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I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
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Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma "
I wasn't implying that you create it, I read it back after I posted and that wasn't directed at you personally, merely one of the reasons jealousy/control rears up. |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma "
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
I wasn't implying that you create it, I read it back after I posted and that wasn't directed at you personally, merely one of the reasons jealousy/control rears up."
Oh I didn't think it was but I do totally get where your coming from, I will get asked, so how many other women you chatting to,, am I supposed to lie because women seem shocked when I say a few, thank me for my honesty, what's that all about ?
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
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On here or in general? Not everyone likes to share. |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work "
Could be that they're a catastrophiser. I used to do that with my dad as a child. I'd sit watching out the window waiting for him to get home from work. If he wasn't back when he said he'd be back I'd end up in tears thinking he'd had a car accident.
I ain't trying to justify accusations or whatnot, but I do kinda get it. One of my ex's was a right liar. He'd be "going to get petrol"..... at the pub. Then swear blind i was going mental and imagining things even though I could smell the fucking alcohol on him. He was a cheat too.
So, when my most recent ex said he would ring at Xyz and didn't, I wondered what he was doing, who he was talking to, why tell me a time if you can't stick to it?
Wounding. Fear and insecurity. |
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
On here or in general? Not everyone likes to share. "
I've never ever ever ever come across a woman that's even remotely into the idea of sharing me lol |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
I wasn't implying that you create it, I read it back after I posted and that wasn't directed at you personally, merely one of the reasons jealousy/control rears up.
Oh I didn't think it was but I do totally get where your coming from, I will get asked, so how many other women you chatting to,, am I supposed to lie because women seem shocked when I say a few, thank me for my honesty, what's that all about ?
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Some want to be choice #1.
They want to feel special. |
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
On here or in general? Not everyone likes to share.
I've never ever ever ever come across a woman that's even remotely into the idea of sharing me lol "
Okay, that's not what I asked. You said you were intrigued by women who are happy to share. I was curious about where you meant. Personally, sharing doesn't phase me but we are all different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
I wasn't implying that you create it, I read it back after I posted and that wasn't directed at you personally, merely one of the reasons jealousy/control rears up.
Oh I didn't think it was but I do totally get where your coming from, I will get asked, so how many other women you chatting to,, am I supposed to lie because women seem shocked when I say a few, thank me for my honesty, what's that all about ?
Some want to be choice #1.
They want to feel special."
This is true. Some do want to feel special. Some could never get their heads round the idea of sharing a partner or why people are happy with being non monogamous. |
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
On here or in general? Not everyone likes to share.
I've never ever ever ever come across a woman that's even remotely into the idea of sharing me lol "
You need to frequent swinging clubs. There's loads of ladies enjoy sharing  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Could be that they're a catastrophiser. I used to do that with my dad as a child. I'd sit watching out the window waiting for him to get home from work. If he wasn't back when he said he'd be back I'd end up in tears thinking he'd had a car accident.
I ain't trying to justify accusations or whatnot, but I do kinda get it. One of my ex's was a right liar. He'd be "going to get petrol"..... at the pub. Then swear blind i was going mental and imagining things even though I could smell the fucking alcohol on him. He was a cheat too.
So, when my most recent ex said he would ring at Xyz and didn't, I wondered what he was doing, who he was talking to, why tell me a time if you can't stick to it?
Wounding. Fear and insecurity. "
I'm a mechanic and in my trade I'm 1 snapped bolt away from an extra 3 hrs work, if iv said I will ring you at 1 and didn't it's likely because at 12.48 this bolt snapped, the heat was on and its on even more now, customer wants the car back so I cracked on, bolt drilled out, tapped and good to go, it's now 3.30 and I'm really sorry I said I'd call and didn't  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
On here or in general? Not everyone likes to share.
I've never ever ever ever come across a woman that's even remotely into the idea of sharing me lol
Okay, that's not what I asked. You said you were intrigued by women who are happy to share. I was curious about where you meant. Personally, sharing doesn't phase me but we are all different. "
OK, both, on here and in general |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Could be that they're a catastrophiser. I used to do that with my dad as a child. I'd sit watching out the window waiting for him to get home from work. If he wasn't back when he said he'd be back I'd end up in tears thinking he'd had a car accident.
I ain't trying to justify accusations or whatnot, but I do kinda get it. One of my ex's was a right liar. He'd be "going to get petrol"..... at the pub. Then swear blind i was going mental and imagining things even though I could smell the fucking alcohol on him. He was a cheat too.
So, when my most recent ex said he would ring at Xyz and didn't, I wondered what he was doing, who he was talking to, why tell me a time if you can't stick to it?
Wounding. Fear and insecurity.
I'm a mechanic and in my trade I'm 1 snapped bolt away from an extra 3 hrs work, if iv said I will ring you at 1 and didn't it's likely because at 12.48 this bolt snapped, the heat was on and its on even more now, customer wants the car back so I cracked on, bolt drilled out, tapped and good to go, it's now 3.30 and I'm really sorry I said I'd call and didn't "
I understand completely, I really do. Phones die, traffic happens, shit happens, work happens, life happens. I'm often due to finish work at a certain time and it rarely happens, but even with that, my own head still starts to tick-tock.
It's not a fun place to live, that place in my head. |
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x"
"A female" being like your date or girlfriend, to avoid confusion |
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x"
No but I have always been a slut |
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x
No but I have always been a slut "
Maybe make that clear to whoever you get involved with x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Probably not the site for you then op
Why not ?
You say your the jealous type this is a swingers site there is no room for jealousy "
Eh
I said they are the jealous type lol
Seriously
There's not 1 thing I will ever ever ever be jealous over lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x
No but I have always been a slut
Maybe make that clear to whoever you get involved with x"
They was well aware of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably not the site for you then op
Why not ?
You say your the jealous type this is a swingers site there is no room for jealousy
Eh
I said they are the jealous type lol
Seriously
There's not 1 thing I will ever ever ever be jealous over lol"
My bad op must have read it wrong sorry |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Probably not the site for you then op
Why not ?
You say your the jealous type this is a swingers site there is no room for jealousy
Eh
I said they are the jealous type lol
Seriously
There's not 1 thing I will ever ever ever be jealous over lol
My bad op must have read it wrong sorry "
That's 1 thing I'm not going to hold against you heaven as you are not alone on the forums when it comes to reading things wrong lol |
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x
No but I have always been a slut
Maybe make that clear to whoever you get involved with x
They was well aware of it "
That makes it their problem then. Carry on being a slut x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You chasing other women while in the presence of a female? Because that would piss me off as well and jealousy wouldn't be the reason x
No but I have always been a slut
Maybe make that clear to whoever you get involved with x
They was well aware of it
That makes it their problem then. Carry on being a slut x"
Again, are women actually OK with a man being a slut ? Fucking lots of different women
All iv ever experienced is jealousy and control |
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I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
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Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Could be that they're a catastrophiser. I used to do that with my dad as a child. I'd sit watching out the window waiting for him to get home from work. If he wasn't back when he said he'd be back I'd end up in tears thinking he'd had a car accident.
I ain't trying to justify accusations or whatnot, but I do kinda get it. One of my ex's was a right liar. He'd be "going to get petrol"..... at the pub. Then swear blind i was going mental and imagining things even though I could smell the fucking alcohol on him. He was a cheat too.
So, when my most recent ex said he would ring at Xyz and didn't, I wondered what he was doing, who he was talking to, why tell me a time if you can't stick to it?
Wounding. Fear and insecurity. "
Giiiiirl, Literally same here!! I used to do the same as a child to my dad too, and remember also having the same thought processes when he’d be back late and all, and I did translate that to my relationships (I’m learning not too tho) and having dealt with someone who also was a liar and a cheat… I did have those feelings of paranoia, and sense of abandonment or worrying that something is happening.
Super strange tho!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are people on here who like to be shared but don’t like their partner being shared. There are people who both share, there are many variations of what people are comfortable with, from groups to 1-1 interactions and the types of interaction, which all matter in a sexual encounter, but one common theme I’ve noticed with couples is respect with their honesty. There is a difference between leading someone on and wanting something else, or not taking the other persons preferences into consideration just focusing on your own, that’s basically narcissism to me |
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This is something I have been totally OK with.
Reason being is even if you are in a relationship with someone it doesn't make every other man and woman ugly. U can still look and admire and as long as I know ur intentions and its not sneakily done, then go fill ya boots.
But it is not for every woman. Some women want their man to themselves, there is nothing wrong with that either.
Can't give advice on any women even tho I am one, we are complicated creatures and even we can't figure us out. Hehe.
That friend with benefits is out there somewhere wanting something simular to u. The fun and cople type relationship but no strings and no hang ups in what each other gets up alone or in each others company.
But even in that type of friendship there should be a lot of trust and communication. X x
Good luck hun.
Kitten xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is something I have been totally OK with.
Reason being is even if you are in a relationship with someone it doesn't make every other man and woman ugly. U can still look and admire and as long as I know ur intentions and its not sneakily done, then go fill ya boots.
But it is not for every woman. Some women want their man to themselves, there is nothing wrong with that either.
Can't give advice on any women even tho I am one, we are complicated creatures and even we can't figure us out. Hehe.
That friend with benefits is out there somewhere wanting something simular to u. The fun and cople type relationship but no strings and no hang ups in what each other gets up alone or in each others company.
But even in that type of friendship there should be a lot of trust and communication. X x
Good luck hun.
Kitten xx"
Where are these women though ? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Everybody is different. Some men and woman don't want to share their partner and if the other half is happy then so be it, where it become a problem is a situation we experienced a few years ago.
We were at a large social chatting to a couple. During our conversation the female responded to a question with "I am allowed to play but HE is NOT" jabbing her finger aggressively at her husband. We assumed it was some sort of cuckold situation but later at the bar I asked him if he was happy with the situation as he looked depressed. He admitted he was not but then said "what can I do?" I didn't want to get involved at this point but just said communication is an important part of any relationship. It came as no surprise to learn a while later that they had split up. |
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By *not123Couple
over a year ago
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
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I get a bit jealous depends on situation if female is a giggle and see its just purely sexual and we tease him together im find when he with a straight and its more sensual i get a bit jealous but I don't make An issue |
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Some people are just naturally jealous people I think or there are reasons behind it to make them feel insecure. Neither of us are so we’ve never had any issues like that. Even outside of swinging.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am very intrigued by women that's OK with there fella or there fuck buddy being totally OK with him fucking other women, why have I always had the jealous controlling types ?
I get a bit jealous depends on situation if female is a giggle and see its just purely sexual and we tease him together im find when he with a straight and its more sensual i get a bit jealous but I don't make An issue "
You've just gained some respect from me 
Honest women are like rocking horse sh*t |
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It can also depend on the type of sharing. I'm perfectly happy with physical sharing, it's just an enjoyable physical act, like going to play golf with their mate. But I'm not okay with emotional sharing. Honesty and communication are important in my opinion, keeping that communication going throughout the relationship, and adjusting boundaries as necessary. |
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Depends on dynamic. Done the couples thing with one guy and felt no jealousy, it worked because of the dynamic of that relationship. Been in other relationships where I have felt jealous....always try and assess it though, I know it is my problem to deal with so I try and kerb it
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot "
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I loved sharing the love of my life with my best friend and watching him fuck her. It was amazing "
I've never experienced it but I recon I'd be totally OK watching a friend fuck the love of my life |
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x"
I wasn't allowed to fix women's cars, kept on timers
Constantly checked up on
It was jealousy and control |
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x
I wasn't allowed to fix women's cars, kept on timers
Constantly checked up on
It was jealousy and control "
You're talking about one individual? Sorry, i had the impression it's hapoening with every single woman you met.
That's just plain obsessive. I'd stay clear if you're not in a serious relationship with this person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x
I wasn't allowed to fix women's cars, kept on timers
Constantly checked up on
It was jealousy and control
You're talking about one individual? Sorry, i had the impression it's hapoening with every single woman you met.
That's just plain obsessive. I'd stay clear if you're not in a serious relationship with this person. "
I'm talking about them all, not just 1 |
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x
I wasn't allowed to fix women's cars, kept on timers
Constantly checked up on
It was jealousy and control
You're talking about one individual? Sorry, i had the impression it's hapoening with every single woman you met.
That's just plain obsessive. I'd stay clear if you're not in a serious relationship with this person.
I'm talking about them all, not just 1 "
Must be something about you then, that make the women folk go mad  |
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"I dunno, maybe you're drawn to the wounded types which is why it's happening every time?
Maybe you're making them feel as though they have something/someone to lose perhaps? I ain't there so can't see the relationship in action (not in a sexual sense I might add)
Or it could be that they're just trying to plan their own activities and are trying to work out your plans so they know what free time they have, and you're viewing their questioning as control?
Thinking maybe your right with drawn to the wounded type but that's not been what drew me to them
Was the fact they was hot
Could it also be that them being jealous is more in your head than anything else and you really just want to let everyone here know you're a slut?
I'm absolutely fine with you being a slut btw, whatever makes you happy x
I wasn't allowed to fix women's cars, kept on timers
Constantly checked up on
It was jealousy and control
You're talking about one individual? Sorry, i had the impression it's hapoening with every single woman you met.
That's just plain obsessive. I'd stay clear if you're not in a serious relationship with this person.
I'm talking about them all, not just 1
Must be something about you then, that make the women folk go mad "
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work "
Got a bit of this going on at work currently
New lad started
Turns out he only lives a few streets away from another colleague
He doesn't drive so has to get 2 buses to work and 2 buses home
Girl I work with said she as she only lived round the corner, she'd give him a lift when they were on the same shift
Did it twice, then it stopped
His GF isn't happy with him getting lifts off women
The office is 80% female, so let's hope she never pops her head in |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Got a bit of this going on at work currently
New lad started
Turns out he only lives a few streets away from another colleague
He doesn't drive so has to get 2 buses to work and 2 buses home
Girl I work with said she as she only lived round the corner, she'd give him a lift when they were on the same shift
Did it twice, then it stopped
His GF isn't happy with him getting lifts off women
The office is 80% female, so let's hope she never pops her head in "
Sounds like my kind of office |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Got a bit of this going on at work currently
New lad started
Turns out he only lives a few streets away from another colleague
He doesn't drive so has to get 2 buses to work and 2 buses home
Girl I work with said she as she only lived round the corner, she'd give him a lift when they were on the same shift
Did it twice, then it stopped
His GF isn't happy with him getting lifts off women
The office is 80% female, so let's hope she never pops her head in
Sounds like my kind of office "
4 blokes
16 women
Of the 16, 14 are in the 25-35 age bracket
Sounds good in theory
In reality it's like trying to work whilst a flock of seagulls fight over a chip |
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"Being a bit of an abusive kinda person who actually creates jealousy within their partner by behaving in ways or saying things that plant the jealousy seeds is one scenario.
The main reason for jealousy or what could on the surface appear to be jealousy and control, is basic fear and insecurity. Some of which you can help, some of which you cannot. Some really will be a byproduct of past experiences/trauma
Alls I've ever done is be me, go to work and come home, there's no way I was lucky to be able to as much as speak to other women
Timed how long it took to me to get home from work
Got a bit of this going on at work currently
New lad started
Turns out he only lives a few streets away from another colleague
He doesn't drive so has to get 2 buses to work and 2 buses home
Girl I work with said she as she only lived round the corner, she'd give him a lift when they were on the same shift
Did it twice, then it stopped
His GF isn't happy with him getting lifts off women
The office is 80% female, so let's hope she never pops her head in
Sounds like my kind of office
4 blokes
16 women
Of the 16, 14 are in the 25-35 age bracket
Sounds good in theory
In reality it's like trying to work whilst a flock of seagulls fight over a chip "
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