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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
Near Barnsley |
Hi, I'm looking to go to quest but it would be my first time ...I'm a single male .. I've looked on the website but would appreciate any feedback on what to expect, what should I wear, if I'm on my own what should I do etc ...thank you  |
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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
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So if you go with someone you know and is clean can you ? Why do you have to try and be funny and not just help advise or answer questions if you feel need to write anything at all ? |
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I have never seen anyone in a club wearing denim shorts. Why not wear long trousers ? If you get warm you can take them off and sit around in your boxers.
Yes unprotected sex is allowed but usually only happens between partners. |
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over a year ago
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Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
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"Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
C"
That last paragraph puts me off from going to clubs |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
Not been to quest, but as far as club etiquette, don't be pushy, don't expect to get a shag, just be yourself.
Dress codes vary from club to club, it's acceptable to be in boxers, or just a towel in most. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
C"
^^^^^^ absolutely this 
 zombie wankers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
C
That last paragraph puts me off from going to clubs "
We are not all like that. Most of us have good club/swinging etiquette x |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
C
That last paragraph puts me off from going to clubs "
they are not all that bad as in most places I have been to the bar area is separate, most have private play rooms, it's only the communal play areas that feel a little intimidating in respect of being watched.
I have used clubs more for the social aspect though I have played when I had been with a partner in the past |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"How do you do that , I just smile yeah ? "
Treat it like a normal night out. Socialise and get chatting to people.
You can ask people to “play” or it just kinda happens naturally.
Just be a gentleman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fucking spell check - try again 3rd time lucky.
My advice is dress to impress. Smart casual is always good. I go jeans/trousers and jumper/shirt depending on the weather. It gets hot in there in more way than one so short sleeved shirt is always a good one even on cold days.
Generally it ends up with most people in a towel and pants at some stage anyway.
In terms of what to expect. It’s really friendly. Most people in there will make you feel welcome. But don’t hound others. Some people will be there on their first time too. Chat to people at the bar. But be yourself. And see what happens.
Safe sex is imperative and everyone will insist on it unless you and your regular playmate agree otherwise between you and only you. Make no assumptions otherwise. Safe safe safe.
Depending on the night you might find yourself as 1 of a few single guys. My rule is not to go in the play areas unless invited by others. It helps you stop becoming labelled in with the ‘wanking dead’ key janglers. (Those who know know haha )
Hope this helps.
C
That last paragraph puts me off from going to clubs "
Yeah mate. Great advice . The towel zombie wankers . It's good as it makes the decent ones stand out from the crowd. I'm a regular at Quest and love the social side to swinging. It will be nice to see a few of my fab friends when back to normal |
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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
Near Barnsley |
"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way."
thank you , I will have to look into that thanks for the heads up. x
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Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. |
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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
Near Barnsley |
"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. "
thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. thank you , I will have to look into that thanks for the heads up. x"
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"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. I'm on the guest list for that"
How do I get on the list? |
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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
Near Barnsley |
"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. I'm on the guest list for that
How do I get on the list? "
.... Contact Dare2bedifferent for tickets |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ? "
Just say no thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. I'm on the guest list for that
How do I get on the list? "
contact dare2bedifferent on here |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way. I'm on the guest list for that
How do I get on the list? .... Contact Dare2bedifferent for tickets"
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"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ?
Just say no thank you "
this - you will find everyone will
Chat to everyone after all your preferences arent written on you so there’s a good chance other guys may strike Up a conversation there will come a point in the conversation when it will be appropriate to say no thanks - because you dont fancy them doesn’t Mean you can’t be friends would be My position on it.
If it’s Lexi chatting to you just say yes to everything!!  |
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By *ce84x OP Man
over a year ago
Near Barnsley |
"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ?
Just say no thank you
this - you will find everyone will
Chat to everyone after all your preferences arent written on you so there’s a good chance other guys may strike Up a conversation there will come a point in the conversation when it will be appropriate to say no thanks - because you dont fancy them doesn’t Mean you can’t be friends would be My position on it.
If it’s Lexi chatting to you just say yes to everything!! "
..... I'm not that lucky lol , thanks |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ?
Just say no thank you
this - you will find everyone will
Chat to everyone after all your preferences arent written on you so there’s a good chance other guys may strike Up a conversation there will come a point in the conversation when it will be appropriate to say no thanks - because you dont fancy them doesn’t Mean you can’t be friends would be My position on it.
If it’s Lexi chatting to you just say yes to everything!! "
Everything???  |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ?
Just say no thank you
this - you will find everyone will
Chat to everyone after all your preferences arent written on you so there’s a good chance other guys may strike Up a conversation there will come a point in the conversation when it will be appropriate to say no thanks - because you dont fancy them doesn’t Mean you can’t be friends would be My position on it.
If it’s Lexi chatting to you just say yes to everything!! ..... I'm not that lucky lol , thanks "
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"Important Note its not zombie wanking if you’re using someone elses hand!!
That term made Me lol because its so apt for
Some of The behaviour - someone else said it right when they said Treat it like a night out mingle with people and chat - additionally and do not expect To play on any occasion you visit. If it happens It does but its not guaranteed ever as a sgl guy anyway. thanks...how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ?
Just say no thank you
this - you will find everyone will
Chat to everyone after all your preferences arent written on you so there’s a good chance other guys may strike Up a conversation there will come a point in the conversation when it will be appropriate to say no thanks - because you dont fancy them doesn’t Mean you can’t be friends would be My position on it.
If it’s Lexi chatting to you just say yes to everything!!
Everything??? "
 I have a list!! Xx |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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".how do you try to avoid unwanted approached from guys for example ? "
If you're shy just avoid eye contact. If someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, say no thanks!
Whichever club you are going to will have a FAQ page on it's website.
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"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way."
Theres a Leeds social? |
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"Why not go to Leeds social on 21.08.21 then you'll get to know ppl who go to both quest and pandoras, made some good friends and great swinging ppl that way.
Theres a Leeds social? "
yes |
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