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over a year ago
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Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.
Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a sexless relationship for 7 yrs with a man that was ill. For me the sex part I managed to live without but being close to someone no kissing touching made it very hard . I didn't realise how much I need that in my life. |
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"Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.
Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way. "
Very true, I agree on the intimacy side x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t think sex is the be all and end all. Intimacy and affection is way more important to me - cuddles, kisses, holding hands, touch, even the way someone talks to me, patience when I act in a way that could be frustrating to others, making yourself vulnerable to show and share your feelings - without these things sex is just a physical thing and doesn’t feel anywhere near as satisfying. Just my thoughts though |
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From experience. I went without sex for over 3 yrs and the relationship just become a work .sleep relationship. So yes i belive it is because it brings you together. And if your open it can bring that spark back. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not to me. I enjoy it but equally wouldn’t really care if I never had it again. I go through phases. I went to a club recently, I had sex. It was good but it was more about the experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wait till people hear about masturbation, you can literally have sex without ever having to get ready and leave your house, saves so much time, plus your hand will never ghost or block you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so...
But there are a few on here who don't meet...."
Yes there are. I've joined a knitting club but I've no interest in knitting, I just like wool. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's not *that* important... but it's ultimately why people swing... and this is a fabswingers... so...
But there are a few on here who don't meet....
Yes there are. I've joined a knitting club but I've no interest in knitting, I just like wool."
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"Why would you join a sex site or be a swinger if sex wasn't important to you. Of course its important "
I'm on here and right now I couldn't give 2 shits if I never have sex again.
I'm perfectly satisfied having a wank when I get the urge. This time last year I wasn't even getting the urge to wank.
Assuming sex is important to everyone BECAUSE they're on this site may be detrimental to you, as your perception is way off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the gender off the person for me
For men yes totally as that’s what I am after with them
For woman no it’s not important at all I would be just as happy cuddled on the couch with a good movie and good talk or out doing something like walk along the beach or something maybe I am in the wrong place for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would you join a sex site or be a swinger if sex wasn't important to you. Of course its important "
Well I'm here because I enjoy reading through the forums, it's like a citizens advice bureau at times lol. I didn't come for the sex because I think it's going to be almost impossible for me to meet anyone who I can click with without going to clubs and that's not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are many great moments where sex is concerned but include the intimacy aspect. Lying there talking, spooning in the morning, the light touches. If you gave me a choice I would choose to be close to someone over one night and never seeing them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sex and Intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.
Sex is definitely not as important to me, as intimacy. I could have everything but sex, and still be fulfilled in the same way. "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a fairly sexless relationship.. it still had intimacy but I realised it was not enough.
My preference is for sex and intimacy but I’m happy with just sex and lust as well (but there still needs to be a connection) |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Intimacy with one person, with whom I might share more than my body... including parts of my soul.
Sex... could be somebody I am attracted to, that I like, that I trust to SOME extent but not necessarily access to my inner world if that makes any sense.
If it does make sense, you deserve a bit more access |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I know you can have sex and not be a swinger, but are you really a swinger if you don't have sex?"
That is an interesting question: I have had people tell me their partner had an affair but only by text/ sexting. They say it is as bad as if they had had full sex with the other, the third party. I understand that.
So if that is considered sex in the broader sense, I guess you could just be a swinger who does not consume physical sex?
I wonder what other people think - am I mad for saying that? |
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