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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Well the female forumites can post as well, of course but....
I am curious if guys would kindly share which chat up lines have worked for them.
I asked in the other thread if "Love a MILF/GILF" as an opening statement in a message has ever been successful.
I am genuinely curious if anybody had a positive response to this or other, shall we say less complimentary messages?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one that worked for me on dating sites was "tell me about your username".
I once dated this one woman who had beautiful profile pics, hundreds of guys after her all saying "you're beautiful/sexy/attractive" and I was the only one who asked her something meaningful to her, rather than guys projecting their horniness onto her.
I only asked because I googled it and got no hits |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"The one that worked for me on dating sites was "tell me about your username".
I once dated this one woman who had beautiful profile pics, hundreds of guys after her all saying "you're beautiful/sexy/attractive" and I was the only one who asked her something meaningful to her, rather than guys projecting their horniness onto her.
I only asked because I googled it and got no hits "
 You THOUGHT about it - which to me is the key positive. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I have not chat up lines. I am good in having a conversation and I can talk about most subjects. "
So how would you start a message on Fabs if somebody's profile caught your eye? |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Well the female forumites can post as well, of course but....
I am curious if guys would kindly share which chat up lines have worked for them.
I asked in the other thread if "Love a MILF/GILF" as an opening statement in a message has ever been successful.
I am genuinely curious if anybody had a positive response to this or other, shall we say less complimentary messages?
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I have never used chat up lines I simply talk to people as people, I also listen - simples. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Wow I must be the only one getting messages then - not many are owning up to sending an initial message. 
Seriously though - I am trying to establish whether the cheesy messages do actually have a success rate? |
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"Sorry I never write the first message
That's just confidence personified. Do you get time to answer all the messages you are receiving? "
At the moment yes. Averaging two unique a day but it will tail off. It’s not confidence. It’s the opposite, having spent a few years when I was first here, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. Only to see it deleted unread or worse, read. I gave up.
I thought “fuck it” fab is a small part of my life, so I adjusted my profile, stated if “you’re interested, then wink” and I’m now happy to sit back.
Expectations. Managed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if I was seriously trying here, I'd read the profile, make sure I mention any keywords that prove I've read it, check their stated preferences so I'm not pissing in the wind but am in their looking-for slot, then try and make an interesting opening message that opens the door for a conversation.
Then not be a hassling dick if she doesn't answer in five seconds, or ever. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
I fail to believe a single line no matter how clever it is will ever impress a lady enough to seriously work positively, it's almost as bad a text speak, However I suppose " fancy a grand for a fuck" might work sometimes.
Putting some time in and putting together a decent paragraph might get a better response. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Sorry I never write the first message
That's just confidence personified. Do you get time to answer all the messages you are receiving?
At the moment yes. Averaging two unique a day but it will tail off. It’s not confidence. It’s the opposite, having spent a few years when I was first here, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. Only to see it deleted unread or worse, read. I gave up.
I thought “fuck it” fab is a small part of my life, so I adjusted my profile, stated if “you’re interested, then wink” and I’m now happy to sit back.
Expectations. Managed "
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I think if I was seriously trying here, I'd read the profile, make sure I mention any keywords that prove I've read it, check their stated preferences so I'm not pissing in the wind but am in their looking-for slot, then try and make an interesting opening message that opens the door for a conversation.
Then not be a hassling dick if she doesn't answer in five seconds, or ever. "
Best answer so far! |
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While i can't say i crack out the pickup lines as a opener here i try having a laugh when on dating sites like "clown looking for clown to take creampies" (probably won't be using this on on tinder haha) |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I fail to believe a single line no matter how clever it is will ever impress a lady enough to seriously work positively, it's almost as bad a text speak, However I suppose " fancy a grand for a fuck" might work sometimes.
Putting some time in and putting together a decent paragraph might get a better response. "
Talking for myself, absolutely - the first messages opens or shuts the door to further communication. So MILF/GILF/FANCY A FUCK/ I am in your area today... are an instant showstopper whereas some guys do craft great messages. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"The amount of times I've seen women running guys down on the forum has put me off messaging them."
I can understand that some comments can have that effect. But they are a minority from what I can see? Look at those that are positive - the vast majority, I think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think they can ever work, some are funny but only in a cheeky way. Like I’m going to call you my little pinky, because at some point I’m going to bang you on my coffee table!
But surely that Could never work lol
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"The amount of times I've seen women running guys down on the forum has put me off messaging them.
I can understand that some comments can have that effect. But they are a minority from what I can see? Look at those that are positive - the vast majority, I think! "
No he is right. Not necessarily with women from the forums, but back when I was messaging, not only was it mostly wasted effort, it was then backed up by status/forum posts about men not making an effort with their messages.
After a while you stop trying to run away to join the circus and wait till the circus comes to town |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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"The amount of times I've seen women running guys down on the forum has put me off messaging them."
Why? As long as you have read and understood their profile, made sure you fit their requirements or close and pen a respectful maybe slightly witty few lines you shouldn't get a negative response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't send the message.
It's a pointless exercise.
They like what they see or dont"
Yep, waste of time sending msgs, don't send any first, if someone likes me they can let me know and I'll talk their ears off. |
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"I have not chat up lines. I am good in having a conversation and I can talk about most subjects.
So how would you start a message on Fabs if somebody's profile caught your eye?"
Hi name
I came across your profile and I find it interesting because of this, this and this. But nothing like great tits fancy a fuck etc. |
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The best message I ever received on here, started with an insult.  However as it was done in a very cheeky way and the guy obviously thought about it, it didn’t insult my intelligence in fact, it complimented me by knowing I’d get the humour behind the comment.
I always admire those who are unique in their approach or attitude.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think having generic opening lines is half the battle lost already. Even if they're appreciated you still need to follow up with something original. My first messages are completely different depending on the person and profile. I've sent poetry and I've sent pornography (not literally!) and got replies to both. Know your audience? |
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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago
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I always address a couple as both, will even continue to include the other whoever I am talking to. As an introduction which is a first line I would simply say thank you for taking the time to read my mail. Possibly 2 out of 10 percentage wise do not answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, I don't think I have ever used a chat up line
The idea of 'chatting someone up' fills me with dread
I find it incredibly clichéd
My 'success' with women comes from just being a decent human, having little attitude or entitlement and not objectifying them or their company
I have had 3 relationships with women. Each one has told me I wasn't their type, but there was just 'something about me'
My success with men has been largely from meeting online and being overtly sexual, available and easy going
I've also had a relationship with a guy who told me the same as the women
I'm definitely this ones type though, so all's good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How did you start a message on fabs that was successful?
I mean for me a "MILF/GILF" message is an instant turn off so I am curious what works for people? "
Well, as it's against forum rules to discuss or reveal tge content of personal messages, I'd urge everyone to be careful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My messages are about just something that caught my attention on their profile or a reply on the forums because to me l think it simply shows that lve taken an interest in what they've said or wriiten.  |
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"I think if I was seriously trying here, I'd read the profile, make sure I mention any keywords that prove I've read it, check their stated preferences so I'm not pissing in the wind but am in their looking-for slot, then try and make an interesting opening message that opens the door for a conversation.
Then not be a hassling dick if she doesn't answer in five seconds, or ever. "
This
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read the profile - if I think I'll be a good fit for them as well as the other way round then I will generally say Hi, what caught my eye about them, ask them a couple of questions regarding their profile, add a face pic and a "look forward to chatting to you".
Unless I see a status and think of something to say in reply to that then the above is usually what I do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An old boss of mine told me once that in his army days, he used to use "do you fuck?" at dance halls. He got a lot of slaps across the face, but once in a while he got a fuck..."
The old Kevin bloody Wilson song
Do you fuck on first dates lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well the female forumites can post as well, of course but....
I am curious if guys would kindly share which chat up lines have worked for them.
I asked in the other thread if "Love a MILF/GILF" as an opening statement in a message has ever been successful.
I am genuinely curious if anybody had a positive response to this or other, shall we say less complimentary messages?
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My favourite is to send a message based on the persons current status, usually something cheeky, 9 out of 10 times it gets a reply, and it has actually worked to build up a friendship (with the odd meet in the mix too!)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't do chat up lines as such but tailor first messages to their profile or status and try and interject some humour into the message, hopefully they'll then look at my profile and like what they see |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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"Sorry I never write the first message
That's just confidence personified. Do you get time to answer all the messages you are receiving?
At the moment yes. Averaging two unique a day but it will tail off. It’s not confidence. It’s the opposite, having spent a few years when I was first here, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. Only to see it deleted unread or worse, read. I gave up.
I thought “fuck it” fab is a small part of my life, so I adjusted my profile, stated if “you’re interested, then wink” and I’m now happy to sit back.
Expectations. Managed "
Exactly that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have any chat up lines, I just talk shite and occasionally someone finds me funny and maybe attractive too?! "
^^ Similar to me really ^^
If I was to send a first message purely off of someone's profile then something on the profile would have had to catch my eye and spark an idea of something to say - probably something 'witty'.
Any 'first' messages I've sent at the moment have generally been a continuation from a forum thread.
Perhaps the forum men are not a good representative sample of men on Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't really go with chat up lines but online and in real life have tended to start with "wow, you look nice". It works or it doesn't but that might have more to do with my mug! M |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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Oh my days - thank you for all your contributions - they made me cry (with laughter - so it is all good!)
So, guys DO message occasionally and they DO get responses, especially when crafting an individual message, maybe a funny one, maybe an original one.
So, there is a way out of the men bashing that women sometimes get accused of when venting their frustrations at getting one-liner "FAF" or similar.
How about us women try to be a little bit more tolerant towards your writing attempts while you guys continue to try a little bit harder?
Guys, don't give up - there are nice women on this site and we love your messages really. Just not so much the pre-dick-table ones |
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