Oh I'm going to sound like a stuck record for which I appologise.
But simply stating you like BDSM isn't likely going to be enough for you to peak someone's interest.
What kind of BDSM do you like? Pet play, are you masochistic seeking a sadist, or are you into electro stim?
How would any prospective Dom or top know if they were remotely compatible with you? |
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over a year ago
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"Where is GeminiMan when he is needed. Time for the G spotlight!??
Most definitely he writes better than my drivel  "
I think he's having a little break from us  |
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"Where is GeminiMan when he is needed. Time for the G spotlight!??
Most definitely he writes better than my drivel
I think he's having a little break from us "
Darn it, he writes far more concise than I do. I seriously have verbal diarrhea |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"Where is GeminiMan when he is needed. Time for the G spotlight!??
Most definitely he writes better than my drivel
I think he's having a little break from us "
Regular breaks from Fab should be mandatory,?? |
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"Thanks for the reply I like being tied up and spanked and having toys used on me like being sub having a top being my Dom "
Ok so I'm not sure if you have looked before etc. But think about exactly what it is you want and what your limits are beforehand. Always easier to know them than get carried away in the heat of the moment.
Figure out also what it is you bring to the table. You are a sub not a doormat. You are allowed to have needs that you want met also. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I think saying you like BDSM is a bit of a sweeping statement, I’d research what aspects you enjoy or hope to experience - BDSM could be broken down as-
Bondage: Restricting a partner’s freedom of movement, for example, with ropes, handcuffs, or other restraints
Discipline: Agreed upon rules and punishments for a dominant partner to exert control over a submissive partner
Dominance: The act of showing dominance over a physical partner, either during sex or outside of the bedroom
Submission: The act of showing submission to the dominant partner's actions and wishes
Sadism and Masochism (or Sadomasochism): Pleasure that a partner may feel from either inflicting pain (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism), either physical or emotional
However there are a wide range of variations on the above and also combinations - some people use a safe word to determine when there partner should stop doing what they are doing others may use the traffic light system - it’s very much based on communication and trust between two individuals as naturally one person will take on a more dominant role - just because you like being a sub doesn’t mean you have to agree to everything or indeed that you will want to explore BDSM as a whole x
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"I think saying you like BDSM is a bit of a sweeping statement, I’d research what aspects you enjoy or hope to experience - BDSM could be broken down as-
Bondage: Restricting a partner’s freedom of movement, for example, with ropes, handcuffs, or other restraints
Discipline: Agreed upon rules and punishments for a dominant partner to exert control over a submissive partner
Dominance: The act of showing dominance over a physical partner, either during sex or outside of the bedroom
Submission: The act of showing submission to the dominant partner's actions and wishes
Sadism and Masochism (or Sadomasochism): Pleasure that a partner may feel from either inflicting pain (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism), either physical or emotional
However there are a wide range of variations on the above and also combinations - some people use a safe word to determine when there partner should stop doing what they are doing others may use the traffic light system - it’s very much based on communication and trust between two individuals as naturally one person will take on a more dominant role - just because you like being a sub doesn’t mean you have to agree to everything or indeed that you will want to explore BDSM as a whole x
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All of the above and more for us  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I like hitting people
With what? "
Oooh you know..... hands, fists, paddles, tawses, slippers, sandals, canes, hammers, bats, clubs, floggers, dragons tails... the usual  |
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"I like hitting people
With what?
Oooh you know..... hands, fists, paddles, tawses, slippers, sandals, canes, hammers, bats, clubs, floggers, dragons tails... the usual "
As if it is totally the norm yay. Just got a quirt that we need to find time to play with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Saying you like bdsm and you want a dominant is like saying you like food and you want someone to cook for you.
Some people really do just like all food and some chefs can cook all types of food.
But the more you eat different types of food the more you find the things you actually like most. And while some chefs can cook with many techniques and in many disciplines, most have a few things they are really good at.
So to bring it back to bdsm, you should educate yourself. See what things you like. This will help you find the people who like doing the things you like done to you.
Find your local bdsm Community. Go to socials, go to events. Be active, be interactive. Get yourself tied up and tortured. Get yourself humiliated. Get yourself sodomised by a perversely powerful woman who will make you want to beg for orgasm or get yourself on your knees in front of a sadistically cruel man who can make you lick the shit from his shoes.
You have the power to achieve what you want but it will require effort and dedication from you |
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Educate yourself. Read books and articles. Learn the terminology. Immerse yourself.
People who live bdsm lifestyles usually really serious about it and as a result people who are less serious can be looked at like tourists or hobbiests.
There is nothing wrong with being a tourist or part timer. Just be aware of how others will perceive you |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I like hitting people
With what?
Oooh you know..... hands, fists, paddles, tawses, slippers, sandals, canes, hammers, bats, clubs, floggers, dragons tails... the usual
As if it is totally the norm yay. Just got a quirt that we need to find time to play with "
Woah there nelly!
Nice little stinger |
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"I like hitting people
With what?
Oooh you know..... hands, fists, paddles, tawses, slippers, sandals, canes, hammers, bats, clubs, floggers, dragons tails... the usual
As if it is totally the norm yay. Just got a quirt that we need to find time to play with
Woah there nelly!
Nice little stinger"
I sincerely hope so |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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Looking at your profile pictures you have clearly met someone who has wetted your appetite. I would suggest (if possible stay with them). The usual advice is go to munches and events but from my experience, the kink scene is hard for single people and it is especially hard for submissive males looking for non pro domme mistresses.
The Mistresses that like to tie and flog in my experience are few
My understanding is that finding a mistress that a person matches with is really difficult. I have not many submissive occaisanal CDs so cannot speak to that. Once you have done the research as others have suggested then possibly trying femdom events and other events may be a start.
The research is even more important if you are looking for a master, there are matters you need to be aware. Possibly talk to other CD submissives, they may be able to advise you. |
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