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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Usually I feel like it's a message which was pointless to send and clogs up my inbox, but I still appreciate the sentiment behind it"
Interesting. I kind of see it as, because then I would shag you, without consulting me on whether I want to  |
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I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually I feel like it's a message which was pointless to send and clogs up my inbox, but I still appreciate the sentiment behind it
Interesting. I kind of see it as, because then I would shag you, without consulting me on whether I want to "
True, even if they were closer it still doesn't mean they'd get a shag lol |
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It's a harmless comment but it can be taken as a very shallow interest in someone......
as in e.g. I only travel for 10 minute shags....
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you are not worth a long journey etc etc...
It's just a throw away comment that's not deserving of time or thought really |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a harmless comment but it can be taken as a very shallow interest in someone......
as in e.g. I only travel for 10 minute shags....
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you are not worth a long journey etc etc...
It's just a throw away comment that's not deserving of time or thought really"
I don’t generally, but I’m a bit bored today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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I'm in West Cornwall and totally agree ... I'm 100 miles from the closest motorway, 70 miles from nearest city so I travel for everything! |
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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I'm in West Cornwall and totally agree ... I'm 100 miles from the closest motorway, 70 miles from nearest city so I travel for everything! "
Im telling Truro that you don’t think it’s a city, you’re in trouble |
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"I say this quite a lot as it’s not possible for me to regularly travel and everyone I like seems to be a million miles away  .
Wish you were closer 
. I will be next weekend 
God help you!!! "
And god help The North West  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s the presumption that if we were closer we would meet, is what I dislike about it. There may be a number of reasons why we won’t meet, not just the distance. "
This is what I feel. |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
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I've said it as it can be the case but rather than a throw away comment, I'd only say it in context of a full message... I'd willingly travel but if someone is a two or three hour drive away and wanting to meet sooner, then it's applicable. I'd always hope to be honest that it was taken for what it was meant and that when some of say it, it does have depth and as a minimum, how it's taken as a compliment and that maybe some other point, things could be arranged. X |
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"How do you feel when this is said to you?
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There's usually wishful thinking behind it, but isn't that something we've all been guilty of? If a woman takes the time to write a nice message with that sentiment included I take it as a compliment, more so if it involves country hopping. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance...."
Wish you were closer |
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance...."
You’re oooop north posh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like saying this all the time...so many people quite close to me... unfortunately there's the small matter of the river Thames getting in the way "
There must be a little ferry man who will punt you over the water |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's for someone that you feel a genuine connection with on a depper level, it can be quite heartbreaking to hear, as it's usually mutual feeling.
I've felt that more than ever, recently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like saying this all the time...so many people quite close to me... unfortunately there's the small matter of the river Thames getting in the way
There must be a little ferry man who will punt you over the water "
Only if you pay him one obol. |
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There are people on here I wish lived closer because I’d love to meet them and give them a hug or just tell them in person how awesome they are.
I trust that I’ll get a chance at some point with all the socials likely to happen over the coming 18 months |
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
((Note this is a personal opinion, other people in Devon may disagree, your statutory rights are unaffected, vouchers will be offered in replacement if you are dissatisfied with your purchase))
Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance....
You’re oooop north posh!"
This is why i hide my profile whenever I meet anyone. Bunch of nosey gits |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel like saying this all the time...so many people quite close to me... unfortunately there's the small matter of the river Thames getting in the way
There must be a little ferry man who will punt you over the water
Only if you pay him one obol."
One way ticket to the underworld
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
((Note this is a personal opinion, other people in Devon may disagree, your statutory rights are unaffected, vouchers will be offered in replacement if you are dissatisfied with your purchase))
I'm in West Cornwall and totally agree ... I'm 100 miles from the closest motorway, 70 miles from nearest city so I travel for everything!
Im telling Truro that you don’t think it’s a city, you’re in trouble "
Hahahahahahahaha it's sooooo not |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"If a frog had wings, it wouldn’t bump its ass when it hops…
Ummm, what?"
It’s a pointless wish statement. Things aren’t like that, so what’s the point in saying it?
If someone was closer, it doesn’t mean that anything would happen. Convenience is a poor way to select partners |
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
((Note this is a personal opinion, other people in Devon may disagree, your statutory rights are unaffected, vouchers will be offered in replacement if you are dissatisfied with your purchase))
I'm in West Cornwall and totally agree ... I'm 100 miles from the closest motorway, 70 miles from nearest city so I travel for everything!
Im telling Truro that you don’t think it’s a city, you’re in trouble
Hahahahahahahaha it's sooooo not "
You’ll get your tyres let down in Pydar Street car park because you said that! Telling!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When this is said in an initial message - who says I’d meet you if you were nearer?? Like they feel the only thing stopping them meeting me is the distance! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When this is said in an initial message - who says I’d meet you if you were nearer?? Like they feel the only thing stopping them meeting me is the distance! "
Exactly this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s the presumption that if we were closer we would meet, is what I dislike about it. There may be a number of reasons why we won’t meet, not just the distance.
Exactly this.
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I’m glad it’s not just me. It’s not a big thing, just a bit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel when this is said to you?
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We get this all the time , not so much as a problem as we do enjoy a road trip & the majority of time we meet half way |
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I get this a lot from guys, as soon as I mention I've been in Edinburgh twice this year and quite like a trip away for fun they pull back , sometimes people just use it as an excuse to keep others dangling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who says it. If it's someone I've only just started chatting to then it puts me off as I take it that meeting is going to be an effort. If it's someone I've met and we want to meet more often but can't because of distance then that's cool. |
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"It’s the presumption that if we were closer we would meet, is what I dislike about it. There may be a number of reasons why we won’t meet, not just the distance.
Exactly this.
I’m glad it’s not just me. It’s not a big thing, just a bit "
I’ve said the’ if we was closer line ‘ a few times not to suggest that if we lived closer I’d definitely try and play with the lady .... but that if we was closer id definitely intend to meet at least for a social and to show off my Yorkshire charm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel when this is said to you?
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It hurt cause she lives two doors down, plus she said it shouting out her bedroom window and the bloke with her waving is the bloke that lives 4 doors down. |
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Having a message from someone that doesn't really know me or know if I'm attracted to them and they say they wish were closer is a bit odd and presumptuous.
I'd travel for someone I really wanted to meet and there's always the meet half way if it's really far to travel.
Having said all this, it's just nice to feel wanted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve considered but had to rethink sadly, setting a distance limit now do feel a big risk when meeting someone first time need escape plan if needed, plus when you have family time is limited and needs planning properly too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a friend from here who I've met up with a couple of times and we both wish we lived closer
He's 2 hours away, if he was any closer I have no doubt we'd be seeing a lot more of each other! |
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"I often think "why?"
"Are you wanting to stalk me as I pop to the shop? I'd not shag ya if you were at the end of my driveway so distance has zero baring unless it's for peeping purposes" "
And I was going to stand there with a sign saying "I have cream for your peach" |
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"I often think "why?"
"Are you wanting to stalk me as I pop to the shop? I'd not shag ya if you were at the end of my driveway so distance has zero baring unless it's for peeping purposes"
And I was going to stand there with a sign saying "I have cream for your peach" "
pouring not squirty, I don't do squirty |
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"I often think "why?"
"Are you wanting to stalk me as I pop to the shop? I'd not shag ya if you were at the end of my driveway so distance has zero baring unless it's for peeping purposes"
And I was going to stand there with a sign saying "I have cream for your peach"
pouring not squirty, I don't do squirty "
I can control the flow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance....
You’re oooop north posh!"
Actually she's in Marmiteville you bunch of stalkers x |
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"I often think "why?"
"Are you wanting to stalk me as I pop to the shop? I'd not shag ya if you were at the end of my driveway so distance has zero baring unless it's for peeping purposes"
And I was going to stand there with a sign saying "I have cream for your peach"
pouring not squirty, I don't do squirty "
How about cool whhip? |
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"Sometimes it's a blessing, others I really wish we were closer too 
Totally. I often wished Lexi lived further away "
You can't say that about Lexi!
Mind you it's not like she could punish you for saying that with a flogger as she can't put any power behind it, it's like being hit with a bunch of feathers |
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"Sometimes it's a blessing, others I really wish we were closer too
Totally. I often wished Lexi lived further away
You can't say that about Lexi!
Mind you it's not like she could punish you for saying that with a flogger as she can't put any power behind it, it's like being hit with a bunch of feathers "
I wouldn’t bloody mess with her! |
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"Sometimes it's a blessing, others I really wish we were closer too
Totally. I often wished Lexi lived further away
You can't say that about Lexi!
Mind you it's not like she could punish you for saying that with a flogger as she can't put any power behind it, it's like being hit with a bunch of feathers
I wouldn’t bloody mess with her! "
She's a pussy cat, she wouldn't dare mess with me |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s rather “throwaway” if I’m honest. Living down here in Devon, most of the time you are looking at a 70 mile round trip for the majority of your meets, and meeting someone from the same or close-by village is normally undesired because of small population sizes. distance is never really a problem down in this part of the world.
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Completely agree. And once you're in the car distance doesn't really make a massive distance....
Wish you were closer "
A lot of people we wish were |
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"Sometimes it's a blessing, others I really wish we were closer too
Totally. I often wished Lexi lived further away
You can't say that about Lexi!
Mind you it's not like she could punish you for saying that with a flogger as she can't put any power behind it, it's like being hit with a bunch of feathers
I wouldn’t bloody mess with her! "
Pahhhhh she’s a pussycat!!! |
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There's a few people I'd like to live closer too. Just because we have bonded with them and feel that we would benefit from being in each others life's more. I think that is different from what you mean though. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually agree and feel a little gggrrrr as life isn't fair "
If life was fair we'd all be local...but on a tiny island, nowhere isn't out of reach...OK, maybe Plymouth! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's a few people I'd like to live closer too. Just because we have bonded with them and feel that we would benefit from being in each others life's more. I think that is different from what you mean though.
Jo.Xx "
I agree, there are people I wish I was closer to, in terms of them being amazing friends  |
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"How do you feel when this is said to you?
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If we're genuinely fond of each but live 300 miles apart, it's nice to hear.
If it's a polite reason I've given for not meeting someone I'm not attracted to & they bang on about it every time they see me post, then it pissed me off. X |
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"Usually I feel like it's a message which was pointless to send and clogs up my inbox, but I still appreciate the sentiment behind it
Interesting. I kind of see it as, because then I would shag you, without consulting me on whether I want to "
Exactly this!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a message from someone who you care about then it stings because distance can be such a bitch, especially with Covid, having a family and little money.
But if it's just from random people I couldn't care less. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's a message from someone who you care about then it stings because distance can be such a bitch, especially with Covid, having a family and little money.
But if it's just from random people I couldn't care less. "
It doesn’t bother me, but in a first message form a random stranger I’m a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s very much par for the course for me, I’m
next county down from Cornwall, so I have to travel over 100 miles just to get into Devon and if you’re cycling on a Brompton it can take upwards of 3 weeks to meet for a coffee, and by then I’ve usually been ghosted. |
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