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Bring brown is problem… or am I just not good at the networking thing ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … more variety in your public gallery  "
I put my pics up, but then a kind member pointed out that is not smart. … may be some more ab crunches and then a few pics… will try… thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … more variety in your public gallery
I put my pics up, but then a kind member pointed out that is not smart. … may be some more ab crunches and then a few pics… will try… thanks "
In what way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No offense meant op but if you claim to be educated then proof read what you post before you post it and this advice comes from a fully paid up numbnuts!!!!!!!
Best of luck.
Tony |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … more variety in your public gallery
I put my pics up, but then a kind member pointed out that is not smart. … may be some more ab crunches and then a few pics… will try… thanks
In what way?"
My work is kind of public… could impact my job, was their point (was a couple) |
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By *LiamMan
over a year ago
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … more variety in your public gallery
Says you! Haha!"
What's funny? I'm not looking or wanting more messages or attention. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No offense meant op but if you claim to be educated then proof read what you post before you post it and this advice comes from a fully paid up numbnuts!!!!!!!
Best of luck.
Tony"
I did realize that terrible mistake the moment I pressed ‘post message’… there was no going back… can’t do much other than hanging my head on shame and trying to be less excited next time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No offense meant op but if you claim to be educated then proof read what you post before you post it and this advice comes from a fully paid up numbnuts!!!!!!!
Best of luck.
Tony"
Oh, and Tony, if you’re ugly… god help me ?? |
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OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … more variety in your public gallery
Says you! Haha!
What's funny? I'm not looking or wanting more messages or attention. Thank you "
Just seemed ironic when you onky have 2 pics  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices."
Eh? Really? I wouldn't say Asian men are any more pushy than black or white men
I thought hos profile was all right for a first write. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices."
I think his profile is ok. It tells me something about him as a person. His interests mindest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
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Do you disagree? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices."
Will look for it, once the lockdowns and infections are down.. currently, it looks like we are skateboarding to a third milder lockdown again.. kills the joy of my job, which has been the sole exit for a normal Joe like me.. thank you for the ideas |
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices.
I think his profile is ok. It tells me something about him as a person. His interests mindest. "
Send him a private message and tell me how your meeting went then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices.
Will look for it, once the lockdowns and infections are down.. currently, it looks like we are skateboarding to a third milder lockdown again.. kills the joy of my job, which has been the sole exit for a normal Joe like me.. thank you for the ideas "
And to add the point… I don’t think courtesy is the exclusive domain of any society. I think, you’d agree that it is a massive generalization… I do appreciate the view. Am far from either pushy or non genuine.. I guess, like most things in life, I’d try and persist and who knows, Luck may shine one day.
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices.
Will look for it, once the lockdowns and infections are down.. currently, it looks like we are skateboarding to a third milder lockdown again.. kills the joy of my job, which has been the sole exit for a normal Joe like me.. thank you for the ideas "
No worries OP, just trying to be honest with you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices.
Will look for it, once the lockdowns and infections are down.. currently, it looks like we are skateboarding to a third milder lockdown again.. kills the joy of my job, which has been the sole exit for a normal Joe like me.. thank you for the ideas
No worries OP, just trying to be honest with you "
And, thank you for that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My 2 pence worth would be to have patience OP. Regardless of ethnicity or any other factors take your time on the site. Nothing will happen overnight, just enjoy the ride and use it as an escape (especially if you're not getting that from work right now).
You seem like a very intelligent chap and, if you contribute in the forums, I'm sure it won't be long before you're chatting to like minded people and progressing things from there.
Best of luck |
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?"
Perhaps they didn't realise you were speaking from experience? Your avatar is currently monochrome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?
Perhaps they didn't realise you were speaking from experience? Your avatar is currently monochrome "
Ahhh if that's the case then I can definitely see where that emoji came from |
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It's strong on personal interests but ultralightweight on sex-related content.
It will generally have to sell you really well and leave others feeling they grasp what you are about as well as how you look and whether they may fancy you. |
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"It's strong on personal interests but ultralightweight on sex-related content.
It will generally have to sell you really well and leave others feeling they grasp what you are about as well as how you look and whether they may fancy you. "
^^^This. Sophie is wise!
OP, I'd have honestly had no idea what your ethnicity was if you'd not pointed it out. Maybe I need my eyes testing but I don't think "being brown" is the issue. I think your pics are a bit meh and your bio is more like a dating site bio. Also, single guys are somewhat over represented here.
Keep contributing on the forums, get yourself "out there" in forum terms and take some better pics |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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It isn't a bad profile, just doesn't stand out from the crowd really.
You only have 2 pics & they are very similar, adding more (they don't need to include your face) would give people a better idea of what you are like physically. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?"
No,for a site that promotes differences and openess, for people not to be judgemental around sexual preferences that being brown is seen as a problem to some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, despite what people may tell you it will be hard for a brown, presumably Asian, man to meet people on here. This is because the Asian male has a reputation of being pushy and/or disrespectful to women. Somewhat deserved in my empirical experience but of course there are always the exceptions.
Unless you have a very good profile, which you don't, and are exceptional eloquent in your messages, you're best bet is to visit clubs. This way you can speak to people face to face and you never know, some may overcome their prejudices.
I think his profile is ok. It tells me something about him as a person. His interests mindest.
Send him a private message and tell me how your meeting went then "
I don't kiss and tell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's strong on personal interests but ultralightweight on sex-related content.
It will generally have to sell you really well and leave others feeling they grasp what you are about as well as how you look and whether they may fancy you. "
Personally i like the sexual content to come out in the meet. The sex stuff is easy, i like my mind to be turned on tuned in. But thats just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?
Perhaps they didn't realise you were speaking from experience? Your avatar is currently monochrome "
Irrelevant, if i didn't express my views because he is black or brown then that would be positive discrimination. We can only speak from our own experiences neither one or the other holds any more or anyless weight when ascribing it to a group/culture/ religion ect. |
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?
Perhaps they didn't realise you were speaking from experience? Your avatar is currently monochrome
Irrelevant, if i didn't express my views because he is black or brown then that would be positive discrimination. We can only speak from our own experiences neither one or the other holds any more or anyless weight when ascribing it to a group/culture/ religion ect. "
My understanding was that Fool Hardy's comment was from his own personal experience as an Asian guy. I think it came from a good place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome … "
Is it cause i is black?
joking aside, from what i can see in you pics you dont look very brown, not that its possable to see much more that two pics of a phone!
yoou havnt asked for profile advice, so its against the rules to give any, but we would not reply to a message from you after reading your profile, does nothing for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being brown may be a problem for some people but not enough to not get any attention on here. I've always just stayed on the forums, contributed and taken it from there
Do you disagree?
Perhaps they didn't realise you were speaking from experience? Your avatar is currently monochrome
Irrelevant, if i didn't express my views because he is black or brown then that would be positive discrimination. We can only speak from our own experiences neither one or the other holds any more or anyless weight when ascribing it to a group/culture/ religion ect.
My understanding was that Fool Hardy's comment was from his own personal experience as an Asian guy. I think it came from a good place. "
I know. |
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Hi Hilbert! Do I detect a mathematics reference there? You've got me kind of hoping that you run a hotel that always has room for more guests...
Fab can be a weird and sometimes hard place to be, but I also find it somewhere that it is possible to have conversations about everything from "blue waffle" (no don't look it up, I haven't either, but I'm reliably told that if you do you will want to brillo pad your memory) to the science of black holes.
I've been here a few years now, had a very slow start, but made some good friends via discussing all manner of things on the forums. Watch for topics coming up that you're interested in, add your opinion, and slowly your name will become known.
As for your profile, check out what other men put, pick up ideas, then do your own thing. Revisit your write up periodically, allow it to develop as you find more about how you relate to others here. Examine your own feelings, your thoughts about what you want to get out of the site, they will change with time.
More photos might be good, but just put up whatever you are happy with and what you feel represents what you stand for.
Hope that you do okay, and if you want to start any discussions about the mathematics of infinity... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My profile is rather dull but it’s me. I’m hardly the font of wisdom on how to attain your desired objective here but if stay in the Forum a while, you’ll soon get a feel for how you may want to present yourself. I changed my profile weekly in my first few weeks until I settled on what suited me best, not what I thought others wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's strong on personal interests but ultralightweight on sex-related content.
It will generally have to sell you really well and leave others feeling they grasp what you are about as well as how you look and whether they may fancy you.
Personally i like the sexual content to come out in the meet. The sex stuff is easy, i like my mind to be turned on tuned in. But thats just me. "
Bingo! Class over crass |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"… just looking for ideas on how can I improve my profile … thoughts and brickbats welcome …
Is it cause i is black?
joking aside, from what i can see in you pics you dont look very brown, not that its possable to see much more that two pics of a phone!
yoou havnt asked for profile advice, so its against the rules to give any, but we would not reply to a message from you after reading your profile, does nothing for us"
I did ask for advice … was just my obtuse style of asking … thoughts and brickbats welcome was meant to request for feedback on profile and how to improve it. |
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"No offense meant op but if you claim to be educated then proof read what you post before you post it and this advice comes from a fully paid up numbnuts!!!!!!!
Best of luck.
Tony"
Dear numbnuts,
I read it three times. Still no idea. Then I was puzzled by the people who gave advice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi Hilbert! Do I detect a mathematics reference there? You've got me kind of hoping that you run a hotel that always has room for more guests...
Fab can be a weird and sometimes hard place to be, but I also find it somewhere that it is possible to have conversations about everything from "blue waffle" (no don't look it up, I haven't either, but I'm reliably told that if you do you will want to brillo pad your memory) to the science of black holes.
I've been here a few years now, had a very slow start, but made some good friends via discussing all manner of things on the forums. Watch for topics coming up that you're interested in, add your opinion, and slowly your name will become known.
As for your profile, check out what other men put, pick up ideas, then do your own thing. Revisit your write up periodically, allow it to develop as you find more about how you relate to others here. Examine your own feelings, your thoughts about what you want to get out of the site, they will change with time.
More photos might be good, but just put up whatever you are happy with and what you feel represents what you stand for.
Hope that you do okay, and if you want to start any discussions about the mathematics of infinity..."
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Finally! Someone picked up the name of the genius… indeed a reference to maths..
I run a company, but becoming a hotelier is a debate I constantly have with friends
Thanks a lot for the feedback … once I survive the working day, I will try and work on the ideas, most are very practical .. just need to survive the week first.
Infinity does my head in, always. But, currently fretting about multilayer multivariable regressions
Thanks for being kind |
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