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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
That’s why now we borrow a husband with partner’s permission, this works for us |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X
That’s why now we borrow a husband with partner’s permission, this works for us "
Good idea!! X |
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"This site is full of time wasters that then gives genuine guys such a bad name. But then occasionally a great meet restores your faith in fab x"
Agreed!! Just wanted to point out not just single guys who get messed about but also genuine couples too!! X |
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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago
Nottingham |
TBH, it’s not just the men who do this. I’ve been let down by single ladies and couples, usually followed by ghosting or blocking.
That said, this has been rare and I will agree that there are plenty of knobhead fellas on here. |
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I know there are many of every sort who mess people about, I just don't understand it!?? Why message and arrange a meet and keep messaging up to the minute then don't answer your message!! So frustrating! X |
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By *ingdangTV/TS
over a year ago
Manchester |
It happened to me a lot too. Total unnecessary, but I guess they do it because they can. I decided to meet nobody, I gave up. Just use this account to meet people I already know.
I reported the time waster but guess nothing will happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is full of time wasters that then gives genuine guys such a bad name. But then occasionally a great meet restores your faith in fab x"
no bad guys ruin it for themselves nobody else ... stop using them as a excuse for getting nowhere we are allresponible for ourselves no one else |
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"the longer your on fab the easier it will become at spotting them we find the fix is blocking as they dont get another chance at messing...."
Weve been on for 3 years now! Hence why we much prefer the club setting x |
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"We find if we invite someone to ours and they don’t turn up we see it as their loss and we still have an enjoyable evening
happy days"
Definitely doesn't bother us too much but when we've drove 20 mins for a meet then no show! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Far too many time wasters on this quite. I’ve come across quite a few fake accounts also. Oh and I got for a meet and the photos don’t match real life!
Spoils it for everyone. |
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Happened to us, so sooo many times, its frustrating, especially when (like most) spare time is precious and is wasted. Fakers need to bug off and anyone who changes their minds, needs to let the counters parts know so we can get on with our day/business.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been quite lucky really.
A couple of times we have been let down at the last hour, but they've let us know.
One admitted he simply didn't have the nerve, another said something had come up.
We did manage to meet another on one of the occasions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
Sadly goes both ways, supposed to have had a meet with a couple yesterday, got rearranged to this morning, shuffled things around and cleared what I did have planned to do. Supposed to have been sent the address this morning. No contact to say " we can't or won't meet now " wasted morning.  |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X
Sadly goes both ways, supposed to have had a meet with a couple yesterday, got rearranged to this morning, shuffled things around and cleared what I did have planned to do. Supposed to have been sent the address this morning. No contact to say " we can't or won't meet now " wasted morning. "
For this reason I dont rearrange if first meet dont happen there wont b one! It may b a genuine reason but that's what I do nowadaysx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a definite time waster. I've just started a thread about parking cars ffs, how much of everyone's time is THAT going to waste?  "
I started a thread on potatoes Kitty . Time waster central here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a definite time waster. I've just started a thread about parking cars ffs, how much of everyone's time is THAT going to waste?
I started a thread on potatoes Kitty . Time waster central here "
Oh I didn't see that one. Sounds right up my street  |
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It's not only the guys on here that's the problem, there's a lot of ladies on here to that waste your time, I've been let down by a few, I know you ladies have a big choice of guys on here but don't mess us genuine ones about |
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"It's not only the guys on here that's the problem, there's a lot of ladies on here to that waste your time, I've been let down by a few, I know you ladies have a big choice of guys on here but don't mess us genuine ones about"
Yes I'm sure works both ways! I've had 2 cancel today! I wasent meeting 2 lol! The first cancelled yesterday and the second I arranged last night has cancelled or tried to move meet till this eve which I cant do it's all part of fabs! Used to b very disappointed but take it in stride now but when do get the meets must say it's worth it not met a disappointment as yet x |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
If it makes you feel any better, I once drove an hour to an arranged (for 2 weeks) meeting at a couples house for them to ignore me knocking on the door (presuming it was their house, then say the meet was cancelled.    |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X
If it makes you feel any better, I once drove an hour to an arranged (for 2 weeks) meeting at a couples house for them to ignore me knocking on the door (presuming it was their house, then say the meet was cancelled. "
How rude! X |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
I don’t get any further than sending a message |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X
If it makes you feel any better, I once drove an hour to an arranged (for 2 weeks) meeting at a couples house for them to ignore me knocking on the door (presuming it was their house, then say the meet was cancelled.
How rude! X"
Awh at the time I was fuming was 3 hours of an evening wasted |
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"We find if we invite someone to ours and they don’t turn up we see it as their loss and we still have an enjoyable evening
happy days
Definitely doesn't bother us too much but when we've drove 20 mins for a meet then no show! X"
I would come to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once drove from Birmingham to Leicester to meet a couple and the female half was nowhere to be seen also drove to Beaconsfield for another couple I was told to meet them at the services and follow them to theirs got there they had blocked me on here and blocked my number |
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We once drove to Leeds to meet a lady who we’d been chatting to for some time, we face timed several times too so we’re convinced she wasn’t a time waster. Even chatted before we left home and all was good! No show and although disappointing, we had a great night out in Leeds instead! Also another more recent no show in Shrewsbury by a lady! It’s not just the men who no show with no contact! Miss pc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We once drove to Leeds to meet a lady who we’d been chatting to for some time, we face timed several times too so we’re convinced she wasn’t a time waster. Even chatted before we left home and all was good! No show and although disappointing, we had a great night out in Leeds instead! Also another more recent no show in Shrewsbury by a lady! It’s not just the men who no show with no contact! Miss pc "
Truly awful that it just shows it can happen even when you think it’s all good after building a rapport. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
I got stood up/ghosted 9 times in a week a while back. I'm so thankful the clubs have reopened. Pretty much everyone I was talking to about meeting over the summer has vanished without a trace. Luckily I found a job at a late night bar that has come in handy for making fwbs. I really do not understand the mentally of people who want to string others along. My background is in BDSM so I'm used to the "cold feet crew". I didn't think it would happen when I'm offering stress free no strings sex lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our first meet is always strictly social and we always make them come to us!
If we click and it is agreed that the relationship can progress to the next level, we always insist that we meet at their place before introducing them to ours.
This seems to out 99% of the timewasters!
We currently have someone who says that he wanted to meet, now not responding to messages and has created another profile and sent us a message asking to meet.
How sad some people are! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I agree to meet I always show up unless something major occurs. The only time I missed is when my mum had died the previous day. I informed them before that I wasn’t attending and the reason why. They obviously understood and will meet hopefully when it can be rearranged. |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
Nope join the queue! Ours haven’t just been single guys, it’s couples too. We’ve booked and paid for 5 hotels too and been let down for all of them!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X
Nope join the queue! Ours haven’t just been single guys, it’s couples too. We’ve booked and paid for 5 hotels too and been let down for all of them!
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Maybe next time choose a book now, pay on check-in option |
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For the record, in ten years I have never had a cancellation or a no-show. Nor have I cancelled or not shown.
I think it’s a judgement call when picking play partners on fab but I am afraid I don’t know how to articulate how I make choices, nor do I feel it appropriate to advise on how to make those choices, for me it’s just a “knowing” of what will be and what will not. |
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By *jkuk72Man
over a year ago
London & Herts |
A couple of times I got chatting to the man of a couple's profile. They started sharing intimate likes, including photos et . Everything seemed to indicate that a meet could be arranged and then, out of nowhere, they disappear. Most likely just husbands fantasising but with no intention of making it real. Very annoying. I have now learned how to spot these |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
Single guys are the worst as usually married, but a lot of tgirls let us down at last minute too. |
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"For the record, in ten years I have never had a cancellation or a no-show. Nor have I cancelled or not shown.
I think it’s a judgement call when picking play partners on fab but I am afraid I don’t know how to articulate how I make choices, nor do I feel it appropriate to advise on how to make those choices, for me it’s just a “knowing” of what will be and what will not. "
Think this is true! But I choose to ignore it sometimes when deep down know things dont feel right x |
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One person's time waster is another person's person who's just changed their mind or who you've put off in some way. We waste our own time but I guess blaming it on others might make us feel better like so many other things about ourselves we don't like to accept  |
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Got messaged by 2 mm profile asking to meet us.
Gave us a whole load of days next month within exchanging 2 messages, told him we will need to check as we both work shifts and have kids then get a message saying we were timewasters and got blocked.
If you are reading this message you are both knobs and this site can do without pushy ppl like you. Glad we didnt meet you.
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This is one of the reasons we prefer group meets. I put a good deal of effort into arranging locations and guys etc and my wife puts massive effort into preparing for the meet ensuring she will wow those who attend. We also have only very occasional opportunities for free time so inviting several guys has always resulted in more than one turning up. There are loads of genuine guys here. Unfortunately things happen and plans can change often with little notice. We just have to accept it. But invite 8, if 4 turn up its still a great night! Everyone is happy. |
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By *sandssCouple
over a year ago
Reading |
This has happened to us so many times it's getting annoying. Once we'd booked a hotel room for a couple who had pleaded to meet for weeks, then went radio silent on the day of the meet. Then a year later, they resurface on a new profile telling us how hot we are and how they'd love to meet "new people", clearly not remembering letting us down. Omg!
We've learnt to do socials if possible first, as this does seem to filter out the dreamers, but that's not always possible. If anything it's got worse recently now fabs seems to be 98% fantasists/dreamers that joined during lockdown...
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately it's been a issue on here for years.. just seems to be worse now than ever "
It is nothing new on these sites, not exclusive to FAB. There are many reasons why you get let down, could write a book on it. The only way to reduce the occupants is through experience, no the tell tale signs in "conversation".
Has been noted in other posts and threads many times it is not just solo guys - but again it is numbers game. The disparity of numbers of sole guys and other groups is quite large and possibly why it seems more prevalent. relatively speaking.
Though Solo guys were not what we were looking for - with couples and Solo Fems we tended to plan trips and meet in with out trips - so if we did get let down it was no great loss - enjoy the time anyway. |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
I've had a fair few to be fair and it has put me on high alert for everyone now! Which is a shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been let down by single ladies and couples, both as a single guy or a couple. It's very common, unfortunately. That's why when I play as couple we go to clubs and if it happens with another couple or couples then it's great, but if not at least we get to play together. |
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In lockdown people had the perfect excuse not to actually meet, so online gratification was the norm, now people are ploughing through their online connections to find out who actually wants to physically meet and it can be very disappointing when lots fess up or worse don't show up
I've not met anyone new for a long time but if I do arrange something, I always have a back up shopping/visitor attraction so there is no wasted journey on my part |
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By *ingdangTV/TS
over a year ago
Manchester |
i actually laughed reading people’s comment on this post, and it definitely eased the pain a lot. This website is the Wild West and anything can happen. I guess we should just adopt the no high hope attitude. |
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"Is it just us who are very unlucky or have others been let down when a meet has been arranged!!?
Twice we have drove to 'meet a single guy' and been let down!
Hate time wasters! X"
sorry to hear that
we don't always make it to meets for various unavoidable reasons, but we always cancel as soon as we have to and hope to be able to make it the next time.
No excuse for rudeness of just no shows.
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It takes a few minutes to set up an account. Over a few days or weeks to improve on it, maybe a cam verification or two. Then you have something that can look genuine.
That person’s motivations however you’ll never know, in the end it’s a lottery on here, they could be a time waster or not.
Rather than look for the fakes, spend your time looking for the genuine people. The ones who have recent verifications, active on the scene and forums.
Admittedly it’s no guarantee but the odds are better  |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
Having travelled couple years back two hours to meet a female. Was given runaround , change meeting place. Was a social , then if ok go to hers for evening and night. Now very very cautious . Have had couples and females block me, due to this. From reading thread. Couples , females and males all can be time wasters. ? |
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very frustrating lol