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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.
I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.
I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.
Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.
Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.
So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.
Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.
He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.
I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.
Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.
I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.
And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.
Yesterday I got a letter.
It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.
It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.
So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.
Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.
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There is no words that can console you. Have been in your shoes and it's heartbreaking. Try not to dwell on what you could have done differently or what did you miss. You loved them for who they were and they knew it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.
I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.
I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.
Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.
Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.
So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.
Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.
He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.
I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.
Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.
I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.
And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.
Yesterday I got a letter.
It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.
It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.
So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.
Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.
I will not reply to this thread."
Really sorry for your loss, you were an amazing friend to him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hard to read that, with all the past tenses being used I could tell where it was going. You're a good guy and it must be heartbreaking for you, and really hard to share that. I hope your message reaches someone in need.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are going through a bad time I caution you not to read.
I had a close friend who was gay. He never had to tell me I knew he was, didn't matter to me he was a great guy. Loved galleries, fancy restaurants art on the walls type how always had a tan and did look good.
I would be the one he would call to cry down the phone too when the boyfriend had upset him or the washing machine didn't work.
Women loved him and would always give him a cuddle when we were out together they loved his high pitched voice when he got excited over a little dog or some fancy tight jeans.
Recently he called me in a right state, his partner had abused him and beat him on a few occasions which I didn't know about till he broke down on the phone.
So immediately I made a few calls and I put a deposit on a flat then got a team of guys to go round and get his stuff.
Took him to a private doctor to have him checked over and tests done.
He seemed to be brighter and me being me started to get him to unpack everything and start putting his new flat together.
I left late after we had dinner and it was all looking good.
Then. Now this is where you need to exercise caution.
I was training at Sandhurst and told there were police wanting to speak to me.
And it's funny you can tell on people's faces what they are going to say before they have said it.
Yesterday I got a letter.
It sort of explained why, the road he decided to take. How he couldn't face things anymore.
It said that I was the only one who stood by ready to help regardless and that he loved me for just accepting him for who he was.
So people. Whatever is going on in your world, someone does love you, will help you.
Reach out don't worry about being a pest or not because someone is busy.
I will not reply to this thread."
You had me teary reading this, I’m so sorry for the loss, truly. And you have been an amazing shoulder for your friend and sound like a good man… I’m so sorry he couldn’t see other solutions x  |
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So sorry to read this OP
You sound like a top guy and wish there were more like you in the world.
I have been through a tough mental time recently and it took one hell of a lot for me to admit it. Being a big rugby looking kind of guy I've always been there for others but bottled all my emotions up.
Luckily I've got good mates similar to you around me and things are going in the right direction |
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