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Hotwife and stag vixen
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We have always thought/classed our relationship is hotwife.
I (mr) don’t play with anyone but wife. I also join in when we meet (only on wife).
Could someone please tell me which of the 2 we are. I only ask as I have been recently told that hotwife is where the man just watches. But not humiliated so not cuckold. |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners."
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Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy"
No definitely I totally get and we are. We want to know as we have seen a event at a club we would like to attend (hotwife night). Now would I (mr) get funny looks if I joined in. And does the man of a hotwife couple join in or just get satisfied by watching? |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
No definitely I totally get and we are. We want to know as we have seen a event at a club we would like to attend (hotwife night). Now would I (mr) get funny looks if I joined in. And does the man of a hotwife couple join in or just get satisfied by watching?"
Surely that depends on how things are? Swinging doesn’t make anything easier. People either click or they don’t |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then"
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference. |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference."
Apologies just giving my opinion |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference."
Would you say we are more stag and vixen as I like to join in? |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference.
Would you say we are more stag and vixen as I like to join in?"
I’m afraid I’m even more clueless than you about it, sorry.
My opinion was in the reason why you’d want to be specific about how you classify yourself. |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference.
Apologies just giving my opinion "
No need to apologise. It’s simply a discussion about classification. I wasn’t sure what you meant by not being ‘good partners’. |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference.
Would you say we are more stag and vixen as I like to join in?
I’m afraid I’m even more clueless than you about it, sorry.
My opinion was in the reason why you’d want to be specific about how you classify yourself."
It’s about that club event and made us think lol |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference.
Apologies just giving my opinion
No need to apologise. It’s simply a discussion about classification. I wasn’t sure what you meant by not being ‘good partners’."
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That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference.
Would you say we are more stag and vixen as I like to join in?
I’m afraid I’m even more clueless than you about it, sorry.
My opinion was in the reason why you’d want to be specific about how you classify yourself.
It’s about that club event and made us think lol"
I understand that and why you’d want to classify yourself more accurately. Unfortunately, I am of no help there.  |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right"
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is. |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is."
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion |
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"I don’t think labels are that important as long as you both enjoy?"
I think the label has some effect. I don’t know what the difference is between the examples given in the OP but say if a couple labelled themselves as Soft Swing and I were looking for a full swop, I would pass that profile by because they wouldn’t be interested in what I’m looking for. |
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"Ok let’s change the question
Does the man of a hotwife cpl join in or just watch?
Come on some help lol"
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He joins in usually if I’m with someone’s wife but not with me |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion "
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it. |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it."
Lol exactly my point it’s not compromising so much as saying okay dokey. |
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"We are probably the people that hate putting labels on something the most. But as I have explained it matters at this moment "
I think you’d get help with this from experienced people during the day. At this time of night, we’re simply amateur lurkers. |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it.
Lol exactly my point it’s not compromising so much as saying okay dokey. "
Then, in my opinion, that’s as good as not expressing one. |
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"We are probably the people that hate putting labels on something the most. But as I have explained it matters at this moment
I think you’d get help with this from experienced people during the day. At this time of night, we’re simply amateur lurkers. "
I wouldn’t say that. I have had better conversations this time of night. Might be as I’m tired lol |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it.
Lol exactly my point it’s not compromising so much as saying okay dokey.
Then, in my opinion, that’s as good as not expressing one."
I express my opinion then if it’s not to peoples liking I hypothetically say okay doke as it’s not important |
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"We are probably the people that hate putting labels on something the most. But as I have explained it matters at this moment
I think you’d get help with this from experienced people during the day. At this time of night, we’re simply amateur lurkers.
I wouldn’t say that. I have had better conversations this time of night. Might be as I’m tired lol "
I think the interaction is more direct at this time of night because it’s a little fast and can be overwhelming during the day. Like a pub during peak hour. |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it.
Lol exactly my point it’s not compromising so much as saying okay dokey.
Then, in my opinion, that’s as good as not expressing one.
I express my opinion then if it’s not to peoples liking I hypothetically say okay doke as it’s not important "
It’s not about whether it’s to anyone’s liking. It’s simply asking what you meant because it was rather ambiguous and vague. It was asking for an explanation. There was no mention of what the opinion was on your opinion. |
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"That was to nip drama in the bud. I don’t know anyone on here, but have a tendency to voice my opinion. Not to say my opinion is right
Nothing wrong with that. It’s an opinion and that’s what discussion is.
Compromise is just as important, especially if people don’t like our opinion
You compromised before there was even a discussion. If your opinion raises questions on what you mean by it, surely you ought to explain rather than simply saying it’s an opinion and you don’t need to understand it.
Lol exactly my point it’s not compromising so much as saying okay dokey.
Then, in my opinion, that’s as good as not expressing one.
I express my opinion then if it’s not to peoples liking I hypothetically say okay doke as it’s not important
It’s not about whether it’s to anyone’s liking. It’s simply asking what you meant because it was rather ambiguous and vague. It was asking for an explanation. There was no mention of what the opinion was on your opinion."
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Why don't you call the club/organiser, OP, if you're concerned you won't fit in? I'm sure they'll be able to clarify what goes on.
I'm also sure you'll be absolutely fine - I don't think anyone is that precious in their definitions, there being so much misunderstanding and blurred lines regarding the labels anyway.
I hope you have a great night.
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We are the same as you OP.
I arrange the meets for my wife and pick her outfits and join in the fun with her.
She is allowed to play with only the meets I arrange and must wear the outfit I pick.
She is ok to play alone if she feels safe and happy with the person if its a man or girl.
We class ourselves as Stag and hotwife vixen
Him xxx |
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"Having a label doesn’t change how you feel? Just be happy
It might change how people classify them as potential play partners..
Yip, but they wouldn’t be good partners then
I don’t understand your remark about good partners, I’m afraid.
If I’m looking for a Hotwife where the husband watches only as opposed to one who joins in as a Stag/Vixen partner, I might pass them by depending on how they have classified themselves.
I don’t know what the classifications are but if I were simply having a quick perusal, it may make a difference."
Your after a hot wife / cuck. Or hotwife / Alpha cuck. The first, the cuck is either not there or present and wants some type of humiltaion joins at the request of hotwife or just watches. Second, Alpha cuck is present, dosnt join, no humiltion.
It's really down to the couple, you need to talk each couple. What one couple dose, another maynot.
We're a stag and Vixen. I will not play alone, he watches and joins no humiliation. |
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"Hiya, yes you would be classed as stag and vixen, but if you decide to go out but not be involved if that’s something you do the you would be hot wife, different sides of the same coin xxx "
I think I have finally got answers lol
So if I join in we are stag and vixen? |
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I think there are lots of grey areas in these definitions!
I have heard some categorise by who picks the guy.... Hotwives pick their own, stags pick for their Vixen. Whether you watch or join or stay away seems individual.
I suspect you will be fine at the club. There will be couples with their own interpretation, randy guys who don't care and providing you communicate you will have a great night. X |
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