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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"The issue I have with this book is that it doesn’t really recognise desire. The need to feel desired doesn’t fit in very well and it’s wrong to lump it in with Touch."
How do you know you are desired? Is it through words, touch of time? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"The issue I have with this book is that it doesn’t really recognise desire. The need to feel desired doesn’t fit in very well and it’s wrong to lump it in with Touch."
It’s about understanding how your partners and yourself feel loved and that how you feel it often isn’t the same as your partner. It’s primarily for couples struggling and a way to fix the communication problem |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just had a quick search for this book.
There seems to be several versions/editions.
Which one am I looking for?
Wouldn't mind a be read of it too"
I would go with this one
https://www.amazon.co.uk/5-Love-Languages-Gary-Chapman/dp/080241270X/ref=asc_df_080241270X_nodl/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310973726618&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1681300029789493090&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007426&hvtargid=pla-404289621350&psc=1&th=1&psc=1
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had a quick search for this book.
There seems to be several versions/editions.
Which one am I looking for?
Wouldn't mind a be read of it too
I would go with this one
https://www.amazon.co.uk/5-Love-Languages-Gary-Chapman/dp/080241270X/ref=asc_df_080241270X_nodl/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310973726618&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1681300029789493090&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007426&hvtargid=pla-404289621350&psc=1&th=1&psc=1
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Not sure if you’re allowed to post that link in here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The issue I have with this book is that it doesn’t really recognise desire. The need to feel desired doesn’t fit in very well and it’s wrong to lump it in with Touch.
How do you know you are desired? Is it through words, touch of time? "
I agree feeling desired or loved. What would make you feel desired? You could want to be told so words of affirmation etc it’s how you feel wanted and loved |
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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago
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"The issue I have with this book is that it doesn’t really recognise desire. The need to feel desired doesn’t fit in very well and it’s wrong to lump it in with Touch.
It’s about understanding how your partners and yourself feel loved and that how you feel it often isn’t the same as your partner. It’s primarily for couples struggling and a way to fix the communication problem "
I get this. Desire is different. Words used (affirmation) mean nothing if not also communicated through touch, through the little things that you do for each other (service), etc.
Personally, I can if someone is sexually interested by the spark in their eyes, their body language, the way they are talking, the little touches ... Innother words, it’s a combination of lots of things.
Now, that doesn’t negate the value of understanding someone’s love language. For instance, I very clearly show love through acts of service followed by physical touch. My other half needs words of affirmation and quality time. We both give what the other needs to feel loved. But neither help with feeling desired. My opinion only! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just had a quick search for this book.
There seems to be several versions/editions.
Which one am I looking for?
Wouldn't mind a be read of it too
I would go with this one
https://www.amazon.co.uk/5-Love-Languages-Gary-Chapman/dp/080241270X/ref=asc_df_080241270X_nodl/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310973726618&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1681300029789493090&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007426&hvtargid=pla-404289621350&psc=1&th=1&psc=1
Not sure if you’re allowed to post that link in here? "
Oh I wasn’t aware of that thanks for the heads up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had a quick search for this book.
There seems to be several versions/editions.
Which one am I looking for?
Wouldn't mind a be read of it too
I would go with this one
https://www.amazon.co.uk/5-Love-Languages-Gary-Chapman/dp/080241270X/ref=asc_df_080241270X_nodl/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310973726618&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1681300029789493090&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007426&hvtargid=pla-404289621350&psc=1&th=1&psc=1
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Managed to get hold of a copy and will set about reading.
Ooh enjoy!! I found it all very interesting. Let us know your thoughts "
I intend to do, though have to warn you ......
I have a short attention span, so may take some time.
I may randomly pop up in your inbox thanking you for the suggestion, in several months  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Managed to get hold of a copy and will set about reading.
Ooh enjoy!! I found it all very interesting. Let us know your thoughts
I intend to do, though have to warn you ......
I have a short attention span, so may take some time.
I may randomly pop up in your inbox thanking you for the suggestion, in several months "
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