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Organised socials - the highs and lows!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I've been to a few of the York ones. Always been great nights with friendly people. Can't think of Amy downsides to them.

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

I love them

I've been to quite a few and had some great times

Definitely the best places to meet people in my experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to a few of the York ones. Always been great nights with friendly people. Can't think of Amy downsides to them."

Ah that's great to hear! Did you hear about them through the forums or through friends? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going to the December MLS one!

I'm looking forward to meeting lots of familiar forum names and putting faces to them with no pressure to play or anything other than say 'hi'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been to a couple of them. No lows, other than getting so d*unk I had to be carried back to the hotel!

Roll on MLS

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

I need to attend one. I think I'd be more likeable then on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm going to the December MLS one!

I'm looking forward to meeting lots of familiar forum names and putting faces to them with no pressure to play or anything other than say 'hi' "

I've heard good things about the MLS one but it's soooo far away from me. Hope you have a great time

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Been to quite a few and always enjoy them. It is good to chat face to face and flirt a little. Usually afterwards folk head to a club or an organised after party.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

If i hear of any down south i will let you know. I think there's one near Heathrow

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If i hear of any down south i will let you know. I think there's one near Heathrow "

Oh thank you! Even London is 90 minutes away from me

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By *herry OnatopWoman over a year ago

Just over there

I've been to loads and absolutely love them! From the small local ones where there maybe 20 people max to the big forum ones, I love them all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been to the Bristol one. It was fun, albeit reminded me a little of going out on the pull... A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

All on all, I'd say yes. If/when doing it again I'd probably try and arrange to meet ppl or say hi via fab first.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Been to several MLS and had an absolute ball. It’s great putting faces to names and always a great laugh. Made some amazing friends through socials and cannot wait to see some familiar faces in December!

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By *ave 42Man over a year ago

pontefract

"I've been to a few of the York ones. Always been great nights with friendly people. Can't think of Amy downsides to them."
Same here the York ones have been well organised and it’s been great to meet some fantastic people at them

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’ve travelled across the country from Newcastle to Heathrow to attend them and never had a bad experience, always enjoy them and made some lifelong friends

I also met my other half through a social Kik group

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Went to the Northampton one on Saturday..

Epic night and awesome fun

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Not disappointments per se.

In terms of the positives, I've really enjoyed them. It's definitely a no pressure environment, it's enjoyable meeting a wide range of people, interacting with people whose posts you've read, who have different backgrounds. I love putting faces and voices to profile names. And people watching! The dynamics, the different social groups. It's fascinating.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes I have. I had a great time! Highlights were the cake and all the fabulous friends I made. It was cool to see the real people behind the profiles. Dissapointments were there being too many people to have any hope of speaking to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Went to the Northampton one on Saturday..

Epic night and awesome fun

That's cos we were there

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By *heekyeyesMan over a year ago

Southampton

Never been

Perhaps it's just I'm to shy for a big party (I've heard this party really getting big time

))

But in the near future after the pandemic will definitely over for good I'll attend to one !

Hope I'll get invited actually

And for those ones who's going have a great time guys and think about us when you party

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to the December MLS one!

I'm looking forward to meeting lots of familiar forum names and putting faces to them with no pressure to play or anything other than say 'hi' "

I second this! It’ll be my first fab social and i cant wait to put names to faces in the real world!!

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

This ^^^^

We went to a couple and arranged beach social, we found them very cliquey. Like most socials of any kind people go into their peer groups, if your not in your out.

OP asked for the highs and the lows, people like on FB only talk about the highs and not the lows.

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

We’ve been to a few we only have positive experiences.Nice relaxed environment with some lovely people.We don’t mind travelling for them we book a nice hotel near the social so we can spend some time together .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been to the Bristol one. It was fun, albeit reminded me a little of going out on the pull... A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

All on all, I'd say yes. If/when doing it again I'd probably try and arrange to meet ppl or say hi via fab first. "

This is interesting. I imagine that it might be a little awkward showing up alone if a lot of the other guests already know each other. Perhaps going with one or two others is a good way to approach it the first time

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Went to the Northampton one on Saturday..

Epic night and awesome fun

That's cos we were there

Absolutely. Couldn't miss you two towering above everyone else

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I've been to a few of the York ones. Always been great nights with friendly people. Can't think of Amy downsides to them.

Ah that's great to hear! Did you hear about them through the forums or through friends? X"

I found out through the forums.

I have to say I prefer the smaller ones. You get a chance to chat to just about everyone x

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

This ^^^^

We went to a couple and arranged beach social, we found them very cliquey. Like most socials of any kind people go into their peer groups, if your not in your out.

OP asked for the highs and the lows, people like on FB only talk about the highs and not the lows."

I can't talk about one of the lows because I quite enjoy posting on here.

Perhaps people talk about the positives because they have had only positive experiences? I've heard of a couple of them being rather cliquey but the ones I've attended I've spoken to a range of people and not just those I've spoken to before. I think that it's natural people will gravitate towards those feel they comfortable with but I also think that people can be quite welcoming if the effort is made to talk to others.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Xx"

Why not organise one yourself. A great way to meet fellow fabbers.

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

"A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

This ^^^^

We went to a couple and arranged beach social, we found them very cliquey. Like most socials of any kind people go into their peer groups, if your not in your out.

OP asked for the highs and the lows, people like on FB only talk about the highs and not the lows.

I can't talk about one of the lows because I quite enjoy posting on here.

Definitely this, the more you push yourself out and talk to different people, the more you get from them I find

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

All on all, I'd say yes. If/when doing it again I'd probably try and arrange to meet ppl or say hi via fab first.

I went to my first and second on my own and was really welcomed and looked after. There are always lots of people in the same boat so just a case of saying hello to people and having a mingle. I’ll talk to anyone now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We’ve been to MLS, Birmingham & Shrewsbury - loves them all and all very different. A good way to meet like minded people without going to a club

J x

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By *hysoseriouslyMan over a year ago

Kent

I think they are one of the best ways to make new friends and see what people are really like etc.

Prefer the smaller gatherings (20 or less) to the really big ones as you can at least chat to people… but then I do like to talk ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I have enjoyed the ones I’ve been to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Why not organise one yourself. A great way to meet fellow fabbers. "

Interesting! I mean, I could, but I've never been to one so I'm not even sure what they are like... Are they based in a pub/bar? Do the organisers have to vet people/have a door list/be responsible?

I'm more the sort of person who shows up, talks crap, gets d*unk and ends up being carried home at the end

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I went to my first one in Chester just before everything ground to a halt.

I really enjoyed it - it was big enough to feel busy but small enough that you felt you'd actually met people and really had a good natter.

I'm very much looking forward to the next one and I'm considering travelling to a few others around the country later in the year.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I've been to a few and enjoyed them thoroughly.

I've met some lovely people from them and look forward to the next one.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though. "

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Honestly I think next time I'd put a status up a few days before inviting people to message me if they were going so we could chat beforehand and then that way it's a social with some people I already want to meet as well as people I don't know at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too "

I like the looks of the Shrewsbury one, hope you enjoy it!

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple over a year ago

unknown

We have been to a few too,had great fun ,n its a good to socialize with like minded people in a fun atmosphere, we have another one in 2 weeks its soo exciting especially after been in lockdown x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Some of us who go to York meet up for a pre social social which is always a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i was chatting to someone who just did one.....so fabbers in the north west..watch this space

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Mariet asked about my piercing...so I got it out

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By *heekyflickWoman over a year ago

LINCOLN

Been to loads of different ones up and down the country but also organised loads myself for over 20 years..they are fantastic for meeting and putting faces to the names you chat to / see online...if you go without any expectations you will enjoy them as you would any night out..club socials/ pub socials and just general get together...each have their own unique effects...

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By *heekyflickWoman over a year ago

LINCOLN

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Some of us who go to York meet up for a pre social social which is always a laugh."

Looking forward to the next one...been a while since I got to the york social...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went to the Northampton one on Saturday and it was an amazing evening.

So many fabbers arrived and the whole place was taken over. It even moved round the corner to another place in the masses too.

Amazing night, everyone was so friendly especially to the social newbies like I was.

Only downside is it needed a part 2 as you can't get round and chat to everyone in one evening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Oh that is a good idea !

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

I can't wait to go to my first one in December. I'll be going on my own, but I already know a couple of people who'll be there and, let's be honest, I'll chat shite to anyone who listens! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too

I like the looks of the Shrewsbury one, hope you enjoy it!"

You should come!

Thank you x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too "

Ooh, Dreavus! When is this one? Maybe we can finally meet up for that chinwag? X

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We’ve never been to a swingers social, but attend a few kink socials and always tell people they are a good way of getting to know people and finding friends on the scene.

The only thing I tell people to be wary of is meeting the person behind an avatar can be fun but can also be a bit meh depending on how you have built them up in your mind.

But that applies to any online to real life meet situation.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

We went to a couple pre-Covid and now a couple post Covid. There is quite a difference, to be fair- we've noticed that a lot of people chose to stay with people they knew before and newcomers were not as welcome as before. It could have been the venues, could have also been due to the fact Devil still can't stand for too long and a lot of people at those socials prefer drinking and chatting standing up. We did make some effort at the latest social but it felt like our faces just didn't fit on that particular night. Glad to hear others had better time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The MLS in December

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By *arty84Man over a year ago

Orpington

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Why not organise one yourself. A great way to meet fellow fabbers.

Interesting! I mean, I could, but I've never been to one so I'm not even sure what they are like... Are they based in a pub/bar? Do the organisers have to vet people/have a door list/be responsible?

I'm more the sort of person who shows up, talks crap, gets d*unk and ends up being carried home at the end

I'm in the same boat, I'm keeping an eye open for anything in London or the south east and nothing so far.

As for setting one up, probably best to keep it on the small side, announce the date and the rough area it will be in on the forum and who it's for (singles, couples or mixed), set guest limits and then ask people to pm you if they want to attend, after which you give them the exact location and time and saves you messing around with bouncers/Vetter's.

This then allows you to enjoy the rest of the evening as the only people showing up are those that were fast enough to message and have gotten the reply back from yourself.

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By *arty84Man over a year ago

Orpington

Also what is this MLS everyone keeps talking about?

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?"

I'm thinking about organising one, I'm down the road from you. Just trying to sort a venue. Possibly got a boat party idea (house boat, not at sea).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?"

There's Bristol social and swindon social (Swindon is and isn't Wiltshire isn't it).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?

I'm thinking about organising one, I'm down the road from you. Just trying to sort a venue. Possibly got a boat party idea (house boat, not at sea)."

Oooooo I'm very interested!!

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"I think that it's natural people will gravitate towards those feel they comfortable with but I also think that people can be quite welcoming if the effort is made to talk to others. "

I'm guessing that I am one of those people who just make people feel uncomfortable - the ones that people love to hate

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I was at the Northampton one Saturday, it's nice to put faces to names and see their personality in the flesh, it was a really good night.

I'm also down for the MLS in December and can't wait

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve only been to 1 the highlights we’re meeting new people the lowlight was bumping into someone who lives in the same street as me they actually live 5 doors away

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though. "

I put my big girl pants on and did my first one solo on Saturday, I'm glad I did as once I got in there everyone was really friendly and chatted away to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve only been to 1 the highlights we’re meeting new people the lowlight was bumping into someone who lives in the same street as me they actually live 5 doors away

Oh noooooo that's so awkward!! How did you respond?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All on all, I'd say yes. If/when doing it again I'd probably try and arrange to meet ppl or say hi via fab first.

We went as a couple (no single men at Bristol social) but yes, that would probably work. You could put it up as a meet, I'm sure lots of people would be happy to escort a single lady!

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too "

I’m gutted we can’t make the next one as the 1st was a great night!!

J x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

All on all, I'd say yes. If/when doing it again I'd probably try and arrange to meet ppl or say hi via fab first.

We went as a couple (no single men at Bristol social) but yes, that would probably work. You could put it up as a meet, I'm sure lots of people would be happy to escort a single lady!"

Perhaps, but most would have certain expectations of after party fun

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?

I'm thinking about organising one, I'm down the road from you. Just trying to sort a venue. Possibly got a boat party idea (house boat, not at sea).

Oooooo I'm very interested!!

Sent you a msg x

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Some of us who go to York meet up for a pre social social which is always a laugh.

Looking forward to the next one...been a while since I got to the york social..."

If you fancy joining us for pre drinks, you are more than welcome x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve only been to 1 the highlights we’re meeting new people the lowlight was bumping into someone who lives in the same street as me they actually live 5 doors away

Oh noooooo that's so awkward!! How did you respond?"
yeah it was a bit but said hi to each other after the shock & if I see them in the street we chat but never talk about swinging

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Also what is this MLS everyone keeps talking about? "

It's the Manchester Lounge Social, held in... Manchester. The thread/guest list opens and is posted on the meets section of the fora, it's very popular though (for good reason) and places quickly fill up!

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"A few groups of people who clearly new each other, and a few like us who were having to initiate conversations with new ppl.

This ^^^^

We went to a couple and arranged beach social, we found them very cliquey. Like most socials of any kind people go into their peer groups, if your not in your out.

OP asked for the highs and the lows, people like on FB only talk about the highs and not the lows.

I can't talk about one of the lows because I quite enjoy posting on here.

That's definitely the case for me. I've only been to one fab social and my only low was that I still this long after encounter people on here who were there when I was that I didn't get a chance to speak to in person. Always next time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not disappointments per se.

Definitely! If time travel were possible, I'd love to go to the same one twice; once as a participant to enjoy the mingling, and once just to be a fly on the wall!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I almost attended one in Warrington a few years back. Unfortunately, I got caught in traffic and got lost so missed the whole bloody thing

I would love to attend one though

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By *ceKweenWoman over a year ago

Bolton

I host them and attend them. Lancashire and Yorkshire, pubs and/or clubs, big and small… honestly, they are the best way to meet people, be it future playmates or friends.

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By *heekyflickWoman over a year ago

LINCOLN

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Some of us who go to York meet up for a pre social social which is always a laugh.

Looking forward to the next one...been a while since I got to the york social...

If you fancy joining us for pre drinks, you are more than welcome x"

Fantastic thanks...will message you nearer time once date confirmed ??

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I attend loads all the way up to Derby/Staffordshire and host one in Southampton (not this year as my calendar is booked with other socials) there is also one in Pompey, one in Fareham, one in Brighton, if you type social into name search it comes up with all the social hosts

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I havn't been to one, but are still tempted to try a smallish one. It would be hard to go alone I think though.

I went on my own and had a ball. I would guess not going to one of the mammoth ones helped.

Some of us who go to York meet up for a pre social social which is always a laugh.

Looking forward to the next one...been a while since I got to the york social...

If you fancy joining us for pre drinks, you are more than welcome x

Fantastic thanks...will message you nearer time once date confirmed ??"

Great x

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By *arty84Man over a year ago

Orpington

"Also what is this MLS everyone keeps talking about?

Ahh ok! Thanks for clearing that up for me.

Explains why I hadn't heard of it, way too far away from me. Guess I'll stay vigilant and keep an eye open for something down here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I attend loads all the way up to Derby/Staffordshire and host one in Southampton (not this year as my calendar is booked with other socials) there is also one in Pompey, one in Fareham, one in Brighton, if you type social into name search it comes up with all the social hosts"

Ooo that's a great tip, thanks I'll have a search!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I used to go to them in Brighton. A good mix of people and easy to chat too. Excellent hosts who introduced people to each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I enjoy the socials, attended the MLS a few times, and the STP. Great to talk to lots of different people. Only downside is not getting to chat to everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s been quite some time but I’ve been to four group socials I think.

Had fun at them all although the absolute best was when a good group of us hit canal street afterwards in Manchester, just great fun and laughed all night.

The highs… twice ended with a kinky threesome back in our hotel room, lows… farting in a crowd and nobody even cracking a smile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is anyone aware of anything that takes place in the Hampshire/Dorset/Wiltshire area?"

There was one in Eastleigh before the virus hit. We never went but did consider it.

Closest I've seen since anything has reopened is Bristol.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Xx"

Hi Kitty.

I've organised socials for years and am a founding member of a group that's at least five years old.

A well run social is awesome and a fantastic way to get known and introduce yourself.

I'm in Portsmouth and we are arranging a social in these parts very soon.

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By *agicfingers1Man over a year ago

near Brighton

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Xx"

Not just me struggling to find them on the south coast then

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"...lows… farting in a crowd and nobody even cracking a smile

Definitely one of my lows but for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Hi Kitty.

I've organised socials for years and am a founding member of a group that's at least five years old.

A well run social is awesome and a fantastic way to get known and introduce yourself.

I'm in Portsmouth and we are arranging a social in these parts very soon."

Oh well that's good to know, will you post about it in the meets section of the forum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are several local socials however they are not often put on the forums. I will see if I can remember any of the social profile names.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"...lows… farting in a crowd and nobody even cracking a smile

Definitely one of my lows but for different reasons."

You were standing behind him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are several local socials however they are not often put on the forums. I will see if I can remember any of the social profile names. "

Oh thank you!! Xx

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"...lows… farting in a crowd and nobody even cracking a smile

Definitely one of my lows but for different reasons.

You were standing behind him?"

Might as well have been, the Styx probably smells more pleasant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...lows… farting in a crowd and nobody even cracking a smile

Definitely one of my lows but for different reasons.

You were standing behind him?

Might as well have been, the Styx probably smells more pleasant. "

How

Very dare

You.

If glitter had a smell then it would be comparable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Went to the Northampton one on Saturday..

Epic night and awesome fun

That's cos we were there

You were definitely a highlight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

Can vouch for this ! Ariel did an amazing job and I can definitely recommend the Northampton socials for the future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been to a few, it’s brilliant to meet new people and put faces to names.

I went to a small one first and nobody really spoke to each other, but then I went to Heathrow which was brilliant, so I went and did that again.

We’re quite close, I’ll come to one with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve been to a few, it’s brilliant to meet new people and put faces to names.

I went to a small one first and nobody really spoke to each other, but then I went to Heathrow which was brilliant, so I went and did that again.

We’re quite close, I’ll come to one with you

Ohh, Heathrow is accessible... Never knew about that one !

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

I have a couple lined up, can't bloody wait!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve been to a few, it’s brilliant to meet new people and put faces to names.

I went to a small one first and nobody really spoke to each other, but then I went to Heathrow which was brilliant, so I went and did that again.

We’re quite close, I’ll come to one with you

Oh that would be fun, yes please!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

Fucking epic actually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been to a few in Manchester, they have been hit and miss.

First one I went to was brill, was at a pub in the gay village and plenty of room and opportunities to socialise, everyone was friendly and chatty, made a few good friends from them.

My last two in Manchester have been absolutely rubbish, very clicky groups, not much socialising, only between groups, would have been ruined, but luckily a few couples who I met previously was there and had a good laugh with them.

Wouldn’t do any more to be fair I don’t think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve been to a few, it’s brilliant to meet new people and put faces to names.

I went to a small one first and nobody really spoke to each other, but then I went to Heathrow which was brilliant, so I went and did that again.

We’re quite close, I’ll come to one with you

Oh that would be fun, yes please!

Perfect

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

Maybe next time

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve never been to one organised on this site but I have attended quite a few in the past on another site I used to be on. Honestly I don’t think there are any lows to being with great people, having a dance and a drink, and if you’re lucky an after party fuckery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve never been to one organised on this site but I have attended quite a few in the past on another site I used to be on. Honestly I don’t think there are any lows to being with great people, having a dance and a drink, and if you’re lucky an after party fuckery

We always did good x

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By *arciocialWoman over a year ago

Leicester

No lows as such but when held in a nightclub style place it makes it difficult to speak with people due to the noise level.

Besdy ones I've been to are those that have some form of games to get you engaging with others.

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

We are all waiting for the date of your next one

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one "

Rude!

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I've been to loads and absolutely love them! From the small local ones where there maybe 20 people max to the big forum ones, I love them all!

You and me both, love a weekend away. Roll the MLS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

We are all waiting for the date of your next one

I am thinking, possibly around Halloween time and maybe fancy dress... I usually look like I am in fancy dress anyway so ya know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

Ooh yes

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

"I've been to loads and absolutely love them! From the small local ones where there maybe 20 people max to the big forum ones, I love them all!

You and me both, love a weekend away. Roll the MLS"

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

I know your trick - you lot just want to take turns and use me like a cheap piece of meat.

I'm not falling for that again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

I know your trick - you lot just want to take turns and use me like a cheap piece of meat.

I'm not falling for that again."

Oh alright then, we’ll just have fun without you

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Tbh I'm surprised the whole pub didn't see mine the d*unker I got, they kept trying to make an escape out of the bottom

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

We are all waiting for the date of your next one

I am thinking, possibly around Halloween time and maybe fancy dress... I usually look like I am in fancy dress anyway so ya know

awesome and fancy dress sounds great

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

MLS will be our first, really looking forward to meeting folks and putting names and faces to penii and boobs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

I know your trick - you lot just want to take turns and use me like a cheap piece of meat.

I'm not falling for that again."

Well there's our MFFF ruined

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Private showing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From years of extensive research in my laboratory most seem to be t'up north.

You can come with me and Mimi and Fallen to the one we go to

I know your trick - you lot just want to take turns and use me like a cheap piece of meat.

I'm not falling for that again.

Well there's our MFFF ruined

Do you think we might be able to get a sub off the bench

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one I organised for the Saturday just gone was bloody brilliant... Even if I do say myself

We are all waiting for the date of your next one

I am thinking, possibly around Halloween time and maybe fancy dress... I usually look like I am in fancy dress anyway so ya know

awesome and fancy dress sounds great

Hahaha marvellous!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Went to one last Saturday in Newport, amazing night. Great atmosphere and well organised, wouldn't find yourself in a room so friendly at any other type of gathering.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Do you think we might be able to get a sub off?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Big ones don't really appeal. But I am going to the Shrewsbury social which I'm looking forward too

Ooh, Dreavus! When is this one? Maybe we can finally meet up for that chinwag? X"

Will have a look. Well we are well overdue a catch up Miss xx

We would of stopped off after TH last week. Was a bit late after we finished

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By *heGateKeeperMan over a year ago

Stratford

I’m a STP veteran and would recommend organised socials to anyone considering it. Always have a great time, everyone is welcoming and it’s great to put faces and voices to screen names

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By *nly4funMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Xx"

Back when I was living in the So’ton area, I went to a number of local socials. This was only pre-lockdown so they should still be about. You just need to look harder Kitty!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Back when I was living in the So’ton area, I went to a number of local socials. This was only pre-lockdown so they should still be about. You just need to look harder Kitty!"

Hence this thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Private showing?

Absolutely

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By *nly4funMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Back when I was living in the So’ton area, I went to a number of local socials. This was only pre-lockdown so they should still be about. You just need to look harder Kitty!

Hence this thread!"

You’re not that wrong though. My former FWB and used to regularly lament the absence of decent clubs and socials in the Portsmouth to Bournemouth area. Heathrow is good but it attracts people from a fair way off from So’ton so could be a bit hit n miss for you. Still, that’s even more true for FallenAngel so perhaps that would work for you too. If you go, hope you have a great time. Book a room. They’re usually pretty cheap and who knows!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Back when I was living in the So’ton area, I went to a number of local socials. This was only pre-lockdown so they should still be about. You just need to look harder Kitty!

Hence this thread!

I had a room last time, and only used it to get dressed when I got there

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Back when I was living in the So’ton area, I went to a number of local socials. This was only pre-lockdown so they should still be about. You just need to look harder Kitty!

Hence this thread!

I had a room last time, and only used it to get dressed when I got there

This is how it should be done

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Tbh I'm surprised the whole pub didn't see mine the d*unker I got, they kept trying to make an escape out of the bottom "

You were fine they didn't escape, I kept checking

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

We have been to a few social events and always had a great time. They are good places to meet others in a non pressurised environment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to one

It was odd and VERY cliquey

It actually put me off both socials and any thoughts of attending a club

I went with a fellow (female) forumite and, save for one other forumite, not one person even so much as made an attempt to speak to us during the whole evening

They all stuck in their little groups of 6-8 never left them

Before anyone asks what efforts I made, going up to a lone stranger at a bar and starting to chat is one thing - sitting amid a group of friends and interrupting a flowing conversation is on another level

If that's what socialising as a swinger is about, count me out

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"I've been to one

It was odd and VERY cliquey

It actually put me off both socials and any thoughts of attending a club

I went with a fellow (female) forumite and, save for one other forumite, not one person even so much as made an attempt to speak to us during the whole evening

They all stuck in their little groups of 6-8 never left them

If that's what socialising as a swinger is about, count me out"

That’s awful

god I’m glad my first one wasn’t like that. I wouldn’t have gone again either!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, three and although the first good with MrsB, the other two were awful. Can't remember what the one in Leeds was called (near carwash place) but it was a bit of a hovel and quite a few of the people there gave me the impression that it was just their local boozer! The third, a pub near Hessle road in Hull, was another disappointment but I'll be honest mainly because it just reminded me of the pubs and clientele that I remember from my youth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Tbh I'm surprised the whole pub didn't see mine the d*unker I got, they kept trying to make an escape out of the bottom "

Tinder, you lost one of yours a few times sat next to me in The Boston ha ha ha

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By *rs mischiefWoman over a year ago

Manchester

I would love to attend one, but I am painfully shy at the moment, lost my mojo you could say x

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"I've never been to one and there seem to be none on the south coast.

So my question is, have you ever been to an organised social? If so, what did you think of the experience? What were the highlights? Were there any disappointments?

Xx"

speak to Topsy from Lick & Bicker, tell her the couple who brought the lovely cakes to the Purple Mamba sent you.

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Tbh I'm surprised the whole pub didn't see mine the d*unker I got, they kept trying to make an escape out of the bottom

Tinder, you lost one of yours a few times sat next to me in The Boston ha ha ha "

I have very faint memories of an oh shit moment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would love to attend one, but I am painfully shy at the moment, lost my mojo you could say x"

Got to be honest that also effected my views as well even at MrsBs

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

I've attended a few around the UK in recent years and in most cases, I've found them to be somewhat difficult.

There can usually be the established 'groups' or cliques who dominate the evening, by only talking to their immediate circle of friends and anyone new, can be ignored or blocked from joining in.

Plus, they invariably are the ones who "hog" the Bar, meaning it's difficult to order drinks etc.

One organiser had the bright idea to have a period where every 10 minutes, 2 people at each table moved around every other table, which allowed new contacts to be made across the whole evening.

But generally, from the ones I've attended, organisers just sort out the venue, take the small admission monies and really do nothing else.

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

I've attended a few around the UK in recent years and in most cases, I've found them to be somewhat difficult.

There can usually be the established 'groups' or cliques who dominate the evening, by only talking to their immediate circle of friends and anyone new, can be ignored or blocked from joining in.

Plus, they invariably are the ones who "hog" the Bar, meaning it's difficult to order drinks etc.

One organiser had the bright idea to have a period where every 10 minutes, 2 people at each table moved around every other table, which allowed new contacts to be made across the whole evening.

But generally, from the ones I've attended, organisers just sort out the venue, take the small admission monies and really do nothing else.

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By *ockgit64Man over a year ago

Poulton le Fylde, Lancs.

There is one in Portsmouth if I remember correctly... not too far away from Southampton. You should be able to find it under the Clubs link on FAB x

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am a bit of a social whore… lol I love talking to everyone and anyone and they are great in that you see what people are like “out in the open” so to speak…

I think the one big mistake I see people make is that they think “social” is some sort of codeword for “orgy”….. and as long as you can get that sort of thinking out of someone’s head, then a good night is normally had by all…

I think of it as a night out with likeminded people… you let your hair down, you put names to faces, you go up and say hello to all and sundry and you talk to people till your cheeks explode!!!!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Done two so far, Bank & MLS, had a great time at both. Bank I knew no one, but grabbed a drink and just got stuck in chatting. MLS I knew one person prior to the pre social, which is a great way to meet a smaller crowd before the main event. Looking forward to December and seeing if I can fit any others in beforehand.

I’m not shy to walking into somewhere on my own, but for those that are agree to meet someone beforehand and go in together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Done two so far, Bank & MLS, had a great time at both. Bank I knew no one, but grabbed a drink and just got stuck in chatting. MLS I knew one person prior to the pre social, which is a great way to meet a smaller crowd before the main event. Looking forward to December and seeing if I can fit any others in beforehand.

I’m not shy to walking into somewhere on my own, but for those that are agree to meet someone beforehand and go in together. "

That's really good advice about meeting before you go in, or try and message a few people in advance so you have someone to say hello to from the start. Then one conversation usually leads to another.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Ooh my low point….. me dancing at a munch in Wigan to shine by take that.. not realising I was dancing to take that when I screamed “this song is bloody good” and everyone killing themselve laughing…. Lol

Ooh an there was the time at a Newcastle munch there I was tied to a chair as birthday boy and having a lady do a lap dance… I’ve never gone redder….

And there there was the time at York when my female bestie managed to send a few glasses crashing to the floor and everyone looked at me as if I was the guilty party… to which I said “are we blaming the black guy now?”

I have a walking embarrassment…. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ooh my low point….. me dancing at a munch in Wigan to shine by take that.. not realising I was dancing to take that when I screamed “this song is bloody good” and everyone killing themselve laughing…. Lol

Ooh an there was the time at a Newcastle munch there I was tied to a chair as birthday boy and having a lady do a lap dance… I’ve never gone redder….

I have a walking embarrassment…. Lol"

This one time, at swing camp ...

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Ooh I forgot.. at a Manchester munch I did what I thought was a brilliant impression of Thunderbird 2… using the aid of a shopping trolley…. There is one for the kids!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not disappointments per se.

You met me at one, so you are blessed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ooh an there was the time at a Newcastle munch there I was tied to a chair as birthday boy and having a lady do a lap dance… I’ve never gone redder….

I have a walking embarrassment…. Lol

This one time, at swing camp ..."

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve been to quite a few. I will talk to anyone. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had an awesome time at the Northampton one, made some new friends

We chatted to people we'd not spoken to before on fab....it's a different way to make a first impression.

Would be good for anyone low on veris to make some contacts.

Great opportunity to stun the bar staff when you get your boob out

And I missed that ??

Me too!! Wtf?!?

you weren't the only one

Rude!

Always happy to get my boobs out. You've all seen the pics anyway. Flicking the nipple ring probably was a bit much for the pub staff....maybe Ariel needs to pick another venue next time

Private showing?

Absolutely

I am gonna hold you to that!

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By *heekyflickWoman over a year ago

LINCOLN

"I am a bit of a social whore… lol I love talking to everyone and anyone and they are great in that you see what people are like “out in the open” so to speak…

I think of it as a night out with likeminded people… you let your hair down, you put names to faces, you go up and say hello to all and sundry and you talk to people till your cheeks explode!!!!

Social whore? Is that your new name lol...I love to see you working the room at socials ..makes me smile...

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Going to Leeds next week and the MLS one in December.

Previously been to both of them before lockdown.

They are just great to meet new people, check out personalities of people on your radar and just have a laugh and let your hair down.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I've been to one

It was odd and VERY cliquey

It actually put me off both socials and any thoughts of attending a club

I went with a fellow (female) forumite and, save for one other forumite, not one person even so much as made an attempt to speak to us during the whole evening

They all stuck in their little groups of 6-8 never left them

If that's what socialising as a swinger is about, count me out"

Oh blimey, that sounds so grim! I think it would've put me off socials too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've attended a few around the UK in recent years and in most cases, I've found them to be somewhat difficult.

There can usually be the established 'groups' or cliques who dominate the evening, by only talking to their immediate circle of friends and anyone new, can be ignored or blocked from joining in.

Plus, they invariably are the ones who "hog" the Bar, meaning it's difficult to order drinks etc.

*** One organiser had the bright idea to have a period where every 10 minutes, 2 people at each table moved around every other table, which allowed new contacts to be made across the whole evening. ***

But generally, from the ones I've attended, organisers just sort out the venue, take the small admission monies and really do nothing else."

*** That sounds like a great idea!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went to a Brighton social years ago, it was nice chatting to some of the people that I had fabbed their pictures.

Only downside for me, was getting up the nerve to walk into the place. I am terribly shy, in social situations.

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By *JB1954Man over a year ago

Reading

A few years back. There was a few advertised in Reading. Have not seen another since?

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By *isces WomanWoman over a year ago

West London

There a btighton and worthing social down your way.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I used to go to the Hastings social.... and we even had a regular quiz team at a quiz night

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By *ich_ChesterMan over a year ago

Chester

"I went to my first one in Chester just before everything ground to a halt.

I really enjoyed it - it was big enough to feel busy but small enough that you felt you'd actually met people and really had a good natter.

I'm very much looking forward to the next one and I'm considering travelling to a few others around the country later in the year."

Been to the chester social a couple of times pre covid, great times on both occasions

Bit scary initially as knew nobody and went on my own

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I've been to a few and they can be completely different with regards to atmosphere. The only downsides have been nothing to do with the socials, more indivual people's personal issues with me

On the whole they're great to meet people that you've seen or chatted with on here, or even complete strangers, most people are really friendly

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