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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
Interesting to see the response of a few single men on the forums as I don't think some know the difference 
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over a year ago
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
a heads up if an Irish person insults you it probably means they like you so
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I’m not a sycophant. I give compliments when I feel they are deserved but I won’t be harsh when it’s unwarranted either.
I generally find something positive about it and remark on that in conjunction with the less positive remarks. |
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I pay compliments all the time to those that I am attracted to, and interested in. Whilst I am always polite, if I don't compliment during exchange of messages, then they must be pretty thick if they don't catch on to the fact that I don't actually fancy them. |
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It's not unique to men but on here it does appear that way.
Some get confused with the definition of the word gentleman and are quick to shower all women with compliments, especially those that acknowledge them.
On the flip side while many claim they pay no attention to the sychophancy, some do need it and they use it to keep their numbers up. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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There are very few genuine compliments on here.
I tend to compliment someone’s character or what they have done, nice hair, dress, nice post etc rather than how they look naturally. Being naturally ‘gorgeous’ or having great tits isn’t worthy of a compliment, unless they are implants! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"It's not unique to men but on here it does appear that way.
Some get confused with the definition of the word gentleman and are quick to shower all women with compliments, especially those that acknowledge them.
On the flip side while many claim they pay no attention to the sychophancy, some do need it and they use it to keep their numbers up. "
No one ‘needs’ it, it just reinforces your value is purely in how you look and that you have little or no control over your value , it leads to every low self esteem |
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This is a really interesting one. I’ve been chatting to someone, he pretty much tells me how amazing I am with every message. I sat on the sofa and watched a film with my son and he was gushing about what an amazing mum I am. And when I called him out, he got defensive. |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times. |
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over a year ago
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When it’s starting to feel very uncomfortable and not genuine 
Because I could fucking lifting my arms and it’d be a compliment about my armpits x like come off if |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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As someone who has never really had compliments, just mithering about my weight/height etc., it’s not really something I’m used to and I feel uncomfortable, no matter how well intended they are.
And yes, I’m aware that a lot of folk on here think they are saying what they think you want to hear. A pinch of salt is needed. |
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over a year ago
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When someone says your the most beautiful or the best thing they've ever laid their eyes on in their life. I don't mind compliments but when it's exaggerated or said relentlessly, it's not genuine in my opinion. |
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What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.  |
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In everyday life I find it difficult to trust anyone who is over complimentary or just too nice.
It's usually a good sign that they are untrustworthy because they don't have the courage of their convictions and are all things to all men.
They have to be seen to be a nice person and actually tell you that they are a nice person. |
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"It's not unique to men but on here it does appear that way.
Some get confused with the definition of the word gentleman and are quick to shower all women with compliments, especially those that acknowledge them.
On the flip side while many claim they pay no attention to the sychophancy, some do need it and they use it to keep their numbers up. "
Interesting outlook  |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here. "
At a guess... it's fake to some?
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"When someone says your the most beautiful or the best thing they've ever laid their eyes on in their life. I don't mind compliments but when it's exaggerated or said relentlessly, it's not genuine in my opinion."
But maybe you are and that person is surrounded by darkness and your pictures give them light and pleasure and without your efforts they would be very sad indeed.  |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
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Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal. |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal."
Isn’t everything fake though?
What do you mean? |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal.
Isn’t everything fake though?
What do you mean? "
I don't think anyone is themselves on social media. I think we put on our game faces, show our best sides, hide our neuroses and flaws. Nothing wrong with that, but it's no more honest than someone "blowing smoke up someone's arse" either I think.
What do you reckon? I'm just sharing thoughts. Been stuck in isolation for too long. |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal."
Well if you are wondering discuss... But your typing indicates 'biting'...
So I won't take it any further! For some reason it's irritating you...
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I only truly accept compliments from my friends and they know not to do it often, everything else is like an air kiss. Accept, say thank you and move on
I like to give compliments but never fake ones, I like to look deeper into a personality and find things I find admirable or pleasing to my eye |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal.
Well if you are wondering discuss... But your typing indicates 'biting'...
So I won't take it any further! For some reason it's irritating you...
Apologies "
Hey I gave the wrong impression! Not irritated at all, was discussing and trying to not come across as "anti". Sorry |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal."
It only 'bothers' me in as much as I find it a bit naff and puerile |
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"When someone says your the most beautiful or the best thing they've ever laid their eyes on in their life. I don't mind compliments but when it's exaggerated or said relentlessly, it's not genuine in my opinion.
But maybe you are and that person is surrounded by darkness and your pictures give them light and pleasure and without your efforts they would be very sad indeed. "
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal.
Isn’t everything fake though?
What do you mean?
I don't think anyone is themselves on social media. I think we put on our game faces, show our best sides, hide our neuroses and flaws. Nothing wrong with that, but it's no more honest than someone "blowing smoke up someone's arse" either I think.
What do you reckon? I'm just sharing thoughts. Been stuck in isolation for too long. "
I don’t think everyone is fake for certain. I agree there’s a level of fakeness, and I agree it’s probably much higher on social media than real life. But not everything |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal.
Isn’t everything fake though?
What do you mean?
I don't think anyone is themselves on social media. I think we put on our game faces, show our best sides, hide our neuroses and flaws. Nothing wrong with that, but it's no more honest than someone "blowing smoke up someone's arse" either I think.
What do you reckon? I'm just sharing thoughts. Been stuck in isolation for too long.
I don’t think everyone is fake for certain. I agree there’s a level of fakeness, and I agree it’s probably much higher on social media than real life. But not everything "
Yeah, "everything" was the wrong word. "A lot of things" maybe even "most things" at a push. |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here.
At a guess... it's fake to some?
Isn't everything tho? Especially on social media? I dunno, seems there's a lot of conplaints about people "blowing smoke up each other's arses" and I've always wondered why it would bother anyone. Each to their own I guess. Shrugs* no big deal.
It only 'bothers' me in as much as I find it a bit naff and puerile "
That would probably bother me too tbf. |
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"When someone says your the most beautiful or the best thing they've ever laid their eyes on in their life. I don't mind compliments but when it's exaggerated or said relentlessly, it's not genuine in my opinion.
But maybe you are and that person is surrounded by darkness and your pictures give them light and pleasure and without your efforts they would be very sad indeed.
Point proven "
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I just take them to be the pleasantries of engagement, esp if they've never seen or met me
Kinda like when someone asks how you are and you reply good /fine/really well even though your dog judt died, you crashed your car and lost your job... It's just a reflex |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Well... obviously every compliment I make is just that and in others it's arse kissing.
I'm not sure where I draw the line, I agree with a poster above about it being a bit naff - it is. Sometimes I think the compliment is more for the person giving rather than the recipient, it looks good for them? I'm not sure. I need more coffee before I work it out. |
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"Well... obviously every compliment I make is just that and in others it's arse kissing.
I'm not sure where I draw the line, I agree with a poster above about it being a bit naff - it is. Sometimes I think the compliment is more for the person giving rather than the recipient, it looks good for them? I'm not sure. I need more coffee before I work it out. "
I kind of agree about the poster above thread, but actually, if I look at a profile and can’t find something genuine to compliment, then I move along to another thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s really very simply, when I do it it’s a genuine compliment, when other men do it they’re kissing arse and I want to point at their nose and say ‘You might want to wipe that brown thing off!’ |
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I think like anywhere, you will get a mixture of both, some genuine and some not, but it’s a shame to assume all compliments are false.
I love to give compliments, it can give people a boost, but only if I genuinely mean it. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Well... obviously every compliment I make is just that and in others it's arse kissing.
I'm not sure where I draw the line, I agree with a poster above about it being a bit naff - it is. Sometimes I think the compliment is more for the person giving rather than the recipient, it looks good for them? I'm not sure. I need more coffee before I work it out.
I kind of agree about the poster above thread, but actually, if I look at a profile and can’t find something genuine to compliment, then I move along to another thread. "
I wasn't talking about the poster above threads specifically! I was saying I agree with a poster above about it being a bit naff sometimes.
You can read when someone is struggling to think of something nice to say or posting a compliment in the hope of getting one back in the forums, not just that thread. I don't know. I try and not be too cynical for the most part, I have a friend who gets a bit erm... embarrassed if I give them a compliment (blurting it out Aspie style) because they aren't used to it. That's a shame really. |
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If I pay a compliment then I mean it.
If I get one paid to me well...I take it in the spirit that it's meant.
You can tell a compliment from an arse kissing and if in doubt..I give the benefit of the doubt.
It's nice to be nice..just not overly nice. |
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"If I pay a compliment then I mean it.
If I get one paid to me well...I take it in the spirit that it's meant.
You can tell a compliment from an arse kissing and if in doubt..I give the benefit of the doubt.
It's nice to be nice..just not overly nice."
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"If I pay a compliment then I mean it.
If I get one paid to me well...I take it in the spirit that it's meant.
You can tell a compliment from an arse kissing and if in doubt..I give the benefit of the doubt.
It's nice to be nice..just not overly nice.
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Back at you
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"If I pay a compliment then I mean it.
If I get one paid to me well...I take it in the spirit that it's meant.
You can tell a compliment from an arse kissing and if in doubt..I give the benefit of the doubt.
It's nice to be nice..just not overly nice.
Back at you
And for the record...I'd happily lick your arse "
Right back atcha, you sexy minx  |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
I always accept a compliment with grace.
How I internalise it is something very different.
I am seldom swayed by compliments. I know myself well enough. |
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"I pay compliments all the time to those that I am attracted to, and interested in. Whilst I am always polite, if I don't compliment during exchange of messages, then they must be pretty thick if they don't catch on to the fact that I don't actually fancy them."
So therefore your compliments are not earnest compliments, simply a fuck fishing fest ? |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times. "
If it quacks like a sycophant ...... |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times.
If it quacks like a sycophant ......"
Oh, Grannie, I do love your avatar |
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Interesting input so far.
I ask because I'm generally skeptical when I get compliments. I just think most of the time they come off as fake and the guys who say that stuff to me are just throwing compliments to every woman they see on here and seeing what sticks.
Also being fat I feel like more men assume that I'm naturally self conscious or unconfident and I NEED to hear compliments about my body. I don't. I'm confident but I'm also perfectly aware that my body is not made up of "the most gorgeous curves you've ever seen" etc etc  |
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"When I had a couples profile years ago we regularly got messages saying how beautiful she was despite all our pics being private
That’s a fairly good indicator "
This.. I regularly get told I'm beautiful/stunning without them even seeing my face!
Or I've got the best body on Fab... That's definitely a lie!!! |
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"When I had a couples profile years ago we regularly got messages saying how beautiful she was despite all our pics being private
That’s a fairly good indicator
This.. I regularly get told I'm beautiful/stunning without them even seeing my face!
Or I've got the best body on Fab... That's definitely a lie!!! "
Yeah this. Always. It all goes right over my head on here. Take it with a ton of salt. |
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People are rarely sychophantic towards us on here and they rarely pay us compliments publicly or privately. This makes it easier to differentiate between the two.
I'm not a fan of sychophantic behaviour I think it's patronising to the person on the receiving end |
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"What's wrong with kissing arse and why does it offend so many people on the forums? It's nice to be nice, who gives a toss if someone is being sycophantic? Better than rude or racist which happens a lot round here. "
There's an art to complimenting with social grace and good intention to spirit lift I feel. People don't mind those so much. I feel it's when they sniff the self interested reasons behind them that they senses insincerity. Though why people should expect earnest devotions on here beats me. I think the context of the place leads people to be wary of being subject to false flattery.
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"People are rarely sychophantic towards us on here and they rarely pay us compliments publicly or privately. This makes it easier to differentiate between the two.
I'm not a fan of sychophantic behaviour I think it's patronising to the person on the receiving end"
But Hastings had the most beautiful wonderful fantastic people living there  |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times.
If it quacks like a sycophant ......
Oh, Grannie, I do love your avatar "
and my Saggie Vaggie ? I haven't been back to that thread yet.
You giveth with one hand and taketh with the other.
I'm in training and trauma since reading what you said. |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times.
If it quacks like a sycophant ......
Oh, Grannie, I do love your avatar
and my Saggie Vaggie ? I haven't been back to that thread yet.
You giveth with one hand and taketh with the other.
I'm in training and trauma since reading what you said."
Don’t fret - Mersey Tunnel you ain’t. Anyway, besides which and anyhow - ‘twas not I that introduced to the forum and the world the term ‘saggie vaggie’ |
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"People are rarely sychophantic towards us on here and they rarely pay us compliments publicly or privately. This makes it easier to differentiate between the two.
I'm not a fan of sychophantic behaviour I think it's patronising to the person on the receiving end
But Hastings had the most beautiful wonderful fantastic people living there "
Well that is so clearly true that we can't help but be genuinely flattered |
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"This is a really interesting one. I’ve been chatting to someone, he pretty much tells me how amazing I am with every message. I sat on the sofa and watched a film with my son and he was gushing about what an amazing mum I am. And when I called him out, he got defensive. "
Maybe the guy really likes you. When you say you're sitting watching a film that feels to you like a normal every day thing, you're sat there picking your chipped nail varnish, your son is farting and laughing at it while he is picturing Mary cradling the infant Jesus. Perhaps he is comparing to his own life, perhaps his own mum or an ex partner who never did things like that with him/his kids. When you like someone everything they do is wonderful, they snore and you think its cute, they fart and you think it's funny. Compliments like these may seem fake but may well be a realistic description of what the person feels. They may also be an indication that it is not so much you that they are in love with but their perception of you which doesn't make the compliments fake but dies perhaps need discussing.
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I think a lot of compliments stem from fantasy worlds. There are ladies on here with some amazing pics and that is all we see of them. We see a perky pair of boobs, not a pair all sticky with underboob sweat and red lines from a day of wearing a bra, we see sexy poses not the bleary eyed stumble to have a poo in the morning, we see pouty lips and don't hear the irritation as we're reminded that we have left our smelly socks on the floor for two days. When we compliment these imaginary people are we being sycophantic or just unrealistic?
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
If I compliment someone it is a genuine. The sycophantic behaviour of men and women looks cringe at times.
If it quacks like a sycophant ......
Oh, Grannie, I do love your avatar
and my Saggie Vaggie ? I haven't been back to that thread yet.
You giveth with one hand and taketh with the other.
I'm in training and trauma since reading what you said.
Don’t fret - Mersey Tunnel you ain’t. Anyway, besides which and anyhow - ‘twas not I that introduced to the forum and the world the term ‘saggie vaggie’"
Hmmmmmm was it moi ? |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
Its difficult - I was going to say that rimming is above that line but then any higher would literally make you a cock sucker |
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Maybe it has to be in context to the situation...? If I've just met you then the compliment will be subtle. If we have known each other for a while and I'm keen to step it up it will be a bigger compliment and intricate, not just superficial. As long as I mean what I say. That's my take on it. |
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I suppose it very much depends on the mindset of the recipients too.. some people here enjoy being admired and take great pleasure in taking arty photos. I’m sure positive feedback is pleasurable, which is great.
I’m not very comfortable with complements from strangers and would much prefer someone I know to comment on something which made them smile. So I don’t put myself in that position. It may come across grumpy but that’s just how I am.  |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
Whenever it is no longer genuine and other motives are in play |
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To me a compliment is a genuine "Oh I like that" reaction. I pay a lot of compliments because I like a lot of stuff.
When it comes to kissing arse there's always an ulterior motive. In messages it tends to be "OMG you're the hottest woman on here. Look at me being a Nice Guy. Now I've paid you a compliment you owe me at least a blow job". On the forum it's more "look at me being such a beautiful soul spreading joy to the hoi polloi, surely that's worth a blow job".
When it comes to accepting compliments I tend to accept with grace those that align with my own sense of myself, and reject any that conflict with it.
I'll always reject the "you're so sexy/hot/gorgeous I jizzed my pants just seeing your name" compliments because they are patent bullshit. |
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"To me a compliment is a genuine "Oh I like that" reaction. I pay a lot of compliments because I like a lot of stuff.
When it comes to kissing arse there's always an ulterior motive. In messages it tends to be "OMG you're the hottest woman on here. Look at me being a Nice Guy. Now I've paid you a compliment you owe me at least a blow job". On the forum it's more "look at me being such a beautiful soul spreading joy to the hoi polloi, surely that's worth a blow job".
When it comes to accepting compliments I tend to accept with grace those that align with my own sense of myself, and reject any that conflict with it.
I'll always reject the "you're so sexy/hot/gorgeous I jizzed my pants just seeing your name" compliments because they are patent bullshit."
I absolutely agree with everything you said - and you turned my boxers into a soggy blanket !! You complete sexpot xx
Ironically you are bloody lovely xx |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"To me a compliment is a genuine "Oh I like that" reaction. I pay a lot of compliments because I like a lot of stuff.
When it comes to kissing arse there's always an ulterior motive. In messages it tends to be "OMG you're the hottest woman on here. Look at me being a Nice Guy. Now I've paid you a compliment you owe me at least a blow job". On the forum it's more "look at me being such a beautiful soul spreading joy to the hoi polloi, surely that's worth a blow job".
When it comes to accepting compliments I tend to accept with grace those that align with my own sense of myself, and reject any that conflict with it.
I'll always reject the "you're so sexy/hot/gorgeous I jizzed my pants just seeing your name" compliments because they are patent bullshit."
But you do look great in a blue bra. Xx |
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I think the forums are full of arse kissing men....everyone wants to catch the eye of all the females so we all kiss ass,compliments are something I give if been chatting awhile and I like a new pic or something they say x |
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"I think the forums are full of arse kissing men....everyone wants to catch the eye of all the females so we all kiss ass,compliments are something I give if been chatting awhile and I like a new pic or something they say x"
Agree to a point but even catching the eye of one of the ladies in here is hard enough - catching them all?
A compliment is only a compliment if it’s genuine - if i find someone attractive then i’ll tell them - its nice to get a heartfelt compliment otherwise its probably more annoying?
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"I think the forums are full of arse kissing men....everyone wants to catch the eye of all the females so we all kiss ass,compliments are something I give if been chatting awhile and I like a new pic or something they say x
Agree to a point but even catching the eye of one of the ladies in here is hard enough - catching them all?
A compliment is only a compliment if it’s genuine - if i find someone attractive then i’ll tell them - its nice to get a heartfelt compliment otherwise its probably more annoying?
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I think it’s extremely obvious on the forums. A woman could suggest castration and guys woukd literally line up for the chance.
Compliments are nice when there’s nothing behind it.
You have a really nice smile - great
You have a really nice smile (please let me fuck you) - not so great |
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If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least! "
You know that sounds lovely and genuine! I thought that about another post you did the other day, cannot remember other than it was a bit explicit but it sounded really like coming from the heart (or wherever else from |
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least!
You know that sounds lovely and genuine! I thought that about another post you did the other day, cannot remember other than it was a bit explicit but it sounded really like coming from the heart (or wherever else from "
Ah thanks, I tend to write from the heart. Sometimes it comes across ok others not so much… sorry if it made you blush
I think I know the one you mean |
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"I think the forums are full of arse kissing men....everyone wants to catch the eye of all the females so we all kiss ass,compliments are something I give if been chatting awhile and I like a new pic or something they say x
Agree to a point but even catching the eye of one of the ladies in here is hard enough - catching them all?
A compliment is only a compliment if it’s genuine - if i find someone attractive then i’ll tell them - its nice to get a heartfelt compliment otherwise its probably more annoying?
I think it’s extremely obvious on the forums. A woman could suggest castration and guys woukd literally line up for the chance.
Compliments are nice when there’s nothing behind it.
You have a really nice smile - great
You have a really nice smile (please let me fuck you) - not so great "
Well if the castration is going to happen.... I'll be the only one in the queue!
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"Interesting input so far.
I ask because I'm generally skeptical when I get compliments. I just think most of the time they come off as fake and the guys who say that stuff to me are just throwing compliments to every woman they see on here and seeing what sticks.
Also being fat I feel like more men assume that I'm naturally self conscious or unconfident and I NEED to hear compliments about my body. I don't. I'm confident but I'm also perfectly aware that my body is not made up of "the most gorgeous curves you've ever seen" etc etc "
This sums it up for me!
Publicly and privately!
Good thread subject and others insights! |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I’m extremely straight talking, blowing smoke up someone’s arse isn’t my style at all
I give compliments to those who I genuinely want to give them too for a multitude of reasons. I have met some really lovely people in my time on here who I have taken the time to get to know and likewise them with me, some I have met and some I have striked friendships with there’s no false pretences or expectations from these people I find them sincere, friendly and in some cases we have gone on to be supportive of things going on our life’s out with here.
If one of these people post something I enjoy be it a picture or a forum post of course I’ll compliment them or agree with there points when I do genuinely agree.
If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. Either way some people will see this behaviour as smoke blowing and some see it for what it’s meant to be a simple appreciation, that’s life we all do things differently xx |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m extremely straight talking, blowing smoke up someone’s arse isn’t my style at all
I give compliments to those who I genuinely want to give them too for a multitude of reasons. I have met some really lovely people in my time on here who I have taken the time to get to know and likewise them with me, some I have met and some I have striked friendships with there’s no false pretences or expectations from these people I find them sincere, friendly and in some cases we have gone on to be supportive of things going on our life’s out with here.
If one of these people post something I enjoy be it a picture or a forum post of course I’ll compliment them or agree with there points when I do genuinely agree.
If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. Either way some people will see this behaviour as smoke blowing and some see it for what it’s meant to be a simple appreciation, that’s life we all do things differently xx"
This is such a lovely mantra, so positive, so helpful by design - we need this so much more than trying to outdo one another. I am talking in general not specifically fabs although of course, that is included as part of the reality that is life.
"If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. xx" |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m extremely straight talking, blowing smoke up someone’s arse isn’t my style at all
I give compliments to those who I genuinely want to give them too for a multitude of reasons. I have met some really lovely people in my time on here who I have taken the time to get to know and likewise them with me, some I have met and some I have striked friendships with there’s no false pretences or expectations from these people I find them sincere, friendly and in some cases we have gone on to be supportive of things going on our life’s out with here.
If one of these people post something I enjoy be it a picture or a forum post of course I’ll compliment them or agree with there points when I do genuinely agree.
If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. Either way some people will see this behaviour as smoke blowing and some see it for what it’s meant to be a simple appreciation, that’s life we all do things differently xx
This is such a lovely mantra, so positive, so helpful by design - we need this so much more than trying to outdo one another. I am talking in general not specifically fabs although of course, that is included as part of the reality that is life.
"If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. xx" "
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"I’m extremely straight talking, blowing smoke up someone’s arse isn’t my style at all
I give compliments to those who I genuinely want to give them too for a multitude of reasons. I have met some really lovely people in my time on here who I have taken the time to get to know and likewise them with me, some I have met and some I have striked friendships with there’s no false pretences or expectations from these people I find them sincere, friendly and in some cases we have gone on to be supportive of things going on our life’s out with here.
If one of these people post something I enjoy be it a picture or a forum post of course I’ll compliment them or agree with there points when I do genuinely agree.
If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. Either way some people will see this behaviour as smoke blowing and some see it for what it’s meant to be a simple appreciation, that’s life we all do things differently xx
This is such a lovely mantra, so positive, so helpful by design - we need this so much more than trying to outdo one another. I am talking in general not specifically fabs although of course, that is included as part of the reality that is life.
"If I can help someone smile or brighten up there day a little with some kind words or have a laugh with them I’ll do it but not with just anyone for the sake of being perceived as a nice person. xx" "
There’s genuinely some amazing people on the forums and I think it’s very inclusive and generally a very nice fluffy place. I like making people smile if I genuinely like what they say or a pic they’ve posted. But there’s always sceptics. I try not to compliment directly to often and I refer direct contact with them. But that’s not always possible.
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I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything. |
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over a year ago
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I worked with a guy I could not get along with. Drove me nuts that he was always difficult and spikey with everyone. I drove him nuts cause I was always nice to everyone.
A mutual friend told me he said this: "why is he always nice all the time? What's he after? I don't trust anyone who's always nice to people".
So I guess our subjectivity to pleasantries varies wildly and what some of us might find endearing others find sickening. All you can do is be yourself I spose. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything. "
I am guilty of sometimes thinking the positive thought about somebody rather than saying. This is a good reminder to verbalise positive, encouraging and sincere comments towards other people. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
I had to explain to someone once that although I had fabbed their pic, because it was a happy smiling one, I wasn't expecting them to be available to someone 100+ miles away
Maybe it is just frustration from the kids they get though, idk |
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"I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything.
I am guilty of sometimes thinking the positive thought about somebody rather than saying. This is a good reminder to verbalise positive, encouraging and sincere comments towards other people. "
Why though?
Sure, if it's friends or people we'd naturally be interacting with. Otherwise, why...especially if there is really no intent behind it |
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"I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything.
I am guilty of sometimes thinking the positive thought about somebody rather than saying. This is a good reminder to verbalise positive, encouraging and sincere comments towards other people.
Why though?
Sure, if it's friends or people we'd naturally be interacting with. Otherwise, why...especially if there is really no intent behind it"
Because it’s a nice thing to do. I messaged a TV once telling her she was beautiful because I genuinely meant it and she was really overwhelmed that I’d done that out of nowhere and said she was having a shit day and I’d just made her day. I’m not really one for doing that kind of thing but I did mean it and I’m glad I did now. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything.
I am guilty of sometimes thinking the positive thought about somebody rather than saying. This is a good reminder to verbalise positive, encouraging and sincere comments towards other people.
Why though?
Sure, if it's friends or people we'd naturally be interacting with. Otherwise, why...especially if there is really no intent behind it
Because it’s a nice thing to do. I messaged a TV once telling her she was beautiful because I genuinely meant it and she was really overwhelmed that I’d done that out of nowhere and said she was having a shit day and I’d just made her day. I’m not really one for doing that kind of thing but I did mean it and I’m glad I did now. "
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"I probably don’t compliment as often as I should really. And I should remember to fab pics. I often think things but don’t say them which I should. When I do compliment it’s always sincere though, otherwise I just wouldn’t say anything.
I am guilty of sometimes thinking the positive thought about somebody rather than saying. This is a good reminder to verbalise positive, encouraging and sincere comments towards other people.
Why though?
Sure, if it's friends or people we'd naturally be interacting with. Otherwise, why...especially if there is really no intent behind it
Because it’s a nice thing to do. I messaged a TV once telling her she was beautiful because I genuinely meant it and she was really overwhelmed that I’d done that out of nowhere and said she was having a shit day and I’d just made her day. I’m not really one for doing that kind of thing but I did mean it and I’m glad I did now.
If you can make someone's day a bit better, why not? "
Yeah don’t get me wrong I’m not into this people telling people to be kind malarkey for the sake of it but if it’s warranted I will do. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
I'd like to think she'd take it as a compliment if I was licking her pussy at the time.
Kissing her arse is will be next. |
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over a year ago
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"I’m not a sycophant. I give compliments when I feel they are deserved but I won’t be harsh when it’s unwarranted either.
I generally find something positive about it and remark on that in conjunction with the less positive remarks."
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least! "
Tom!!! You legend!!! Always the nice guy, never hear a bad word said about him. And proud to call him my fabbro |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least! "
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least! "
Every time I've noticed you post in the forums I've always thought how nice you seemed and that pretty much confirms it. |
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least!
Tom!!! You legend!!! Always the nice guy, never hear a bad word said about him. And proud to call him my fabbro "
Awww no worries mate. Enjoy work today |
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least!
And this is why we all love you tom "
Awww cheers cutie x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least!
Every time I've noticed you post in the forums I've always thought how nice you seemed and that pretty much confirms it. "
Hi thanks, we’ve never chatted but thank you fab should be a nice place. We all come here to escape for a while or to catch up with friends in a group chat arena |
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"I don't know where I draw the line tbh. I kinda just know when someone is kissing ass for the sake of it. It's probably more of a gut feeling I get.
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You are soooo right! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"If I offer a compliment it’s because I mean it… wether or not I’m actively looking to arrange a play date or not. I wouldn’t be talking in the first place if there wasn’t some kind of attraction.
I’ve always been a flirt… but I’ve only ever given compliments when they’re meant. If I say your eyes and smile are stunning I mean it!
If I say you’ve an amazing bum I can’t wait to hold, I mean that too. If I say I love hearing your voice, its a lovely voice, I mean that too.
I compliment guys on here to.
K from beyond purity has always been one of the most genuinely nice guys I’ve spoken to on here. He’s kind and thoughtful and looks great.
NYCsausage has always been a good friend on here too. He’s funny and cheeky and a great guy I can’t wait to have a beer with..
Tmontana makes me wish I was his mate. He’s a lovely lad to chat to, funny and attracts lots of girls to his group lol
But like the others has always messaged and asked how I’m doing.
And Dickasso is one of the nicest guys I’ve spoken too who not only seems to genuinely care about other peoples feelings is a really engaging and very interesting guy.
I’ve no need to blow smoke up peoples arses to a) get me noticed b) stand out from the crowd…
I’m confident enough to try and open up a conversation with anyone that interest me, sexually or not.
If you’re a female that I’ve chatted to and still do if I’ve ever said anything nice to you it was meant. Regardless of how some people on here think blokes throw compliments around to get noticed.
There’s still a girl on here I compliment daily and it’s always genuinely said and received as it was intended… and that’s because she’s my friend. m
I’m me I can’t act any other way and those that talk to me kniw this.
Phew hope that explains my view on this at least!
Every time I've noticed you post in the forums I've always thought how nice you seemed and that pretty much confirms it.
Hi thanks, we’ve never chatted but thank you fab should be a nice place. We all come here to escape for a while or to catch up with friends in a group chat arena "
This is what fabs is (should be ) all about for me, can only speak for myself.
I think everybody on this thread might have that warm fuzzy feeling that I got when reading this genuinely lovely and welcoming post. We need more people to be like that. Inspiring and so nice to see first thing.
On that note, everybody have a great day, may it be filled with good coffee/ tea and avoid bringing those near the perineum ... |
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing? "
I don't know anybody on here (written form) and I prefer it that way for so many reasons - but on the back of certain threads, I've messaged people (privately) whom I've never spoken to before and said something uplifting or supportive.
A lot of people (not just me) are more private with their compliments, maybe because they feel being so 'showy' has a cringe, arse licky moment that it'll never be looked upon, by those people watching/reading as genuine!
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Where do you personally draw the line between a genuine compliment and pure arse kissing?
I don't know anybody on here (written form) and I prefer it that way for so many reasons - but on the back of certain threads, I've messaged people (privately) whom I've never spoken to before and said something uplifting or supportive.
A lot of people (not just me) are more private with their compliments, maybe because they feel being so 'showy' has a cringe, arse licky moment that it'll never be looked upon, by those people watching/reading as genuine!
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I get what you are saying that people may withhold compliments in public for that reason, it might feel cringey and bee seen as pursuing a purpose or something.
And I guess some might use it to pursue their own purpose, who knows.
I also think that being acknowledged PUBLICLY, as a person who has posted something positive, encouraging, uplifting or even clever can have a supportive, confidence inspiring effect?
I guess it all depends on the compliment giver and the compliment receiver. And as a nation, culturally we are not great at receiving compliments - we often deny, minimise, brush off the compliment for fear of being seen as conceited and vacuous. |
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