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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK so recently I found out that my partner finds it a real turn on for me to play with someone's dick.
How it happened Its been mentioned a couple times now with a kinda yh yh dismiss have some fun dirty talk.
But I found myself in the bath last night with my wife's dildo. She texted asked what I'm up to so I sent her a photo. Cheeky I no. But trying to squeeze that thing in. It just wouldn't happen 
Anyway this led onto some filthy talk via text and I found myself now out of the bath and downstairs playing with myself as we talked.
She told me it really turned her on. And it did me too.
I found my dick just absolutely dripping of the thought of me just slowly stocking a nice cock. Just having a fondel.
Anyways. I don't find men attractive not one little bit in fact I find men the opposite they are not good looking at all in my own honest opinion!!
But in saying that. There are some dreamy dicks as well as some beautiful pussys.
I wouldn't call myself bi not even a little bit. But what is it that a cock turned me on so much. Maybe just the thought of being naughty or just that it was turning us both on so much.
Anyone else have this at all or been through similar  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haha maybe you just like the thought of dick? As in, the member on its own not particularly attached to a man if you obviously don’t find men attractive 
Sometimes we detach part and pieces, the only way for you to know if you are bisexual would be to be in the situation and see if it does nothing for you (the whole package of a man) then you may be bisexual/bicurious
Either way, don’t think too much about the labels and have fun x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha maybe you just like the thought of dick? As in, the member on its own not particularly attached to a man if you obviously don’t find men attractive
Sometimes we detach part and pieces, the only way for you to know if you are bisexual would be to be in the situation and see if it does nothing for you (the whole package of a man) then you may be bisexual/bicurious
Either way, don’t think too much about the labels and have fun x
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I mean if it does it for you u may be … |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha maybe you just like the thought of dick? As in, the member on its own not particularly attached to a man if you obviously don’t find men attractive
Sometimes we detach part and pieces, the only way for you to know if you are bisexual would be to be in the situation and see if it does nothing for you (the whole package of a man) then you may be bisexual/bicurious
Either way, don’t think too much about the labels and have fun x
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I see, dumped me now have you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha maybe you just like the thought of dick? As in, the member on its own not particularly attached to a man if you obviously don’t find men attractive
Sometimes we detach part and pieces, the only way for you to know if you are bisexual would be to be in the situation and see if it does nothing for you (the whole package of a man) then you may be bisexual/bicurious
Either way, don’t think too much about the labels and have fun x
I see, dumped me now have you "
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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This didn't "make" you bi. You are what you are.
Sexuality should be thought more as a sliding scale from 1 to 100. Everyone is somewhere on the line and lots of people will move along the line in either direction at different times in their life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight."
What about if it was only once and it was cause the light was dancing off the bellend, what then ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can suck your own cock and did it, are you now Bi ?
Don’t over think it, plenty will give you their opinions but it’s up to you to decide.  "
Wait a minute, I touch my penis, this changes everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can suck your own cock and did it, are you now Bi ?
Don’t over think it, plenty will give you their opinions but it’s up to you to decide.
Wait a minute, I touch my penis, this changes everything. "
Is this your coming out party? Haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight.
What about if it was only once and it was cause the light was dancing off the bellend, what then ?!"
If it was only once and they no longer turned on by one, then it was a satisfied bicuriosity.
The real question is why people are so resistant to being thought of as gay or bisexual, dodging every which way, but happy to embrace the straight tag so easily |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yh I get that. See where your coming from. But it's not a label. It's who u are a guess and that label explains that. Surely
Use reply and quote, makes it easier to see who you’re referring to "
Aha thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't worry about it.
Part of what you are doing to yourself is lusting after the forbidden. You are getting a kick from being "naughty".
Don't worry about labels or defining yourself. Maybe you will enjoy sucking cock. Or maybe you will be offered the chance and decline. It doesn't matter. Just embrace it and keep talking with your wife. Maybe try a bit of bi mmf porn together to see how it feels.
Good luck on your journey |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry about it.
Part of what you are doing to yourself is lusting after the forbidden. You are getting a kick from being "naughty".
Don't worry about labels or defining yourself. Maybe you will enjoy sucking cock. Or maybe you
will be offered the chance and decline. It doesn't matter. Just embrace it and keep talking with your wife. Maybe try a bit of bi mmf porn together to see how it feels.
Good luck on your journey "
Thank you good advice
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight.
So we are just cocks and little else then?"
We are talking about sex and arousal on this thread |
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By *igmaMan
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight.
So we are just cocks and little else then?
We are talking about sex and arousal on this thread"
I did read the OP. Epitome is a bit strong for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight.
So we are just cocks and little else then?
We are talking about sex and arousal on this thread
I did read the OP. Epitome is a bit strong for me!"
That is you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight."
I dunno if I'd agree with that. I mean for sure if you're attracted to cock you're somewhere along the spectrum, but I think the difference between outright gay and on the spectrum is being fully attracted to masculinity, male physiology, sexuality and behaviour. |
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Who cares? Why be so definitive about sexuality? Just do what you enjoy, and who cares what label anyone wants to put on it. It’s just words.
If you want to play with a cock or take a cock, have fun and enjoy it and don’t bother worrying about whether that makes you bi or gay or whatever ... the important thing is whether you enjoy it or not.
I have given up trying to define my own sexuality by anyone else’s frame of reference. It’s meaningless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the cock is the EPITOME of a man, any male turned on by one is absolutely not straight.
I dunno if I'd agree with that. I mean for sure if you're attracted to cock you're somewhere along the spectrum, but I think the difference between outright gay and on the spectrum is being fully attracted to masculinity, male physiology, sexuality and behaviour. "
I never said anyone fully gay, bi spectrum especially though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never said anyone fully gay, bi spectrum especially though "
Yeah, fair does, I didn't totally absorb your post. I tend to speed read threads till I see something interesting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I the m half consider myself bi, but dont fancy men, but love cock play, make of that what you will, i also enjoy mrs chair pegging me, but not sure i want a man to fuck me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cocks are lovely to suck I dont blame you being aroused.
Do they taste savoury ? "
Can't believe a fit lad like you hasn't sampled your own. I did when I was that skinny. It sort of tasted like skin with a bit of salty honey once the precum started |
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"This didn't "make" you bi. You are what you are.
Sexuality should be thought more as a sliding scale from 1 to 100. Everyone is somewhere on the line and lots of people will move along the line in either direction at different times in their life.
Gbat"
I agree with the changing view as we age. We live in an age where people feel that they need to label or put someone in a box.
Recently i got turned on thinking about my friend and her fella both sucking my cock together... am I Bi... I don't care if I am or not, the question is if i would enjoy the experience at that time. I would not put Bi in my profile description as it may be as much about trust with a couple as about me enjoying it and having just any guy sucking my cock... I can't see that being a thing.
I saw a post by a couple who had a glory hole and suggested that it could be either of them, this turned me off... but with the cancel culture I may be labelled a Homophobe! |
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By *u41Man
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t class you as gay or bi OP.
I’m sort of in the same boat. I would class myself a straight/bi curious. Only if I’m really horny I would be willing to suck dick and do anal. But don’t find men attractive at all.
If women was more into pegging than I wouldn’t even bother meeting men. Always find women attractive and been in relationships. You know your not gay/ bi when you go to meet a man and you struggle to get hard but still have the sexual thought all sucking him off. Maybe I’m just different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cocks are lovely to suck I dont blame you being aroused.
Do they taste savoury ?
Can't believe a fit lad like you hasn't sampled your own. I did when I was that skinny. It sort of tasted like skin with a bit of salty honey once the precum started "
I’m not one to blow my own trumpet. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"Who cares!!
Just be free.
Do what you wanna do.
That’s what I’m gonna do.
I’m gonna try all sorts of freaky shit.
Just because I can.
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Exactly this. It “makes” you nothing more than you already consider yourself to be. Sexuality is fluid and if it was good at the time then that’s all that matters. Have fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cocks are lovely to suck I dont blame you being aroused.
Do they taste savoury ?
There is only one way to find out "
I'll hang around and watch and log the findings |
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Lose the labels, if you like a guy (or you just like his dick) then providing you are both cool with things and any boundaries are respected then just enjoy each other and if your mrs is cool and up for it too then win win win and bonus! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cocks are lovely to suck I dont blame you being aroused.
Do they taste savoury ?
There is only one way to find out
I'll hang around and watch and log the findings "
Purely for research purposes of course  |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Sounds pretty bi to me
However.. The nature of what leads you to this desire sounds like the mutual pleasure you get with your partner exploring these fantasies and turn ons. That is precious and hot.. Who cares what label anyone else might put on it. If yours looking for a structure/label/identity then it sounds like you're attracted to men and women but in slightly different ways. Which equates to bi. But maybe just enjoy the exploration for now.. Sounds great |
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If you want to try it then do it but don’t overthink it. I like to play with women sometimes and the thought of it turns me on. I don’t worry about what that makes me apart from that it makes me very happy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Saw a programme about making porn movies a few years ago, only watched because nothing else on obviously, and a man who made homosexual movies and his wife made lesbian movies both claimed they weren't gay or bi at all, how does that work!?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Saw a programme about making porn movies a few years ago, only watched because nothing else on obviously, and a man who made homosexual movies and his wife made lesbian movies both claimed they weren't gay or bi at all, how does that work!? "
It is rubbish, they are bi as a minimum but doing the pretend ‘gay-for-pay’ act as it appeals to some segments of porn watchers. Not a fetish of mine though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't want a relationship with a woman, but I'm attracted to parts of her and her abilities and vice versa  I do think this makes me bisexual though in my own opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This didn't "make" you bi. You are what you are.
Sexuality should be thought more as a sliding scale from 1 to 100. Everyone is somewhere on the line and lots of people will move along the line in either direction at different times in their life.
Gbat"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm like that with pussy.
I get a hankering to lick one now and then, but I'm not attracted to the rest of the woman.
Maybe a small pair of pert boobs though.
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My wife can relate shes is straight but loves to feel boobs against hers. However when she's horny and on the edge she will eat pussy if she thinks it will earn her an orgasm. Walking around aldi if I suggest it she would be repulsed.
During our first threesome we called her bi selfish cos she was happy to receive attention but not too keen to give it. (Until she was very keen)
Sexual orientation is complex and can be relatively fluid for some people.
I often think about it.
Brad pitt in fight club, with his marigolds, is just about my epitome of male beauty. He's undeniably gorgeous in that scene ... does that make me bi? Idk.
Or what about the time a guy asked could he suck my cock ... I thought about it ... does that make me bi?
Where is the line that divides straight from bi?
Personally I really don't think it matters. Brain chemistry changes how you feel about things. How many times have you scratched your head about a sexual partner or decision you made while the horn is ruling your brain? "At the time it made sense!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm like that with pussy.
I get a hankering to lick one now and then, but I'm not attracted to the rest of the woman.
Maybe a small pair of pert boobs though.
My wife can relate shes is straight but loves to feel boobs against hers. However when she's horny and on the edge she will eat pussy if she thinks it will earn her an orgasm. Walking around aldi if I suggest it she would be repulsed.
During our first threesome we called her bi selfish cos she was happy to receive attention but not too keen to give it. (Until she was very keen)
Sexual orientation is complex and can be relatively fluid for some people.
I often think about it.
Brad pitt in fight club, with his marigolds, is just about my epitome of male beauty. He's undeniably gorgeous in that scene ... does that make me bi? Idk.
Or what about the time a guy asked could he suck my cock ... I thought about it ... does that make me bi?
Where is the line that divides straight from bi?
Personally I really don't think it matters. Brain chemistry changes how you feel about things. How many times have you scratched your head about a sexual partner or decision you made while the horn is ruling your brain? "At the time it made sense!"
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Personally speaking I've never thought any man was undeniably gorgeous but I can see why a woman may.
With all due respect and without any prejudice whatsoever your wife, I'd say, is bisexual and what's wrong with that? |
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"OK so recently I found out that my partner finds it a real turn on for me to play with someone's dick.
How it happened Its been mentioned a couple times now with a kinda yh yh dismiss have some fun dirty talk.
But I found myself in the bath last night with my wife's dildo. She texted asked what I'm up to so I sent her a photo. Cheeky I no. But trying to squeeze that thing in. It just wouldn't happen
Anyway this led onto some filthy talk via text and I found myself now out of the bath and downstairs playing with myself as we talked.
She told me it really turned her on. And it did me too.
I found my dick just absolutely dripping of the thought of me just slowly stocking a nice cock. Just having a fondel.
Anyways. I don't find men attractive not one little bit in fact I find men the opposite they are not good looking at all in my own honest opinion!!
But in saying that. There are some dreamy dicks as well as some beautiful pussys.
I wouldn't call myself bi not even a little bit. But what is it that a cock turned me on so much. Maybe just the thought of being naughty or just that it was turning us both on so much.
Anyone else have this at all or been through similar "
I dont like Labels, but its no biggie when i have to tick one.....once youve crossed the line though,more than once,if you were to ask me straight status is no longer applicable, even though you can identify as whatever you want. I dragged my straight status out way past just stroking a cock, like when i was losing my hair, looking in the mirror and convincing myself its not that bad while everyone thinks it is that bad. Kinda miss the straight tag, but dont miss being sat on fence dithering.
Met t girl Saturday and was schooled on labels...finding men least bit attractive yet stroking a cock gets you jittery....there is a solution/clause to keep your straight status while enjoying cock? if at all bothered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm like that with pussy.
I get a hankering to lick one now and then, but I'm not attracted to the rest of the woman.
Maybe a small pair of pert boobs though.
My wife can relate shes is straight but loves to feel boobs against hers. However when she's horny and on the edge she will eat pussy if she thinks it will earn her an orgasm. Walking around aldi if I suggest it she would be repulsed.
During our first threesome we called her bi selfish cos she was happy to receive attention but not too keen to give it. (Until she was very keen)
Sexual orientation is complex and can be relatively fluid for some people.
I often think about it.
Brad pitt in fight club, with his marigolds, is just about my epitome of male beauty. He's undeniably gorgeous in that scene ... does that make me bi? Idk.
Or what about the time a guy asked could he suck my cock ... I thought about it ... does that make me bi?
Where is the line that divides straight from bi?
Personally I really don't think it matters. Brain chemistry changes how you feel about things. How many times have you scratched your head about a sexual partner or decision you made while the horn is ruling your brain? "At the time it made sense!"
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Very well written and enjoyed the whole questioning!
To be fair I’ve started to fantasise about playing with a couple and try out some girl on girl action in a small group session where the husband could see and join in (tho I’d be comfortable with that only once I’ve had my bottom surgery/confirmation surgery)… does it make me bi/lesbian? Doubtfully. But I’m open minded to experiment…..  |
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Caveat: Can we assume that identifying/drawing lines if at all,whatever makes you happy blah blah is a given.
That said, if asked, we'd all surely say the line that divides is when the guy actually sucks your cock. Unless we want to make it complex by drawing something from whether one cums in his mouth thus.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Caveat: Can we assume that identifying/drawing lines if at all,whatever makes you happy blah blah is a given.
That said, if asked, we'd all surely say the line that divides is when the guy actually sucks your cock. Unless we want to make it complex by drawing something from whether one cums in his mouth thus...."
I agree mostly
But
What if you have fetishised the act.
You don't find the person attractive but it's the act itself that is arousing to you. "The wrongness" is what gets you off not the person.
Or
Prison sex. Men who under "normal" circumstances have no homosexual inclinations and who never have sex with men again when released.
Like I said i find it fascinating and utterly pointless also. |
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Caveat: Can we assume that identifying/drawing lines if at all,whatever makes you happy blah blah is a given.
That said, if asked, we'd all surely say the line that divides is when the guy actually sucks your cock. Unless we want to make it complex by drawing something from whether one cums in his mouth thus....
I agree mostly
But
What if you have fetishised the act.
You don't find the person attractive but it's the act itself that is arousing to you. "The wrongness" is what gets you off not the person.
Or
Prison sex. Men who under "normal" circumstances have no homosexual inclinations and who never have sex with men again when released.
Like I said i find it fascinating and utterly pointless also. "
Im standing my ground, if dude goes in prison straight, gets his 'salad tossed' (think correct lingo) or tosses someone elses hes not straight, but he gets a pass from his crew and goes straight back into his gay hating racist neo nazis posey. Utterly pointless but interesting agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I hate are the people who have sex with the same sex then say they hate labels , or they are not bi or gay , it’s like there too scared to say they are , you see it on here so many times , straight men’s profiles but all there reviews are from men or men who dress up , but they still claim to be straight , there only kidding themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Caveat: Can we assume that identifying/drawing lines if at all,whatever makes you happy blah blah is a given.
That said, if asked, we'd all surely say the line that divides is when the guy actually sucks your cock. Unless we want to make it complex by drawing something from whether one cums in his mouth thus....
I agree mostly
But
What if you have fetishised the act.
You don't find the person attractive but it's the act itself that is arousing to you. "The wrongness" is what gets you off not the person.
Or
Prison sex. Men who under "normal" circumstances have no homosexual inclinations and who never have sex with men again when released.
Like I said i find it fascinating and utterly pointless also.
Im standing my ground, if dude goes in prison straight, gets his 'salad tossed' (think correct lingo) or tosses someone elses hes not straight, but he gets a pass from his crew and goes straight back into his gay hating racist neo nazis posey. Utterly pointless but interesting agree"
no need to stand your ground. My opinion isn't worth the paper it's written on
I just like discussing these things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I hate are the people who have sex with the same sex then say they hate labels , or they are not bi or gay , it’s like there too scared to say they are , you see it on here so many times , straight men’s profiles but all there reviews are from men or men who dress up , but they still claim to be straight , there only kidding themselves "
fear of other people's judgement is a powerful thing.
But also fear of our own judgement.
I spent years in therapy trying to deal with childhood sexual abuse. One of my biggest issues was that the adult me, judged the child me for getting ráped by a priest. It wasn't conscious. It wasn't a thought I said out loud.
But part of couldn't understand why I kept going back. And that was one of the hardest things to overcome.
Personal judgement that I didn't realise I was doing.
So I tend to give people a bit of grace |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"OK so recently I found out that my partner finds it a real turn on for me to play with someone's dick.
How it happened Its been mentioned a couple times now with a kinda yh yh dismiss have some fun dirty talk.
But I found myself in the bath last night with my wife's dildo. She texted asked what I'm up to so I sent her a photo. Cheeky I no. But trying to squeeze that thing in. It just wouldn't happen
Anyway this led onto some filthy talk via text and I found myself now out of the bath and downstairs playing with myself as we talked.
She told me it really turned her on. And it did me too.
I found my dick just absolutely dripping of the thought of me just slowly stocking a nice cock. Just having a fondel.
Anyways. I don't find men attractive not one little bit in fact I find men the opposite they are not good looking at all in my own honest opinion!!
But in saying that. There are some dreamy dicks as well as some beautiful pussys.
I wouldn't call myself bi not even a little bit. But what is it that a cock turned me on so much. Maybe just the thought of being naughty or just that it was turning us both on so much.
Anyone else have this at all or been through similar "
I'm with your wife there I find it a turn on too |
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Caveat: Can we assume that identifying/drawing lines if at all,whatever makes you happy blah blah is a given.
That said, if asked, we'd all surely say the line that divides is when the guy actually sucks your cock. Unless we want to make it complex by drawing something from whether one cums in his mouth thus....
I agree mostly
But
What if you have fetishised the act.
You don't find the person attractive but it's the act itself that is arousing to you. "The wrongness" is what gets you off not the person.
Or
Prison sex. Men who under "normal" circumstances have no homosexual inclinations and who never have sex with men again when released.
Like I said i find it fascinating and utterly pointless also.
Im standing my ground, if dude goes in prison straight, gets his 'salad tossed' (think correct lingo) or tosses someone elses hes not straight, but he gets a pass from his crew and goes straight back into his gay hating racist neo nazis posey. Utterly pointless but interesting agree
no need to stand your ground. My opinion isn't worth the paper it's written on
I just like discussing these things. "
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"What I hate are the people who have sex with the same sex then say they hate labels , or they are not bi or gay , it’s like there too scared to say they are , you see it on here so many times , straight men’s profiles but all there reviews are from men or men who dress up , but they still claim to be straight , there only kidding themselves
fear of other people's judgement is a powerful thing.
But also fear of our own judgement.
I spent years in therapy trying to deal with childhood sexual abuse. One of my biggest issues was that the adult me, judged the child me for getting ráped by a priest. It wasn't conscious. It wasn't a thought I said out loud.
But part of couldn't understand why I kept going back. And that was one of the hardest things to overcome.
Personal judgement that I didn't realise I was doing.
So I tend to give people a bit of grace "
Theres not a systemic issue of guys fearing how others see their sexual status (obviously some yea) "single male" ...any fear is usually around getting found out by their partner/wife their even on .com, or mates finding out and taking the piss or by admitting bi for example, to themselves for fear of a reduction in their masculinity. Its not complex, were straightforward and simple. Ego basically |
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