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over a year ago
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When it comes to choosing a guy to join you….what attributes do you desire?
Previous experience? Dominant? Submissive? Equal playing field?
Is he there to pleasure the wife in front of the hubby? Is he there to join in with you as you play?
I love to hear everyone’s take on the threesome…
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Never choose a profile with endless dick pics, or with random females in a single mans profile.
+1 male is just something extra, no big desire to say "you are here to please the Mrs then go away" it's just another body added to the moment. Added excitement, then you can go away  |
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"Never choose a profile with endless dick pics, or with random females in a single mans profile.
+1 male is just something extra, no big desire to say "you are here to please the Mrs then go away" it's just another body added to the moment. Added excitement, then you can go away "
It’s ‘just have fun’ …. A pleasurable addition’ |
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Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you. |
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Various reasons about why/how we choose single men…
We have scenarios that involve extras - we also want a few regulars (this is also couples, males and females)…sex is much better with regulars although we are yet to establish any!
C craves extra now and again, not instead of…we have the most amazing sex life, so an extra or extras are needed to create some top shelf memories we can’t do between ourselves.
We choose people based on them fitting into our dynamics and also us fitting into theirs. There’s a mutual respect for both of us and we feel comfortable sharing C and ensuring she gets the best pleasure (which she’ll give back in abundance
Being confident and assured - not needing direction and being able to laugh together too.
We chat and chat to guys so we know we are on the same page…although some scenarios mean C doesn’t even see them beforehand…we like to mix things up now and again 
K
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"When it comes to choosing a guy to join you….what attributes do you desire?
Previous experience? Dominant? Submissive? Equal playing field?
Is he there to pleasure the wife in front of the hubby? Is he there to join in with you as you play?
I love to hear everyone’s take on the threesome…
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Various things matter but the most important are personality and whether we are looking for similar things. We're not looking for a sex machine, just a nice normal guy who maybe has never done this before. |
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I only ever meet single guys when at clubs with my husband.
I want a friendly chap who is comfortable with us both, and easy to get along with. Looks and physique are secondary to personality.
Since hubby is straight, another straight guy is preferred but not essential.
Though I admit that in group rooms, if I like the look of him, that's fine |
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"When it comes to choosing a guy to join you….what attributes do you desire?
Previous experience? Dominant? Submissive? Equal playing field?
Is he there to pleasure the wife in front of the hubby? Is he there to join in with you as you play?
I love to hear everyone’s take on the threesome…
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It is so much easier to "pick up" a guy at a club. All that matters is the interaction there and then.
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"Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you. "
Yes…. The whole mutual respect for both the female & male of the couple…big importance.
I think if you’re awkward around another guy naked then joining in with a couple is a bad direction to go ha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Various reasons about why/how we choose single men…
We have scenarios that involve extras - we also want a few regulars (this is also couples, males and females)…sex is much better with regulars although we are yet to establish any!
C craves extra now and again, not instead of…we have the most amazing sex life, so an extra or extras are needed to create some top shelf memories we can’t do between ourselves.
We choose people based on them fitting into our dynamics and also us fitting into theirs. There’s a mutual respect for both of us and we feel comfortable sharing C and ensuring she gets the best pleasure (which she’ll give back in abundance
Being confident and assured - not needing direction and being able to laugh together too.
We chat and chat to guys so we know we are on the same page…although some scenarios mean C doesn’t even see them beforehand…we like to mix things up now and again
K
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Yes I think the ease & relaxed feeling where you can laugh is such a good place to be when meeting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When it comes to choosing a guy to join you….what attributes do you desire?
Previous experience? Dominant? Submissive? Equal playing field?
Is he there to pleasure the wife in front of the hubby? Is he there to join in with you as you play?
I love to hear everyone’s take on the threesome…
Various things matter but the most important are personality and whether we are looking for similar things. We're not looking for a sex machine, just a nice normal guy who maybe has never done this before. "
Ooo you want to mold a newbie I jest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I only ever meet single guys when at clubs with my husband.
I want a friendly chap who is comfortable with us both, and easy to get along with. Looks and physique are secondary to personality.
Since hubby is straight, another straight guy is preferred but not essential.
Though I admit that in group rooms, if I like the look of him, that's fine "
All about feeling at ease and comfortable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When it comes to choosing a guy to join you….what attributes do you desire?
Previous experience? Dominant? Submissive? Equal playing field?
Is he there to pleasure the wife in front of the hubby? Is he there to join in with you as you play?
I love to hear everyone’s take on the threesome…
It is so much easier to "pick up" a guy at a club. All that matters is the interaction there and then.
Cal"
I need to visit a club… |
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"I only ever meet single guys when at clubs with my husband.
I want a friendly chap who is comfortable with us both, and easy to get along with. Looks and physique are secondary to personality.
Since hubby is straight, another straight guy is preferred but not essential.
Though I admit that in group rooms, if I like the look of him, that's fine
All about feeling at ease and comfortable "
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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Some heartening responses on here about single guys.
I was recently called offensive for calling off a partially planned meet with a couple that wouldn't share their face pics first.
I honestly felt as if they saw me as just a commodity and that I should be grateful for whatever crumbs of enjoyment I could get from their pleasure. Of course, I could be completely wrong and just been having a bad day or two!
The vagaries of the swinging world!
Gbat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some heartening responses on here about single guys.
I was recently called offensive for calling off a partially planned meet with a couple that wouldn't share their face pics first.
I honestly felt as if they saw me as just a commodity and that I should be grateful for whatever crumbs of enjoyment I could get from their pleasure. Of course, I could be completely wrong and just been having a bad day or two!
The vagaries of the swinging world!
Gbat "
I think seeing each other (face pics/video chat/) is important before a meet …. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some heartening responses on here about single guys.
I was recently called offensive for calling off a partially planned meet with a couple that wouldn't share their face pics first.
I honestly felt as if they saw me as just a commodity and that I should be grateful for whatever crumbs of enjoyment I could get from their pleasure. Of course, I could be completely wrong and just been having a bad day or two!
The vagaries of the swinging world!
Gbat "
If face pics are important to you, why would you even partially plan to meet before you had seen them? |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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If face pics are important to you, why would you even partially plan to meet before you had seen them?"
First reason was because their profile sounded good and the one non face picture they showed was lovely. Which is the best order of doing it? Ask a stranger for a face pic without showing any interest first or start a conversation, show some interest and then ask for a face pic?
Second was because they are only in my area on holiday so won't be here for long. I was happy to start the process without all my ducks being in a row.
The no face pic was a final straw really. I asked several questions about the meet, some of which were not answered and some of which were vague in the answer.
How do you arrange meets with a faceless profile?
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"Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you. "
Perfect description right here, also read the profile, then read it again
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If face pics are important to you, why would you even partially plan to meet before you had seen them?
First reason was because their profile sounded good and the one non face picture they showed was lovely. Which is the best order of doing it? Ask a stranger for a face pic without showing any interest first or start a conversation, show some interest and then ask for a face pic?
Second was because they are only in my area on holiday so won't be here for long. I was happy to start the process without all my ducks being in a row.
The no face pic was a final straw really. I asked several questions about the meet, some of which were not answered and some of which were vague in the answer.
How do you arrange meets with a faceless profile?
Gbat "
Ask for face photos early on if possible. Very few are willing to do blind meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you.
Perfect description right here, also read the profile, then read it again
Jo x"
I’ll be right back I’m just going for ANOTHER read |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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Ask for face photos early on if possible. Very few are willing to do blind meets."
That's exactly what I did on day 2 of messages and was told I was being offensive. I couldn't see it myself.
I've written to you before, do you think my tone was likely to be offensive? (I can accept an honest answer to that!)
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"Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you.
Yes…. The whole mutual respect for both the female & male of the couple…big importance.
I think if you’re awkward around another guy naked then joining in with a couple is a bad direction to go ha "
Agreed but some try to go through with it because they want to have sex with the woman but are clearly uncomfortable about the presence of the man. Personally I prefer bisexual men not only because of that reason but also it can be a bit overwhelming being the centre of attention  . |
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We don’t really read verification but usually only look to see if they have met a real person to see they are who they say they are.
Any mention of Dom is a real put off, when it comes to guys it’s usually just for watching but personality is top of the list because we’d like to be put at ease and want everyone to have fun.
Umm the rest is go with the flow |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Previous experience would be helpful but not essential.
Then it would be all the usual things I look for when meeting a guy.
Finally, respect for both myself and my partner. Not someone who's going to bring their ego to the table. You're not there to compete, you're not there because my partner can't please me, it's supposed to be mutual fun. Also if you're awkward around another aroused man, don't seek group fun with other men. No you don't have to touch other men or let them touch you but if you can't even cope with seeing another hard cock or brushing against another man's leg then it's probably not for you.
Yes…. The whole mutual respect for both the female & male of the couple…big importance.
I think if you’re awkward around another guy naked then joining in with a couple is a bad direction to go ha
Agreed but some try to go through with it because they want to have sex with the woman but are clearly uncomfortable about the presence of the man. Personally I prefer bisexual men not only because of that reason but also it can be a bit overwhelming being the centre of attention . "
I’ve heard that before about it being overwhelming hmmm |
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For me it's mainly about whether we click and I fancy them. I like to be able to have a bit of a laugh with them too if it's in a club it's just down to physical attraction.
Having said that I have no interest in meeting with submissive men, just not my thing, prefer an assertive man |
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For us for the single men to understand the dynamics of a couple. To have read our profile and to treat M with respect and not a free sex worker after a few messages!!
This is the fastest way for us to block someone and move on. 
Good messages work!! we met our single male within a few hours of his first message because he came across so well. |
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"For me it's mainly about whether we click and I fancy them. I like to be able to have a bit of a laugh with them too if it's in a club it's just down to physical attraction.
Having said that I have no interest in meeting with submissive men, just not my thing, prefer an assertive man"
I’ll be sure to make a note if that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For us for the single men to understand the dynamics of a couple. To have read our profile and to treat M with respect and not a free sex worker after a few messages!!
This is the fastest way for us to block someone and move on.
Good messages work!! we met our single male within a few hours of his first message because he came across so well. "
Our single male? Does that mean you only play with 1 or is there room for more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Found myself nodding at just about every reply here, if I was a single guy looking I'd be bookmarking this thread!"
I will be sure to re read for pointers whenever I’m chatting with couples |
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Ask for face photos early on if possible. Very few are willing to do blind meets.
That's exactly what I did on day 2 of messages and was told I was being offensive. I couldn't see it myself.
I've written to you before, do you think my tone was likely to be offensive? (I can accept an honest answer to that!)
Gbat "
Sorry, just seen this.
I think they were just not willing to share photos... which is just strange.
There's nothing offensive in wanting to know what potential meets look like. |
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