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I'm not old... almost 40
But I'm at that point where porn has just got boring and its the risk scenario in my head.
Not menacing just a bit risky and 100% the girl I'm with.
Desensitised basically |
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Obviously it's not the same for everyone and plenty of people are less interested in sex as they get older. Some people never were that interested.
I find it changes. I'm more interested now in the whole experience, I prefer intensity, depth and eroticism to sex for its own sake. |
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"Obviously it's not the same for everyone and plenty of people are less interested in sex as they get older. Some people never were that interested.
I find it changes. I'm more interested now in the whole experience, I prefer intensity, depth and eroticism to sex for its own sake."
I totally get this.
Just the intimacy alone is lovely.
Warm ego knowing you still do it for the one you love.
Will never get old. |
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"Obviously it's not the same for everyone and plenty of people are less interested in sex as they get older. Some people never were that interested.
I find it changes. I'm more interested now in the whole experience, I prefer intensity, depth and eroticism to sex for its own sake.
I totally get this.
Just the intimacy alone is lovely.
Warm ego knowing you still do it for the one you love.
Will never get old. "
True. It is possible to enjoy this with other people too, if they're willing to take the time  |
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"Mine has diminished massively "
Strange isn't it? I used to see a lady who has switched from not really being sexual to can't get enough and shes 44.
I do think its about how well you get it early on.
When you have an amazing sex life younger you knkw what you're looking for.
If its been rubbish up until late you go the other way. |
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"No, I’m rampant now  "
You big tease 
I've always had to cum twice a night thats been the same since I was 16.
So nothing really changed apart from the mental side.
I just can't finish if I'm not with the right person sexually.
My brain won't allow it. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I am not as desperate for sex as I was in my 20’s. I am happier to take more time, get to know someone a bit better and enjoy mind-blowing sessions rather than so many quickies.
Not that there’s anything wrong with the odd quickie  |
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"Obviously it's not the same for everyone and plenty of people are less interested in sex as they get older. Some people never were that interested.
I find it changes. I'm more interested now in the whole experience, I prefer intensity, depth and eroticism to sex for its own sake.
I totally get this.
Just the intimacy alone is lovely.
Warm ego knowing you still do it for the one you love.
Will never get old.
True. It is possible to enjoy this with other people too, if they're willing to take the time "
I dont think I'll ever be back into a relationship.
I value my own time far to much now.
Was nice when i had it.
Sexual appetite is to just explore now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 51 and can still shag like a 21 year old but with more experience. My libido hasn't changed at all as I've got older . I have more sex now as I've ever had and it's got better . I guess plenty of practice. Lol |
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"I am not as desperate for sex as I was in my 20’s. I am happier to take more time, get to know someone a bit better and enjoy mind-blowing sessions rather than so many quickies.
Not that there’s anything wrong with the odd quickie "
Amen to that  |
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The sex is definitely getting better and better and more of it.
The older we are getting the more we are becoming open minded. That’s down to a couple of things - we realise now is maybe our last chance to have these experiences and also doing this together has broadened our opportunities and we are making the most of it.
We are having the time of our lives and it’s making us closer too so it’s win win and long may it continue…
K |
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
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For me I think it depends a lot on who you are with and the habits. I don't think being an individual who is sexually motivated ever changes (well not so far) it's just what you can or can't do about it that changes and clearly biology / physiology has an effect too. |
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"Takes all night to do what I did a night , but everything still working , brain thinks I'm 18 Till lol "
I think that is the key really: my mind certainly responds to the self-same stimuli it always did ( and a few new ones accumulated with experience) but the body takes longer to catch up, so to speak. It is definitely true, at least in my case, that the sex-drive is as powerful as it always was, if not greater, but the opportunities are definitely reduced....but "nul desperadum"lol |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
I was rampant in my twenty’s dulled for a while, I think to bringing up children and then reawakening at 40 now at 50 I know what I want and won’t settle for anything else, I would say better than ever |
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It does diminish slowly as time goes by but when the stimulus is there it all comes back.
I remember as a young man I could get hardons just looking at a girl in public place.  Now my cock seems to know. "If it ain't gonna happen then don't bother gettin hard." But age brings control, patience, experience and comfort in any situation which helps a great deal. |
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"I was rampant in my twenty’s dulled for a while, I think to bringing up children and then reawakening at 40 now at 50 I know what I want and won’t settle for anything else, I would say better than ever "
Thats amazing.
In my 20s it was driven by ego and the chase and I just had to have it.
For me now its quality over quantity. 100% |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I'm not old... almost 40
But I'm at that point where porn has just got boring and its the risk scenario in my head.
Not menacing just a bit risky and 100% the girl I'm with.
Desensitised basically "
I got much kinkier and higher sex drive than ever in my 40s but have never used porn for ideas or stimulation. I think being able to travel and meet more and kids grown up really helped |
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"It does diminish slowly as time goes by but when the stimulus is there it all comes back.
I remember as a young man I could get hardons just looking at a girl in public place. Now my cock seems to know. "If it ain't gonna happen then don't bother gettin hard." But age brings control, patience, experience and comfort in any situation which helps a great deal. "
Your last sentence sums it up nicely. I think I'd choose an older lover over younger every time for those reasons |
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"What do you class as old OP?
Age is but a number Sparkle
True but I wanted to know if I'm in the old bracket lol x"
As we're the same age.... let's go with old enough to know better but young enough not to care |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
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As an older male and from my perspective it doesn't get lost it just changes. I am in a fortunate/unfortunate depending on your view point to have been involved with the scene at many different levels for many years. You do get to the point that you have pretty much seen it all and done it all.
I have seen many things, some disturbing, Probably seen more naked people and sex than most will see in a lifetime (Not a shameless brag just simple truth - people will take it how they want).
See things differently and don't get turn on by the same things. I have a gorgeous partner who I met through the scene and to put it bluntly sex is as good as it ever was.
So to answer your OP
Certainly different from when I was 24 the first brought into the scene. hasn't diminished just changed or you could say evolved
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"What do you class as old OP?
Age is but a number Sparkle
True but I wanted to know if I'm in the old bracket lol x
As we're the same age.... let's go with old enough to know better but young enough not to care "
True. Mine hasn't diminished, just got more intense x |
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"What do you class as old OP?
Age is but a number Sparkle
True but I wanted to know if I'm in the old bracket lol x
As we're the same age.... let's go with old enough to know better but young enough not to care
True. Mine hasn't diminished, just got more intense x"
100% agree with you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was married and wasn't that bothered about sex at 25.... Now on the other hand I am fucking rampant! So definitely an increasing sex drive the older I get |
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"I’m 45, going through the menopause and my sex drive is higher than ever!!!
I love the meets I have, but the love making with hubby is definitely more sensual and intense than it was
Xx"
I find that there is sex, good sex, great sex and on its own at the top ... making love. Mind, body and heart all blended into the perfect experience. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Still the same as it ever has as but now I have the confidence in myself and knowing what I want and to be able to talk and act on my kinks and enjoy them with someone which is something I wouldn't do when I was younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sexual appetite has increased the older I am getting.
This is probably due to a number of contributory factors. My unhappy marriage has ended, my children are older, my job gives me greater challenges and satisfaction, my relationship gives me total happiness, I no longer have some of the health issues I used to encounter, I am physically fitter than I have ever been etc
Add to the above that I have grown as a person, I know what I enjoy sexually and have experimented and set appropriate boundaries.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose with age the often used phrase on fab of quality over quantity, really does come into play.
The days of the fumble in a car or a flying splash and dash visit don’t have the same appeal as they once did. When young and the requisite hormones are in abundant supply the duration and frequency of love making is heightened. That said I have 40 year old work colleagues that, for varying reasons, have a subdued libido.
For my part I have never had to resort to the blue friend and never failed to rise to the occasion but as stated earlier the act of sexual liaisons is now one of the build up the interaction and the giving and receiving of intimate pleasures.
I was listening to a couple of chaps in their mid 80s talking about their sex lives. One asked the question as to when the other had last had sex. The respondent pondered for what seemed like age and said Saturday night. The chap asking the question was suitably impressed until the respondent went on to say .................June 26th 1976! |
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"My sexual appetite has increased the older I am getting.
This is probably due to a number of contributory factors. My unhappy marriage has ended, my children are older, my job gives me greater challenges and satisfaction, my relationship gives me total happiness, I no longer have some of the health issues I used to encounter, I am physically fitter than I have ever been etc
Add to the above that I have grown as a person, I know what I enjoy sexually and have experimented and set appropriate boundaries.
NBVN x"
Add to that you're a raging alcoholic and that probably helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My sexual appetite has increased the older I am getting.
This is probably due to a number of contributory factors. My unhappy marriage has ended, my children are older, my job gives me greater challenges and satisfaction, my relationship gives me total happiness, I no longer have some of the health issues I used to encounter, I am physically fitter than I have ever been etc
Add to the above that I have grown as a person, I know what I enjoy sexually and have experimented and set appropriate boundaries.
NBVN x"
Diana Dors once said after a hard day at work and dealing with the bank on an overdraft matter getting the kids from school helping with the homework cooking tea and then cleaning the house a cheese and pickle sandwich was the sexiest thing on the planet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I don't answer then I'm not admitting I'm "older folk"! Lol
But if I were to answer, I'd say not much difference in the drive but the performance is greatly improved, as is the handling. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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From the posts so far there is a definite pattern, when you come into the scene (no pun intended) will determine your appetite and how late/what age you are.
Many are on the upward curve and so much to try/enjoy but it will change over time. Many will get into relationships - hopefully longterm, needs and wants will change - evolve. |
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By *ambanCouple
over a year ago
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Its different for women, childbirth and the menapause cause alot of problems.
Having a RTA some years ago plus the menapause has altered my libido drastically and some women take it as the end of their sexual adventure. It caused problems to begin with but i have done everything i possibly can to keep the fire burning by seeing Dr's who have prescribed HRT and certain other things and it is working, im not the rampant woman i was in my 30s but im not dead yet and i dont intend to be for a very long time. Plus i want my husband to be happy too, isnt that what being in love with someone is, keeping the fires burning for one another? Xx |
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Just the same as it has always been which is probably very dull and boring in comparison to most.
I didn't have sex until I was 25 and in the 31 years since i can only remember one occasion where i had sex on 2 consecutive days.
I'm just more confident in myself now but that doesn't affect my sex drive at all. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My desire for sex hasn’t diminished. My problem is it takes a pretty epic fella to get that fire started these days. Before a fella could just raise an eyebrow suggestively and I’d get wet.
These days it’s like a fella trying to start a fire with two bits of damp twig. Hard work! And I don’t even know why.
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"My desire for sex hasn’t diminished. My problem is it takes a pretty epic fella to get that fire started these days. Before a fella could just raise an eyebrow suggestively and I’d get wet.
These days it’s like a fella trying to start a fire with two bits of damp twig. Hard work! And I don’t even know why.
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Definitely agree with that first part. I just don’t seem to fancy anyone enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My sexual appetite has increased the older I am getting.
This is probably due to a number of contributory factors. My unhappy marriage has ended, my children are older, my job gives me greater challenges and satisfaction, my relationship gives me total happiness, I no longer have some of the health issues I used to encounter, I am physically fitter than I have ever been etc
Add to the above that I have grown as a person, I know what I enjoy sexually and have experimented and set appropriate boundaries.
NBVN x
Diana Dors once said after a hard day at work and dealing with the bank on an overdraft matter getting the kids from school helping with the homework cooking tea and then cleaning the house a cheese and pickle sandwich was the sexiest thing on the planet."
And sometimes it is just that. We all have days where our libido peaks and drops due to circumstances around us.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My sexual appetite has increased the older I am getting.
This is probably due to a number of contributory factors. My unhappy marriage has ended, my children are older, my job gives me greater challenges and satisfaction, my relationship gives me total happiness, I no longer have some of the health issues I used to encounter, I am physically fitter than I have ever been etc
Add to the above that I have grown as a person, I know what I enjoy sexually and have experimented and set appropriate boundaries.
NBVN x
Add to that you're a raging alcoholic and that probably helps "
Haha cheeky 
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't have much of a libido at 25 due to life circumstances but it's dipped in and out over the years depending on what's going on.
I'm certainly not the raging horn monster I was in my teens but that just means I may need to sleep at some point in 24hrs. I also take more time to get to know someone now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm having less sex than ever, but i think that is more down to opportunity rather than desire
I like it on Mondays and Tuesdays , Wednesdays... Thursdays.. I like it on Fridays.. Oh and Saturdays and Sundays |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I'm having less sex than ever, but i think that is more down to opportunity rather than desire
I like it on Mondays and Tuesdays , Wednesdays... Thursdays.. I like it on Fridays.. Oh and Saturdays and Sundays "
Can you book me in for Thursday. Thanks. |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
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"I'm having less sex than ever, but i think that is more down to opportunity rather than desire
I like it on Mondays and Tuesdays , Wednesdays... Thursdays.. I like it on Fridays.. Oh and Saturdays and Sundays "
I used to like those days too  |
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"I'm having less sex than ever, but i think that is more down to opportunity rather than desire
I like it on Mondays and Tuesdays , Wednesdays... Thursdays.. I like it on Fridays.. Oh and Saturdays and Sundays "
On Monday I touched her on the ankle... |
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
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I suspect people will say desire usual rises.... ability does not |
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
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Desire to have sex with younger ones, increases |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
Desire to have sex with younger ones, increases "
Don't believe that is about ability more - to do with people trying to turn back time because they need to feel young again.
How many threads, posts are from younger guys claiming the have stamina etc so they can give women what older guys can't - guess some women need to believe
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More so now I'm 40. mind you I think I've done everything backwards. I'm in better shape than I've ever been and way more up for all the things life can offer |
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"I'm having less sex than ever, but i think that is more down to opportunity rather than desire
I like it on Mondays and Tuesdays , Wednesdays... Thursdays.. I like it on Fridays.. Oh and Saturdays and Sundays "
Well hello there |
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"Serious question.
Older you get does your desire for sex diminish or get stronger?
Obviously its going to be different for everyone but are you still the tiger you was when you were 25?
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Mine got much stronger. |
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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Far greater now for me (Mrs). Had very little sex drive in my 20’s and 30’s, probably due in part to the relationships I was in. Hit 40, got divorced, met Mr our Flr and now hornier than ever plus exploring stuff never thought I would due to increased confidence and I think being with the right person. |
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When I younger sex was like on tap. Whenever I wanted (all the time) didn’t have an issue. Although mainly nowadays I prefer the love making not just a good old shag. But that takes mental energy so not as much as before |
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"What do you class as old OP?"
It is when you do a reverse Google image search on a photo of yourself and it returns 'Old Man' and a whole pile of images of baldies who look just like you.
But apart from that...I find as I get older I am exploring more kinks than before, which is fun, and taking some'herbal supplements' seems to make me bigger and spunkier. Whether the latter is psychological or physiological, who cares? |
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I got a ban yesterday and couldn't reply.
I said "older" just means the inevitable really.
Most of you "older" folk are 10 times hotter than all the young ones anyway.
Couldn't agree more that it realy takes so much more as I'm a bit desensitised.
But with the right women you jist cant get enough.
Looks like I've got more to look forward to then |
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