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"Anyone else lost? " Maybe it's but a thread for you, saying anyone else lost is like a call to those who will also be lost. If your lost you don't need conformation from others  | |||
"An orgy of questions and subjects. I’m lost at which to tackle first. "I know, but they are all interlinked really.  | |||
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"Our old Beta Max is still in the loft, and I think it still works, not that I have a tv to hook it upto. Think I still have watership down on tape…" Haha! | |||
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"Your first question is a whole thread in itself - define swinging? If you are single and only looking for sex with one other person involved then that is more 'casual sex'. If you are single and looking for sex with couples (or multiple people at the same time) and/or go to clubs then that is more 'swinging'. Then you also have the kink/fetish scenes which probably overlap with swinging. -- There's always been 'if you're talking about it then you're not getting it'. There are probably plenty of people on here quietly (or not so quietly) having sex but this is a forum on a 'sex' site - always be more talking than doing. And some using the forum might be looking for more than just sex. Some people like the tittilation and some people like to post photos. Without the voyeurs then the exhibitionists haven't got anyone to look at them. Just because society might have changed/be changing doesn't mean individuals move with those changes (plus factors like nature/nurture and past experiences to take into account)."  | |||
"Swinging isn't what it was by definition - it has evolved Plenty of talkers, me being one of them I have regular sex with my partner I haven't had sex with anyone else for some time (a couple of years or so) Some pics are nice to look at, others aren't We all wear masks - the 'tease' aspect of many photos are testament to this The majority prefer the privacy that anonymity offers I'm happy occupying my small corner of Fab How others use it and what they take from it are matters for them to deal with" I guess but isn't that like going to aa for the tea and buiscuits? | |||
"Swinging isn't what it was by definition - it has evolved Plenty of talkers, me being one of them I have regular sex with my partner I haven't had sex with anyone else for some time (a couple of years or so) Some pics are nice to look at, others aren't We all wear masks - the 'tease' aspect of many photos are testament to this The majority prefer the privacy that anonymity offers I'm happy occupying my small corner of Fab How others use it and what they take from it are matters for them to deal with I guess but isn't that like going to aa for the tea and buiscuits?" I am a big fan of tea & biscuits Or coffee & cake
TBH, at one time, I was highly sexual and, during those times, Fab offered a format that worked for me - I could lark about in the forums whilst, simultaneously, seeking out new bed partners
Life has kinda gotten in the way over the last couple of years and, as a result, my sex drive has waned considerably
So, I'm not greatly interested in meeting at the moment
Fab, however, does offer a retreat from my real life
It's familiar, the people are familiar, it's easy, it allows for some sexual expression without going the whole way
I don't message people, I am honest with those that message me that meeting is not my raison d'etre, I don't lead anyone up the garden path and, for the most part, I am well behaved in the Forums
That's my little corner and, for now, I'm happy there
If, at some point, I find my 'mojo' again, then I know I am in a good place to find others to share it with | |||
"Swinging isn't what it was by definition - it has evolved Plenty of talkers, me being one of them I have regular sex with my partner I haven't had sex with anyone else for some time (a couple of years or so) Some pics are nice to look at, others aren't We all wear masks - the 'tease' aspect of many photos are testament to this The majority prefer the privacy that anonymity offers I'm happy occupying my small corner of Fab How others use it and what they take from it are matters for them to deal with I guess but isn't that like going to aa for the tea and buiscuits? I am a big fan of tea & biscuits Or coffee & cake
TBH, at one time, I was highly sexual and, during those times, Fab offered a format that worked for me - I could lark about in the forums whilst, simultaneously, seeking out new bed partners
Life has kinda gotten in the way over the last couple of years and, as a result, my sex drive has waned considerably
So, I'm not greatly interested in meeting at the moment
Fab, however, does offer a retreat from my real life
It's familiar, the people are familiar, it's easy, it allows for some sexual expression without going the whole way
I don't message people, I am honest with those that message me that meeting is not my raison d'etre, I don't lead anyone up the garden path and, for the most part, I am well behaved in the Forums
That's my little corner and, for now, I'm happy there
If, at some point, I find my 'mojo' again, then I know I am in a good place to find others to share it with"Do you think being titillated could contribute to lack of mojo? A bit like the increase of young men and erectile dysfunction due to easy acces porn/wanking. I mean i love a good steak chips peppercorn sauce mushrooms and tomatoes, but if i had it or was offered it everyday... | |||
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"Swinging isn't what it was by definition - it has evolved Plenty of talkers, me being one of them I have regular sex with my partner I haven't had sex with anyone else for some time (a couple of years or so) Some pics are nice to look at, others aren't We all wear masks - the 'tease' aspect of many photos are testament to this The majority prefer the privacy that anonymity offers I'm happy occupying my small corner of Fab How others use it and what they take from it are matters for them to deal with I guess but isn't that like going to aa for the tea and buiscuits? I am a big fan of tea & biscuits Or coffee & cake
TBH, at one time, I was highly sexual and, during those times, Fab offered a format that worked for me - I could lark about in the forums whilst, simultaneously, seeking out new bed partners
Life has kinda gotten in the way over the last couple of years and, as a result, my sex drive has waned considerably
So, I'm not greatly interested in meeting at the moment
Fab, however, does offer a retreat from my real life
It's familiar, the people are familiar, it's easy, it allows for some sexual expression without going the whole way
I don't message people, I am honest with those that message me that meeting is not my raison d'etre, I don't lead anyone up the garden path and, for the most part, I am well behaved in the Forums
That's my little corner and, for now, I'm happy there
If, at some point, I find my 'mojo' again, then I know I am in a good place to find others to share it with
Do you think being titillated could contribute to lack of mojo?
A bit like the increase of young men and erectile dysfunction due to easy acces porn/wanking.
I mean i love a good steak chips peppercorn sauce mushrooms and tomatoes, but if i had it or was offered it everyday..."TBH, very little titilates me I am kind of numb to sexual imagery That could be a factor in seeing so much of it I also think I had so much sex in my late 30's / early 40's that sex doesn't really offer me any new experience save for who it's with What I wanted to do, I did, with those that wanted to do it with me To a degree, Fab facilitated that I think overall though that my lack of interest is more driven by stresses and positions outside of Fab So, I guess I am neither agreeing with nor denying your position, but thank you for offering the platform for discussion | |||
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"TBH, very little titilates me I am kind of numb to sexual imagery That could be a factor in seeing so much of it I also think I had so much sex in my late 30's / early 40's that sex doesn't really offer me any new experience save for who it's with What I wanted to do, I did, with those that wanted to do it with me ..." I'm in a similar position as stated above. The imagery on Fab doesn't do much for me. Away from Fab I've done pretty much everything I've wanted to do at least once. So it boils down to the person rather than anything else. The only 'problem' I have is mood swings. At the moment in a 'stable' mood I enjoy the forum and sex is not a big thing on my mind. If I go into a (hypo)manic mood then my sex drive shoots through the roof (which is not as 'pleasant' as it sounds) so trying to monitor my mood and not tip into that mood completely takes quite a bit of energy. As Bussy says I've carved out a small piece of Fab for 'me' to reside in and I enojy the forum and I'm content with that at the moment. | |||
