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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? |
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You have to be in the right mental state to use them. I think people make the same mistake in thinking they see others "living their best lives" when in reality, its just the best photo they got out of the tens they took and then wrote something to make it sound better.
Full dis. I use Instagram but for every 1 photo that goes on it there are 10ish that are for me only |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You have to be in the right mental state to use them. I think people make the same mistake in thinking they see others "living their best lives" when in reality, its just the best photo they got out of the tens they took and then wrote something to make it sound better.
Full dis. I use Instagram but for every 1 photo that goes on it there are 10ish that are for me only"
Exactly , and I think a lot of people know it’s mostly fiction and constructed but still seeing something so curated makes you think like…
WHY I CANT BE THERE OR HAVE THAT or whatever
Then again, I’ve seen some of the people who have to document everything when they go on holiday specifically to post on social media. And it makes me sick lol
There seems to be such pressure to display this
“IM LIVING MY BEST LIFE” lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people need to realise the image portrayed on social media is totally fake you get jealous and wish u lived their life when it’s just a fake front put on for likes
as u say it can screw impressionable people over that their lives are so mundane in comparison but its all an act |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completey agreement, social media can consume your life if you are not careful and not healthy at all to be comparing your life with the farce others make theirs out to be, I take it all with me pinch of salt
I have Facebook, I use it because I am a nosy bitch, like to know what's going on without having ask. We also have staff pages for work.
It is useful for keeping in touch with family and friends who live miles away.
I have an Instagram purely for pictures, love photography so I'll take my camera out and post the results there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fab is the only social media that we are on.
I don't need to know that Steve from Worcester has built a new shed.
Don't have the time or the energy for all that drivvle."
 
In stitches!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just SO glad my daughters and I were able to get through our 'formative' years without it all.
I work with young people and honestly, the amount of issues directly linked to sm is crazy. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not on Instagram. I use Twitter for sex related stuff and to chat to my current girl crush. Rarely use Facebook.
I've seen too much of the behind the scenes nonsense that goes on on social media, especially with "Influencers". I don't want to look like an airbrushed, surgically altered version of myself so no, I don't find myself envious of them. I can see how people could be though and I don't blame them for that, there's such a pressure to be constantly on, constantly being your best self and living your best life. I guess to some degree Fab is like that - you've got to be talking about all the sexing, all the people you're meeting. Living through your orifices. |
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"Fab is the only social media that we are on.
I don't need to know that Steve from Worcester has built a new shed.
Don't have the time or the energy for all that drivvle."
Was it a 10' x 6' ???? I really need to know. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Social media is a game and if you know how to play it it can become very lucrative "
Of course, but it’s 100% a pretty cage, still a cage tho.
Insta perfect, be flawless all the time and most importantly, don’t stop creating |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm just SO glad my daughters and I were able to get through our 'formative' years without it all.
I work with young people and honestly, the amount of issues directly linked to sm is crazy. "
Exactly because now it’s every girl or boy can create this huge following and seemingly perfect life.
Ages ago we knew there were people like actresses and models living this sort of unreachable life. And it was different cos it wasn’t blasted on ur face like it is now. 24/7 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have f**ebook but hardly use it these days
Don't have any other platforms.
I just don't get the fascination of posting every second of your life for all to see. |
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Dropped Facebook several years ago, Twitter last year after the covid conspiracies (amongst others horrors of that platform) were causing real misery and damage to the world, never used Instagram and just have messager ones now.
And feel much better for it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social media is a game and if you know how to play it it can become very lucrative
There's money to be made but only at the expense of human lives."
I didn’t say it was right. All I’m really saying is that it is a game and if you are going to play learn the rules first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not on Instagram. I use Twitter for sex related stuff and to chat to my current girl crush. Rarely use Facebook.
I've seen too much of the behind the scenes nonsense that goes on on social media, especially with "Influencers". I don't want to look like an airbrushed, surgically altered version of myself so no, I don't find myself envious of them. I can see how people could be though and I don't blame them for that, there's such a pressure to be constantly on, constantly being your best self and living your best life. I guess to some degree Fab is like that - you've got to be talking about all the sexing, all the people you're meeting. Living through your orifices."
Oh I kinda see what u mean, I don’t feel particular bad feelings from fab
But I guess I feel the pressure of always having to present at my 100% when meeting guys (from here or wherever) and not be half assed (so to speak) but I don’t think it’s correlated to my fab profile. And it’s a problem that quite some trans girls go through I guess.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social media is a game and if you know how to play it it can become very lucrative
Of course, but it’s 100% a pretty cage, still a cage tho.
Insta perfect, be flawless all the time and most importantly, don’t stop creating "
Yes and if you are going to place yourself in a cage then make sure you know the rules and come out on to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Social media is a game and if you know how to play it it can become very lucrative
Of course, but it’s 100% a pretty cage, still a cage tho.
Insta perfect, be flawless all the time and most importantly, don’t stop creating
Yes and if you are going to place yourself in a cage then make sure you know the rules and come out on to"
I have a feeling tho a lot of influencers get caught up in the game and don’t know their way out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the main one I use.
I agree it can affect mental health and gave up Fb for a few weeks in Spring, now rarely use it. I will keep it for contact with family who dont live near though. |
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Aside from fab, I only do Facebook. I use it to keep in touch with friends, for local pages, to follow things I'm interested in. I also use it to chat over things with friends - a bit like being in the pub, I guess, for people who now live far apart!
I've never felt the one-upmanship and showing off a perfect life thing, as my Facebook profile is very much a warts and all thing.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social media is a game and if you know how to play it it can become very lucrative
Of course, but it’s 100% a pretty cage, still a cage tho.
Insta perfect, be flawless all the time and most importantly, don’t stop creating
Yes and if you are going to place yourself in a cage then make sure you know the rules and come out on to
I have a feeling tho a lot of influencers get caught up in the game and don’t know their way out "
I agree and you can spot the desperation to be liked a mile away |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I think it depends what you’re on there for.
I use Instagram to “travel”. I follow a lot of hiking accounts where they posts pics from their hikes, great outdoors stuff and some well-being accounts, some fashion accounts (for outfit ideas only) and the occasional sarky meme account for that day where you need some on point sarky humour to perk you up.
I choose not to follow stuff that will bring me down, I unfollow those that start getting on my tits.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? "
Personally I feel like social media puts horrible meanings to normal words and destroys interactions between people as well as creating a egotistical society based on likes instead of actually interactions so when someone wants to talk to them they no longer know how and just ignore them creating isolation leading to depression and anxiety and possibly deaths I know if I spend a day on dating sites socials or on here the lack of people that talk to me really gets me down and is completely unhealthy to us as animals |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts?
Personally I feel like social media puts horrible meanings to normal words and destroys interactions between people as well as creating a egotistical society based on likes instead of actually interactions so when someone wants to talk to them they no longer know how and just ignore them creating isolation leading to depression and anxiety and possibly deaths I know if I spend a day on dating sites socials or on here the lack of people that talk to me really gets me down and is completely unhealthy to us as animals "
I like your detailed answer, I couldn’t agree more!!
Have you ever sat at a table with influencers? Haha they’d be like
“just give me 10 mins I need to edit and post this picture and do some stories and then we can start eating”
And you are there basically chewing on half a load of free bread while waiting for them to look at themselves
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We both have Facebook which is purely for friends and family and even on there certainly family members have been culled from the friends list for various posts we don't agree with. Mr uses Instagram but that is for his photo projects. Mrs also has a Instagram, Facebook page, website etc which are used for publisising her hobby.
We are old enough to be cynical and not believe the crap that is pumped out daily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts?
Personally I feel like social media puts horrible meanings to normal words and destroys interactions between people as well as creating a egotistical society based on likes instead of actually interactions so when someone wants to talk to them they no longer know how and just ignore them creating isolation leading to depression and anxiety and possibly deaths I know if I spend a day on dating sites socials or on here the lack of people that talk to me really gets me down and is completely unhealthy to us as animals
I like your detailed answer, I couldn’t agree more!!
Have you ever sat at a table with influencers? Haha they’d be like
“just give me 10 mins I need to edit and post this picture and do some stories and then we can start eating”
And you are there basically chewing on half a load of free bread while waiting for them to look at themselves
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Tbh I couldnt do it I'm one of those people if I'm in someone's company I'll rarely check my phone there not important in the slightest and if someone spent more time with an in animate man made machine than me it's obvious nothing apart from likes will ever be a priority to them and no point trying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not on any I think they’re evil , probably why half the people on them are screwed up . ( just my opinion) "
I agree, I joined Facebook just to sell surplus stuff when moving home and apart from Fab I don't use any either. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We should turn off the Internet for 48 hours from time to time just to let folk know that there is a "real" world out there.
Maybe that could help bring some balance back into their lives."
Agreed! Or a week
I think pandemic did sort it out a bit but I feel like it’s reverting to what it used to be… we never really learn  |
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Not possible anymore.......
Everything is now FACELESS.
Doctors
Hospitals
Shopping
Internet Provision
Local Council
Wider Govt.
Shops
Schools........
The only way of reaching anything is via the net.....
Leave a message and get ignored....... die on the floor ...... shovelled up and buried.
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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I had facebook when I was at uni so it was helpful to keep up to date with social and club events etc but then once I left I realised it was just a way for people to keep tabs on me. I did find that I lost touch with a lot of people because it was far easier for them to use that than make the effort to send a text and people rarely remember my birthday now facebook doesn't tell them! |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I find social media and the world it has promoted or created quite unnerving.
We are shocked when Police use face recognition at demonstrations or public events or private companies use it at say Kings Cross train station.
We are shocked by news of Cambridge Analytica or Amazon/Facebook in tracking purchases to sell you more. In Twitter not acting fast enough to prevent disinformation or unacceptable behaviour but we are posting it. Buy from large online multinationals (more web providers), but amazed when people are fired by automation.
Yet we stand back and record the slightest event to show the world for likes and shares as there is potential Kardashian type money (or not). With the belief there is nothing happening in the background.
If one single company on social media can sway political belief, I am quite sure social media is a Derren Brown x Paul Mckenna project of the modern world.
(moody rant over)
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to get into heated political arguments on social media. It didn’t really achieve anything either, because I find talking face to face much better than the written word when trying to explain concepts to someone with the polar opposite viewpoint. You end up losing friends, rather than making them or even maintaining them (for me).
I'm on facebook as a "ghost" account, with no personal content and no contacts, where I just follow certain pages that I that I find interesting, things like vegan recipes, ecological architecture & certain niche music pages etc. I never post anything myself and am happy to go months at a time without checking it. |
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I use FB to keep in touch with family overseas. But I don't post there much.
I use Instagram to check out hot tattooed chicks.
And I use Twitter to discuss football and film and TV.
And then I use private Twitter to keep abreast of the porn people.
But I don't be on it all the time or take what people post too seriously. You have to take everything with a grain of salt.
They are just showing the best part of their life, faked or not, they are not showing their actual life.
It needs to be used responsibly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is the only social media that we are on.
I don't need to know that Steve from Worcester has built a new shed.
Don't have the time or the energy for all that drivvle."
Lol!!! Or that Tina from London is having steak for dinner! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not possible anymore.......
Everything is now FACELESS.
Doctors
Hospitals
Shopping
Internet Provision
Local Council
Wider Govt.
Shops
Schools........
The only way of reaching anything is via the net.....
Leave a message and get ignored....... die on the floor ...... shovelled up and buried.
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I am laughing at your comment in order to keep my own sanity but everything you have said is sadly true. I also find with work, I am being forced all the time to have social media platforms in order to “be part of things”, to learn/make progress. My boss is so lazy that all he does is send us constant twitter links (I don’t have Twitter). What a world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We should turn off the Internet for 48 hours from time to time just to let folk know that there is a "real" world out there.
Maybe that could help bring some balance back into their lives."
The internet is part of the 'real' world. I would think more recent generations see it as just another part of life rather than something seperate. It's just a communication medium.
Yes some people will get addicted to it, some people on it will exasperate mental health problems.
But does the internet create mental health problems or do people with existing problems struggle?
Social media is a tool which allows anyone to use it in whatever way people want to. I would suspect most people on social media get on with it quietly and don't see a problem (much like Fab).
But 'Person finds social media useful' is not such a good headline.
And you couldn't just switch the internet off as it is too tightly ingrained in to our society and lives - I'd like to see how much would get wiped off the economy if that did happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? "
I only do Facebook and only post or react to stuff that interests me or is family or friends. The rest of it can go fuck itself, ads and stupid "viral" vids included. If I want content I look for it on YouTube.
I technically have Twitter and Instagram accounts but never post to them and rarely bother to look. |
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? "
They are a breeding ground for bad opinions and most people that use them religiously are generally professional victim types |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? "
I use Instagram and Facebook more for business than anything else now. I see them as free advertisement. |
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"How do you perceive social media? Im talking about the classic ones, Instagram in particular…
I used to be on it all the time, checking out stories and what others used to do.
And I have to say I personally found it quite unhealthy mentally.
Id be on it, having massive FOMO (fear of missing out) or being jelly about what people were going on holiday, living the best life (and I know especially at the top, it’s very fabricated and put well together to have that effect)
Also the beauty standards are so high, id always end up wondering why I don’t have those hips, or that frame or that hair or whatever … so now I’ve learnt not to check it as much (usually 5 mins every couple of days) and I do feel MUCH better for it..
What’s your thoughts? "
I agree totally, at first with FB when I first came out it was a good way to keep in touch, but then you soon realise why you don't keep in touch with those people.
Overall I find it can be very bad for people mentally, it has change the way a lot of people live their lives, people tend to do thing just to put on social media or show off, just live for the moment and do t worry about putting pictures and selfies on everything.
I also agree it has you doubting yourself too seeing all these fancy lifestyles and perfect families everywhere, especially when you know for a fact its totally false and they are in fact crying themselves to sleep every night.
I do dislike the way we're are heading in all of this... Personally I have kept away from the big ones especially over the pandemic as it has done nothing for myself, sure some people love it but it's just not for me anymore. |
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Insta I only really go on for posting cat pics, got a separate account for music/gigs.
Facebook mainly good keeping in touch with friends and family, and stuff in my local area.
I don't really follow celebrity or take much notice of anything else. |
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