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By *i_fwb_76 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Exactly, and that’s one way to you can figure out they're fake!
It’s probably a long shot finding genuine Dom’s on here.
Fem or Male!
Same finding subs. "
I would of thought that’s easier, as it seems a lot of women want to be submissive. Or maybe it’s more difficult to find a sub for a Mistress |
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"Exactly, and that’s one way to you can figure out they're fake!
It’s probably a long shot finding genuine Dom’s on here.
Fem or Male!
Same finding subs.
I would of thought that’s easier, as it seems a lot of women want to be submissive. Or maybe it’s more difficult to find a sub for a Mistress"
It didn't use to be. I have a totally unproven theory: men were dominant in the workplace. All my subs were over 50, high fliers who just wanted to relinquish a part of their life to someone else.
Nowadays, with remote working, equality in the workplace, life in general there's no need.
That sounded clearer in my head, but I trust you get what I mean.  |
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"What makes someone a genuine dominant?
Someone who is a genuine Dominant will know what it is to be a Dom.
Know how to treat his/her sub.
Either you are or you’re not! "
Insightful lol
Each sub likes to be treated differently though, so what you need may be different to what I need in terms of scenes, aftercare, communication etc. Doesn't make the Dom's I play with or the Dom's you play with any less genuine, does it?
I agree that that there are too many on here that offer Dominant type profiles but think it's just about rough sex or barking orders at you. But then this isn't a BDSM specific site |
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"What makes someone a genuine dominant?
Someone who is a genuine Dominant will know what it is to be a Dom.
Know how to treat his/her sub.
Either you are or you’re not! "
How do they know these things? |
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"What makes someone a genuine dominant?
Someone who is a genuine Dominant will know what it is to be a Dom.
Know how to treat his/her sub.
Either you are or you’re not! "
What is real. Something that's real. Someone who knows they are real. Someone who knows how to treat those that are unreal. Either you are real or you are not.
that's my take on it anyhoooo.
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"What makes someone a genuine dominant?
Someone who is a genuine Dominant will know what it is to be a Dom.
Know how to treat his/her sub.
Either you are or you’re not!
How do they know these things?"
Sigh ...... here I go again.
Someone who is strong will know what it is to be strong. They will know how to treat the 'not strong'. Either you are strong or you are not!
That's my take on it any hooooooo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All dynamics are individual and unique as well, so what works for some may not work for others.
I’m unbelievably lucky with mine, but we suit each other, our dynamic works beautifully for us, but it may not with others. |
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"Exactly, and that’s one way to you can figure out they're fake!
It’s probably a long shot finding genuine Dom’s on here.
Fem or Male!
Same finding subs. "
Too many male and fem subs on this site
As for Dom men yes they are very special rare talent
Just like the Dom women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse."
Also just to be clear, I cringed inside typing that last paragraph. I hate labels.
I believe Ds are just like other relationships, with a few sprinkles on top |
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse."
Yep. In my opinion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There was a very goid dim. On here a while back called the Friendly Dom. He was fantastic. Taught my fuck buddy how to be sub and dom towards me. Mind fucking games. Texts. Phone calls. Correct lighting. Correct music. All these things were very important. And then when all 3vof us met for the first tk e it was electric. We all knew how to make it special for all of us with very little effort. He had been the guy we had been looking for for 3 years. Shame he is off the site niw. Can't get out anymore due to the suspicions of his wife. Shame though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd consider myself more of a switch but I'm definitely genuine.
Although it's very hard to find a genuine submissive on here to be perfectly honest.
I'm usually Dom with ladies and Sub with guys.
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"There was a very goid dim. On here a while back called the Friendly Dom. He was fantastic. Taught my fuck buddy how to be sub and dom towards me. Mind fucking games. Texts. Phone calls. Correct lighting. Correct music. All these things were very important. And then when all 3vof us met for the first tk e it was electric. We all knew how to make it special for all of us with very little effort. He had been the guy we had been looking for for 3 years. Shame he is off the site niw. Can't get out anymore due to the suspicions of his wife. Shame though. "
Yeah ..... Those fucking suspicious wives..... something should be done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not so much if they are real, im sure the person who has bought the £15 bdsm starter kit and watched 50 shades thinks they are real.
Its having someone who has knowledge and experience and is genuine and trustworthy and that's not including having the same connection and dynamic.
I met my Sir here so it does happen.
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse.
Also just to be clear, I cringed inside typing that last paragraph. I hate labels.
I believe Ds are just like other relationships, with a few sprinkles on top"
What if someone wants their pussy grabbing and their throat slapping ..... does that work for you? |
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I’ve known a few over the years here but they’re massively outnumbered by the ones that watched 50 shades and fancy a crack at something completely different. A lot of conversation sifts them out though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse.
Also just to be clear, I cringed inside typing that last paragraph. I hate labels.
I believe Ds are just like other relationships, with a few sprinkles on top
What if someone wants their pussy grabbing and their throat slapping ..... does that work for you?"
sorry GC. Your kink isn't my kink. But I hope you don't feel judged.
Also you are probably the best and funniest forumite. Please don't change |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What if someone wants their pussy grabbing and their throat slapping ..... does that work for you?"
And I'm just a fat dude who got lucky 25 years ago and found a woman who liked to do the things he liked.
There are lots and lots of people much better at bdsm and sex on here than I am. |
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse.
Also just to be clear, I cringed inside typing that last paragraph. I hate labels.
I believe Ds are just like other relationships, with a few sprinkles on top
What if someone wants their pussy grabbing and their throat slapping ..... does that work for you?sorry GC. Your kink isn't my kink. But I hope you don't feel judged.
Also you are probably the best and funniest forumite. Please don't change"
Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting reading, some insightful observations.
So glad to see the "me, me, me, I'm Dom, I'll fuck you up" types haven't chipped in and ruined the thread! Please if that's you, stay away and let the grown-ups carry on with their sharing of wisdom! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"What makes someone a genuine dominant?
Someone who is a genuine Dominant will know what it is to be a Dom.
Know how to treat his/her sub.
Either you are or you’re not!
How do they know these things?"
True, last thing to discover water would be fish.
Well unless the fish have been watching Nemo does Darwin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!"
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!"
That’s not a Dom  , that’s not what would work for me anyway (I know it’s jokes) |
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!"
Remember that everyone. I am the Dom ! All I need now is a grey and sepia photo with an Oxfam leather belt around my fist and everyone will know im genuine...... |
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!
That’s not a Dom , that’s not what would work for me anyway (I know it’s jokes)"
Stop it F.A. ! I have a silicon toilet brush that gets everywhere! Remember that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!
That’s not a Dom , that’s not what would work for me anyway (I know it’s jokes)
Stop it F.A. ! I have a silicon toilet brush that gets everywhere! Remember that "
Ive seen those. Look dreadfully hygenic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!
That’s not a Dom , that’s not what would work for me anyway (I know it’s jokes)
Stop it F.A. ! I have a silicon toilet brush that gets everywhere! Remember that "
all joking aside that sounds like a useful toy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thanks but you spoiled it now! I wanted you to say YEP I can do that....... then i'd be the dom.
You have passed the 'genuine' test.
Full marks..... go up one year!
But I feel bad that I spoiled it!!
So I succeed and pass the test but still end up feeling bad ... you ARE the dom!!!
That’s not a Dom , that’s not what would work for me anyway (I know it’s jokes)
Stop it F.A. ! I have a silicon toilet brush that gets everywhere! Remember that "
I don’t know whether to be excited, horrified or disgusted |
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I'm a female Domme, I also find it hard to find true submissives, they say this they say that..but all they want is to fuck
I think it might be better going to a club or munch for the fetish lifestyle than finding someone on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a female Domme, I also find it hard to find true submissives, they say this they say that..but all they want is to fuck
I think it might be better going to a club or munch for the fetish lifestyle than finding someone on here "
That's logical and correct but people active in the scene will also tell you how difficult it is to find someone there.
Bdsm is hard. Finding the right connections can be difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience, you have a better chance at finding a good dominant or submissive only in munches and kink events. It is hard to go through all the fake profiles on the internet to find the right person. |
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"Don’t they all think they are genuine?"
I start with the words they use in messages. Messages that say they want to "use and abuse" me in the first message, pretty much makes me realise that they don't understand that it's based on respect and trust. |
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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago
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"When I read the title of your thread I groaned a little inside.
The genuine/true dom tag is a tricky one to pin on people. Or to claim. I'm very suspicious of anyone who claims a title in their name for example. It just doesn't sit right with me.
And we all sit on a spectrum. So Domly dom might measure 100 on the scale and part time dom might only measure 25. But if part time dom finds someone who gives him control of an aspect of their lives then he is just as much a dominant.
You might find Mr A quite dominant. He might be your ideal dom. But he might not be suitable for another submissive woman.
So what's genuine to you might be a "fake" to another.
I am a Dominant in my relationship. But if you want someone who will tickle you to tears and call you princess then I'm not the Dominant for you.
But if you want your throat grabbed and pussy slapped then I'm more your type.
D/s is complicated and quite diverse."
The male that gets to hold my throat wouldn't class himself as a "Dom" nor would I want him to.
Conversely I wouldn't deem myself as dominant but in the wrong mood and an unsuspecting female generally in group situations with consent. I can be wicked but these are few and far between.
Each to their beautiful own  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always found it difficult to find a Dom/me who has the same interests and desires as me. For some Dom/mes it’s just a sexual thing, which is fine as we all have different wants and needs, but my interests aren’t just sexual as I like being a lifestyle sub as well and controlled in all aspects of every day life. It would be easier if I was only interested in being a sex sub, especially when it comes to Dom’s. |
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