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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it just me or is anyone having the same issues. Inbox pops up, couples and the odd female. Hey how are you?……chat goes on……it moves to kik……then just complete silence. |
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"When it’s couples, with the fella saying my mrs fancies you. Then it just stops. "
I retract my previous comment. The bloke was just probably having a wank. Now he’s shot his muck you’re of no use to him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it stops it could be a million reasons including maybe they weren’t that interested. Sadly there’s so much choice atm that it’s so easy to lose interest quick… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When it’s couples, with the fella saying my mrs fancies you. Then it just stops.
I retract my previous comment. The bloke was just probably having a wank. Now he’s shot his muck you’re of no use to him "
Most likely lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it stops it could be a million reasons including maybe they weren’t that interested. Sadly there’s so much choice atm that it’s so easy to lose interest quick… "
Yeah I guess that could be so. Nevertheless very frustrating. |
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By *ragsterMan
over a year ago
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Yep...had a handful of the same males, females and couples who message me with the "Hi..how are you...love your profile..would love to meet " etc etc
I reply with a polite "thank you and very kind of you " etc
Then the conversation goes silent there and then or after a couple of messages ....if it was a one off I could understand it but these same people randomly repeat the process ...same message same silence.
I've sadly had to start using the block button...but do wonder what these people are on.  |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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It sounds like you need to control the situation a bit more OP. If 'she' fancies you, suggest that you meet up for a social to confirm two-way attraction. If 'they' don't agree to a quick social, pass them by. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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Why is the man telling you the lady fancies you? I’m sure she can speak for herself.
It’s probably just a bloke and he got you there didn’t he? He has had a bit of fun already.
Be more discerning is my advice to you lovely  |
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"Yep...had a handful of the same males, females and couples who message me with the "Hi..how are you...love your profile..would love to meet " etc etc
I reply with a polite "thank you and very kind of you " etc
Then the conversation goes silent there and then or after a couple of messages ....if it was a one off I could understand it but these same people randomly repeat the process ...same message same silence.
I've sadly had to start using the block button...but do wonder what these people are on. "
This…. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep...had a handful of the same males, females and couples who message me with the "Hi..how are you...love your profile..would love to meet " etc etc
I reply with a polite "thank you and very kind of you " etc
Then the conversation goes silent there and then or after a couple of messages ....if it was a one off I could understand it but these same people randomly repeat the process ...same message same silence.
I've sadly had to start using the block button...but do wonder what these people are on. "
Yeah pretty much as I have experienced |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It sounds like you need to control the situation a bit more OP. If 'she' fancies you, suggest that you meet up for a social to confirm two-way attraction. If 'they' don't agree to a quick social, pass them by. "
I’m not really one to jump straight into a meet. I’d like to chat for a little while first before jumping into immediate meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why is the man telling you the lady fancies you? I’m sure she can speak for herself.
It’s probably just a bloke and he got you there didn’t he? He has had a bit of fun already.
Be more discerning is my advice to you lovely "
Yeah you are probably right there. Fell for that one didn’t I. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Not saying this is the case with you OP but sadly there are too many out there desperate for some attention, any attention, and the flip side of that is there are those that will take advantage of it, either as a wind up, or blokes pretending to be women/couples in order to get their kicks.
Using a little discernment, keeping your guard up and not diving into sex chat is good protection against it - as the old adage goes if it smells fishy it usually is fishy.
Whatever the reason though there's no point trying to second guess the reasons of others, it will drive you nuts, and while it may not make sense to you, for whatever reason it makes sense to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had it where I stop chatting and lose interest and without offending you that’s exactly what it sounds like, relax, smile and enjoy yourself maybe your trying to hard and that comes across, most people want to feel relaxed maybe have a laugh letting things just progress naturally 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it dies down… don’t take it personally I’m sure it happens to us all (definitely me on lots of occasions)…maybe we just need to work on our chat haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a bit guilty of this but once we have established contact and said "it would be nice to meet you at club A or club B on X date" theres not much else to say... |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Why is the man telling you the lady fancies you? I’m sure she can speak for herself.
It’s probably just a bloke and he got you there didn’t he? He has had a bit of fun already.
Be more discerning is my advice to you lovely
Yeah you are probably right there. Fell for that one didn’t I. "
You are not alone, it happens unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bet some of these are fake profiles, even men on other side, that is why they suddenly disappear or go silent. Unless they have some solid veris I would always keep in mind fake profiles… |
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"Not saying this is the case with you OP but sadly there are too many out there desperate for some attention, any attention, and the flip side of that is there are those that will take advantage of it, either as a wind up, or blokes pretending to be women/couples in order to get their kicks.
Using a little discernment, keeping your guard up and not diving into sex chat is good protection against it - as the old adage goes if it smells fishy it usually is fishy.
Whatever the reason though there's no point trying to second guess the reasons of others, it will drive you nuts, and while it may not make sense to you, for whatever reason it makes sense to them."
Exactly this and just watch out for the red flags and done even bother replying if they have less than 3 meet veris which you can see. No profile photo and is a recently made profile  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for the comments. Lots make much sense and unfortunately for us all I’m not the only one falling for these tactics. Hope this thread if nothing else allows so guides of what or not what to do.
And yes I may be just scaring them all away too. Before anyone else tells me. Lol  |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is anyone having the same issues. Inbox pops up, couples and the odd female. Hey how are you?……chat goes on……it moves to kik……then just complete silence. "
Silence after you have moved to KIK or because? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is anyone having the same issues. Inbox pops up, couples and the odd female. Hey how are you?……chat goes on……it moves to kik……then just complete silence.
Silence after you have moved to KIK or because?"
Usually about 10 messages into kik. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is anyone having the same issues. Inbox pops up, couples and the odd female. Hey how are you?……chat goes on……it moves to kik……then just complete silence.
Silence after you have moved to KIK or because?
Usually about 10 messages into kik. "
I do think sometimes when you move to other messaging platforms the "immediacy" of it can change the dynamic from messaging on here - you lose that breathing space to take your time to respond and if you haven't already established a strong connection and chemistry through messaging here, that change of dynamic can make things more stilted and awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When somebody asks to move to kik we make clear we will not do sex chat or swap photos. That usually kills the conversation dead and avoids us wasting our time."
I would be fine with that if I were instigating a switch. I find it’s usually the couples whom request kik. But as the thread is starting to suggest. I’m being done by guys pretending their mrs is up for this. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"When somebody asks to move to kik we make clear we will not do sex chat or swap photos. That usually kills the conversation dead and avoids us wasting our time.
I would be fine with that if I were instigating a switch. I find it’s usually the couples whom request kik. But as the thread is starting to suggest. I’m being done by guys pretending their mrs is up for this. "
Yes they are just after want material and not engaging in the fantasy means they drop the conversation and move on to the next victim. |
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