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The bits we don't love

By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

So after Kylie's weight thread earlier, and Saff's "how are we all a bit bat shit" one that's currently still open.... I figured that this thread should make a comeback.

We all have bits we don't love about ourselves. All of us. Size 0, Size 36, XS, 5XL and everything in between. It's rare to find a lucky person who loves all of themselves equally.

For me it's mainly my belly. That's been an issue for me at a size 32 and a size 10. I'm mostly ok with it when I'm wearing clothes these days but getting naked is still an issue. I have one mirror in my house that's bigger than a pocket size, and that's above the bathroom sink. I rarely look in it.

But my body has got me through over 42 years of my life. It's broken. It's been pulled apart and stitched back together and it has destroyed me by not being able to grow children. But it's mine. I own it.

There are people who find it revolting. But I'm doing my damn best not to listen to them any more. There are people who find it sexy. There are men who have caressed it, who have kissed it all over and made me feel beautiful because they think I am. They're the ones I listen to now.

And there are women. Beautiful, wonderful women who see what I see. They see what the parts I believe are flawed are and they know how I feel about them. And they tell me I shouldn't worry, despite them knowing that's never going to happen.

We all look at the "flaws" in ourselves with a far more critical eye than we ever would look at others. I could have a twin, a clone of me, looking exactly as I do and I'd tell her she was beautiful. I'm sure so many of you feel the same. We need to be kinder to ourselves as much as we do to others.

So here I am. This is me. This is all of me, the good and the bad. I'm putting this picture up, as I have a slightly less revealing one before, in the hope that it'll help me to love me a bit more. I'm also doing it in the hope that others will look at my body and feel better about theirs.

And yes. This is totally a "look at me" post. But I'm hoping others may use it as a "look at me too" post and find their inner strength to show of the bits they don't love too.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I love this and I love that you can do this and I love that you have the confidence and I envy that confidence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like Nora, I envy your confidence.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Go Posh go posh go posh go posh

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Love this post OP, fuck it I only have one body and only limited time, why waste it on feeling shitty about it? Not so much confident about my body but I'm activity in the faking it until I make it category. One day I will accept me for being me.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

I wish i had your courage. But i don't.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

Oh posh, you're wonderful & brave! And you inspire me.

Hate my bloody stomach too. To be honest, some days I hate my whole damn body - even my boobs.

I just wish I still had the "perfect" size 12 curvy body I had at 30 - before all my health issues. But, you know life.

Standing in solidarity with my tummy rolls on show

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even at your absolute worst, you still managed to maintain grace and kindness. Remember that NSP.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

In with the belly rolls

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"Even at your absolute worst, you still managed to maintain grace and kindness. Remember that NSP."

This

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I love this and I love that you can do this and I love that you have the confidence and I envy that confidence

Meh. If I can't get naked in front of people who I don't know and am never gonna meet, who can I get naked in front of?

Hang on.... that's kinda arse about face

If someone wants to meet me and I them, then they'll see it anyway. If they don't, then it doesn't matter what they think.

(Please note, confidence online is SO different to in real life. Plus this'll go back in it's box when I stop being cranky about weight shamers)

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

Brave lady, I love this.

I hate my wobbly belly, my dodgy knees, but I can hide it quite well in pics

On meets I generally wear sexy undies, rarely get undressed

Spending the last 3 months on crutches has not helped, but I'm determined to get fitter for me

I'm 2 stone heavier than I have been most of my adult life

Medication plays a huge part in that, but if it keeps me well I'll take the extra pounds

You look great lovely

Embrace life

Jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Picking up on one of your points though I do get it as I tend to be attracted to women with a similar body shape to me. I will look at them and think they look amazing but I just cannot see it in me. I do have body confidence issues, especially lately since I’ve put weight on x

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I hate my tummy , you'll see the side view in the yoga pic thread.

look for a side on beached whale!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Like Nora, I envy your confidence. "

As I just said to Nora....

It's not real life confidence. And it's mainly pissed off with weight shamers and pushing back rather than confidence.

But you can find yours. Even if it's fake like mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Go Posh go posh go posh go posh

Thanks Mrs

Or Mr.... or both xx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"In with the belly rolls

You look fab, KC. And you bloody rock it in person, too

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

For you I'm gonna open up a pic, not profile pic it but it'll be viewable, like you the yo-yo weight has left me with issues about my stomach and bum/legs. I'm slowly learning to love who I am, and some wonderful people I've met have made me forget all my hang ups and the most desired person when I'm with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great Picture, Posh - blue is the colour ! I'm sure your post will be an inspiration to many, and rightly so

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Love this post OP, fuck it I only have one body and only limited time, why waste it on feeling shitty about it? Not so much confident about my body but I'm activity in the faking it until I make it category. One day I will accept me for being me.

You and me have been side by side in that category for as long as we have known each other Frida.

Let's drag each other out kicking and screaming one day

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I wish i had your courage. But i don't. "

One day I hope you will. Not necessarily to be naked on the internet, but to look at yourself and say "This is me. This is my body. And to hell with anyone else"

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"In with the belly rolls

You look fab, KC. And you bloody rock it in person, too

Right back at you, Red *KissFace*

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman over a year ago

lancashire

Good for you...what an inspiring post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol I'm out x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Oh posh, you're wonderful & brave! And you inspire me.

Hate my bloody stomach too. To be honest, some days I hate my whole damn body - even my boobs.

I just wish I still had the "perfect" size 12 curvy body I had at 30 - before all my health issues. But, you know life.

Standing in solidarity with my tummy rolls on show

Life. Life indeed. You're incredible and beautiful. And honey, that's been one hell of a life so far. Your body has got you through it all and is awesome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re very beautiful Posh and you have a really sexy body that you should be proud of but I know it’s not easy for anyone to like their body whether it’s flawless or not. There are lots of things about my body I don’t like, over weight, overly hairy, small penis to name a few but I know I’m a good person and that’s all that matters to me and is all that matters when I look at other people, having a kind and honest nature makes someone infinitely more attractive than just having a flawless body.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Even at your absolute worst, you still managed to maintain grace and kindness. Remember that NSP."

You've seen my worst. Too much.

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

I’ve added a public full body naked picture to my profile as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

I deleted my message and apologises to the OP but I thought this was for everyone to say what they didn't like and not a oh isn't the OP brave thread....and that's not having a go that's me not understanding the thread properly x

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Fantastic. Well done.

There's been far too much slagging off bodies on here recently.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"In with the belly rolls

Your belly has carried two babies. It's a bloody gorgeous thing!

Well done you and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

You shouldn't have

It was good to see more than your head

There is a lot about my body that I'd change, but my body doesn't define me, it's just part of the whole of me

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Beautiful post OP. Bless us all and our vulnerabilities.. And f*ck the culture and money makers who planted the seeds of doubt in us in the first place.

It has always seemed truly insane to me that so many of us walk the earth in shame and loathing of our natural selves.

My lower tummy, my ageing, breast feeding ravaged boobs, my chins, my new squooshy feel. Oh well.

You, I, we.. are all still worthy of much much pleasure and so so much love, regardless of our shell.

Xxx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Brave lady, I love this.

I hate my wobbly belly, my dodgy knees, but I can hide it quite well in pics

On meets I generally wear sexy undies, rarely get undressed

Spending the last 3 months on crutches has not helped, but I'm determined to get fitter for me

I'm 2 stone heavier than I have been most of my adult life

Medication plays a huge part in that, but if it keeps me well I'll take the extra pounds

You look great lovely

Embrace life

Jo xxx"

That's it. Your body and mind being healthy are more important than any extra pounds. You are beautiful inside and out no matter whether you wear sexy undies, a bin bag or a beautiful dress.

Your comfort is what matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What an awesome post. I’ve never been especially happy with my torso. I’m proud of my legs and to a lesser extent my arms but I’ve never loved my torso. I’ve always given myself a hard time about the extra timber carried around the middle. It’s time to let that go.

Everyone is amazing. Everyone’s body is amazing. Those who have had babies, those who haven’t or can’t. Those with injuries or imperfections. Everything tells a story and there’s always a new chapter being written.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

WOW awesome picture and you’re way braver than me. My tummy usually stays covered.

V x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx"

If you're willing, we would love to see you in your glory SD

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By *imbobaMan over a year ago

Glasgow

As you know I’m a fully signed up NSP fanboy.

. Much admiration from here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You look good NSP, but I’m with you on the whole body confidence. I’ve put a lot of weight back on over the past 2 years, my hernia makes me look like I’ve stuck a football in my stomach, and I’ve got big saggy boobs that don’t look good.

I’m dealing with my youngest who’s got MH problems and verbally abuses me , that takes me right back to feeling like I’ve swapped one narcissist for another. But my surgeon was very helpful and has given me some hope for the near future. I will get back to the weight I want. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nsp you are absolutely beautiful and wonderful never let anyone tell you otherwise and if they do send them my way and I will have a little talk with them xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we all have bits we dont like, part of being human, and especialy growing older, love your self for what you are, you are no different to anyone else, only if you can love yourself can you love someone else, embrase your flaws they make you who you are

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Picking up on one of your points though I do get it as I tend to be attracted to women with a similar body shape to me. I will look at them and think they look amazing but I just cannot see it in me. I do have body confidence issues, especially lately since I’ve put weight on x"

You know what I feel about your body, you stunning woman. I wish you could see what we see

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I hate my tummy , you'll see the side view in the yoga pic thread.

look for a side on beached whale! "

Oh dear lord. Let's not mention the yoga thread.....

But that's brilliant. You are rocking it even though you hate it. That's incredible. You queen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"For you I'm gonna open up a pic, not profile pic it but it'll be viewable, like you the yo-yo weight has left me with issues about my stomach and bum/legs. I'm slowly learning to love who I am, and some wonderful people I've met have made me forget all my hang ups and the most desired person when I'm with them."

That's all we need. They and our cheerleaders are the people we must listen to.

You know I'm one of yours

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Great Picture, Posh - blue is the colour ! I'm sure your post will be an inspiration to many, and rightly so

Thank you Leo.

I really hope it is xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

And I love my legs and I’d kill for your torso.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love this thread, thank you op. Xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Thank you DF x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Good for you...what an inspiring post

Thank you. I hope it can be

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Lol I'm out x"

That's a shame. You should rock your body. Men shouldn't feel they can't rock theirs too!

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Never to be seen again

well done Posh x

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Same... This is why I love high waisted knickers!! And mainly take photos lying down

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You’re very beautiful Posh and you have a really sexy body that you should be proud of but I know it’s not easy for anyone to like their body whether it’s flawless or not. There are lots of things about my body I don’t like, over weight, overly hairy, small penis to name a few but I know I’m a good person and that’s all that matters to me and is all that matters when I look at other people, having a kind and honest nature makes someone infinitely more attractive than just having a flawless body. "

It does. Attraction is all encompassing.

But it's still nice when you've only ever been complimented on your personality, or your eyes, or mouth, or boobs, to be able to look at the rest and say "actually, it's ok".

Thank you

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Same... This is why I love high waisted knickers!! And mainly take photos lying down

I discovered high waisted knickers last weekend and they actually can be very sexy.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Never to be seen again

well done Posh x"

Holy fuck and Christ on a damn bike!

I know this is way out of the order I should be commenting but YAY SAFF!!

Thank you, you utterly beautiful human bean.

I shall bring you rice xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

If you're willing, we would love to see you in your glory SD

Seeing the comments on this thread Posh you've got this xx

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"Never to be seen again

well done Posh x

Holy fuck and Christ on a damn bike!

I know this is way out of the order I should be commenting but YAY SAFF!!

Thank you, you utterly beautiful human bean.

I shall bring you rice xxxx"

we all have hang ups… it’s where we hang them that makes a difference…

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

Thank you Bussy. And thank you for joining.

You have such a clear headed way of looking at it.

And I know what you mean about carrying the extra weight in your head. In mine I'm still the size 32 I was. And I'm not. Just in my brain.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

And I love my legs and I’d kill for your torso. "

We can swap about now and again if ya like!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

I’ve added a public full body naked picture to my profile as well. "

That's brilliant! Well done. You're rocking it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such an inspiring thread NSP, amazing! I always hide the bit of my body I dislike (my lower tummy), you'll almost never see it in my photos but maybe I should be more brave like you xxx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I haven't seen a bloke take part yet, so let me be the first

There'll be one publically viewable til morning

I'm a good 3 stones lighter than that now, but I still carry that weight in my head

I learned some time ago not to be ashamed

If I own it, others won't see the issue

If I shy away from it, they look for the same issues as me

Great post NSP

This isn't an oh isn't the OP brave thread. This is a thread to try and make people see that they can celebrate what they don't like. And that what they don't like in themselves isn't what people see.

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By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

I don’t like any of it at the moment, especially my butt.

But I’m a work in progress, again.

By the way Posh, you look fantastic.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Fantastic. Well done.

There's been far too much slagging off bodies on here recently. "

There has.

Thank you xx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

It does. Attraction is all encompassing.

But it's still nice when you've only ever been complimented on your personality, or your eyes, or mouth, or boobs, to be able to look at the rest and say "actually, it's ok".

Thank you"

This!!

To be with someone who tells me he loves my body - and means it is the best drug ever x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Beautiful post OP. Bless us all and our vulnerabilities.. And f*ck the culture and money makers who planted the seeds of doubt in us in the first place.

It has always seemed truly insane to me that so many of us walk the earth in shame and loathing of our natural selves.

My lower tummy, my ageing, breast feeding ravaged boobs, my chins, my new squooshy feel. Oh well.

You, I, we.. are all still worthy of much much pleasure and so so much love, regardless of our shell.

Xxx "

Yes! This is exactly my point. We might not like the bits.... but they make us ourself. And we are worthy.

You're such a beautiful soul in a stunning body. I am so glad you're here xxx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"What an awesome post. I’ve never been especially happy with my torso. I’m proud of my legs and to a lesser extent my arms but I’ve never loved my torso. I’ve always given myself a hard time about the extra timber carried around the middle. It’s time to let that go.

I hope you can let that go. It's not easy. But this is such a positive post.

And thank you. So much xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"WOW awesome picture and you’re way braver than me. My tummy usually stays covered.

V x "

V, I'm gonna convince you one day xxx

Thank you

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"As you know I’m a fully signed up NSP fanboy.

. Much admiration from here x"

Back at you sexy xxx

Thank you x

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Kudos lady…. Kudos and I’m loving the green hair

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You look good NSP, but I’m with you on the whole body confidence. I’ve put a lot of weight back on over the past 2 years, my hernia makes me look like I’ve stuck a football in my stomach, and I’ve got big saggy boobs that don’t look good.

You will get where you want to be you lovely woman. And you already rock your pictures. You've got so much to deal with. Be proud of you. Be proud every day you get up and face your world.

I wish it were easier sweetheart

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Never to be seen again

well done Posh x"

Great pic lady

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"Never to be seen again

well done Posh x

Great pic lady

All paid for DC … that’s a couple of hundred magnums right there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Snapppp snappp posh! Don’t apologise to anyone for

Who you are. Can’t please everyone and the most

Important thing is confidence and how you love yourself. And carry yourself

Love this reminder !!! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You will get where you want to be you lovely woman. And you already rock your pictures. You've got so much to deal with. Be proud of you. Be proud every day you get up and face your world.

I wish it were easier sweetheart

Thanks lovely x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Mine is probably the same. I've had stomach surgery so the tone will never be as good as it could be. Also due to endometriosis I get bloating. I have good days and bad days. Sometimes my stomach can be fairly flat, others I can look like I'm 4-5 months pregnant.

I don't think there's any part of me I'm totally happy with but it is what it is and we'd just make ourselves miserable if we dwelled on it too much. I think it's important to remember that other people while beautiful, aren't "perfect" either and we often hold ourselves to far more unrealistic standards than we do others.

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By *r.SJMan over a year ago

Wellingborough

Well done NSP... wish you could see what I think the rest of us do though, you look stunning and given the chance a body that only deserves kisses all over.

It saddens me how very few of you ladies see how beautiful you are and unlike the fakes and the wanna be's, you all have personalities to match

the world is a cruel place that would make any of you feel undesirable and even harder though is the self inflicted and unnecessary negativity, each of you with bodies i could caress for hours.

But in turn I understand the anguish

I've lost a stone in the last year and not deliberately but still got a round middle that I detest and then bordering on skinny beyond... I think we all need find compromise and appreciation and self worth. I just know it's so much easier said then done, I can see the beauty in others yet disparaging of myself... I just wish you could see yours and be proud, all of you. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re right that no one’s perfect but from looking at your pictures I can see that you’re as close as anyone can be to perfect.

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By *nked_kittenWoman over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Some days I look at myself and truely don’t understand how anyone could fancy me. But this is the body I’m in so I try not to have too many of those days and just be confident in myself.

And sometimes that very hard to do

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Nsp you are absolutely beautiful and wonderful never let anyone tell you otherwise and if they do send them my way and I will have a little talk with them xxxxxx"

I love that you said that.

But you know what? If anyone tells me otherwise, *I* need to be able to have a talk with them. And today I feel like I can.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

You know what though. We have to stop judging ourselves on the wrapping paper and look at the present inside. That will remain when even the best body isn't so beautiful. People love us for the kindness we have shown, our sense of humour, our amazing chocolate chip cookies.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"we all have bits we dont like, part of being human, and especialy growing older, love your self for what you are, you are no different to anyone else, only if you can love yourself can you love someone else, embrase your flaws they make you who you are"

And that's what I'm working on.... and trying to convince others to do

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

Your legs are strong. They carry you where you want to go and they hold you up when you've a woman in front of you to pump in the bum Bants. They're awesome

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I love this thread, thank you op. Xx"

DD, thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nsp you are absolutely beautiful and wonderful never let anyone tell you otherwise and if they do send them my way and I will have a little talk with them xxxxxx

I love that you said that.

But you know what? If anyone tells me otherwise, *I* need to be able to have a talk with them. And today I feel like I can."

Your welcome and that is good that you can as your wonderful amazing xxxx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Same... This is why I love high waisted knickers!! And mainly take photos lying down

This is why I love corsets so much!

You're stunning in my eyes and the eyes of so many. I hope you can feel that xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

If you're willing, we would love to see you in your glory SD

Seeing the comments on this thread Posh you've got this xx"

You're not getting out of it!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Never to be seen again

well done Posh x

Holy fuck and Christ on a damn bike!

I know this is way out of the order I should be commenting but YAY SAFF!!

Thank you, you utterly beautiful human bean.

I shall bring you rice xxxx

we all have hang ups… it’s where we hang them that makes a difference… "

You may be a bit mad my lovely.... but fuck a duck you're wise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know what though. We have to stop judging ourselves on the wrapping paper and look at the present inside. That will remain when even the best body isn't so beautiful. People love us for the kindness we have shown, our sense of humour, our amazing chocolate chip cookies. "

This is so true. When we're 90 we're all going to look very different, and the people who come to spend weekends and Christmas with us won't care what we look like, they'll care about the people we are.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

And I love my legs and I’d kill for your torso.

We can swap about now and again if ya like!

Bloody hell..... can I use the pair of you when you get together to swap?

Trust me.... I'd make you forget your hang ups. Both of you

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By *ussylick84Woman over a year ago

great barr

Got a little bit of a belly but have a 9 year old. But got to the stage . Stuff it . We not ever going to be stick figures abd dont want to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

If you're willing, we would love to see you in your glory SD

Seeing the comments on this thread Posh you've got this xx

You're not getting out of it!"

Oh shucks,it was worth a try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To many to mention

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Such an inspiring thread NSP, amazing! I always hide the bit of my body I dislike (my lower tummy), you'll almost never see it in my photos but maybe I should be more brave like you xxx"

Kitty, you are beautiful. Body and soul. But I know you have hang ups as well.

And that makes me sad. Not just for you, because you should be so proud of your whole self.

But also for other women, women who are a similar size and shape to you. People don't understand, or they forget that women we see as having "perfect" bodies, women who we see as being wanted by everyone, have often got parts they dislike, hate, wish were different.

And that means that there are so many women (and men, because men with perceived perfect bodies feel it too) who feel they can't step up and say they don't like a part of them, in case they get shouted down.

One day Kitty, I hope to see you happy to photograph all of you. And if and when you do, I'll be smiling

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t like any of it at the moment, especially my butt.

But I’m a work in progress, again.

By the way Posh, you look fantastic.

Thank you gorgeous.

You'll find your happy. I know you will x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just hate my legs. They look like I've forever skipped leg day when in fact, I smash them twice a week. They're actually stronger than they look too but they refuse to grow!

And I love my legs and I’d kill for your torso.

We can swap about now and again if ya like!

Bloody hell..... can I use the pair of you when you get together to swap?

Trust me.... I'd make you forget your hang ups. Both of you

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

This!!

To be with someone who tells me he loves my body - and means it is the best drug ever x"

It is. It's amazing xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Kudos lady…. Kudos and I’m loving the green hair

Thanks DC....

It'll likely be a different colour soon enough

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Snapppp snappp posh! Don’t apologise to anyone for

Who you are. Can’t please everyone and the most

Important thing is confidence and how you love yourself. And carry yourself

Love this reminder !!! X "

And that's a big part of what I'm saying....

I love how confident you are!

You rock it girl! Xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Mine is probably the same. I've had stomach surgery so the tone will never be as good as it could be. Also due to endometriosis I get bloating. I have good days and bad days. Sometimes my stomach can be fairly flat, others I can look like I'm 4-5 months pregnant.

We always do. It's ingrained I think. And that's something that we should all try to turn around.

Bodies are amazing things, even when they attack us.

You rock yours beautiful. And the trials it puts you through and the fact you're still standing make you amazing

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Its taken me a while to be comfortable with my own body, I don't have a 6pack, I never have, my hair is going, and what is left is going grey, I looked at myself in the mirror and wonders where did that attractive bloke go, and then thought, fuck it, this is me now, so people.can take it or leave it.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Well done NSP... wish you could see what I think the rest of us do though, you look stunning and given the chance a body that only deserves kisses all over.

It saddens me how very few of you ladies see how beautiful you are and unlike the fakes and the wanna be's, you all have personalities to match

the world is a cruel place that would make any of you feel undesirable and even harder though is the self inflicted and unnecessary negativity, each of you with bodies i could caress for hours.

But in turn I understand the anguish

Thank you x

I wish you could see your beauty too. You have a lovely body and a handsome face to go with it.

And the confidence to post pictures. That's huge x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a body. It works, mostly.

It could do with some improvement; a good few inches longer would be nice, more muscles would be welcome, dreamier eyes would be lovely, an improvement around the facial region would certainly be desirable…..

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You’re right that no one’s perfect but from looking at your pictures I can see that you’re as close as anyone can be to perfect."

I'm assuming that's not to me....

You should tell whomever it was

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Some days I look at myself and truely don’t understand how anyone could fancy me. But this is the body I’m in so I try not to have too many of those days and just be confident in myself.

And sometimes that very hard to do "

That's exactly how I feel.

The days it is hard, those are the days we need a boost. I think you've a gorgeous body and I'm happy to boost you if you need it xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

In an ideal world that's exactly what we would do. We would all care more for the inside than the wrapper. And actually, most other people do. They judge us on who we are and not what we look like.

But I know, for me, that being told I'm a lovely person, while wonderful, doesn't give me the same thrill as someone I'm attracted to telling me I'm sexy as fuck.

Ironically I'd then just think they were trying to butter me up.

Humans are complicated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re right that no one’s perfect but from looking at your pictures I can see that you’re as close as anyone can be to perfect.

(Posted this again as I forgot to quote the message I was replying to...thanks for pointing it out Posh)

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Got a little bit of a belly but have a 9 year old. But got to the stage . Stuff it . We not ever going to be stick figures abd dont want to be. "

I've never enjoyed the fashion that stick figure women wear. That triangle skirt doesn't suit me

I'm glad you've got to the stage of stuff it though. That's the dream for so many of us.

And even thin, slim, athletic folk have body hang ups. I'd like any body type if I could have it without having them though.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"To many to mention "

You should own them Wonko.

You're you. And you're awesome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx"

You’ve promised and we’re all witnesses.

Have faith and confidence in yourself and others.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Its taken me a while to be comfortable with my own body, I don't have a 6pack, I never have, my hair is going, and what is left is going grey, I looked at myself in the mirror and wonders where did that attractive bloke go, and then thought, fuck it, this is me now, so people.can take it or leave it."

That's where I want to get to.

I'm so happy you are there xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

You’ve promised and we’re all witnesses.

Have faith and confidence in yourself and others."

You wasn't supposed to see that

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

You’ve promised and we’re all witnesses.

Have faith and confidence in yourself and others."

But also.... no pressure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh posh, you're wonderful & brave! And you inspire me.

Hate my bloody stomach too. To be honest, some days I hate my whole damn body - even my boobs.

I just wish I still had the "perfect" size 12 curvy body I had at 30 - before all my health issues. But, you know life.

Standing in solidarity with my tummy rolls on show

Look at you in your bath again. What happened to shower pics in the shower installed by your ‘gorgeous’ plumber? I’m still waiting……

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally love you Posh, you are amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I promise to put up an identical picture up tomorrow xx

You’ve promised and we’re all witnesses.

Have faith and confidence in yourself and others.

You wasn't supposed to see that

Too late. You’ve been spotted.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I totally love you Posh, you are amazing

And the feeling is utterly mutual

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

Get a fab from me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx"

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"Oh posh, you're wonderful & brave! And you inspire me.

Hate my bloody stomach too. To be honest, some days I hate my whole damn body - even my boobs.

I just wish I still had the "perfect" size 12 curvy body I had at 30 - before all my health issues. But, you know life.

Standing in solidarity with my tummy rolls on show

Look at you in your bath again. What happened to shower pics in the shower installed by your ‘gorgeous’ plumber? I’m still waiting……

He's not doing it til Thursday

But yes, shower pics shall follow. With or without the gorgeous plumber

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You are just perfect as you are.

Even when you tell me I'm wrong when I'm overthinking again x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Get a fab from me

Well thank you Liam xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

"Get a fab from me

Well thank you Liam xx"
hold you head high x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Get a fab from me

Well thank you Liam xx hold you head high x"

I'm getting there. I hope x

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

"Get a fab from me

Well thank you Liam xx hold you head high x

I'm getting there. I hope x"
was supposed to say hold your head high but you get the drift

You got support on here just reach out if you need it x

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By *ustforfun49Man over a year ago

chesterfield

My belly I've been getting fit but I can't get flat stomach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really dislike my body at the moment. I feel incredibly lucky that I have been able to grow a baby after being told for 15 years that wouldn’t be a possibility but I hate my pregnant body. I still have the fat and loose belly from before but then with a bump stuck on the front of it. I’m in pain all the time, which means I’m not sleeping so it’s affecting the rest of me too. I’ve managed to escape pregnancy with no weight gain but I feel so huge.

I think your photo is fantastic and if I had your body I would be happy to show it off too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly NSP this bought tears to my eyes for so many reasons. You’re so brave to talk like this. I myself have been everything from a 10-22 and I hate my belly and pretty much well most of me. I have scars, lumps, bumps, wobbly bits but my body has carried me through depression, physical health issues, cancer scares, loosing a child, surgeries and all sorts. So I felt every bit of emotion you put into that post. You’re a gorgeous woman and you post some amazing pics I wish I had the balls to do the same!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also just met the most amazing guy on here who wants to kiss and touch all the bits of me I hate which caused me huge anxiety at first the thought fills me with dread but if he can see me and like me for what I am then I guess there’s hope for us all.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

I suppose that there's a couple of obvious parts of my body that I'm not very happy about, things that just don't feel like they ought to be that way. I guess that I do try to just make the best of what I am though, I can sort of cope with my feelings, and at present I doubt that I'll be taking any irreversible steps. Looking good* and getting out places once in a while helps me get by.

* Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if I turn the lights low and scrunch up my eyes, I can at least try to convince myself that the reflection in the mirror won't frighten too many children...

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By *JB1954Man over a year ago

Reading

Just read this thread. As a male . From my prospective. Since teenager have been described as ‘ seven stone weakling ‘ etc. Yet due to sport which played for town and county . Was very fit. Just not muscular etc as most males. Yet never bothered about body shape etc. If on holiday and at late night someone suggested skinny dipping . Would be one of first to strip . Also not well endowed when soft ? But never had complaint about size from any female. Unless they were being polite ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol I'm out x

That's a shame. You should rock your body. Men shouldn't feel they can't rock theirs too!"

Unfortunately we dont get the same degree of love from people for our bodies x

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By *tarburst babydollMan over a year ago

Dingwall

Mine is my belly. Since I started injecting insulin because of diabetes many years ago it is now bigger than my boobs

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Just see this thread. Firstly NSP I love that body and like many other men have said would live to explore it further. Well done on the thread and putting yourself out there.

Secondly, I have such a love hate relationship with my body and myself in general. Someday I can not care about a thing walk in to a room mingle flutter my eyes and be like a social butterfly. Some formites will have witnessed this at social events. Other days I can walk into a room think everyone is staring at me, thinking I'm huge and wish the floor would swallow me up. Some forumites have also witnessed this in clubs etc.

I've been bullied in the past for my size, which has really affected my vision of myself. Its my tummy I really hate which seems similar to others on here.

So to stand in unity with you and many other I'm putting a picture I don't like up on my profile pic for a few hours.

Thank you for this thread, thank you for the encouragement to get out of my comfort zone for a bit.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I'm in.... Or should that be out?!

Our bodies are amazing what ever size or shape they are. They keep us alive, they get us to where we want to be. Some may not work as well as others, some may have lasting signs of damage from out experiences either mentally or physically. But they are our bodies.

In order for those who want to change their relationship with their bodies we need to accept them as they are. Quite literally stand in front of a mirror and say 'thank you body. For being here. I see you. I feel you. I accept you. I love you. I will nurture, nourish and appreciate you.' make it your daily mantra. Zone in on specific areas of you want.

You don't look after something you don't like, be it s in the garden or an old knackered car etc. Why do we feel hating our bodies will lead us to change it for the better.

I love my body and so want to look after it. I am starting to feed it better, listen to what it wants (even if that is a burger from time to time), making it stronger.

Love your bodies people. I love all of yours x

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

You and me have been side by side in that category for as long as we have known each other Frida.

Let's drag each other out kicking and screaming one day

We have been indeed Posh, thank you for supporting me when I've needed a boost. We will crack it one day because we want to.

And I hear you about posting these things when others fat shame. I'm recovering from eating disorders. People don't realise the harm fat shaming does.

Thanks for being body positive

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My belly I've been getting fit but I can't get flat stomach

As we get older it is harder to newly tone, so I've been told.

Getting fit is the important thing. And you're rocking it.

Go you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose that there's a couple of obvious parts of my body that I'm not very happy about, things that just don't feel like they ought to be that way. I guess that I do try to just make the best of what I am though, I can sort of cope with my feelings, and at present I doubt that I'll be taking any irreversible steps. Looking good* and getting out places once in a while helps me get by.

* Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if I turn the lights low and scrunch up my eyes, I can at least try to convince myself that the reflection in the mirror won't frighten too many children..."

I get it Polly!

As we are on the same boat I also feel the same, and I mean there’s something that definitely shouldn’t be there (that I’m hoping to correct soon) and the rest is in constant rotation of what I pick and HATE …it changes every day/week

either it’s TOO BIG (like my shoulders, and my arms and my waist, and my feet ) or TOO SMALL (my boobies, my bum etc) and It always puts me in front of the reality that I’m not a cis woman.

Obviously I’m trying to deal with it as best as I can x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I really dislike my body at the moment. I feel incredibly lucky that I have been able to grow a baby after being told for 15 years that wouldn’t be a possibility but I hate my pregnant body. I still have the fat and loose belly from before but then with a bump stuck on the front of it. I’m in pain all the time, which means I’m not sleeping so it’s affecting the rest of me too. I’ve managed to escape pregnancy with no weight gain but I feel so huge.

I think your photo is fantastic and if I had your body I would be happy to show it off too.

Oh sweetheart. That breaks my heart. Truly. Because you've been so open and honest. You have this amazing, incredible miracle happening and while you completely love and appreciate that I'm guessing you keep being told you should glory in your body and it makes you feel worse because you can't?

I wish you could. I know you see the beauty of what it is doing, that isn't what I mean. But I so hope that when the pain and discomfort are done and you hold that little boy, you can find a love for your body again.

All the love to you

And thank you xx

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By *ancer36Woman over a year ago

Stirling

Absolutely love this post! Love your body it’s the only one you’ve got, be proud of the skin your in!

You look fantastic as always Posh, a very empowering and confident pose, we woman should embrace all that the woman’s body is because it’s fucking beautiful

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Honestly NSP this bought tears to my eyes for so many reasons. You’re so brave to talk like this. I myself have been everything from a 10-22 and I hate my belly and pretty much well most of me. I have scars, lumps, bumps, wobbly bits but my body has carried me through depression, physical health issues, cancer scares, loosing a child, surgeries and all sorts. So I felt every bit of emotion you put into that post. You’re a gorgeous woman and you post some amazing pics I wish I had the balls to do the same!

First, yay! It's amazing how much it makes the world of difference when someone wants to touch us and make us feel like goddesses isn't it?! I'm so happy for you xx

I hope that feeling stays with you and you can grow to really see the beauty of all of you. Because it is there. Your body is amazing and as you say, it has carried you through all of this.

It takes time. It does. I'm not there yet and I have a lot of issues still, as I've said. But I'm finally getting there. And although the people I have mentioned help in all kinds of ways, I also know that's not a guarantee. I can't rely on them to always make me feel good. It is too much pressure for them and that's not fair.

Not only that, I do know that whether or not they continue to be in my life and make me feel this way, I need to make me feel this way myself. It has to come from me. Or the feeling will not only leave if they do, I will fo back to hating my body again. And that isn't fair to them or me.

You rock xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

* Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if I turn the lights low and scrunch up my eyes, I can at least try to convince myself that the reflection in the mirror won't frighten too many children..."

Polly, thank you for sharing. I have no way of fully understanding your feelings, obviously. And I wish it weren't as it is. Being able to live with those feelings makes you so very strong.

I was concerned when I wrote the post that anyone feeling in the wrong body would not appreciate my words, I can see how they could be hurtful, and I apologise if that is the case to you and anyone else.

I hope you do glory in the parts of your body that aren't the wrong ones. I hope that despite those you can find some way to love you. I see so much love for you on here and I really hope you get that live and support in the real world as well.

You're a warrior queen. And you, in so many more ways than many, are so much more than the sum of your parts

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Just read this thread. As a male . From my prospective. Since teenager have been described as ‘ seven stone weakling ‘ etc. Yet due to sport which played for town and county . Was very fit. Just not muscular etc as most males. Yet never bothered about body shape etc. If on holiday and at late night someone suggested skinny dipping . Would be one of first to strip . Also not well endowed when soft ? But never had complaint about size from any female. Unless they were being polite ? "

It sounds to me that despite what others have said, you are able to do what I hope and be happy with your body. For the most part. I hope that continues and you never lose it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fuck being perfect.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Lol I'm out x

That's a shame. You should rock your body. Men shouldn't feel they can't rock theirs too!

Unfortunately we dont get the same degree of love from people for our bodies x"

I wish you could see that isn't the case. But regardless of the love that others have for your body, this is about your love for it. You need to find that for you. Others can help you, but it must come from you. And I know how hard that is x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Mine is my belly. Since I started injecting insulin because of diabetes many years ago it is now bigger than my boobs"

Oh sweetheart, I don't know how to express what I want to say. Because I want to say it must have been hard to come to terms with the change, but I don't quite mean it in that way. I hope you can see what I'm saying (badly).

Your body fighting against you must be hard. And to see the change as a direct result must be hard.

I hope you can embrace your belly and accept it. I truly do. It is helping to keep you alive and well and that's glorious.

Much love to you xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Just see this thread. Firstly NSP I love that body and like many other men have said would live to explore it further. Well done on the thread and putting yourself out there.

I've been bullied in the past for my size, which has really affected my vision of myself. Its my tummy I really hate which seems similar to others on here.

So to stand in unity with you and many other I'm putting a picture I don't like up on my profile pic for a few hours.

Thank you for this thread, thank you for the encouragement to get out of my comfort zone for a bit. "

I'm so glad I could help you. That's what I wanted from this.

And I can relate to what you say about being half social butterfly and half wanting to sink into the ground. When everyone around you is smaller and more petite, or buffer and you feel they're better proportioned it can be so difficult. Those younger selves of ours start screaming all the obscenities that others have in the past.

On those days, try and find the volume knob. Turn the bullies down and don't join them. And turn up the voice of that social butterfly. You have a fantastic body. Rock it xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm in.... Or should that be out?!

You don't look after something you don't like, be it s in the garden or an old knackered car etc. Why do we feel hating our bodies will lead us to change it for the better.

I love my body and so want to look after it. I am starting to feed it better, listen to what it wants (even if that is a burger from time to time), making it stronger.

Love your bodies people. I love all of yours x

Evie, there is literally nothing I can add to this. You've said it so well

You're an absolute inspiration to me woman. And to so many. You practise what you preach and are glorious.

Thank you xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

You and me have been side by side in that category for as long as we have known each other Frida.

Let's drag each other out kicking and screaming one day

We have been indeed Posh, thank you for supporting me when I've needed a boost. We will crack it one day because we want to.

And I hear you about posting these things when others fat shame. I'm recovering from eating disorders. People don't realise the harm fat shaming does.

Thanks for being body positive

I'm trying, my sweet. Every day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x"

Be contented and the brain will switch off.

Unfortunately, our brain conspires against us and seems to be geared towards seeking approval rather than contentment…..or is that the heart’s fault?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

* Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if I turn the lights low and scrunch up my eyes, I can at least try to convince myself that the reflection in the mirror won't frighten too many children...

I get it Polly!

either it’s TOO BIG (like my shoulders, and my arms and my waist, and my feet ) or TOO SMALL (my boobies, my bum etc) and It always puts me in front of the reality that I’m not a cis woman.

Obviously I’m trying to deal with it as best as I can x

You are such a force of positivity Kylie. Really amazing.

As I said in my reply to Polly, I can't begin to understand how you feel. And I hope that you do find that when you have your corrections you can begin to truly love your body in its glory. Your shape will hopefully be something that you feel is as beautiful as we think it is xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Absolutely love this post! Love your body it’s the only one you’ve got, be proud of the skin your in!

You look fantastic as always Posh, a very empowering and confident pose, we woman should embrace all that the woman’s body is because it’s fucking beautiful

xx"

You

I love that you have the attitude I strive for every day you gorgeous, gorgeous human

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

fuck being perfect. "

Perfectly you. Always

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x

Be contented and the brain will switch off.

Unfortunately, our brain conspires against us and seems to be geared towards seeking approval rather than contentment…..or is that the heart’s fault?"

I'd say both. Mostly brain. The heart looks for love.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x

Be contented and the brain will switch off.

Unfortunately, our brain conspires against us and seems to be geared towards seeking approval rather than contentment…..or is that the heart’s fault?

I'd say both. Mostly brain. The heart looks for love."

….but is the seeking of love what drives the brain to seek the approval we think we need in order to be contented?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Girls made me feel ugly when I was young. Whether I'm ugly or not is irrelevant (I'm not) but being pushed aside and made to feel like your less than your friends is hard. It gets in your head and stays there.

I did blossom and have had many women fancy me, had good, long relationships, despite being a big and tall bloke. The problem is my default setting is that women won't like me. That doesn't hold me back however. I'm smart enough to believe people when they tell me there's nowt wrong with me. What I lack in confidence I make up in courage. What I lack in looks I make up for in character.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x

Be contented and the brain will switch off.

Unfortunately, our brain conspires against us and seems to be geared towards seeking approval rather than contentment…..or is that the heart’s fault?

I'd say both. Mostly brain. The heart looks for love.

….but is the seeking of love what drives the brain to seek the approval we think we need in order to be contented?"

I believe you're right. The two do tend towards hand in hand.

Usually in my case, hand in hand to skip merrily over the edge of a cliff....

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Girls made me feel ugly when I was young. Whether I'm ugly or not is irrelevant (I'm not) but being pushed aside and made to feel like your less than your friends is hard. It gets in your head and stays there.

That's a wonderful post, and exactly what I hope others will be encouraged to find in themselves.

I don't think it's about being smart though, I think it's about finding the courage to allow people who say good things to shout down the echoes of the ones who have said bad things.

And the courage to know that doing so, having confidence in yourself, is not the bad thing we are always told it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Carlsberg don't do body positivity threads in the forums of Swingers websites, but if they did ...they'd still not be as good as this one!

Posh, you're a diamond for kicking this off and everyone for baring themselves, written or otherwise.

I used to have so many of the hangups about my body that I've been reading above, and some of it, when I'm in the wrong frame of mind, still irks me (bit's being too big, bits being too small, surgery scars that stand out). But accepting I'll never be the perfect version of me I could never be, I'm happy to keep trying, but so long as I stay healthy, the rest of it is just trivial.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Carlsberg don't do body positivity threads in the forums of Swingers websites, but if they did ...they'd still not be as good as this one!

Posh, you're a diamond for kicking this off and everyone for baring themselves, written or otherwise.

Thank you Dai. It's been a really hopeful and positive experience once again. For me and I hope for others.

You have that balance between self love and acceptance that many people strive for, it seems, and as long as you stay out of the wrong frame as much as possible, you'll continue to rock it!

You do make me smile x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Beautiful thread Posh, so much body positivity. I love it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a body. It works, mostly.

I think I’m happy with my brain so yayyyy!!!

You can't improve on your body. No one can. You can only change it. You always seem quite settled with yours lovely man.

And I adore your brain xx

Thank you, you lovely lady. I’m settled because I’m far too lazy to change it and I’m not going to wear platforms!!

My brain has got me here and I’m not going to trouble it with extra work to dwell on something others may not find appealing.

You have a very fine brain Posh. That’s why you started this thread. Now trouble it no longer.

If only I could turn it off sometimes I'd be far more content x

Be contented and the brain will switch off.

Unfortunately, our brain conspires against us and seems to be geared towards seeking approval rather than contentment…..or is that the heart’s fault?

I'd say both. Mostly brain. The heart looks for love.

….but is the seeking of love what drives the brain to seek the approval we think we need in order to be contented?

I believe you're right. The two do tend towards hand in hand.

Usually in my case, hand in hand to skip merrily over the edge of a cliff...."

We are all lemmings to our heart!!

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I very much dislike my lack of any definition whatsoever but like the folks above me - chuff it who cares, really?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Great Post posh, you always come across as such a nice person in your posts too

Miss xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Beautiful thread Posh, so much body positivity. I love it.

Thanks LBC.

You always have such a positive attitude. I love reading you

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I very much dislike my lack of any definition whatsoever but like the folks above me - chuff it who cares, really?"

Yes! That's brilliant! Rock that body Mr!!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Great Post posh, you always come across as such a nice person in your posts too

Miss xx"

Thank you so much Miss. I try to just be myself and hope it doesn't offend really.

I've loved this thread xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I just want to say thank you to all who have joined this thread, and thank you for being so open and honest. I really do hope that those of you who have found a way to love your bodies can find it in you to help others love theirs a little every day, as so many have done here.

And I hope that in a small way we have helped people already with this.

You all rock. You're awesome.

And those who have sent gorgeous messages, thank you for your support. To those who think it's alright to abuse others in public or private, I hope you come to realise that it's cruel and can have lasting effects. And I hope you have a rethink for the future.

Love yourselves people.

Make your partners feel like goddesses and heroes. And do the same for a stranger now and then

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Theres only 1 part of my body that I am disappointed in. I still love it, but my cavalier attitude to my health and perceptions of invulnerability when younger have contributed to it no longer functioning in a way I find acceptable.

However, while I am looking into what I can do to help with it, it doesn’t define me but it is something I have to consider when talking to people about prospective meets to avoid any potential issues.

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