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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts? |
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over a year ago
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?"
I feel u girl, get it all the time and gets on my tits!
If I want a threesome then I’m the one deciding, as you said we aren’t performing monkeys for others.
Unless it’s well spoken about with someone you trust and met a few times, it’s so not on to go from 0-60 about these things…
Drives me up the walls… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You wanted different things
I'd say his actions were ill timed at best, 'pushy' at worst
Thankfully, for you, he revealed motive before you invested any more time |
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I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable. |
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?"
I hear you. The phrase is something I say a lot lol to chancers and randomers, along with
'it's not instashag'
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I feel very much the same way when approached by a lot of couples. Especially if the mention the husband watching at any point. Or the worst are the ones try to organise a surprise or a threesome as a gift. |
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable. "
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We’re exactly the same so you’re not being over sensitive at all.
We always ask couples what the are looking for in a meet situation and quite often they respond with:
‘so long as the girls put on a good show for us guys then we don’t care’ or something along those lines.
This is a massive turn off. We’re all there to play, not to perform or put on a show. If you feel you need to watch a show go to a strip club. Usually that’s the end of the chat for us as we know we’re all looking for different things.
So carry on being you OP!
- John
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process. "
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company "
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
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By *opsy71Woman
over a year ago
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?
I hear you. The phrase is something I say a lot lol to chancers and randomers, along with
'it's not instashag'
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Ha ha love that not instashag, I'm gonna blatantly nick that line |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
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If only I was a women, I could reply to all the undesirables, sorry computer says no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
Error. Error loading.
If only I was a women, I could reply to all the undesirables, sorry computer says no."
Ah. So you insist women should reply ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’re exactly the same so you’re not being over sensitive at all.
We always ask couples what the are looking for in a meet situation and quite often they respond with:
‘so long as the girls put on a good show for us guys then we don’t care’ or something along those lines.
This is a massive turn off. We’re all there to play, not to perform or put on a show. If you feel you need to watch a show go to a strip club. Usually that’s the end of the chat for us as we know we’re all looking for different things.
So carry on being you OP!
- John
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would just look at it as a good clue to the person and vet and reject on that basis. I wouldn't though take it as a personal slight
Just as a signal to say goodbye. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
Error. Error loading.
If only I was a women, I could reply to all the undesirables, sorry computer says no.
Ah. So you insist women should reply ? "
Oooh you cheeky little scamp, that's not what I meant. I would if I had anything to reply to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's good to establish early on whether we have the same ideas about meeting. Keeps things simple if these things are discussed upfront and for me it's part of the decision to meet process. So you have different ideas? Great. Next please. Not sure what being sensitive has to do with it though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
Error. Error loading.
If only I was a women, I could reply to all the undesirables, sorry computer says no.
Ah. So you insist women should reply ?
Oooh you cheeky little scamp, that's not what I meant. I would if I had anything to reply to "
I exist to be cheeky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable.
Fab is like an ongoing interview/assessment process.
It does feel like that sometimes tell us why you should work for the company
What makes you ideal candidate for some fake appreciation and sweet experience of a momentary passion.
Error. Error loading.
If only I was a women, I could reply to all the undesirables, sorry computer says no.
Ah. So you insist women should reply ?
Oooh you cheeky little scamp, that's not what I meant. I would if I had anything to reply to
I exist to be cheeky. "
Indeed you do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like going to a restaurant and eating dessert before your starter and main course.
Or it's like listening to an album from into the beginning.
There is a format of any kind of engagement but along that journey you find out if you're compatible and want to experience that together.
Sum people just don't have any Etiquettes.
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I'm straight and I've had this in the past on my single profile, the old ill bring a female friend along.
I just reminded them I'm straight and not just here to make their fantasies come true.
I can see why it annoys you op, it annoyed me too as it feels as if all they want is for you to please them,without taking your wants into account.
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It's very common. They don't seem to grasp that we're selective and once we've filtered the dross and unsuitable out, to get a possible match, then we'll supersize the 'meal' with any odd addon.
They'll often just add comments like he's got a big cock, assuming just that's sufficient. Or that you'd not be creeped out with some random guy in your room watching |
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One size doesn't fit all.
The way people select playmates will differ. I wouldn't be offended by this approach but it wouldn't be for me, so we would probably not be compatible.
No time wasted: win win in my book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One size doesn't fit all.
The way people select playmates will differ. I wouldn't be offended by this approach but it wouldn't be for me, so we would probably not be compatible.
No time wasted: win win in my book."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww this is the normal I get a lot thinking I can arrange my friend and come as a package but no, we definitely don’t do for entertainment and not want to be second choice, so ignore them there us some nice ones shame a few try to ruin it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d say the OP is justified in her feelings. You’re here for your own enjoyment not to be a plaything for others. Some on here will try to take advantage so its good its come up now and you can walk away. Hope someone more mature and respectful comes along. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That shit does my head in... Along with, "well if you don't want me, would any of your mates be interested?", seriously, fuck off! I organise socials not other people's sex lives ffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel very much the same way when approached by a lot of couples. Especially if the mention the husband watching at any point. Or the worst are the ones try to organise a surprise or a threesome as a gift. "
This or when the female messages and says "would love for you to help me put a show on for hubby"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?"
Ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Single guys are so bad for this, a friend of mine I have been meeting said he knew someone for threesomes, I said you can't just throw two women together and say play together now I swear in their little heads it would turn out like in porn ... but you can't fuck someone without attraction and chemistry?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why don't you use message filters and select who You want to interact with.
Saves complaining about others and you can enjoy the site."
She does have filters on! Why should people have block single men and actually its ok to be annoyed at something! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?"
got to respect ones choice when it comes to adding got to take of buisness to make everyone enjoy it all
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why don't you use message filters and select who You want to interact with.
Saves complaining about others and you can enjoy the site."
I get your point about filters but this is a situation that filters wouldnt protect you from. I could have filters on, read your profile, reach out to you and you could still be the type of person who suggests something outlandish. You dont know until you’ve spoken to the person. Xx |
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"Single guys are so bad for this, a friend of mine I have been meeting said he knew someone for threesomes, I said you can't just throw two women together and say play together now I swear in their little heads it would turn out like in porn ... but you can't fuck someone without attraction and chemistry? "
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"Why don't you use message filters and select who You want to interact with.
Saves complaining about others and you can enjoy the site."
This makes no sense, if she’s looking for a single guy she can’t put that filter on, that doesn’t mean she’s asking for a a random 3 some with him and his female friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's an instant sod off from me (mrs)..I'm not a circus act..we like to take our time to get to know our playmates..I wonder if the guy would feel ok about putting on a show with just the guys!!! |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why don't you use message filters and select who You want to interact with.
Saves complaining about others and you can enjoy the site."
So when guys either don’t read and accept my profile which makes it clear about what I am and what I am not looking for, or read it and then chose to ignore the bits that don’t work for them that’s ok is it? I think it’s dishonest. It pisses me off and I have every right to feel the way I do.
If you’d bothered to look properly you’d have seen that Yes I do in fact have filters on. Unfortunately it doesn’t filter out people that act like this. |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why don't you use message filters and select who You want to interact with.
Saves complaining about others and you can enjoy the site.
This makes no sense, if she’s looking for a single guy she can’t put that filter on, that doesn’t mean she’s asking for a a random 3 some with him and his female friend"
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
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"I know I’m bi but when a guy I barely know asks about bringing someone else to my home (not straight away)to watch/play it really pushes all the wrong buttons for me. I’m not a performing monkey just there for them to play out their fantasy. The fact that they’re asking about it before they’ve really got to know me as an individual just makes me feel worthless. Or am I being too sensitive? In the right context and in my own good time I may not be averse to the idea of a threesome. But right now I feel deceived, angry and very disappointed. What are your thoughts?
I feel u girl, get it all the time and gets on my tits!
If I want a threesome then I’m the one deciding, as you said we aren’t performing monkeys for others.
Unless it’s well spoken about with someone you trust and met a few times, it’s so not on to go from 0-60 about these things…
Drives me up the walls… "
It certainly does
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
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"I think some people want to know if you'll be up for the things they want to do, before putting in any time and effort to get to know you. A little shallow but entirely understandable. "
I would agree except in this instant my profile makes it very clear that I’m not looking for a threesome |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
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"I feel very much the same way when approached by a lot of couples. Especially if the mention the husband watching at any point. Or the worst are the ones try to organise a surprise or a threesome as a gift. "
It’s the sense of being used just to fulfill someone else’s fantasy or wish list that I dislike I’m just not interested in that. |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You wanted different things
I'd say his actions were ill timed at best, 'pushy' at worst
Thankfully, for you, he revealed motive before you invested any more time"
He was shown the door |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We’re exactly the same so you’re not being over sensitive at all.
We always ask couples what the are looking for in a meet situation and quite often they respond with:
‘so long as the girls put on a good show for us guys then we don’t care’ or something along those lines.
This is a massive turn off. We’re all there to play, not to perform or put on a show. If you feel you need to watch a show go to a strip club. Usually that’s the end of the chat for us as we know we’re all looking for different things.
So carry on being you OP!
- John
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Thank you |
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By *nfin8y OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’d say the OP is justified in her feelings. You’re here for your own enjoyment not to be a plaything for others. Some on here will try to take advantage so its good its come up now and you can walk away. Hope someone more mature and respectful comes along. X "
Thank you |
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