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"I do. Every time.
I don’t usually with hook ups or socials but if I like someone then I do get really nervous and this time I am super nervous.  "
Aw, I know that feeling!
I'm sure you'll be fine, OP.
Hope it's a great meet xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure how to conquer them but I find that the nerves gradually subside on their own as the meet goes on.
I always get nervous before a meet those nervous, happy butterflies. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Aww OP, good luck with your social/dalliance, I'm sure it will go well!
I still get them now, even if I've met the person several times already. I like them though, I try and frame it as being adrenaline/excitement and see it as flutters of happiness rather than nerves. Having a couple of minutes to yourself when you arrive at wherever can help, do some grounding breathing exercises as well. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t usually get nervous x but I do wonder sometimes what if he doesn’t like me… lol
I think that EVERY time!!!  "
I have my doubts if he’s particularly VERY fit then I’m like… shit I might be punching a bit .. I look like shit. And yada yada x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dunno if I'm just weird or wired different to other people but I've never felt nerves meeting somebody new, because it's beyond my control whether they fancy me or not. I can't make it happen. If it does I'll obviously put it down to my awesome charm but if it doesn't, well it was never meant to be. |
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I don't really get nervous. I normally only meet people who I really click with from chatting and I make a decision on people very quickly about whether I'll vibe with them or not. Very rarely, if ever, wrong about it.
I just make sure I'm freshly showered, dressed nice, smell good and keep an open mind and remind myself I'm going to meet someone who WANTED to meet me. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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I find once messaging is started. Then I am ok. For me getting past first initial contact . Chat phone / cam etc. Yes nerves meeting in person. But once first few sentences out of way and female is same. Then carry on |
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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago
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I’m really nervous never seen myself as any good with dating the traditional way on online I get peed off typing so don’t have much to say or the other one is to have a little something to settle my nerves and chew there ears off and not let them get a word in lol ?? |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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Pre jitters are pretty normal aren't they? It's only natural to feel nervous before any meet anyway, even more so if you're an introvert or shy person to begin with. End of the day, just be yourself, try to relax and enjoy yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you conquer them?
Do you get them?
I’ve been doing this a few years now and don’t usually get nervous aside from the odd last minute wobble.
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Get them every single time! I think that’s why I prefer spontaneous meets so, I don’t have too much build up of nerves! Prefer sober meets & I have to hide my shaking hands! The adrenaline rush is a bit addictive though, don’t you think?xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m usually pretty confident & don’t get nervous…
I did have one meet that had an intense build up and nerves got the better of me and I fucked it up..
But I learned from it & every meet since has been amazing.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’ve talked enough to know we get on I’m sure there won’t be any awkward silences etc it’s just that thing of what if he doesn’t fancy me or what if I don’t live up to expectations etc. I’m shitting it. Usually I wouldn’t care but I quite like this one. Hehe
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Neither of us are big drinkers else I’d have a few to calm the nerves. I think I’m just gonna have to cope with the butterfly’s be myself and hope for the best.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How do you conquer them?
Do you get them?
I’ve been doing this a few years now and don’t usually get nervous aside from the odd last minute wobble.
Get them every single time! I think that’s why I prefer spontaneous meets so, I don’t have too much build up of nerves! Prefer sober meets & I have to hide my shaking hands! The adrenaline rush is a bit addictive though, don’t you think?xx"
Oh definitely x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find once messaging is started. Then I am ok. For me getting past first initial contact . Chat phone / cam etc. Yes nerves meeting in person. But once first few sentences out of way and female is same. Then carry on "
I’ve talked to this guy loads so I know it won’t be awkward in that way it’s more nerves of self confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t usually get nervous x but I do wonder sometimes what if he doesn’t like me… lol
I think that EVERY time!!!
I have my doubts if he’s particularly VERY fit then I’m like… shit I might be punching a bit .. I look like shit. And yada yada x "
Literally this!!  |
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"We’ve talked enough to know we get on I’m sure there won’t be any awkward silences etc it’s just that thing of what if he doesn’t fancy me or what if I don’t live up to expectations etc. I’m shitting it. Usually I wouldn’t care but I quite like this one. Hehe
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Neither of us are big drinkers else I’d have a few to calm the nerves. I think I’m just gonna have to cope with the butterfly’s be myself and hope for the best.
X"
State it’s a social with a chance of fun. I’m sure you’ll see the cheeky glint in his eye & you can always ask if he’d like a tour of your bedroom haha! Keep us posted! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’ve talked enough to know we get on I’m sure there won’t be any awkward silences etc it’s just that thing of what if he doesn’t fancy me or what if I don’t live up to expectations etc. I’m shitting it. Usually I wouldn’t care but I quite like this one. Hehe
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Neither of us are big drinkers else I’d have a few to calm the nerves. I think I’m just gonna have to cope with the butterfly’s be myself and hope for the best.
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State it’s a social with a chance of fun. I’m sure you’ll see the cheeky glint in his eye & you can always ask if he’d like a tour of your bedroom haha! Keep us posted! X"
We both know it’s more than a social lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’ve talked enough to know we get on I’m sure there won’t be any awkward silences etc it’s just that thing of what if he doesn’t fancy me or what if I don’t live up to expectations etc. I’m shitting it. Usually I wouldn’t care but I quite like this one. Hehe
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Neither of us are big drinkers else I’d have a few to calm the nerves. I think I’m just gonna have to cope with the butterfly’s be myself and hope for the best.
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State it’s a social with a chance of fun. I’m sure you’ll see the cheeky glint in his eye & you can always ask if he’d like a tour of your bedroom haha! Keep us posted! X"
Will do hehe |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"I find once messaging is started. Then I am ok. For me getting past first initial contact . Chat phone / cam etc. Yes nerves meeting in person. But once first few sentences out of way and female is same. Then carry on
I’ve talked to this guy loads so I know it won’t be awkward in that way it’s more nerves of self confidence. "
There is always some nerves. No matter how confident. If in vanilla world then very different . First approach chat to break ice etc. Even if say introduced. ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’ve talked enough to know we get on I’m sure there won’t be any awkward silences etc it’s just that thing of what if he doesn’t fancy me or what if I don’t live up to expectations etc. I’m shitting it. Usually I wouldn’t care but I quite like this one. Hehe
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Neither of us are big drinkers else I’d have a few to calm the nerves. I think I’m just gonna have to cope with the butterfly’s be myself and hope for the best.
X"
It’s totally normal and don’t worry, he’s gonna like you a lot and that’s my experience anyway. 
A lot of the times it’s all in our heads really x |
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Gin!
Not too many though, just enough to take the edge off.
I’d be very surprised if anyone meeting somebody new in this world doesn’t feel some kind of trepidation beforehand, it’s completely natural and healthy. Just enjoy the feeling, it’ll make you feel alive |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Gin!
Not too many though, just enough to take the edge off.
I’d be very surprised if anyone meeting somebody new in this world doesn’t feel some kind of trepidation beforehand, it’s completely natural and healthy. Just enjoy the feeling, it’ll make you feel alive "
I think having not done this for so long due to Covid it’s adding to the nerves. Definitely will suggest we have one or two drinks but not too many want to remember it!
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By (user no longer on site)
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My most recent first meet I wasn't really nervous until I got pretty close to where we were meeting. I really wanted it to work. It did. I've never been so relaxed with anyone. Good luck OP,I'm sure everything will be good. Just remember to breath lol  |
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I don't get nervous for a social - if I'm meeting up it's because I like the conversation we've had and I want more of it.
I do get nervous meeting someone new for more than a social.
The first time I take my clothes off with someone I am normally pretty terrified because a part of me things he's going to take one look and start pulling his clothes back on having changed his mind.
Once I get past that I'm normally OK.
I don't think I'd want to lose the nerves completely; they're part of the excitement. |
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"I do. Every time.
I don’t usually with hook ups or socials but if I like someone then I do get really nervous and this time I am super nervous. "
Yes that’s a bit me …
I’m mostly cool as a cucumber, take it all in my stride but very occasionally I get nervous, self doubt sets in and I second guess myself. Always when I’m rather crushing on the guy or attending parties where I don’t know anyone.
A stern talking to (myself) usually sorts it out and normal service can resume
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think nerves are a good thing. Heighten the sense and it’s exciting to feel the prick of uncertainty x
It’s all good after the first kiss, you can instantly feel it leave you as nerves become the feeling of thrill x |
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We don't get nervous as such... more like a few butterflies or a tad over excited.
I think for us it's a little easier being a couple and having eachother to keep calm and the nervesat bay. It must be so nerve wracking for the girls we meet coming to meet a couple by themselves.
That's why we always try to be as friendly and chatty as possible even if we ourselves are a little fluttered |
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No I don't get nervous, I do get very excited though even for a first social, but I meet a new sexual partner very infrequently and only after a few months of regular conversation, so I am meeting a good friend that I know very well  |
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