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"I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
Oooo, great question. I think we all to an extent judge people and situations before we stop to examine our own faults. Personally with age I have judged less and have more of a live and let live attitude. We all at some time in our lives have done things we are not proud of and made bad decisions so we should also allow others to have them bad decisions and learn from them without going into judging mode. |
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Some things are worthy of judgement. An extra colleague of mine has been convicted of battering his wife - I judged him.
A guy that messaged me earlier had an entirely unprompted rant about stuck up cunts on here who need to remember that they’re just fat cows that no-one would look at in the pub - I judged him
One of my neighbours is atrocious at parking and basically abandons her car somewhere in the same postcode as the kerb - I judge because she giggles and finds it funny and calls herself “such a girl”
I try not to unfairly judge, or pre-judge people. |
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I judge people and I don't treat everyone the same. I also judge a book by its cover sometimes.
I try to think before I make a judgement though unless I'm being followed down a dark alley by an axe wielding murderer. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I judge all the time. Sometimes it may escape before I check myself.
I know my biases and try to listen to what they tell me about myself and the person or situation in front of me.
I have become less tolerant of some people and their views over the last two years. That doesn't stop me treating them with common courtesy, unless quite provoked, especially those 'I'm just joking, can't you take a joke?' provocations. I may stop interacting with them, for my own wellbeing. |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x"
If we didn't judge people we would all be dead more than likely
If you mean it in a sense about appearance or personality. In a shallow sense we still all do it.
Personally I know people judge me.
Sometimes if you don't understand something itll never click.
I cant stand people who can't laugh at themselves
You choose to be the way you are. Just own it.
People are far to sensitive in my opinion you will never please everyone.
Just my 2 pence worth anyway. |
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"Everyone judges on some level. The human brain is always weighing up friend, foes or threats.
Whether you are aware of your biases and whether you act on them is a whole other question."
Yes, I tend to agree. Knowing your biases is a big thing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s a difference between judgement and discernment.
You can judge situations, or you can be judgemental, again there’s a difference, and also, even if you do have the odd judgemental thought, which we all do, it’s what you do with it that counts. |
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We all judge at some point in our day. The person who just pushed in the queue, the couple having a slanging match outside your house at 2 o clock at night to that person walking too closely to you late at night.
We judge constantly, sometimes it's for self preservation others are ingrained uncon....
bias. I think being older is knowing what are reasonable judgements and which are not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am guilty of this and I do judge people. I try not to but sometimes I get carried away. I saw a man giving his toddler coca cola today and I judged him. o.O
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"If you were aware of your blind spot, would it still be a blind spot ?"
No, but we can fall back into comfortable habits. Or, we may enjoy our response and continue to claim it was uncon(scious) bias.
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"Oooo, great question. I think we all to an extent judge people and situations before we stop to examine our own faults. Personally with age I have judged less and have more of a live and let live attitude. We all at some time in our lives have done things we are not proud of and made bad decisions so we should also allow others to have them bad decisions and learn from them without going into judging mode. "
Is judging someone always bad? |
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"Some things are worthy of judgement. An extra colleague of mine has been convicted of battering his wife - I judged him.
A guy that messaged me earlier had an entirely unprompted rant about stuck up cunts on here who need to remember that they’re just fat cows that no-one would look at in the pub - I judged him
One of my neighbours is atrocious at parking and basically abandons her car somewhere in the same postcode as the kerb - I judge because she giggles and finds it funny and calls herself “such a girl”
I try not to unfairly judge, or pre-judge people. "
Ah, an interesting distinction! Judgements which you think are fair and those which you don't have enough info to make yet, then? |
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Another minefield 
It’s hard to truly know isn’t it as some things we may be unaware we do..
I do take people at face value until proven otherwise and have friends with vastly different stances on things that I deem important to me. The important part to me is transparency.
It’s more perceptions of intent that I find I’m more judgemental of. If things are done with malice then I’m way more judgmental of other things they may do which may be overlooked otherwise. Maybe that’s overthinking.. |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
If we didn't judge people we would all be dead more than likely
If you mean it in a sense about appearance or personality. In a shallow sense we still all do it.
Personally I know people judge me.
Sometimes if you don't understand something itll never click.
I cant stand people who can't laugh at themselves
You choose to be the way you are. Just own it.
People are far to sensitive in my opinion you will never please everyone.
Just my 2 pence worth anyway. "
We would all be dead if we didn't judge people? What do you mean? |
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over a year ago
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We all carry biases that we aren’t aware of OP it’s something that makes us human. The best way to beat it off to develop curiosity. It is impossible to have bias while being curious |
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By *ockboy77Man
over a year ago
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"There’s a difference between judgement and discernment.
You can judge situations, or you can be judgemental, again there’s a difference, and also, even if you do have the odd judgemental thought, which we all do, it’s what you do with it that counts. "
Exactly! We all judge things but it is what we do with judgements that counts
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"I judge people.
Please don't judge me for it.
 Do you think by judging you're doing something wrong? "
No. I think we all do it.
I think the key is to still keep and open mind as those initial judgements can be wrong, it's always good for someone to be the opposite of what you expected. They're usually pretty accurate though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I judge people.
Please don't judge me for it.
Do you think by judging you're doing something wrong?
No. I think we all do it.
I think the key is to still keep and open mind as those initial judgements can be wrong, it's always good for someone to be the opposite of what you expected. They're usually pretty accurate though. "
Yep, I think this too. I'll judge people, sometimes over tiny things... but unless it's something which is terrible then I'm happy to keep an open mind and I have no issue admitting I'm not being very understanding or particularly nice by passing judgement, especially on a stranger. You never know what someone is going through, and why they might do what they do etc.
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"i say this? If you do something in moderation you cant call other people who might do the same thing lots more times like have sex."
Sorry, I'm not quite sure what you mean. Are you saying if you have sex you shouldn't judge other people for having more sex than you? Like slut shaming? |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
"Oooo, great question. I think we all to an extent judge people and situations before we stop to examine our own faults. Personally with age I have judged less and have more of a live and let live attitude. We all at some time in our lives have done things we are not proud of and made bad decisions so we should also allow others to have them bad decisions and learn from them without going into judging mode.
Is judging someone always bad? "
Not when things are black and white and they have done something seriously bad but in everyday situations like instances of Faux pas for instance maybe we shouldn't judge, I like the thought of allowing someone to have a second chance if it's been a genuine slip up. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"We judge when we see people first
Like clothes etc
First impressions? Do they ever change or is that it for that person? "
It changes like a messy looking guy can be a millionaire and the posh toff not so well off |
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"Some things are worthy of judgement. An extra colleague of mine has been convicted of battering his wife - I judged him.
A guy that messaged me earlier had an entirely unprompted rant about stuck up cunts on here who need to remember that they’re just fat cows that no-one would look at in the pub - I judged him
One of my neighbours is atrocious at parking and basically abandons her car somewhere in the same postcode as the kerb - I judge because she giggles and finds it funny and calls herself “such a girl”
I try not to unfairly judge, or pre-judge people.
Ah, an interesting distinction! Judgements which you think are fair and those which you don't have enough info to make yet, then? "
Pretty much.
I think everyone judges people. Sometimes positively and sometimes negatively. It’s pretty much how we decide who we don’t and don’t like. |
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"Another minefield
It’s hard to truly know isn’t it as some things we may be unaware we do..
I do take people at face value until proven otherwise and have friends with vastly different stances on things that I deem important to me. The important part to me is transparency.
It’s more perceptions of intent that I find I’m more judgemental of. If things are done with malice then I’m way more judgmental of other things they may do which may be overlooked otherwise. Maybe that’s overthinking.. "
Interesting. So you judge people more on their perceived intentions — your perception - rather than actions? I think I probably do too. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded. "
Yes, but... This is like shopping for shoes. There are lots of shoes out there but you want the pair you want. The judging process is the similar. The difference is that you don't upset the shoes you leave in the shop.
It is possible to reject people without being offensive, and without sharing your detailed judgement.
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"We all carry biases that we aren’t aware of OP it’s something that makes us human. The best way to beat it off to develop curiosity. It is impossible to have bias while being curious"
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded. "
This is getting a bit meta... Are you judging people for judging? |
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over a year ago
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"We all carry biases that we aren’t aware of OP it’s something that makes us human. The best way to beat it off to develop curiosity. It is impossible to have bias while being curious
Impossible? "
Yes impossible trust me on this one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am guilty of this and I do judge people. I try not to but sometimes I get carried away. I saw a man giving his toddler coca cola today and I judged him. o.O
Why do you try not to? X"
I just don't think it's a pleasant thing to do. It's a little unkind. When I saw that toddler drinking at 9am I just thought that the dad was gross. But maybe his wife died or something and the kid hasn't stopped crying all night and just wanted a little drink, or maybe he was poor and that was a treat. I dunno.  I just don't like to do it and feel guilty sometimes because I don't know the whole situation.
But I don't have an issue with judging people who do really shitty things like smacking kids, hurting animals etc. |
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"Another minefield
It’s hard to truly know isn’t it as some things we may be unaware we do..
I do take people at face value until proven otherwise and have friends with vastly different stances on things that I deem important to me. The important part to me is transparency.
It’s more perceptions of intent that I find I’m more judgemental of. If things are done with malice then I’m way more judgmental of other things they may do which may be overlooked otherwise. Maybe that’s overthinking..
Interesting. So you judge people more on their perceived intentions — your perception - rather than actions? I think I probably do too. "
God I really struggled to articulate what I was thinking!! I think it’s more like risk assessment in my brain.. are they what they say they are? Are they disruptive to my mind?
My life and friends are massively diverse but the one thing in common with those I’m comfortable with is that they are what they say on the tin. |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
Yes, but... This is like shopping for shoes. There are lots of shoes out there but you want the pair you want. The judging process is the similar. The difference is that you don't upset the shoes you leave in the shop.
It is possible to reject people without being offensive, and without sharing your detailed judgement.
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I don’t mean just potential play partners, I mean in general. |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
This is getting a bit meta... Are you judging people for judging? "
Thank you for pointing that out, that’s an area for development for me. Yes, I probably was |
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"We all carry biases that we aren’t aware of OP it’s something that makes us human. The best way to beat it off to develop curiosity. It is impossible to have bias while being curious
Impossible?
Yes impossible trust me on this one"
I'm sorry, my judgement tells me that entirely eliminating my biases by remaining curious is not possible Being aware of them, perhaps. Eliminating? Nope. |
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over a year ago
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""You shouldn't judge other people""
Doesn't this imply if they do judge others you will judge them because they are judging others? Circular logic does my head in!  |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
This is getting a bit meta... Are you judging people for judging?
Thank you for pointing that out, that’s an area for development for me. Yes, I probably was "
I've now written judging so many times I'm doubting it's a real word |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
This is getting a bit meta... Are you judging people for judging?
Thank you for pointing that out, that’s an area for development for me. Yes, I probably was
I've now written judging so many times I'm doubting it's a real word"
Then in fact, is this post real  ? |
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"Another minefield
It’s hard to truly know isn’t it as some things we may be unaware we do..
I do take people at face value until proven otherwise and have friends with vastly different stances on things that I deem important to me. The important part to me is transparency.
It’s more perceptions of intent that I find I’m more judgemental of. If things are done with malice then I’m way more judgmental of other things they may do which may be overlooked otherwise. Maybe that’s overthinking..
Interesting. So you judge people more on their perceived intentions — your perception - rather than actions? I think I probably do too.
God I really struggled to articulate what I was thinking!! I think it’s more like risk assessment in my brain.. are they what they say they are? Are they disruptive to my mind?
My life and friends are massively diverse but the one thing in common with those I’m comfortable with is that they are what they say on the tin. "
Got ha. In fab parlance - they are genuine  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
Yes, but... This is like shopping for shoes. There are lots of shoes out there but you want the pair you want. The judging process is the similar. The difference is that you don't upset the shoes you leave in the shop.
It is possible to reject people without being offensive, and without sharing your detailed judgement.
I don’t mean just potential play partners, I mean in general. "
I responded to you saying 'on here'.
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"I am guilty of this and I do judge people. I try not to but sometimes I get carried away. I saw a man giving his toddler coca cola today and I judged him. o.O
Why do you try not to? X
I just don't think it's a pleasant thing to do. It's a little unkind. When I saw that toddler drinking at 9am I just thought that the dad was gross. But maybe his wife died or something and the kid hasn't stopped crying all night and just wanted a little drink, or maybe he was poor and that was a treat. I dunno. I just don't like to do it and feel guilty sometimes because I don't know the whole situation.
But I don't have an issue with judging people who do really shitty things like smacking kids, hurting animals etc."
Gotcha. Do you think perhaps you are judging yourself in that situation? Is that unkind? X |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
This is getting a bit meta... Are you judging people for judging?
Thank you for pointing that out, that’s an area for development for me. Yes, I probably was
I've now written judging so many times I'm doubting it's a real word
Then in fact, is this post real ?"
Dun dun duuuuuuuh |
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"I am guilty of this and I do judge people. I try not to but sometimes I get carried away. I saw a man giving his toddler coca cola today and I judged him. o.O
Why do you try not to? X
I just don't think it's a pleasant thing to do. It's a little unkind. When I saw that toddler drinking at 9am I just thought that the dad was gross. But maybe his wife died or something and the kid hasn't stopped crying all night and just wanted a little drink, or maybe he was poor and that was a treat. I dunno. I just don't like to do it and feel guilty sometimes because I don't know the whole situation.
But I don't have an issue with judging people who do really shitty things like smacking kids, hurting animals etc.
Gotcha. Do you think perhaps you are judging yourself in that situation? Is that unkind? X"
I don't know Twisty it's too late in the night for these deep conversations!!! I'm sure my brain turns off completely at this time. 
I do think we all do it to an extent! But nobody is perfect so as long as we keep an open mind it's all gravy baby.
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"I am guilty of this and I do judge people. I try not to but sometimes I get carried away. I saw a man giving his toddler coca cola today and I judged him. o.O
Why do you try not to? X
I just don't think it's a pleasant thing to do. It's a little unkind. When I saw that toddler drinking at 9am I just thought that the dad was gross. But maybe his wife died or something and the kid hasn't stopped crying all night and just wanted a little drink, or maybe he was poor and that was a treat. I dunno. I just don't like to do it and feel guilty sometimes because I don't know the whole situation.
But I don't have an issue with judging people who do really shitty things like smacking kids, hurting animals etc.
Gotcha. Do you think perhaps you are judging yourself in that situation? Is that unkind? X
I don't know Twisty it's too late in the night for these deep conversations!!! I'm sure my brain turns off completely at this time.
I do think we all do it to an extent! But nobody is perfect so as long as we keep an open mind it's all gravy baby.
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded.
Yes, but... This is like shopping for shoes. There are lots of shoes out there but you want the pair you want. The judging process is the similar. The difference is that you don't upset the shoes you leave in the shop.
It is possible to reject people without being offensive, and without sharing your detailed judgement.
I don’t mean just potential play partners, I mean in general.
I responded to you saying 'on here'.
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Sorry, I’m not explaining myself very well.
I mean on here, in general, not just potential meets. Like, with people in the forum, people you chat to etc |
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"Also, people judge A LOT on here, and really you can’t properly know someone on here, but it seems to be easy for people to judge on various things, pictures, kinks etc, which is just wrong and narrow minded. "
Why is it wrong or narrow minded? We can't get to properly know everyone we encounter, either on here or in life. Surely it's reasonable that we all make initial judgements so that we can then decide who we would like to properly know and those we don't? |
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I believe we make quick judgements all the time and this is a natural human survival instinct.
But I'd draw a distinction between closed judgements where our opinion is quickly fixed and open ones which we might change. To use Lemons cola example, she made a quick but rational judgement on a situation but kept an open mind that other interpretations were valid and possible. That seems a reasonable and fair use of judgement. |
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It's human nature to judge, we all do it at varying levels of the judgemental spectrum.
It is not being judgemental that is an issue it is how we communicate that. Do we really need to communicate that? Is it necessary? Is it kind?
As for treating people the same, you can't. Not everyone is the same...we can treat people as individual not equal because we aren't equal. |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x"
I would say that we are all prone to judgement, it's just a mental habit. However, I believe we should strive to not judge people, for the sake of our own happiness.
A part of judging people is the belief that others are judging us. As in, we judge them as having judged us and this can cause us suffering.
Becoming aware of our own tendency to judge, we can let it go and it can bring a lot of peace or mind
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By (user no longer on site)
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x"
I most certainly judge.
I judge others as I hope to be judged by them, hopefully with compassion, kindness, forbearance and a tolerance that allows me the leeway to be the individual that I am as long as it does no harm to others.
Society cannot function without judgment but it is how we judge that needs careful consideration. I am unaware of my weaknesses in how I judge perhaps due to ignorance of some issues and I am judged for that. That is when I hope the the patience of others to highlight the issues to me in a civil manner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,m judging 3 of my neighbours because they are being racist and judging my new neighbours male friend. What they are saying about him is appalling. They are judging him because of the colour of his skin.
I am right to judge them... |
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I judge the shit out of people. I do it all the time. We all do, and anyone who denies it is... lying? Not understanding the concept? Who knows.
Every time you interact with someone, you judge whether they're a threat, whether they're attractive, whether they're someone you want to interact with.
Survival mechanism. You do it automatically. Hell, we even judge people on the way they *move*, before we've ever spoken to them. |
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It's human nature that we all analyse people on a daily basis.. whether it be what they look like, the way they treat you and who they are as a person. This is judging someone's character based on what's acceptable in our own mind.
When judgement becomes wrong is when someone treats a person differently, attacks their appearance or questions their life choices. Somethings are best left not said, especially if you hurt someone in the process.
Personally, I take everyone at face value and treat them the same. We all need to stop and think of everything that can mould a person into who they are. We never truely know what's going on in a person's life so we should try not to have judgement on others. |
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I used to judge myself more than anyone else and was my harshest critic.
Then I reached a point where I realised that was holding me back in life so I stopped listening to my self judgement.
When it comes to other people I judge based on their words and actions.
Therefore if they say one thing and do the opposite I try to avoid them as they aren't trustworthy. |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x"
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x "
Why do you judge yourself?x |
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Also my judgement of myself and others isn’t much behaviour wise (unless it’s really bad then yeah I have an opinion otherwise im open minded to let people do whatever… like I hate when people judge the actions of others)
Its more the exterior and superficial. I always thought I am very visual and have a good eye of what looks good (generally speaking don’t jump at my throat - and having worked in the fashion industry for 7 years kinda open your eyes)
So it can go either way in a good judgement or bad judgement
I am guilty of the up and down look ….  |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x"
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw…. |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw…. "
Its just how my mind works really |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw….
Its just how my mind works really "
Shouldnt judge yourself dont be hard on yourself x |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw…. "
My judgement of you is that you are a sweetheart. Kind hearted and caring.
So there xx |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw….
My judgement of you is that you are a sweetheart. Kind hearted and caring.
So there xx"
Oh u ray of sunshine  xxx
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw….
My judgement of you is that you are a sweetheart. Kind hearted and caring.
So there xx"
Totally agree x |
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For this I assume that making a judgement is not necessarily voicing it - since sometimes it just isn’t our place to say.
I judge people mainly on how they treat other people and how they form the opinions and beliefs that live by (as being distinct from just “their opinions and beliefs”) - which is wide ranging and varied.
For example I might judge a person on:
- how and why they choose to wear make up.
- their decision to vac or non vax.
- their choice of clothing.
- How they speak to their children.
Etc
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I’m kinda guilty of it, like I’ve always somehow had an opinion about something or someone and am a bit judgy. I am careful who I voice it to, but I definitely have my inner voice say it even if I don’t blurt it out.
I find this to be a very double edged sword as I’m the worst critics for myself and I judge myself a lot (and its not very pretty what I say to myself) x
Why do you judge yourself?x
I don’t know why I do it, it’s just something I do generally and I’m not excluded btw….
My judgement of you is that you are a sweetheart. Kind hearted and caring.
So there xx
Oh u ray of sunshine xxx
Can I be cheeky and demand a morning hug? "
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I don't think we should treat everyone the same. We aren't the same.
Some people have to overcome significant hurdles to achieve what another person could do without effort. Should both achievements be considered and treated the same? I don't think so. We're all different.
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x"
“Don’t judge me” is a common refrain these days, an attempt to shift blame from their own actions to the imaginary crime of “judging”.
People should just own their own actions and not care what others think. |
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"For this I assume that making a judgement is not necessarily voicing it - since sometimes it just isn’t our place to say.
I judge people mainly on how they treat other people and how they form the opinions and beliefs that live by (as being distinct from just “their opinions and beliefs”) - which is wide ranging and varied.
For example I might judge a person on:
- how and why they choose to wear make up.
- their decision to vac or non vax.
- their choice of clothing.
- How they speak to their children.
Etc
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You judge people based on how and when they wear makeup? Deep! |
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"For this I assume that making a judgement is not necessarily voicing it - since sometimes it just isn’t our place to say.
I judge people mainly on how they treat other people and how they form the opinions and beliefs that live by (as being distinct from just “their opinions and beliefs”) - which is wide ranging and varied.
For example I might judge a person on:
- how and why they choose to wear make up.
- their decision to vac or non vax.
- their choice of clothing.
- How they speak to their children.
Etc
You judge people based on how and when they wear makeup? Deep! "
I was giving an example of the range of ways I (and we) judge.
For the purposes of conversation.
You might not consider it important - it’s important to me because I have a daughter and I don’t want her growing up believing she needs to wear make up to hide any imperfections because she might worry that she’ll be told she’s ugly and should “cover it up”. So if people condone wearing makeup for that reason and believe it’s ok to make others believe that view, then yeah, I will judge them.
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Well the note said Mrs. Johnson you're wearing your dresses way to high !
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoMPrjmjeUY
I wanna tell you all a story 'bout
A Harper Valley widowed wife
Who had a teenage daughter
Who attended Harper Valley Junior High
Well, her daughter came home one afternoon
And didn't even stop to play
And she said, "mom, I got a note here from the Harper Valley PTA"
Well, the note said, "Mrs. Johnson
You're wearin' your dresses way too high
It's reported you've been drinking
And a-running 'round with men and goin' wild
And we don't believe you oughta be a-bringin' up
Your little girl this way"
And it was signed by the Secretary
Harper Valley PTA
Well, it happened that the PTA was gonna meet
That very afternoon
And they were sure surprised
When Mrs. Johnson wore her miniskirt into the room
And as she walked up to the blackboard
I can still recall the words she had to say
She said, "I'd like to address this meeting of the Harper Valley PTA
Well, there's Bobby Taylor sittin' there
And seven times he's asked me for a date
And Mrs. Taylor sure seems to use a lotta ice
Whenever he's away
And Mr. Baker can you tell us why
Your secretary had to leave this town?
And shouldn't widow Jones be told to keep
Her window shades all pulled completely down
Well, Mr. Harper couldn't be here
'Cause he stayed too long at Kelly's Bar again
And if you smell Shirley Thompson's breath
You'll find she's had a little nip of gin
And then you have the nerve to tell me
You think that as the mother I'm not fit
Well, this is just a little Peyton Place
And you're all Harper Valley hypocrites"
No, I wouldn't put you on because it really did
It happened just this way
The day my mama socked it to the Harper Valley PTA
The day my mama socked it to the Harper Valley PTA |
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""I don't judge anyone"
"I treat everybody the same"
"You shouldn't judge other people"
Do you identify with these statements? Have you uttered them yourself? Do you believe they are true?
Are we capable of not judging others? Or do we all do it? Is admitting to it a terrible thing? Or should we strive never to judge?
Are you aware of your own biases and blind spots? If so, how does this affect your judgement of others?
Muse away!
Mrs TMN x
I most certainly judge.
I judge others as I hope to be judged by them, hopefully with compassion, kindness, forbearance and a tolerance that allows me the leeway to be the individual that I am as long as it does no harm to others.
Society cannot function without judgment but it is how we judge that needs careful consideration. I am unaware of my weaknesses in how I judge perhaps due to ignorance of some issues and I am judged for that. That is when I hope the the patience of others to highlight the issues to me in a civil manner."
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"I judge people who do things I consider a danger to others, I think most people do or at least should to an extent. I would judge people who never judge people ever."
You judge people who don't judge others? Do you think they really don't, or they just choose not to express it? |
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"Well the note said Mrs. Johnson you're wearing your dresses way to high !
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoMPrjmjeUY
I wanna tell you all a story 'bout
A Harper Valley widowed wife
Who had a teenage daughter
Who attended Harper Valley Junior High
Well, her daughter came home one afternoon
And didn't even stop to play
And she said, "mom, I got a note here from the Harper Valley PTA"
Well, the note said, "Mrs. Johnson
You're wearin' your dresses way too high
It's reported you've been drinking
And a-running 'round with men and goin' wild
And we don't believe you oughta be a-bringin' up
Your little girl this way"
And it was signed by the Secretary
Harper Valley PTA
Well, it happened that the PTA was gonna meet
That very afternoon
And they were sure surprised
When Mrs. Johnson wore her miniskirt into the room
And as she walked up to the blackboard
I can still recall the words she had to say
She said, "I'd like to address this meeting of the Harper Valley PTA
Well, there's Bobby Taylor sittin' there
And seven times he's asked me for a date
And Mrs. Taylor sure seems to use a lotta ice
Whenever he's away
And Mr. Baker can you tell us why
Your secretary had to leave this town?
And shouldn't widow Jones be told to keep
Her window shades all pulled completely down
Well, Mr. Harper couldn't be here
'Cause he stayed too long at Kelly's Bar again
And if you smell Shirley Thompson's breath
You'll find she's had a little nip of gin
And then you have the nerve to tell me
You think that as the mother I'm not fit
Well, this is just a little Peyton Place
And you're all Harper Valley hypocrites"
No, I wouldn't put you on because it really did
It happened just this way
The day my mama socked it to the Harper Valley PTA
The day my mama socked it to the Harper Valley PTA"
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