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Who respects the “You have already sent” warning?
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I see a profile that attracts my attention and have a read through. Everything is looking nice and I appear to fit the bill or requirements for the persons needs/ wants. Okay let’s send them a quick message and see if we can start a ball rolling. Then it springs up. Warning you have already sent!! Now I have been on here a while and whilst I have a reasonable memory, if profile pics or names have changed… but that’s a side issue. My main question is, how many folk would ignore the warning message and continue to send. For the record I tend to respect it but I have sent a couple of messages once or twice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic...
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Exactly.
Never in my life have I thought, ya know what, fuckit, I give up, you have persuaded me to do this thing I had no intention of doing. Your constant asking has changed my mind |
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By *luboyoMan
over a year ago
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I always respect it. If I sent a message and it was never read, then that's a lady who gets flooded with messages.
If the lady read the message but didn't respond, then she mustn't have been interested.
Both fine by me, so I just move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is a mixing pot of positive interactions, rejections and also being ignored/deleted. If someone deletes my message, ignores it or responds in either a positive or negative way I always try to be respectful.
We’re all here looking for our own things, sometimes they align with other and sometimes they don’t. It’s just the nature of fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is another side to the coin tho. Which is did the original message ever get read? "
^^^^^^^ This
Very true...chances are it was never seen & automatically deleted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t mind a second message as I may have missed the first…
But a 3rd, 4th, 5th etc is  judging by my inbox, lots don’t respect it.
My favourite line is “did I offend you” because I didn’t respond to their first message. I’m never sure if it’s genuine or if it’s to entice me to reply… either way it’s a huge turnoff and gets ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t mind a second message as I may have missed the first…
But a 3rd, 4th, 5th etc is judging by my inbox, lots don’t respect it.
My favourite line is “did I offend you” because I didn’t respond to their first message. I’m never sure if it’s genuine or if it’s to entice me to reply… either way it’s a huge turnoff and gets ignored."
Exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic...
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Totally! Like take the hint man!!! After 599 messages sent and basically not one acknowledged… how do they even think it’s a good idea to send the 600th? X urgh |
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"There is another side to the coin tho. Which is did the original message ever get read? "
If the original message was not read it is not unreasonable to resend after a while on the grounds it was ignored.
I always invite recipients to delete if they do not wish contact from me and then I make a private note not to contact them again, which I adhere to. |
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I send some messages that sometimes get read and deleted, sometimes get deleted unread.
If I look at a profile and can see I messaged them and they've not messaged me, I don't message them. If I go to send a message and that warning pops up I don't message them.
I figure if they were interested we'd still be chatting, so I don't want to hassle someone who isn't interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is a mixing pot of positive interactions, rejections and also being ignored/deleted. If someone deletes my message, ignores it or responds in either a positive or negative way I always try to be respectful.
We’re all here looking for our own things, sometimes they align with other and sometimes they don’t. It’s just the nature of fab. "
I agree with this.
I don't message people anymore because I don't want rejection. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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If I'm playing one of the forum games my message might not get read or a response sent. But sometimes that's the nature of the game, such as "Ask in private, public answer"
If I play a subsequent game and the message already sent warning pops up, I'm happy to send another message.
On the other hand, if I was sending a more personal message as a way of initiating more, then I'd heed the warning and not send another.
Gbat |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I see a profile that attracts my attention and have a read through. Everything is looking nice and I appear to fit the bill or requirements for the persons needs/ wants. Okay let’s send them a quick message and see if we can start a ball rolling. Then it springs up. Warning you have already sent!! Now I have been on here a while and whilst I have a reasonable memory, if profile pics or names have changed… but that’s a side issue. My main question is, how many folk would ignore the warning message and continue to send. For the record I tend to respect it but I have sent a couple of messages once or twice."
Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me depends on what’s it’s regarding though
Ie if it’s a forum post that I wouldn’t want public I will just send but other then that I respect it if they don’t message back they don’t get a nother message |
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I don't.
But I don't message continuously within a short space of time.
But if I've messaged a few months ago or something, I might send them another message. They might have missed the first one etc.
I've had many a good interaction with people I've messaged previously.   |
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"I see a profile that attracts my attention and have a read through. Everything is looking nice and I appear to fit the bill or requirements for the persons needs/ wants. Okay let’s send them a quick message and see if we can start a ball rolling. Then it springs up. Warning you have already sent!! Now I have been on here a while and whilst I have a reasonable memory, if profile pics or names have changed… but that’s a side issue. My main question is, how many folk would ignore the warning message and continue to send. For the record I tend to respect it but I have sent a couple of messages once or twice.
Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see."
Same! I see it. I dont message people again if ive contacted them and its gone nowhere. Whats the point?! |
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We always make notes on a profile, so we know if they pop up again a year later what went on before, eg did they read it, read and ignore etc! It works well for us! We don’t tend to message again if we already have, but have on occasions! Miss pc  |
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Don’t you see the message indicator at the top of the profile telling you when you messaged them, when they messaged you, winks, etc? That’s what we see."
You only get that with site supporter access, so if you've let it lapse or never bothered then you don't get that extra bit of useful information. |
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"Some men msg continuously... Like one after another...I don't understand how they don't get the hint. Persistence doesn't work...it actually speaks volumes of the type of person they are...they come across as needy & dramatic...
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I've said before there needs to be a time limit after one message, say 24hrs before can send again unless there's a reply. Stops the repeat sender's sending 10 messages in half an hour and clogging up your inbox from us who just send the one 
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I admit though I ignore the warning, especially if I believe that my first message just never got read due to the amount of messages in the person's inbox. There's been more than enough occasions that a lady has replied and when talking says that she never saw my previous 'first' messages |
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