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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ? |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?"
It does exist if find the right person there is link, feeling what they are felling even when you are not in the same room  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?"
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important. "
I know, I'm a thinker
I question everything
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
It does exist if find the right person there is link, feeling what they are felling even when you are not in the same room "
That is not what empathy is. |
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important. "
What is an empath ?
How did you find out you are an empath ?
Can anyone be an empath ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Empathy is nothing to do with feeling physical energy. It’s about being able to understand someone’s experience and the emotions they’re feeling, and why they’re feeling them. It’s about being perceptive to others feelings and being able to relate to others feelings , even if your own feelings and experiences aren’t in the same frame of reference. |
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"Empathy is nothing to do with feeling physical energy. It’s about being able to understand someone’s experience and the emotions they’re feeling, and why they’re feeling them. It’s about being perceptive to others feelings and being able to relate to others feelings , even if your own feelings and experiences aren’t in the same frame of reference. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Empathy is nothing to do with feeling physical energy. It’s about being able to understand someone’s experience and the emotions they’re feeling, and why they’re feeling them. It’s about being perceptive to others feelings and being able to relate to others feelings , even if your own feelings and experiences aren’t in the same frame of reference.
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O.P. If you want to understand what empathy is ( it's nothing brain shattering ) and wish to develop your own empathatic skills ..... read some clued up research on it....
Being empathetic isn't something magical or mystical it's simply being less egocentric and considering your own feelings and being more aware of the other person and their needs....
e.g. If you were planning a day out for you and me ... you'd consider what I can and can't do and what I do and don't like and factor that into your plans... You wouldn't just say , Okay Granny let's get pissed and pick up a couple of birds.
It's more complicated than that ... but believe me ..... not much and the above is not a bad start.
Consider others and their feelings. Maybe learn to read body language and find out about people but ffs...... don't over analyse shit ... |
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"Empathy is nothing to do with feeling physical energy. It’s about being able to understand someone’s experience and the emotions they’re feeling, and why they’re feeling them. It’s about being perceptive to others feelings and being able to relate to others feelings , even if your own feelings and experiences aren’t in the same frame of reference.
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5/10 for attainment. How wonderful "
hmmmmm for achievement i'd say  I'd given you a 9 but you are your own harshest critic..... so 5 it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Empathy is nothing to do with feeling physical energy. It’s about being able to understand someone’s experience and the emotions they’re feeling, and why they’re feeling them. It’s about being perceptive to others feelings and being able to relate to others feelings , even if your own feelings and experiences aren’t in the same frame of reference.
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5/10 for attainment. How wonderful
hmmmmm for achievement i'd say I'd given you a 9 but you are your own harshest critic..... so 5 it is "
Thanks, Teach! X |
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And O.P. don't latch on to those that saying being an empath means they know what is going on inside other people or can read their minds....
They've watched too many t.v. series that use the theme for entertainment. Or read too many books that use the theme lightly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back "
Humanity has never left that place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can I just make something very very clear about my threads
Half the time I already know the answers
I have empathy
I have too much empathy in a world filled with hurt and betrayal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I just make something very very clear about my threads
Half the time I already know the answers
I have empathy
I have too much empathy in a world filled with hurt and betrayal "
But I will always care because that how I work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be a bit crippling to be an empath I think. They take every feeling and emotion on, want to save, heal, understand the world and suffer burnout eventually. |
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"It can be a bit crippling to be an empath I think. They take every feeling and emotion on, want to save, heal, understand the world and suffer burnout eventually. "
That just about describes the first 49 years of my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be a bit crippling to be an empath I think. They take every feeling and emotion on, want to save, heal, understand the world and suffer burnout eventually. "
That sounds rather exhausting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool."
Massively, to gain information etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool."
Absolutely true and it happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be a bit crippling to be an empath I think. They take every feeling and emotion on, want to save, heal, understand the world and suffer burnout eventually. "
It can be but meditatation, reiki etc help. We just absorb negative energy more easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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'Their ability to discern what others are feeling goes beyond empathy (defined simply as the ability to understand the feelings of others) and extends to actually taking those feelings on; feeling what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.'
With respect to all but nobody has this ability because nobody has the capacity to truly feel someone else's feelings. If you do truly believe this then you may require therapy of some kind. |
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"But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool."
I was a tool for many years. One to be used by others when required. It was my role in life and I fulfilled it perfectly and many people benefited but I reached breaking point at the age of 40 and fell ill as a result.
I recovered and tried to continue as before and even though the empathy was a strong as ever, my desire to help, fix or save had changed.
I had to fix me and I took that first step 7 years ago and have discovered I still have my powers of empathy and can still help but it's not my mission in life anymore.
I discovered a new power called being selfish and have found a balance between both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be a bit crippling to be an empath I think. They take every feeling and emotion on, want to save, heal, understand the world and suffer burnout eventually.
That just about describes the first 49 years of my life. "
Hope its been more peaceful for you since hitting 50. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"'Their ability to discern what others are feeling goes beyond empathy (defined simply as the ability to understand the feelings of others) and extends to actually taking those feelings on; feeling what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.'
With respect to all but nobody has this ability because nobody has the capacity to truly feel someone else's feelings. If you do truly believe this then you may require therapy of some kind. "
We pick up on people's energy by being around them and communicating with them, we discover different traits they show and mannerisms
It's not just about reading someone's mind
It's about reading your own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"'Their ability to discern what others are feeling goes beyond empathy (defined simply as the ability to understand the feelings of others) and extends to actually taking those feelings on; feeling what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.'
With respect to all but nobody has this ability because nobody has the capacity to truly feel someone else's feelings. If you do truly believe this then you may require therapy of some kind. "
I personally think everyone of us on the planet requires some sort of group therapy
Retrain certain ways of thinking and seeing things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel other’s emotions but I’m not sure I’m an Empath, I may not feel their emotions as deep as them but I am often brought to tears when I see someone hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're right because reading someone's mind is telepathy, which is also supernatural.
Being empathetic or showing empathy is not the same as being an empath.
You're right in saying that you relate to someone through similar feelings therefore showing empathy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel other’s emotions but I’m not sure I’m an Empath, I may not feel their emotions as deep as them but I am often brought to tears when I see someone hurt."
It's a nice trait to have and shows you are caring with a good heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Their ability to discern what others are feeling goes beyond empathy (defined simply as the ability to understand the feelings of others) and extends to actually taking those feelings on; feeling what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.'
With respect to all but nobody has this ability because nobody has the capacity to truly feel someone else's feelings. If you do truly believe this then you may require therapy of some kind.
I personally think everyone of us on the planet requires some sort of group therapy
Retrain certain ways of thinking and seeing things "
Its always the empath that gets broken and used up. It would be nice for people to learn they dont have to always take advantage and ruin things for their own selfish gain. That goes for lots of things humans touch or are around so it is a big ask. But it does seem to be the human go to, break the nice thing once it has been wrung dry. |
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back "
feels like your surrounded by wolves with soft centres, nice to meet others who are also empaths |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back
feels like your surrounded by wolves with soft centres, nice to meet others who are also empaths "
Namaste |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think some people are more aware than others. Those who are can sense many different feelings and are able to demonstrate empathy and appropriate physical responses. |
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"Being an empath is different to having empathy."
This
I'm an empathe, I can literally feel other people's emotions, if they're stressed, shut off, excitable, sad, happy, I feel it with them.
It can be quite unsettling and exhausting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being an empath is different to having empathy.
This
I'm an empathe, I can literally feel other people's emotions, if they're stressed, shut off, excitable, sad, happy, I feel it with them.
It can be quite unsettling and exhausting."
It can, but being around others who are the same gives support. I find reiki and meditation helps to rebalanced me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me? "
My energy is torn back and forth daily |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me? "
Yes. I have to avoid certain situations so I don't suffer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
My energy is torn back and forth daily "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
Yes. I have to avoid certain situations so I don't suffer."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me? "
I was having this very conversation yesterday. If possible, distance yourself from people or situations that make you feel that way. If not, take a deep breath, hold for a few seconds, then repeat twice. Breathe in positive energy, breathe out the negative |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Do empaths have to be with a person to pick up/understand another's feelings? Can they do it online?
Do empaths have to be on good terms to absorb/pick up on another's feelings?
Genuine curiosity as to how it works. |
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"Do empaths have to be with a person to pick up/understand another's feelings? Can they do it online?
Do empaths have to be on good terms to absorb/pick up on another's feelings?
Genuine curiosity as to how it works."
I have genuinely felt physical pain when chatting to someone in a different country but that was someone I knew well and had been friends with for a few years.
The being on good terms part for me that would probably be a yes because any empathy I've had for certain people has dissipated when they have abused our friendship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I was having this very conversation yesterday. If possible, distance yourself from people or situations that make you feel that way. If not, take a deep breath, hold for a few seconds, then repeat twice. Breathe in positive energy, breathe out the negative"
Thank you |
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I believe I'm an empath. I'm very perceptive of others emotions and feelings. I also hugely care for people who struggle and suffer. But not to such a state it leaves me emptied as it does a number of empaths. I think this is why from a young age friends would always turn to me with their problems. It can be a superpower and a curse.. but if managed correctly, I believe it to be a very powerful and emboldening energy to possess |
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"It's why I'm such a great sexual partner. "
It definitely also means we are sexual superstars We strive for connection and understanding of exactly what the other person likes.. and so the giving is reciprocated. As all good sex should be |
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back "
I think you’re quite right . think sadly that this the result to some degree a result of capitalism - that everything has a price but not necessarily a value and by extension the commoditisation of shallow popularity. Which drives vanity and entitlement. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool."
I am not sure whether or not this would be empathy or perhaps more the capability of a narcissist/ sociopath to emulate empathic behaviour in order to pursue a gain e.g. manipulation.
My idea of empath is more around them feeling the same or similar emptions as the person they are attending / listening to?
Yes, it can be draining, no doubt but then empaths also get energised through other people. |
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back
I think you’re quite right . think sadly that this the result to some degree a result of capitalism - that everything has a price but not necessarily a value and by extension the commoditisation of shallow popularity. Which drives vanity and entitlement. "
Everything is now disposable including humans.
30 years ago a former school careers officer told me of a major seachange in the way young people were beginning to see themselves.
Previous generations when asked what they wanted to be when they grew up said, doctors, footballers, truck drivers, firemen etc.
He knew things were changing when the answer to that question suddenly became "famous". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But it surely depends on the person. People who are very empathic are not exclusively nice people. Just like all other emotional attributes, it's the choices people make towards others that defines them.
Also someone who is empathic doesn't necessarily have to show empathy towards others. |
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"But empathy isn't necessarily a positive thing, which it seems you're eluding to. Having understanding of how someone feels can be used as manipulative tool.
I am not sure whether or not this would be empathy or perhaps more the capability of a narcissist/ sociopath to emulate empathic behaviour in order to pursue a gain e.g. manipulation.
My idea of empath is more around them feeling the same or similar emptions as the person they are attending / listening to?
Yes, it can be draining, no doubt but then empaths also get energised through other people. "
I was about to disagree with your last sentence but then realised this is very true. I am energised by taking people someplace for their first time or exploring a sexual curiosity that they've never been able to achieve before and I see it through their eyes and feel their joy and pleasure. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But it surely depends on the person. People who are very empathic are not exclusively nice people. Just like all other emotional attributes, it's the choices people make towards others that defines them.
Also someone who is empathic doesn't necessarily have to show empathy towards others. "
They know it in there own heads |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everything is now disposable including humans.
30 years ago a former school careers officer told me of a major seachange in the way young people were beginning to see themselves.
Previous generations when asked what they wanted to be when they grew up said, doctors, footballers, truck drivers, firemen etc.
He knew things were changing when the answer to that question suddenly became "famous"."
For 30 years that was very insightful - by comparison to today’s standards with reality tv and social media etc. Myst have been a v wise teacher. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So that just sounds like you care about how your friends feel and would like to ease that burden... If you're not friends then the superpower has mysteriously disappeared? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do empaths have to be with a person to pick up/understand another's feelings? Can they do it online?
Do empaths have to be on good terms to absorb/pick up on another's feelings?
Genuine curiosity as to how it works."
If I’m close to someone I can do it over a distance, and sometimes I can read people’s energies.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"O.P. If you want to understand what empathy is ( it's nothing brain shattering ) and wish to develop your own empathatic skills ..... read some clued up research on it....
Being empathetic isn't something magical or mystical it's simply being less egocentric and considering your own feelings and being more aware of the other person and their needs....
e.g. If you were planning a day out for you and me ... you'd consider what I can and can't do and what I do and don't like and factor that into your plans... You wouldn't just say , Okay Granny let's get pissed and pick up a couple of birds.
It's more complicated than that ... but believe me ..... not much and the above is not a bad start.
Consider others and their feelings. Maybe learn to read body language and find out about people but ffs...... don't over analyse shit ... "
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I was having this very conversation yesterday. If possible, distance yourself from people or situations that make you feel that way. If not, take a deep breath, hold for a few seconds, then repeat twice. Breathe in positive energy, breathe out the negative
Thank you "
Also grounding and protecting yourself can be very useful.
Do you practice self care? |
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"So that just sounds like you care about how your friends feel and would like to ease that burden... If you're not friends then the superpower has mysteriously disappeared?"
If that's aimed at me as I'm not quite sure the answer is no it hasn't mysteriously gone anywhere.
It has been deliberately bypassed because of their toxic nature and the longer I spend with them the more toxic I become.
Therefore sacrifices have to be made and I remove them from my circle. The superpower is still there and that's the problem in that case. |
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I was having this very conversation yesterday. If possible, distance yourself from people or situations that make you feel that way. If not, take a deep breath, hold for a few seconds, then repeat twice. Breathe in positive energy, breathe out the negative
Thank you
Also grounding and protecting yourself can be very useful.
Do you practice self care?"
Thank you
I use crystals a lot, I take lots of me time and baths |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll apologise in advance if you're offended but some comments on here are just ridiculous!
It's just nonesense, a subject of emotion, gift wrapped in over romanticised words to explain that some people are more emotional than others.
I've attempted to inject some rational thinking but you're all swimming in the deep end of bullshit. I just can't read it anymore, it's painful. |
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I think you mean 'trolling' and no I'm not but I almost thought an intelligent conversation was ahead in this chatroom and instead I got a load of over romanticised waffle. |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
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Hey, dont knock the menopause. When women see the light finally. |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
Hey, dont knock the menopause. When women see the light finally. "
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Unfortunately empaths are often the victims of narcissists, overt or covert. If you wonder about the strange behaviour of a loved one, but can’t quite put your finger on an explanation look up covert narcissist. It may explain things.
Some empaths overlook their own feelings to accommodate others.
Biggest life lesson I had to learn was to put myself and my own feelings first. Some of the time at least. If you aren’t happy, how can you be any good for those that you care for? |
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"Unfortunately empaths are often the victims of narcissists, overt or covert. If you wonder about the strange behaviour of a loved one, but can’t quite put your finger on an explanation look up covert narcissist. It may explain things.
Some empaths overlook their own feelings to accommodate others.
Biggest life lesson I had to learn was to put myself and my own feelings first. Some of the time at least. If you aren’t happy, how can you be any good for those that you care for?"
I had to numb my feelings for a few years! Too much, but I’m coming back! |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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I'm not buying the mystical/supernatural explanations of empath. I think over time we recognise patterns in human behaviour and our conscious feeds us data allowing us to make decisions on how that person is feeling |
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"I'm not buying the mystical/supernatural explanations of empath. I think over time we recognise patterns in human behaviour and our conscious feeds us data allowing us to make decisions on how that person is feeling"
Well said |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
Don't get me wrong I have been with a lady post menopause and it was a very enjoyable experience x
Hey, dont knock the menopause. When women see the light finally. "
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me? "
I’ve been told that negative people are naturally drawn to empaths as they, probably subconsciously, know their negativity will spur an empath to try and help them.
Whether empaths or not, negative people can drain you. If you let them. Recognising them and cutting them off feels bad but is necessary. |
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I’ve been told that negative people are naturally drawn to empaths as they, probably subconsciously, know their negativity will spur an empath to try and help them.
Whether empaths or not, negative people can drain you. If you let them. Recognising them and cutting them off feels bad but is necessary."
Thank you
I’m learning but sometimes I don’t recognise it  |
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For me being an empath is if you see someone fall off a bike for example you feel it. My whole body goes warm and while I don't feel pain as such, I can feel where it happens and if there is an altercation I get nervous as I can't see people in fights
Also picking up on how people are feeling and reading people easily
Not sure if that's correct or not. If it is I am
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I’ve been told that negative people are naturally drawn to empaths as they, probably subconsciously, know their negativity will spur an empath to try and help them.
Whether empaths or not, negative people can drain you. If you let them. Recognising them and cutting them off feels bad but is necessary.
Thank you
I’m learning but sometimes I don’t recognise it "
It doesn't come easy, it's something you learn over time. |
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"Can I ask the Empaths, do you get your energy drained from you? I’m often drained of my energy my vibe when around people who are not as positive as me?
I’ve been told that negative people are naturally drawn to empaths as they, probably subconsciously, know their negativity will spur an empath to try and help them.
Whether empaths or not, negative people can drain you. If you let them. Recognising them and cutting them off feels bad but is necessary.
Thank you
I’m learning but sometimes I don’t recognise it
It doesn't come easy, it's something you learn over time. "
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"For me being an empath is if you see someone fall off a bike for example you feel it. My whole body goes warm and while I don't feel pain as such, I can feel where it happens and if there is an altercation I get nervous as I can't see people in fights
Also picking up on how people are feeling and reading people easily
Not sure if that's correct or not. If it is I am
R"
I understand that, if someone falls etc I actually feel it physically (not pain as such) I can’t really explain what I feel but it’s definitely a physical experience through my body. |
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"Thank you
I’m learning but sometimes I don’t recognise it "
Sadly it takes years to learn the signs and then feel strong enough to cut off. Particularly as those people are experts at creating guilt.
I still get caught out but recognise it sooner. |
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over a year ago
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"For me being an empath is if you see someone fall off a bike for example you feel it. My whole body goes warm and while I don't feel pain as such, I can feel where it happens and if there is an altercation I get nervous as I can't see people in fights
Also picking up on how people are feeling and reading people easily
Not sure if that's correct or not. If it is I am
R
I understand that, if someone falls etc I actually feel it physically (not pain as such) I can’t really explain what I feel but it’s definitely a physical experience through my body."
A glitch type feeling, ya senses shutting down to avoid extreme pain and trauma |
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"I think the world has sadly become quite a selfish and angry place. More and more are not considering the feelings of others and how our words and actions effect others. There’s is definitely less empathy than ever.
It’s a difficult time for everyone but it’s taken humanity to a sad and selfish place.
I hope we can get some of the thoughtfulness back "
I cannot agree more. Unfortunately, this is to do with humans. We are the most selfish of all the animals on this planet. Sometimes I think we don't deserve to live on this planet. This pandemic have proven more then ever. But we must not give up on humanity. Our legacy is to teach and pass on our wisdom that a world with empathy and mindedness will change they way we human treat each others. I practice that every day in the course of my job. "Be Kind"  |
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"For me being an empath is if you see someone fall off a bike for example you feel it. My whole body goes warm and while I don't feel pain as such, I can feel where it happens and if there is an altercation I get nervous as I can't see people in fights
Also picking up on how people are feeling and reading people easily
Not sure if that's correct or not. If it is I am
R
I understand that, if someone falls etc I actually feel it physically (not pain as such) I can’t really explain what I feel but it’s definitely a physical experience through my body.
A glitch type feeling, ya senses shutting down to avoid extreme pain and trauma "
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab "
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses. |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab "
I read somewhere that only 2% of men are above 8" and the larger percentage of those are also on fab, how amazing |
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"Thank you
I’m learning but sometimes I don’t recognise it
Sadly it takes years to learn the signs and then feel strong enough to cut off. Particularly as those people are experts at creating guilt.
I still get caught out but recognise it sooner. "
Your so right, sadly
My best friend always tells me not everyone is like me! It takes a while but I see them eventually |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses. "
Are you saying that nurses and carers are empaths? |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses.
Are you saying that nurses and carers are empaths?"
To some degree. You cannot sustain a life of caring for others without empathy. |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses. "
Well I have to back you up here even though iv not had 1 meet from here the majority of women iv spoken to and met have also been carers and nurses, it's long hours |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses.
Are you saying that nurses and carers are empaths?
To some degree. You cannot sustain a life of caring for others without empathy. "
Possessing the trait of empathy does not an empath make |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses.
Are you saying that nurses and carers are empaths?
To some degree. You cannot sustain a life of caring for others without empathy. "
It's how I discovered my level of empathy because I've been a carer from the age of 12 |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses.
Are you saying that nurses and carers are empaths?
To some degree. You cannot sustain a life of caring for others without empathy.
It's how I discovered my level of empathy because I've been a carer from the age of 12 "
Or should I say discovered that I was an empath and spent almost 40 years feeling the pain of others. |
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important. "
I could feel you from the other room hehe |
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"For a trait that's statistically unusual in the general population, there's an unusually high percentage on fab
Hence why in 4 years here I can confidently say that 70-80 percent of women I have chatted to are full or part time carers or nurses.
Well I have to back you up here even though iv not had 1 meet from here the majority of women iv spoken to and met have also been carers and nurses, it's long hours "
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I am an empath and it is a curse at times.
I am very sensitive to people’s emotions, they hit me like waves.
I always go with my gut instinct when I meet others, I know if they are a decent person straight away. If someone is being dishonest I know.
If someone dislikes me I sense it.
My mum and her mum were the same and I can often remember her saying she wished she couldn’t read people the way she did. I never understood why until many years later.
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"Amazing to think 1-2 % of the population are empaths, but on this thread it’s 80%
Weird that, and in a thread about empaths too  "
Probably be easier to ask who isn’t one. |
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important.
I could feel you from the other room hehe"
My aura and presence is strong lol |
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"I am an empath and it is a curse at times.
I am very sensitive to people’s emotions, they hit me like waves.
I always go with my gut instinct when I meet others, I know if they are a decent person straight away. If someone is being dishonest I know.
If someone dislikes me I sense it.
My mum and her mum were the same and I can often remember her saying she wished she couldn’t read people the way she did. I never understood why until many years later.
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Among other things |
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"Being an empath is different to having empathy.
This
I'm an empathe, I can literally feel other people's emotions, if they're stressed, shut off, excitable, sad, happy, I feel it with them.
It can be quite unsettling and exhausting."
Do you need a lot of alone time to recharge, too? It is exhausting but I wouldn’t change it - I bet you have helped so many people, through tough times and are a valued friend x |
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"I am an empath and it is a curse at times.
I am very sensitive to people’s emotions, they hit me like waves.
I always go with my gut instinct when I meet others, I know if they are a decent person straight away. If someone is being dishonest I know.
If someone dislikes me I sense it.
My mum and her mum were the same and I can often remember her saying she wished she couldn’t read people the way she did. I never understood why until many years later.
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It saves so much time on here though
Meeting decent and amazing people and avoiding the dodgy ones  |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I don't think you have to be an empath to know what your partner is feeling sexually OP. We all have the ability to empathise.. To have a level of understanding and a deep perception of what another is experiencing or may experience in a given situation.
In a sexual context, if we're open to it, we can certainly exchange a sense of sexual energy and chemistry which allows us to build on what we are all feeling and share the feeling. That mutual pleasure feeling that arises is exactly this!
Being an empath is a little different. It's a fairly recent 'personality' acknowledgement in the world of psychology.. I think.. (don't quote me, I'm only an annoying amateur psychologist!). My understanding is that for an empath, the perception of others feelings and experience is felt a little deeper in the senses and in the nervous system. It doesnt surprise me.. We are all intrinsically linked in an innate way. We help to regulate each other, pick up on others feelings. It's not difficult to know when someone is excited or angry even if they don't say anything. Empaths are more aware of the subtleties and can even have their own deep response.. Often physical or emotional.
It's good for empaths to sort out what is theirs and what is not.. good boundaries and to learn not to let their sensitivity overwhelm and influence themselves and others. I see it in my daughter and have some experience myself.
In a positive light it's a gorgeous gift of Compassion and human and social understanding. For an empath, good boundaries and self awareness and self Compassion are super important.
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"Amazing to think 1-2 % of the population are empaths, but on this thread it’s 80%"
Regarding that 1-2%
Asking sincerely - are you able to guide me towards a peer reviewed scientific paper that backs this up? |
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"I don't think you have to be an empath to know what your partner is feeling sexually OP. We all have the ability to empathise.. To have a level of understanding and a deep perception of what another is experiencing or may experience in a given situation.
In a sexual context, if we're open to it, we can certainly exchange a sense of sexual energy and chemistry which allows us to build on what we are all feeling and share the feeling. That mutual pleasure feeling that arises is exactly this!
Being an empath is a little different. It's a fairly recent 'personality' acknowledgement in the world of psychology.. I think.. (don't quote me, I'm only an annoying amateur psychologist!). My understanding is that for an empath, the perception of others feelings and experience is felt a little deeper in the senses and in the nervous system. It doesnt surprise me.. We are all intrinsically linked in an innate way. We help to regulate each other, pick up on others feelings. It's not difficult to know when someone is excited or angry even if they don't say anything. Empaths are more aware of the subtleties and can even have their own deep response.. Often physical or emotional.
It's good for empaths to sort out what is theirs and what is not.. good boundaries and to learn not to let their sensitivity overwhelm and influence themselves and others. I see it in my daughter and have some experience myself.
In a positive light it's a gorgeous gift of Compassion and human and social understanding. For an empath, good boundaries and self awareness and self Compassion are super important.
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Lovely interpretation. Thank you. Empaths aren't limited to "reading" people either. We can "feel" situations, surroundings and nature. With people though, boundaries are essential. It's not always appropriate to be told what we can sense. |
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"O.P. If you want to understand what empathy is ( it's nothing brain shattering ) and wish to develop your own empathatic skills ..... read some clued up research on it....
Being empathetic isn't something magical or mystical it's simply being less egocentric and considering your own feelings and being more aware of the other person and their needs....
e.g. If you were planning a day out for you and me ... you'd consider what I can and can't do and what I do and don't like and factor that into your plans... You wouldn't just say , Okay Granny let's get pissed and pick up a couple of birds.
It's more complicated than that ... but believe me ..... not much and the above is not a bad start.
Consider others and their feelings. Maybe learn to read body language and find out about people but ffs...... don't over analyse shit ...
HAH I KNEW it! You ARE a dude "
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
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I was just about to back you up but the menopause and vagina comments lost my sympathy ... in the interests of reason , logic and truth .... you have been a breath of fresh air on a thread full of delusion ..... it's like Hocus Pocus night on this thread. |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
I was just about to back you up but the menopause and vagina comments lost my sympathy ... in the interests of reason , logic and truth .... you have been a breath of fresh air on a thread full of delusion ..... it's like Hocus Pocus night on this thread."
You don't need to be an empath to sense your rudeness and arrogance. Maybe just scroll by threads that you have no interest or constructive opinion on. Just an idea. |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
I was just about to back you up but the menopause and vagina comments lost my sympathy ... in the interests of reason , logic and truth .... you have been a breath of fresh air on a thread full of delusion ..... it's like Hocus Pocus night on this thread.
You don't need to be an empath to sense your rudeness and arrogance. Maybe just scroll by threads that you have no interest or constructive opinion on. Just an idea. "
If you were an empath you'd sense just how much effect that's had on me.
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
I was just about to back you up but the menopause and vagina comments lost my sympathy ... in the interests of reason , logic and truth .... you have been a breath of fresh air on a thread full of delusion ..... it's like Hocus Pocus night on this thread.
You don't need to be an empath to sense your rudeness and arrogance. Maybe just scroll by threads that you have no interest or constructive opinion on. Just an idea.
If you were an empath you'd sense just how much effect that's had on me.
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Does it work through the interweb ? |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
I was just about to back you up but the menopause and vagina comments lost my sympathy ... in the interests of reason , logic and truth .... you have been a breath of fresh air on a thread full of delusion ..... it's like Hocus Pocus night on this thread."
I sense you are not an empath
I really hope you are not implying we are all deluded. |
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No takers ? "
A mild touch of righteous indignation at not being empathed?
/humour (for the mods incase they can’t differentiate) |
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"Haha good attempt at a response, however you do sound like you're going through a menopause and that involves having a vagina.
Hey, dont knock the menopause. When women see the light finally. "
I am perimenopausal I think, and I am also hungry if that helps |
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"What am I feeling now ?
No takers ?
A mild touch of righteous indignation at not being empathed?
/humour (for the mods incase they can’t differentiate)"
Way off, I’m feeling slightly perplexed and bemused, but most of all a sense of hubris and entitlement mixed in with a slight Malaise caused by the onset of wondering why when you buy a bigger bed you have more bed room, but less bedroom.
I’m sensing your slight annoyance that I didn’t answer your last question, close or way off ? |
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"What am I feeling now ?
No takers ?
A mild touch of righteous indignation at not being empathed?
/humour (for the mods incase they can’t differentiate)
Way off, I’m feeling slightly perplexed and bemused, but most of all a sense of hubris and entitlement mixed in with a slight Malaise caused by the onset of wondering why when you buy a bigger bed you have more bed room, but less bedroom.
I’m sensing your slight annoyance that I didn’t answer your last question, close or way off ? "
Really just trying to decide which pub to go to next. But you were close.
As for the bed situation…. Just get a bigger house. Life’s too short to keep bashing your shins in the bed!
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
I am an empath, and yes we feel the energies of others. Empaths are givers and are sensitive to how others feel and respond.
You don't need to be an empath to understand a partner though. You just need to know them, their wants, their needs, their desires. Make them the sole focus and learn from their responses and reactions. Communication, observation and understanding are really important. "
It can be exhausting |
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"Apparently empaths feel others feelings
Could that be also in sexual ways ?
Could it be empathy that enables us to see and feel how we are making our sexual partner feel ?
It does exist if find the right person there is link, feeling what they are felling even when you are not in the same room
That is not what empathy is. "
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"O.P. If you want to understand what empathy is ( it's nothing brain shattering ) and wish to develop your own empathatic skills ..... read some clued up research on it....
Being empathetic isn't something magical or mystical it's simply being less egocentric and considering your own feelings and being more aware of the other person and their needs....
e.g. If you were planning a day out for you and me ... you'd consider what I can and can't do and what I do and don't like and factor that into your plans... You wouldn't just say , Okay Granny let's get pissed and pick up a couple of birds.
It's more complicated than that ... but believe me ..... not much and the above is not a bad start.
Consider others and their feelings. Maybe learn to read body language and find out about people but ffs...... don't over analyse shit ... "
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"I don't think you have to be an empath to know what your partner is feeling sexually OP. We all have the ability to empathise.. To have a level of understanding and a deep perception of what another is experiencing or may experience in a given situation.
In a sexual context, if we're open to it, we can certainly exchange a sense of sexual energy and chemistry which allows us to build on what we are all feeling and share the feeling. That mutual pleasure feeling that arises is exactly this!
Being an empath is a little different. It's a fairly recent 'personality' acknowledgement in the world of psychology.. I think.. (don't quote me, I'm only an annoying amateur psychologist!). My understanding is that for an empath, the perception of others feelings and experience is felt a little deeper in the senses and in the nervous system. It doesnt surprise me.. We are all intrinsically linked in an innate way. We help to regulate each other, pick up on others feelings. It's not difficult to know when someone is excited or angry even if they don't say anything. Empaths are more aware of the subtleties and can even have their own deep response.. Often physical or emotional.
It's good for empaths to sort out what is theirs and what is not.. good boundaries and to learn not to let their sensitivity overwhelm and influence themselves and others. I see it in my daughter and have some experience myself.
In a positive light it's a gorgeous gift of Compassion and human and social understanding. For an empath, good boundaries and self awareness and self Compassion are super important.
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"O.P. If you want to understand what empathy is ( it's nothing brain shattering ) and wish to develop your own empathatic skills ..... read some clued up research on it....
Being empathetic isn't something magical or mystical it's simply being less egocentric and considering your own feelings and being more aware of the other person and their needs....
e.g. If you were planning a day out for you and me ... you'd consider what I can and can't do and what I do and don't like and factor that into your plans... You wouldn't just say , Okay Granny let's get pissed and pick up a couple of birds.
It's more complicated than that ... but believe me ..... not much and the above is not a bad start.
Consider others and their feelings. Maybe learn to read body language and find out about people but ffs...... don't over analyse shit ...
HAH I KNEW it! You ARE a dude
You make me laugh x I'm not but if it suits you to think that it suits me "
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