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"Is there something you'd like to try? "Many things in the past but you know, too shy  | |||
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"Ask me I won't say no, how could I " Not very shy then ! | |||
"But shyness can stop you, from doing all the things in life you’d like to..’ Are you shy, and how does this affect your life choices ? Is it an attractive quality or one you’d happily discard ? Mini magnum ice cream to first person who gets the song reference. "I do love a good smiths song OP | |||
"But shyness can stop you, from doing all the things in life you’d like to..’ Are you shy, and how does this affect your life choices ? Is it an attractive quality or one you’d happily discard ? Mini magnum ice cream to first person who gets the song reference.
I do love a good smiths song OP "Thank Tom, you only have to Ask | |||
"Ask me I won't say no, how could I Not very shy then !" Soz, I thought we were doing The Smiths | |||
"But shyness can stop you, from doing all the things in life you’d like to..’ Are you shy, and how does this affect your life choices ? Is it an attractive quality or one you’d happily discard ? Mini magnum ice cream to first person who gets the song reference. "Awh I love that song...Ask Me by Morrisey. I find shyness in a guy very unattractive tbh though | |||
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To answer the OP, no shyness probably hasn’t stopped me doing something in life, didn’t have an option to be shy growing up. If anything it’s more that element of the unknown that would stop me. | |||
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"Ask me I won't say no, how could I Not very shy then ! Soz, I thought we were doing The Smiths "All Smiths references welcome ! | |||
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"Ask me I won't say no, how could I Not very shy then ! Soz, I thought we were doing The Smiths
All Smiths references welcome !"I prefer cheese n onion | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. It affects dating. Dates are a nightmare. Trying to get conversation out of me is hard work, and who can be bothered with that? It affects my parenting. Kids parties? Nightmare. I’m usually sat alone because the other mums think I’m aloof. So we may not get invited to another one. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. " This makes me sad and I can relate to it. My take on it now is that it's our society which prizes loud mouth behaviour and shames people who are quiet. This encourages people to be fake which is possibly what's happening to some of the mums in your group. Hold your nerve and eke out the ones more like you. I bet deep down they would prefer to hang out with you... | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. " Thanks for sharing those experiences. I was also very shy as a younger man so can identify with all of that. The impression that you are aloof or distant only makes things worse and sometimes I felt it was an excuse not to make any effort to really get to know you. When I met someone who recognised the shyness and worked a little to get past it it was such a relief and pleasure. I hope you’ve also found some of those. | |||
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"Just here for the mini magnum Mr Smith
To answer the OP, no shyness probably hasn’t stopped me doing something in life, didn’t have an option to be shy growing up. If anything it’s more that element of the unknown that would stop me. "You’re officially in Mini magnum credit now.
Did you grow up in a large family where you had to make yourself heard ? I wonder if shy people are more likely to have been solitary children. | |||
"I find it difficult to interact in certain situations but often that's as much to do with other people as it is me." I'm the same but I think that's more social awkwardness rather than shyness for me. | |||
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"I’m very much attracted to shy, it really really turns me on. I find shy and quiet men are usually the naughtiest. I love spending time opening them up, and making them confident. I enjoy seeing someone becoming empowered, nothing make me more horny x" I also like a slow reveal, personality speaking. I’m hope many hot shy guys and girls will be in touch ! | |||
"I find it difficult to interact in certain situations but often that's as much to do with other people as it is me. I'm the same but I think that's more social awkwardness rather than shyness for me." I was thinking of when our kids were small and I attended mother and toddler groups. The level of cliqueyness was astounding and approaching two or three women whose body language clearly says go away isn't something I relish  .
Since those times I try to always include lone people in social or work situations. | |||
"I'd argue that shyness is not nice too. Why is it nice Leo ?" You can blame Morrisey for ‘nice’ but it can be endearing and attractive, I’ve found. Most shy people have a lot they don’t show everyone so when you have their trust it can create a very special connection. | |||
"What difference does it make?" Well, I wonder... | |||
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"I wouldn't say I was shy as such but I don't really have much to say to people...If you chat I will talk to you but I won't strike up a conversation first. I like to sit and watch, you get a very good idea of who is who and who to avoid. I get accused of being aloof, but I'm not, I just don't have much to say " Reserved rather than shy ? And again with the accusation of being aloof As a poster mentioned above, perhaps our society overvalues loud and extrovert behaviour at the expense of the thoughtful and considerate ? | |||
"I'd argue that shyness is not nice too. Why is it nice Leo ? You can blame Morrisey for ‘nice’ but it can be endearing and attractive, I’ve found. Most shy people have a lot they don’t show everyone so when you have their trust it can create a very special connection." Because you've had to work a bit harder at it? | |||
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"What difference does it make? Well, I wonder..." Started something you couldn’t finish? | |||
"I wouldn't say I was shy as such but I don't really have much to say to people...If you chat I will talk to you but I won't strike up a conversation first. I like to sit and watch, you get a very good idea of who is who and who to avoid. I get accused of being aloof, but I'm not, I just don't have much to say Reserved rather than shy ? And again with the accusation of being aloof As a poster mentioned above, perhaps our society overvalues loud and extrovert behaviour at the expense of the thoughtful and considerate ?"Reserved is a good description, I give nothing away and tell people what I want them to know. Especially at work, I'm pretty private. | |||
"I wouldn't say I was shy as such but I don't really have much to say to people...If you chat I will talk to you but I won't strike up a conversation first. I like to sit and watch, you get a very good idea of who is who and who to avoid. I get accused of being aloof, but I'm not, I just don't have much to say Reserved rather than shy ? And again with the accusation of being aloof As a poster mentioned above, perhaps our society overvalues loud and extrovert behaviour at the expense of the thoughtful and considerate ?"There is an in between and often loud and extrovert is concealing something, you have to work just as hard to get to know the real person as you do with someone whose shy. | |||
"I'd argue that shyness is not nice too. Why is it nice Leo ? You can blame Morrisey for ‘nice’ but it can be endearing and attractive, I’ve found. Most shy people have a lot they don’t show everyone so when you have their trust it can create a very special connection. Because you've had to work a bit harder at it?" I think so. Someone taking that extra effort to get past the surface shyness, and hopefully rewarded by getting to know someone that others don’t always see. I was always touched when anyone did this with me. | |||
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" Reserved rather than shy ? And again with the accusation of being aloof As a poster mentioned above, perhaps our society overvalues loud and extrovert behaviour at the expense of the thoughtful and considerate ?
There is an in between and often loud and extrovert is concealing something, you have to work just as hard to get to know the real person as you do with someone whose shy."That’s a very good point. I also think there’s a crossover between very introverted and very extrovert behaviour. Many public performers, actors, singers, etc are very shy in private I believe. | |||
"I'd argue that shyness is not nice too. Why is it nice Leo ? You can blame Morrisey for ‘nice’ but it can be endearing and attractive, I’ve found. Most shy people have a lot they don’t show everyone so when you have their trust it can create a very special connection. Because you've had to work a bit harder at it? I think so. Someone taking that extra effort to get past the surface shyness, and hopefully rewarded by getting to know someone that others don’t always see. I was always touched when anyone did this with me." This is me, I don't notice the loud extrovert. I always look for the quieter ones and the ones sat alone. Those people I will seek out. A bit like I do on Fab really | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. It affects dating. Dates are a nightmare. Trying to get conversation out of me is hard work, and who can be bothered with that? It affects my parenting. Kids parties? Nightmare. I’m usually sat alone because the other mums think I’m aloof. So we may not get invited to another one. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. " But i bet the friends you have are qaulity, trust me don't even bother yourself with the mum brigade, if someone doesnt take the time to get to know you its thier loss, your child is being invited to the party not you, and dependant on their age, you dont even need to be there, drop and go! Do they really think your aloof or is that what you think they think? I know someone said that too you but are you taking that comment with you everywhere you go. You maybe aloof in some situations, you may also be bored with some of the conversations. Just wondering When your sat alone do you use your phone as a comforter? I ask as I'm the one who would come and talk to you but if your heads in a phone I'd maybe think you were busy with something. Trust me, the gregarious outgoing ones are also hiding behind it. Sometimes it's just about standing with them, if you want to of course. Come secondary school you want see these people at all! And genrally that little group are boring as fuck! Clearly you are not you are here! Which may not be about the scene but shows you have an open curious mind. Although not everyone on here has an open curious mind!
I've had many quiet silent friends they enjoyed me in a way others didn't, I didn't always understand why, but I was happy they were happy | |||
"People laugh, very loudly, when I say I’m shy, mainly because I overcompensate so much. It’s taken me many decades to learn to deal with it. It can be done though, and it’s much easier on here than in person! " This is me ! My work involves lots of people and I’m very outgoing there. Colleagues think I’m joking if I say I’m prone to shyness. | |||
"What difference does it make? Well, I wonder... Started something you couldn’t finish?" These things take time | |||
"I quite like a shy guy especially when we see them emerge out of a little Few drinks and our company then soon let their hair down Xxx" Thank you. Us shy guys need you extroverts sometimes to help break the shell. | |||
"Just here for the mini magnum Mr Smith
To answer the OP, no shyness probably hasn’t stopped me doing something in life, didn’t have an option to be shy growing up. If anything it’s more that element of the unknown that would stop me.
You’re officially in Mini magnum credit now.
Did you grow up in a large family where you had to make yourself heard ? I wonder if shy people are more likely to have been solitary children."No quite the opposite I’m a single child, however we moved a lot when I was growing up. Could be somewhere for a month, 6 months a year or more, so didn’t have time to be shy. If you wanted a friend you went out on day one, explore the neighbourhood, approach the other children or talk to others on day one of a new school it would have been a very solitary life. | |||
"What difference does it make? Well, I wonder... Started something you couldn’t finish? These things take time" You just haven’t earned it yet baby ! | |||
" Did you grow up in a large family where you had to make yourself heard ? I wonder if shy people are more likely to have been solitary children. No quite the opposite I’m a single child, however we moved a lot when I was growing up. Could be somewhere for a month, 6 months a year or more, so didn’t have time to be shy. If you wanted a friend you went out on day one, explore the neighbourhood, approach the other children or talk to others on day one of a new school it would have been a very solitary life. " That all makes a lot of sense. When I was a child we moved from a busy street with lots of people around to quite an isolated house and looking back I think that made me more introverted than I would have been. | |||
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"What difference does it make? Well, I wonder... Started something you couldn’t finish? These things take time You just haven’t earned it yet baby !" Handsome Devil  | |||
"I'm painfully shy in person. And it can make life so difficult. Yet no one would ever know in a group, because I can be the life and soul of the party on the outside. It's what made me a good barmaid." I think this is such a common experience for shy people, as others have noted. We need a Fab social for all the shy ones - I bet it would be wild ! | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. It affects dating. Dates are a nightmare. Trying to get conversation out of me is hard work, and who can be bothered with that? It affects my parenting. Kids parties? Nightmare. I’m usually sat alone because the other mums think I’m aloof. So we may not get invited to another one. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. But i bet the friends you have are qaulity, trust me don't even bother yourself with the mum brigade, if someone doesnt take the time to get to know you its thier loss, your child is being invited to the party not you, and dependant on their age, you dont even need to be there, drop and go! Do they really think your aloof or is that what you think they think? I know someone said that too you but are you taking that comment with you everywhere you go. You maybe aloof in some situations, you may also be bored with some of the conversations. Just wondering When your sat alone do you use your phone as a comforter? I ask as I'm the one who would come and talk to you but if your heads in a phone I'd maybe think you were busy with something. Trust me, the gregarious outgoing ones are also hiding behind it. Sometimes it's just about standing with them, if you want to of course. Come secondary school you want see these people at all! And genrally that little group are boring as fuck! Clearly you are not you are here! Which may not be about the scene but shows you have an open curious mind. Although not everyone on here has an open curious mind!
I've had many quiet silent friends they enjoyed me in a way others didn't, I didn't always understand why, but I was happy they were happy"Hi, The last kids party I went to I was actually told I appeared aloof and stand offish by one of the mums (they’d got talking to me and realised I was just shy), which made me more self conscious if anything. I don’t use the phone , apart to check the time or see if I’ve had a text, my youngest has asd so I’m constantly keeping an eye on him as he has no sense of boundaries or a sense of danger, so you enter a room and are quietly scanning it for potential risks rather than, say, maybe catching the eye of someone I recognise and smiling to seem more approachable, so I can understand how I could seem like I’m not interested in chatting. You just feel self conscious about it all after awhile and that makes it feel worse. | |||
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"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another." That’s certainly not what I meant! | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. It affects dating. Dates are a nightmare. Trying to get conversation out of me is hard work, and who can be bothered with that? It affects my parenting. Kids parties? Nightmare. I’m usually sat alone because the other mums think I’m aloof. So we may not get invited to another one. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. But i bet the friends you have are qaulity, trust me don't even bother yourself with the mum brigade, if someone doesnt take the time to get to know you its thier loss, your child is being invited to the party not you, and dependant on their age, you dont even need to be there, drop and go! Do they really think your aloof or is that what you think they think? I know someone said that too you but are you taking that comment with you everywhere you go. You maybe aloof in some situations, you may also be bored with some of the conversations. Just wondering When your sat alone do you use your phone as a comforter? I ask as I'm the one who would come and talk to you but if your heads in a phone I'd maybe think you were busy with something. Trust me, the gregarious outgoing ones are also hiding behind it. Sometimes it's just about standing with them, if you want to of course. Come secondary school you want see these people at all! And genrally that little group are boring as fuck! Clearly you are not you are here! Which may not be about the scene but shows you have an open curious mind. Although not everyone on here has an open curious mind!
I've had many quiet silent friends they enjoyed me in a way others didn't, I didn't always understand why, but I was happy they were happy
Hi,
The last kids party I went to I was actually told I appeared aloof and stand offish by one of the mums (they’d got talking to me and realised I was just shy), which made me more self conscious if anything.
I don’t use the phone , apart to check the time or see if I’ve had a text, my youngest has asd so I’m constantly keeping an eye on him as he has no sense of boundaries or a sense of danger, so you enter a room and are quietly scanning it for potential risks rather than, say, maybe catching the eye of someone I recognise and smiling to seem more approachable, so I can understand how I could seem like I’m not interested in chatting.
You just feel self conscious about it all after awhile and that makes it feel worse. "I hear you, i hope you heard my message the way i intended it. O I know asd.
Feeling that way I would say gices you the gift to understand how people who are different also feel, especially the nuerodifferent  | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant!" I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another." I don't understand this post, please help me to | |||
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I would never discard anyone because they struggled with being shy! I'd happily meet them but I'd tell them to expect lots of awkward silences and knee slaps. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface. "Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced. That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. I don't understand this post, please help me to "I'm getting the impression that some people think getting to know a shy person will be more rewarding. I could be wrong. I think that it takes effort to get to know anybody, shyness is one of a number of possible stumbling blocks. I'm just discussing, I do that sometimes and it's often misunderstood as me attempting to say people are wrong. I put "I think" to indicate it's my opinion but I accept that might not be clear. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface.
Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced.
That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent."Nope. I'm not aiming at anybody. As I said I was attempting a discussion. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface.
Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced.
That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent.
Nope. I'm not aiming at anybody. As I said I was attempting a discussion.
"i reckon this one is very shy | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. I don't understand this post, please help me to
I'm getting the impression that some people think getting to know a shy person will be more rewarding. I could be wrong.
I think that it takes effort to get to know anybody, shyness is one of a number of possible stumbling blocks.
I'm just discussing, I do that sometimes and it's often misunderstood as me attempting to say people are wrong. I put "I think" to indicate it's my opinion but I accept that might not be clear. "I had a similar thought reading through the thread. Getting to know anyone can be rewarding and being shy doesn't make it more so. As a society we seem to prefer people to be demure, not to be confident and outgoing. I don't quite understand that. I can be quite shy at times, I'm on the spectrum so can find new environments and people a bit of an overload to process. On the other hand sometimes I can come across as being quite confident. Anyway, being shy isn't a bad thing nor is it an undesirable way of being. Neither is being confident. | |||
"I’m very shy in person. It has impacted my ability to make friends as I never initiate conversation, which I have been told makes me appear aloof. I rely heavily on the other person being outgoing and chatty, and persistent, chipping away at my shell of shyness until I reach a point where I am comfortable with them. It affects dating. Dates are a nightmare. Trying to get conversation out of me is hard work, and who can be bothered with that? It affects my parenting. Kids parties? Nightmare. I’m usually sat alone because the other mums think I’m aloof. So we may not get invited to another one. I would much rather be the outgoing and gregarious person who makes friends easily, lights up a room with friendliness and who folk gravitate to. " Ah this makes me ache a little as I relate with so much of what you're saying. And with the parenting, ever since becoming a mum, it's more pressure as I want to be that parent who gets involved in everything but it always feels so difficult. I hope in time, more confidence will come to you. X | |||
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"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. I don't understand this post, please help me to
I'm getting the impression that some people think getting to know a shy person will be more rewarding. I could be wrong.
I think that it takes effort to get to know anybody, shyness is one of a number of possible stumbling blocks.
I'm just discussing, I do that sometimes and it's often misunderstood as me attempting to say people are wrong. I put "I think" to indicate it's my opinion but I accept that might not be clear. "I got ya. | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface.
Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced.
That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent.
Nope. I'm not aiming at anybody. As I said I was attempting a discussion.
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"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface.
Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced.
That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent.
Nope. I'm not aiming at anybody. As I said I was attempting a discussion.
i reckon this one is very shy "Who me or nice? | |||
"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. I don't understand this post, please help me to
I'm getting the impression that some people think getting to know a shy person will be more rewarding. I could be wrong.
I think that it takes effort to get to know anybody, shyness is one of a number of possible stumbling blocks.
I'm just discussing, I do that sometimes and it's often misunderstood as me attempting to say people are wrong. I put "I think" to indicate it's my opinion but I accept that might not be clear.
I had a similar thought reading through the thread. Getting to know anyone can be rewarding and being shy doesn't make it more so. As a society we seem to prefer people to be demure, not to be confident and outgoing. I don't quite understand that.
I can be quite shy at times, I'm on the spectrum so can find new environments and people a bit of an overload to process. On the other hand sometimes I can come across as being quite confident.
Anyway, being shy isn't a bad thing nor is it an undesirable way of being. Neither is being confident."
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"I don't think it's right to suggest that putting the effort in to get to know a shy person will offer more than putting the effort in to get to know someone who isn't shy. Both take time and commitment and one person isn't better to know simply because they are less outgoing than another. That’s certainly not what I meant! I know but other people have used words like "rewarded" and suggested that any people have more going on under the surface.
Is this aimed at me? If so my suggestion of under the surface was suggesting what not so posh voiced.
That people can mask really well. Especially those who are nuerodifferent.
Nope. I'm not aiming at anybody. As I said I was attempting a discussion.
"Thank you And thanks to everyone who’s shared personal experiences and feelings on the thread. | |||
" I had a similar thought reading through the thread. Getting to know anyone can be rewarding and being shy doesn't make it more so. As a society we seem to prefer people to be demure, not to be confident and outgoing. I don't quite understand that. I can be quite shy at times, I'm on the spectrum so can find new environments and people a bit of an overload to process. On the other hand sometimes I can come across as being quite confident. Anyway, being shy isn't a bad thing nor is it an undesirable way of being. Neither is being confident." I agree with last para. Introversion or extroversion are just different ways of being, not good or bad in themselves. Also as touched on, extrovert behaviour can be as much of a ‘mask’ as shyness and behind that mask may lay a very different person. The human experiences always fascinates ! | |||
"I'm fairly shy by nature and it was obviously a problem on her so had to face it and build more confidence and not be backward in coming forward to get some conversations going that have ended positively in some instances. It's a hard balance to project confidence without appearing to be arrogant. I find shyness in a lady quite appealing but can also stall conversation if the ice is not broken quickly." Good point about the balance between confidence and arrogance, especially if we have to build ourselves up to be more confident. | |||
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