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over a year ago
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I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?
What's happening to me ?
This is actually a genuine thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve gone through stages like that where I’ve not wanted to meet, I think it’s perfectly normal. A lot of factors can alter our moods, stress, tiredness, self confidence so many things…
I actually found meeting again got me back on track  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be
It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?
What's happening to me ?
This is actually a genuine thread "
I was like this until I figured out I needed more! |
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"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be
It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea "
For a few just the amazing body or face will do, for others they need more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on "
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good "
Why would they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes just the routines of whats for tea, is the laundry done is enough. Sort of survival mode with not much left over for anything creative or fun. But still we keep going. |
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Y9ur not alone in this op I think it can happen to us all and at some point will, if you are feeling like that take a break from it, just take some time to yourself, chat to friends relax a bit and take the pressure off for a while meeting isn't the be all and end all, the world and everyone in it has gone through and exceptional time this year aswell so just tale some time to stop and breath. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Y9ur not alone in this op I think it can happen to us all and at some point will, if you are feeling like that take a break from it, just take some time to yourself, chat to friends relax a bit and take the pressure off for a while meeting isn't the be all and end all, the world and everyone in it has gone through and exceptional time this year aswell so just tale some time to stop and breath."
Don't really have friends, I call them acquaintances
I trust very few |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life has its ups and downs OP. I hope you are not feeling too bad. A bit of advice, when you are feeling low and are at the very bottom remember there is only one way you can go and that is up!
Take a break , chill and relax. Things will come together |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Not sure if this helps but... most thinking people (I am not talking about education but just thinking) have times when they question the meaning... the point of things. And that can feel... in itself a bit depressing.
It does pass... and it helps talking to people as you do in here, OP! |
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I go through this on a semi-regular basis, and when I do I stay away from here. Sometimes for weeks at a time, but eventually I feel better again and venture forth again.
I'm sure you'll be OK in the long run, OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good
Why would they?"
Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....
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"You won’t be alone OP.
Can I ask is it anyone or just sexual meets?
Both really"
Can understand this. Do you have an interest in something that would get you out and about at least away from the routine? Example I like photography and I get outside looking for different things to shoot, I don’t have to interact with anyone for it, but does help break up the norm and a sense of achievement at a good shot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment "
If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good
Why would they?
Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....
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I genuinely feel like I'm completely done, im not sure it's a phase either as I'm feeling completely different to how I have previously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
And you were doing so well there op "
Exactly. Wtf. No one owes you anything. Boils my blood with statements like that. You really have crashed and burned when as previous states you were doing so well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment
If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?"
Physically they're right
Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
And you were doing so well there op
Exactly. Wtf. No one owes you anything. Boils my blood with statements like that. You really have crashed and burned when as previous states you were doing so well. "
I'm confused ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good
Why would they?
Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....
I genuinely feel like I'm completely done, im not sure it's a phase either as I'm feeling completely different to how I have previously "
There's some good ideas on this thread.... maybe they can inspire you 
Hope so hun, it's shit feeling low xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good
Why would they?
Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....
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You need to make the effort to go out and join groups. Church. Places to meet people noe restrictions have been relaxed etc. No o e is going to cone to you and you need to seize the day. Make. Every day a can do with attitude. Wake up. Dust yourself down and go out in the real world. It's not easy but it's a start and you will enjoy and love it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment
If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?
Physically they're right
Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions "
Then you aren't compatible are you? Better not to judge the person for just being them. If you don't like them, don't meet them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I'm feeling like, you've got to be offering me something extra different for me to put my shoes on
Nobodys turned round and said, this isn't the place for you ..
So all good
Why would they?
Cos you sound so down and defeated - like you've had enough....
You need to make the effort to go out and join groups. Church. Places to meet people noe restrictions have been relaxed etc. No o e is going to cone to you and you need to seize the day. Make. Every day a can do with attitude. Wake up. Dust yourself down and go out in the real world. It's not easy but it's a start and you will enjoy and love it. "
Is that for me?
Oh I'm ok sweet, I've just had a social....
Just thinking about the OP.
The guys nice, I like him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be
It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea "
Sorry you’re not feeling as uobeat as you’d like OP. But what you describe..,, sounds a bit like “middle age” to me. Could be wrong but sounds familiar. Hope you bounce back soon and feel ‘yourself’ again (and no that’s bot intended to be a naughty pun!). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say I'm feeling down with it, just working out in my head whether or not I can be bothered putting my shoes on for disappointment
If meets are always disappointing, is it possible you're not meeting the right people? Perhaps there's a compatibility issue?
Physically they're right
Mentally , let's say I'd rather have tea with a pride of lions
Then you aren't compatible are you? Better not to judge the person for just being them. If you don't like them, don't meet them?"
I don't feel iv ever been compatible mentally with anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.
I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.
I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here."
Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.
I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here.
Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing "
Mind if I ask a personal Q? Ever been married or in a LTR, like true love, all that? And if so, what put you off it and into swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you've focussed life too much on sex for its own sake (your previous posts certainly sounded like that) and you've come to realise maybe there's a bit more to life than shagging, and looked into a void where meaning should be.
I could be talking out of my arse but that's how it looks from here.
Kind of, although I think it's more a case of there's always been something missing
Mind if I ask a personal Q? Ever been married or in a LTR, like true love, all that? And if so, what put you off it and into swinging? "
Iv never been married, iv been in a few ltr that involved love |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You know, it sometimes happens to a lot of us.
Try to worry about it...it will more than likely pass x
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I'm not worrying about it, I've kind of got the not arsed feeling going on |
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"You know, it sometimes happens to a lot of us.
Try to worry about it...it will more than likely pass x
I'm not worrying about it, I've kind of got the not arsed feeling going on "
Oh ok....that's good then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps you are currently not looking for more than you have and are actually content with thinking about what's for tea.
When 'life' becomes routine why is that, nearly, always seen as a negative? Perhaps those looking to break the routine and always striving for more 'experiences' are the ones searching for something and feeling like there is something 'missing'.
I would say not to overthink it OP (accept it) and take pleasure in the routine - sometimes you just need to slow down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just not feeling like I want to meet anyone at all, I'm feeling alot like,,,,, what's the point ?
What's happening to me ?
This is actually a genuine thread "
I'm actually impressed it is a genuine thread and not a dick-swinger. I was beginning to wonder if there was more to you than just the world's most powerful penis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been feeling this way for a while, long before lock down, I'm unimpressed by sj many different things that I used to be
It's like ok you've got an amazing body, but I'm more concerned about wtf I'm making for tea "
Are you feeling depressed in general? You've seemed for a while to have some underlying sadness.
Sending virtual hugs. Xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think sometimes in life you need to hit the pause button and take time out to reflect on what you really want from it - the things you thought you wanted might pale into the distance or that reflection might strengthen your resolve to achieve them, and sometimes that takes time to muddle through and get straight in your head.
Also if you have other things going on like work or family stuff that distract your attention they can have an effect too.
Keeping yourself occupied and trying not to dwell too much can help - for me I've found my daily hour and a half walks have been a great "head clearer" in many ways, they're my time to either lose myself in music or work thoughts through or sometimes both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,
I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,
Iv no idea what I want anymore
Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority
Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids
The struggle is real eh lol
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"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,
I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,
Iv no idea what I want anymore
Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority
Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids
The struggle is real eh lol
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There are women out there who appreciate this. M had a daughter before I met him as did I. However, my ex and I have a decent relationship with regards to our kids and we put them first always and decided to put a structured routine in for them.
Ms ex however, is not of the same mindset. She dictate when M could see his child, if she knew we had plans she'd let him see the child then and if he said he had plans she'd go mental and say he didn't love his child. This made our relationship hard to establish I can't lie.
But to me Ms daughter was his top priority and I've never kicked off if wanted to see her. It did come to ahead eventually had he had to take her to court to sort what days he had her, because it was unfair on his child and on him.
What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first. |
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"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,
I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,
Iv no idea what I want anymore
Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority
Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids
The struggle is real eh lol
There are women out there who appreciate this. M had a daughter before I met him as did I. However, my ex and I have a decent relationship with regards to our kids and we put them first always and decided to put a structured routine in for them.
Ms ex however, is not of the same mindset. She dictate when M could see his child, if she knew we had plans she'd let him see the child then and if he said he had plans she'd go mental and say he didn't love his child. This made our relationship hard to establish I can't lie.
But to me Ms daughter was his top priority and I've never kicked off if wanted to see her. It did come to ahead eventually had he had to take her to court to sort what days he had her, because it was unfair on his child and on him.
What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first. "
I'm thinking that is what puts me off, all iv experienced so far are very jealous toxic women
The idea makes my skin crawl |
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"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x
That's why I dumped her "
And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no |
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"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x
That's why I dumped her
And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no "
Totally agree, that reason is part reason why my kids are with me now and have been for nearly 4 year |
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"If a woman or man does not respect the fact that children come first, no matter what then I wouldn't want to know them x
That's why I dumped her
And you did the right thing. And anyone who would put a partner etc before their kids are another no no
Totally agree, that reason is part reason why my kids are with me now and have been for nearly 4 year "
Because a man was clearly more important |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am in no way defending blokes, they 2 can be arse holes, I know because iv been 1
In my experience ( there's lots )
Women act a good act, smile in your face whilst stabbing you in the back, jealousy and envy
In my experience women are very toxic
No I'm not taring everyone with the same brush
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"I'm a single dad, most women have ran a mile already,
I'm unable to make any type of plans without the possibility of me not being able to make plans happen,
Iv no idea what I want anymore
Being an half decent stable dad is my main priority
Iv found that alot of women don't like being less of a priority in life to a fellas kids
The struggle is real eh lol
There are women out there who appreciate this. M had a daughter before I met him as did I. However, my ex and I have a decent relationship with regards to our kids and we put them first always and decided to put a structured routine in for them.
Ms ex however, is not of the same mindset. She dictate when M could see his child, if she knew we had plans she'd let him see the child then and if he said he had plans she'd go mental and say he didn't love his child. This made our relationship hard to establish I can't lie.
But to me Ms daughter was his top priority and I've never kicked off if wanted to see her. It did come to ahead eventually had he had to take her to court to sort what days he had her, because it was unfair on his child and on him.
What my long rambling post means, there are women out there who understand kids come first.
I'm thinking that is what puts me off, all iv experienced so far are very jealous toxic women
The idea makes my skin crawl "
If anyone male or female can't see that kids are your top priority they aren't worth knowing.
I think as long as you're upfront about your time commitments at the start no prospective partner can complain.
I'm not saying that having a partner with kids isn't hard it is. Especially if the ex is toxic and tries to get the child to hate the new partner. Been there it's hard I can't lie. But there are women who understand and get it, especially of they have children of their own. Don't give up hope. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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With the Covid restrictions and my ongoing health issues I became depressed with the situation.
My daughter, who is aware I am on Fab, suggested looking in the world outside of Fab, I did, It worked, I have met someone close to my own age and it seems to be working well.
Fab is great, but there is life outside of it. |
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"With the Covid restrictions and my ongoing health issues I became depressed with the situation.
My daughter, who is aware I am on Fab, suggested looking in the world outside of Fab, I did, It worked, I have met someone close to my own age and it seems to be working well.
Fab is great, but there is life outside of it."
Aww that's brilliant! |
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