be decked that they were Cat-Fishing & yes lieing about your age to the extreme is viewed as a fake profile to me |
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!!
Women are worse I think.
Yep; I'd agree with this. Once a woman is above 35 I tend to add a couple more years on. You are right though, hands and necks do show age - I don't understand what's wrong with being the age you are (nothing wrong with changing dob or a couple of years at a push)."
There is huge pressure both overt and covert to conceal your age, especially once you start to show real tell tale signs. Cover your arms, don't wear shorts, don't wear low cut tops, hide bingo wings, Botox,concealer, anti wrinkle blah de blah. If you're told often enough to hide something it becomes something to be ashamed of. Hence the insistence from many that "I'm not mature" "I still behave like I did when I was a teenager" etc and not admitting to the number of years they've been alive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi, I've come to the conclusion some on here are lieing about their age... By about 20yrs It's plain to see in their photo they are way older
Why do they do it???...& Then go and meet someone... Shock horror for the peeps that meet them
I met 2 Catfish on another site... both were supposed to be in their mid 30s but both looked close to 60
Silly me for not insisting on cam or live pics before meeting "
How can people get away with that?? How did U handle the situation? I’d be so emberassed if I were them …. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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My profile age is my true age, but apparently I look younger than I am. Most who try to guess my age think I am about 6 or 7 years younger than I am, so I'm happy with that! |
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!!
Women are worse I think.
Yep; I'd agree with this. Once a woman is above 35 I tend to add a couple more years on. You are right though, hands and necks do show age - I don't understand what's wrong with being the age you are (nothing wrong with changing dob or a couple of years at a push)."
Is that so?! I always just assumed they'd had a tough life. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Its not just men that do it, I had a "26" year old woman view my profile so when I checked her out she was clearly 40odd!!
Women are worse I think.
Yep; I'd agree with this. Once a woman is above 35 I tend to add a couple more years on. You are right though, hands and necks do show age - I don't understand what's wrong with being the age you are (nothing wrong with changing dob or a couple of years at a push).
Oiiiii!!! You leave my age alone mrs!!! "
Sorry Saff! I only add a year on to your age. |
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By *eliWoman
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"There is huge pressure both overt and covert to conceal your age, especially once you start to show real tell tale signs. Cover your arms, don't wear shorts, don't wear low cut tops, hide bingo wings, Botox,concealer, anti wrinkle blah de blah. If you're told often enough to hide something it becomes something to be ashamed of. Hence the insistence from many that "I'm not mature" "I still behave like I did when I was a teenager" etc and not admitting to the number of years they've been alive. "
This topic is fascinating, apologies if it is a bit of a tangent OP. You're spot on about what women say - I read it on the forums and think it's a bit of a shame - you can be beautiful/sexy/whatever at any age, it's not the cornerstone of youth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hi, I've come to the conclusion some on here are lieing about their age... By about 20yrs It's plain to see in their photo they are way older
Why do they do it???...& Then go and meet someone... Shock horror for the peeps that meet them
I met 2 Catfish on another site... both were supposed to be in their mid 30s but both looked close to 60
Silly me for not insisting on cam or live pics before meeting
How can people get away with that?? How did U handle the situation? I’d be so emberassed if I were them …. "
I asked him who was the guy in the photos he sent...He just sat there & said nothing...I obviously left quickly & just said no offense but you need to update your photos & age, I wouldn't mind I chatted to him many times via normal phone call & the voice matched his fake age  |
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"I had a social meet years back, he had said he was 37, when we met for a coffee he was clearly in his 50s.
It obviously went no further as I hate being deceived. "
Did you tell him that, though, or was it an instant block? I really don’t know how to deal with it sometimes, especially if they seem a bit…fragile, I think may be the right word. Or maybe I’m overthinking it. I dunno. *sigh* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am not upset about my age, so don't feel the need to lie about it... It pisses me right off when it's clear someone hoping to get in my pants is doing so!  |
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"There is huge pressure both overt and covert to conceal your age, especially once you start to show real tell tale signs. Cover your arms, don't wear shorts, don't wear low cut tops, hide bingo wings, Botox,concealer, anti wrinkle blah de blah. If you're told often enough to hide something it becomes something to be ashamed of. Hence the insistence from many that "I'm not mature" "I still behave like I did when I was a teenager" etc and not admitting to the number of years they've been alive.
This topic is fascinating, apologies if it is a bit of a tangent OP. You're spot on about what women say - I read it on the forums and think it's a bit of a shame - you can be beautiful/sexy/whatever at any age, it's not the cornerstone of youth. "
The tide is very slowly turning thanks to the likes of Helen Mirren, Iris Apfel etc but it is not yet acceptable generally to show signs of being older without first apologising for it |
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"There is huge pressure both overt and covert to conceal your age, especially once you start to show real tell tale signs. Cover your arms, don't wear shorts, don't wear low cut tops, hide bingo wings, Botox,concealer, anti wrinkle blah de blah. If you're told often enough to hide something it becomes something to be ashamed of. Hence the insistence from many that "I'm not mature" "I still behave like I did when I was a teenager" etc and not admitting to the number of years they've been alive.
This topic is fascinating, apologies if it is a bit of a tangent OP. You're spot on about what women say - I read it on the forums and think it's a bit of a shame - you can be beautiful/sexy/whatever at any age, it's not the cornerstone of youth.
The tide is very slowly turning thanks to the likes of Helen Mirren, Iris Apfel etc but it is not yet acceptable generally to show signs of being older without first apologising for it "
Sad, yet so true. I own my age, my size, my (un)attractiveness…there’s nothing I can (instantly) do about them, so I really cannot see the point in lying. They are also all subjective; some will not think I look old, some will think I’m too old-looking, etc. etc. ad nauseum |
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"I never give my correct age in case my details get hacked. I don`t some crafty so an so in a foreign land knocking up passports or palming off parking/speed tickets on to me with my details."
Yeah I have my internet dob.
Same year though. Just a different month and day. |
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"I never give my correct age in case my details get hacked. I don`t some crafty so an so in a foreign land knocking up passports or palming off parking/speed tickets on to me with my details.
Yeah I have my internet dob.
Same year though. Just a different month and day. "
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I have to admit I knocked a few years off when I first joined as I was advised to, to help hide my identity.
That was shit advice though and made me look like an idiot when I met someone and went to a club with her as my age came out 
It's correct now. |
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Our ages (the years) are both correct. Both 35. Mr KC has genuinely been mistaken for a fresher during Freshers week and I was ID'd for alcohol in a supermarket not too long ago
We've definitely had a sharp intake of breath at some pics we've received, because compared to the age on the profile, either they had REALLY stressful lives/jobs or they're lying |
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"20 years difference
Maybe they just had a hard life?? "
I defo don't think it was a case of a hard life...1 guy was definitely at least 20yrs older than stated on his profile...I was in total & complete shock tbh & his online persona was way different in reality...I think I'm scarred for life after the experience lol...I'll never forget it anyway |
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"20 years difference
Maybe they just had a hard life??
I defo don't think it was a case of a hard life...1 guy was definitely at least 20yrs older than stated on his profile...I was in total & complete shock tbh & his online persona was way different in reality...I think I'm scarred for life after the experience lol...I'll never forget it anyway"
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"There is huge pressure both overt and covert to conceal your age, especially once you start to show real tell tale signs. Cover your arms, don't wear shorts, don't wear low cut tops, hide bingo wings, Botox,concealer, anti wrinkle blah de blah. If you're told often enough to hide something it becomes something to be ashamed of. Hence the insistence from many that "I'm not mature" "I still behave like I did when I was a teenager" etc and not admitting to the number of years they've been alive.
This topic is fascinating, apologies if it is a bit of a tangent OP. You're spot on about what women say - I read it on the forums and think it's a bit of a shame - you can be beautiful/sexy/whatever at any age, it's not the cornerstone of youth.
The tide is very slowly turning thanks to the likes of Helen Mirren, Iris Apfel etc but it is not yet acceptable generally to show signs of being older without first apologising for it "
I've always liked older women. I find many women 20+ years older than me extremely attractive. Helen Mirren used to be top of my list until Jane found a picture of her without makeup and showed it to me
I had to Google Iris Apfel and no. Mary Steenburgen, yes. Maureen Lipman, yes. Neighbour at no.73, yes. There are many, and they're still appealing, to me, without makeup.
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My age is wrong to try and hide from a stalking ex.
I always tell someone if they message me and I’m outside of their age parameters.
I’ve had a few younger men message me, saying they’re in their late 30s/early 40s and then turn out to be in their late 20s when we’ve met. To me that’s worse than an older man knocking a few years off their age. I have children in their 20s!! |
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