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Do single men get messaged?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?
I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.
Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have received first messages from women.
Okay, it's usually because they've clicked "Reply privately" by accident when they were aiming for "Reply in forum", but that counts, right? "
I don't even get mistakes lol |
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I get messages very often from women, and couples, mostly West of Bristol, and South of Birmingham I must add, who have invariably read, and digested the profile, looked at my verifications, and see that I can tick a lot of boxes for a lot of people. In my experience it seems that only the shallow brigade pass you by without winking at least, and most of guys can probably wouldn't want their attention in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok interesting stuff, should interact more on forums then maybe "
I find the forums are best for initiating chats. Profiles could say anything, but forums show your interests and personality more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get messaged sometimes when I had a single guy profile. But I'm incredibly good looking so it was to be expected. The standard of women messaging me was fairly low so I didn't often reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I live in hope  I see loads on the forums I’m hoping I can connect with even if a chat is as far as it goes, nothing wrong with just friendly conversation and having forum friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I’ve had a couple (and I mean a couple) of messages about forum posts, but otherwise I don't get messages from Ladies, or Couples for that matter. I can’t remember a Lady looking at my profile either, unless I’ve looked at hers first.
Not complaining though, I know my place!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the account I have which I've superimposed my face onto a body with a six pack and massive cock, yeah I get loads.
With my genuine account (this one) I don't get many. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I message guys first
But only if I am looking for instashag or meet at the weekend or something obviously I talking pre covid
As we’re come out off this and going back to normal things should pick up agein |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up. "
I’m glad it’s not just us… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does happen, but not very often.
The thing is, given the high ratio of men to women on fab, the ladies really don't need to make the first move.
Most of them are too inundated with messages |
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I’ve gotten a few as a result of posting on the forums. Have gotten them from women in a different country but the conversations were good!
As for getting messaged from women because they fancy me……..not gonna happen on here with so much competition! |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
I’m glad it’s not just us…"
It like they expect us to do all the work and should be grateful for them having messaged us in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, mostly from the forums but do get the odd message and wink when I upload a new picture too. I've pretty much stopped messaging first unless it for a forum game  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up. "
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere |
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
I’m glad it’s not just us…"
I lose interest if I receive the dreaded “lol x” reply…….  |
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"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?
I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.
Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."
Yes I’ve received a few messages from women first but as already said that’s mainly been through forum posts….
See and notice what the trend is here to pick up in order get more messages or replies from the lovely ladies of fab  |
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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago
Shropshire |
"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?
I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.
Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."
I'm not afraid of sending the first message to a guy I like the look of. So no, it's not uncommon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get messaged fairly regularly. However a majority of them is from couples who want me for either a threesome of for the husband to watch me with the wife.
Not my cup of tea. I prefer one 2 one |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes they do. The majority (bar one) of the men I've met I have messaged first. I think that sometimes men aren't very approachable and you can be put off messaging them. I also think the vast majority of women prefer to wait for men to message first, more of an ego boost that way. |
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere"
I've had this with men, women and couples. It's pretty depressing really. Though it's brilliant when you get the opposite with someone and you click so well that you end up bouncing off each other and the conversation flows so freely and easily with decent length messages from both sides without it feeling forced or anything. |
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"I've messaged single men first before. In fact that is how most of my meets with single men have happened. "
Actually, some of my best chats started with a message received. I think it works better as they are less defensive! X |
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"Question, do anything of uou single guys get messaged by woman first or you putting in all the work and messaging them first?
I don't mind messaging people that catch my eye or I find sexy but don't get anything first.
Just curious if it's just a minority of us or happens a lot."
Very rarely but it has happened. |
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere"
Its amazing the amount of people who cannot hold a conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere
I've had this with men, women and couples. It's pretty depressing really. Though it's brilliant when you get the opposite with someone and you click so well that you end up bouncing off each other and the conversation flows so freely and easily with decent length messages from both sides without it feeling forced or anything. "
Except in person, we have yet to experience the latter. Most profiles advertise connection and great chat is important however then go on to demonstrate that they have neither. It's a tad difficult to find something to bounce off from 'lol' 'yup' 'you'.
When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope  Elle x |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"I've messaged several men first, usually because I like their forum chat and I want to talk to them.
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That's the beauty of the forums Kitty, it exposes peoples character far better than any profile ever could (not always positively but on the whole...). |
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere
I've had this with men, women and couples. It's pretty depressing really. Though it's brilliant when you get the opposite with someone and you click so well that you end up bouncing off each other and the conversation flows so freely and easily with decent length messages from both sides without it feeling forced or anything.
Except in person, we have yet to experience the latter. Most profiles advertise connection and great chat is important however then go on to demonstrate that they have neither. It's a tad difficult to find something to bounce off from 'lol' 'yup' 'you'.
When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope Elle x"
Oh bless you. Yes when someone gives you nothing to go off its impossible and I give up very quickly. I guess I've been fortunate though to have some very engaging conversations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple we regularly get messaged by single females (very well verified before I say the next bit).
If we are being completely honest the standard of message is poor, usually starts with hi, nothing wrong with that but from there on in it deteriorates till we give up.
Yeah I get what you mean. I've had it with some females and couples who have messaged first where I'm having to try and come up with the conversation topics. As soon as the 1 or 2 word answers are more consistent, I know it's not going anywhere
I've had this with men, women and couples. It's pretty depressing really. Though it's brilliant when you get the opposite with someone and you click so well that you end up bouncing off each other and the conversation flows so freely and easily with decent length messages from both sides without it feeling forced or anything.
Except in person, we have yet to experience the latter. Most profiles advertise connection and great chat is important however then go on to demonstrate that they have neither. It's a tad difficult to find something to bounce off from 'lol' 'yup' 'you'.
When the words they reply with start extending past 3 letters I almost rejoice at the glimmer of hope Elle x
Oh bless you. Yes when someone gives you nothing to go off its impossible and I give up very quickly. I guess I've been fortunate though to have some very engaging conversations. "
Thank you; what confuses me is 9 times out 10 they initiated the conversation - the mind boggles
We see the humour in it all and if I can be honest it is a great filter; if they can't or don't feel they need to make the effort outside of the bedroom, then they are hardly likely to make the effort in it and how dull would that be for all? Well, it certainly would be for me/us  Elle x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have received messages from a couple of women, got one from an absolute stunner recently never been so (pleasantly) surprised in my life."
How wonderful |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
I have had messages from females / couples mostly from wink sent. Most now are messages again from females , did have one couple sending friend invite or message from me posting on forums. I send very few messages now as out if most age ranges  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not often and when I do it’s mostly from the forums. "
I’ll add to this. It’s rare for me to get a first message and even when I send a message it’s rare to get a reply. |
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If I see someone who catches my eye I will send a message.
I think it feels like it never happens in part because women are less likely to copy and paste the same message to every male profile in a 50 mile radius. I send maybe three messages on average in a week, because there are only three profiles that really appeal and I've not previously messaged.
Compare that to some of the guys who are literally carpet-bombing hundreds of messages, and it's easy to believe it never happens because it's comparatively so rare. |
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