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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol
I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,
But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation
Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?
Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People still aren't meeting
I am double jabbed, but just because I am, doesn't mean I'm gonna start 'double jabbing' other folk
I need to see how this plays out before I start with the random nobbery |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
While the pandemic has and still does play a part, for the majority of single men it's always been difficult to get replies/meets and always will be - the key is finding an approach that works for you, it doesn't have to just be blind messaging other profiles in the hope of getting a response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all just insta shag isn’t there for single guys as there so meny off them
They need to up they game so to speek
Or in less your that lucky profile that gets picked at random something to scratch a itch as in yes there is time I just pick a random profile and send out a faf message  to scratch it |
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Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not dead but people like myself say, rarely meet anyone, most probably because I'm not their type. I accept it, no issue & everyone to their own.
Yes the women are spoilt for choice, lucky them & that's great, go for it ladies & enjoy yourselves.
If you're a freebie account what harm is it to stay on board? You'll probably get the usual stuff about profile could be better, pictures, blah,blah, but it's your choice, do what you're comfortable with, not what others tend to dictate. What one person says chances are another will disagree!! Yes it can be helpful but you decide.
People always hit me with the picture bit, NO!!! F-off! My choice !!
Stick around. There's always newbies joining so you never know. Just check in every so often, join in on the forums if you wish but don't expect too much & don't make it a mission as such.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not dead for men at all on here be polite show respect have manners and most of all patience good things come to those who wait had some really great meets on here few lined up too "
Always have and always will be polite on here, Always read the profiles etc, |
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"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."
...... well said that statement couldn’t be truer ... the funny fact is that I’ve picked up more swinging couples out in real life on nights out than I have on here for the past year  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."
Completely agree, don’t get me wrong I can completely understand the frustration from the female/MF couples point fo view, they tend to get bombarded with dick pics and vulgar messages on a daily, just seems a bunch of idiots have made there way to the site and it’s ruined it for the genuine males on here, which is a shame |
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Choose who you contact wisely, if there are demands, hoops to jump through or any whiff of superiority don't message.
There are many more single men than women or couples but each one of them has a right to be here.
Concentrate on how you interact and the debris will sink to the bottom. Don't assume that you're owed anything from fab or the other members either.
That's my personal take on things anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think men can give other men a bad name. If you don't behave like that, you have nothing to worry about. I take each indiviual at face value.
That being said, it can become a little exhausting when your time gets wasted more and more the longer your on here. It has made me a little more cautious and has caused me to give up a little with this place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think men can give other men a bad name. If you don't behave like that, you have nothing to worry about. I take each indiviual at face value.
That being said, it can become a little exhausting when your time gets wasted more and more the longer your on here. It has made me a little more cautious and has caused me to give up a little with this place."
Yeah I think a lot of woman and couples on here have got fed up though, and rightfully So, no one should have there time wasted
Anyone that has wasted your time must be crazy! I would of taken that opportunity gracefully! X
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No, I’ve met plenty of guys with loads of verifications on here, the difference is they work out the best way to approach the site and the members.
A great profile is a good start, but if no one sees it, what’s the use ? So get on the forums or other areas that fab have to connect with people.
Not everyone wants to go to a club or social, but that’s part of the scene as well. Some people are just better in person than online.
If no guy was actually successful the site would die, the fact so many are on here, means some have found the magic key.
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"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."
Isn’t this the issue … a majority of men sending 1000’s of messages , women and couples being inundated by copy and paste drivel whether the said men fits their preferences or not ?
bringing on a general apathy and lack of enthusiasm… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent....
Isn’t this the issue … a majority of men sending 1000’s of messages , women and couples being inundated by copy and paste drivel whether the said men fits their preferences or not ?
bringing on a general apathy and lack of enthusiasm…"
Most definitely is the issue,
A genuine message with effort is easily missed or lost in a sea absurd messages x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to not send messages anymore, from what I read here there would always be a reason for a women to complain about it.
Thankfully some contact me first and I've built up very nice relationships with them.
Only messages I would send are just short ones saying how I find them attractive and enjoy seeing them around. If that makes them feel good then great. No harm in it.
But in the main I feel approaching a women via a message is a waste of time.
Just being honest about it |
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I don’t think it’s dead for single blokes I just find some don’t make an effort. I think out of the 100s of messages I’ve had theres two that stand out as genuine and not as Pervy ... everyone’s filth but I hate the leery comments before you’ve even said hello ... always off putting in my eyes
Remember less is more and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women are lazy and don’t have time to take thousands of selfies, check the likes and read messages. And they have their best friend on batteries handy, locked in the bedside table |
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I sincerely hope not! As a single woman who very much is into the male body, I'd be lost without them..
Having said that bombarding women with 1000s of messages in the hope that something will stick is not the way to win!
As has been said on here many times, take the time to compose your message, choose your woman wisely... And this is harsh but stay in your lane... Would you honestly go up to a willowy, stunning, blonde beauty in, say a pub and tell her you wanna cum inside her?? Noooo... So don't do it here.
Single women are in the majority here, we can be choosy, it's the way of FAB and always has been...  |
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"I don’t think it’s dead for single blokes I just find some don’t make an effort. I think out of the 100s of messages I’ve had theres two that stand out as genuine and not as Pervy ... everyone’s filth but I hate the leery comments before you’ve even said hello ... always off putting in my eyes
Remember less is more and all that "
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I think it's a mixture of things,
Many still not looking at full on meets at min, me included.
Plus so many seemed to have joined during covid, loads of posts about people getting let down for meets lately.
People are just maybe getting a bit jaded with it all.
Believe it or not, it's not easy for couples too. Getting a 4 way attraction and then available can be a nightmare.
Maybe try a club or social of you feel comfortable to op.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
To turn it around though - why should anyone (men, women, couples, TV/TS alike) expect to get anything from the site? Or for it to be easy?
As a bisexual man I could probably find sex via the site every night of the week if I wanted to, but doesn't mean I do, or will, in fact in five years here I've not met a single guy for sex on my own - it's the same for women who are inundated with messages and could probably get sex every night if they wanted to, but they don't and the primary reason in most cases probably is finding the right connection, not just any connection.
Yeah for single guys it is harder because of the sheer volume of men on the site - but for the guys that get it, who have figured out the right approach, have the right attitude and their expectations set correctly they get along just fine and have a good experience of the site without finding it "hard" they just accept that they need to put some effort in to how they go about their Fab business.
It's the same with the hoary old chestnut of other men ruining it for others - no-one ruins my experience of the site other than me, yeah other guys may send abusive messages or otherwise put people on their guard but that doesn't ruin things for me in the greater scheme of things - if people judge me based on the actions of others then so be it, but I'd question if they were the type of people I'd have wanted to meet anyway.
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"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."
Certainly an element of truth in that. Since the Craigslist rejects and dogging enthusiasts have joined, the quality has gone downhill, plus the men who think it's Instashag or just somewhere to play when bored. Ir does make women and couples more weary and we're spending even more time wading through sludge messages and keep getting our time wasted.
I'm not sure it's fair to say that we're arrogant, although some will be. Being called arrogant and stuck up is a fairly standard response when telling people no. Likewise the illusion of choice - you've already mentioned the absolute dross on here, if you exclude all them, there's actually very little choice. It's akin to being hungry and someone telling you to eat out of the bin as there's food waste in there |
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As the ratio gap furthers it becomes more and more of a numbers game.
Most don’t want to admit it, but it’s the truth.
For every 1000 single guys that join the site there’s gonna be a bunch of huge cocks, stunning bodies, and great personalities.
That overall just lowers the chance you’ll get picked.
I’ve had more fwb in 1 year from tinder than I hand meets in a good 4-5 years on here.
Use the site for what it is. Enjoy the forum, send out the best messages you can and block anyone that doesn’t reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As the ratio gap furthers it becomes more and more of a numbers game.
Most don’t want to admit it, but it’s the truth.
For every 1000 single guys that join the site there’s gonna be a bunch of huge cocks, stunning bodies, and great personalities.
That overall just lowers the chance you’ll get picked.
I’ve had more fwb in 1 year from tinder than I hand meets in a good 4-5 years on here.
Use the site for what it is. Enjoy the forum, send out the best messages you can and block anyone that doesn’t reply. "
Agree, oddly enough if you want a FWB or ONS there are better places. I too just enjoy the forums and perving, little expectation to actually meet. |
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Single men are very welcome, with me OP. It's just about the right guy/right time, to an extent. People are very concerned about the exponential growth in the virus infection numbers. They are also overwhelmed again now that meets have started. I'm slow sometimes with replies but eligible single men always can fix up a date with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "
And I'm far from put off seeking out those I'm interested in by the few that act like dicks. Fab really doesn't work like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "
Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "
I see things differently, those dicks make those of us who can string a sentence together look like erudite renaissance men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys
Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here"
Well said that man.
I'd also suggest the expectations of most who complain are probably unrealistic, leading to their self induced frustration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys
Dont blame the actions of others for your lack of success, it's a poor excuse rather than looking at how you present and conduct yourself on here"
Absolutely 100% this!
To answer the OP, no fab is not dead for single men. You get out what you put in. I see a lot of similar posts usually saying it’s fakes and time wasters that make it hard. If that’s the case and you’re not one of those, you should stand out then… Don’t blame others. |
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I don’t think it is. I enjoy the site more than I ever have.
If you engage on here with all sexes you will come across as someone reasonable and respectful. The right woman/women will spot you and they won’t be shy in coming forward.
If you’re a dick, you don’t get to use yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, I sat and observed the forum amd the behaviours long before I contributed.
A lot of man contradict themselves. Aka think they are different, smarter better than other men. But a simple look at their forum engagement tells you something different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's dead for single women too OP don't worry.
Or at least it is for this single woman  "
Not for this one, I do pretty good. But then I'm also whats considered fresh meat! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think atm it’s very hard for single men, I think there is a small group of man being dicks on here and it’s putting people off, is single guys "
Us women are pretty good at separating |
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"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent...."
And this post really says it all Do you really find thousands of women attractive enough to want to spend time with them? Or are you just looking for a wet, warm hole in which to place your penis? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is man. Been here for over a year on 2 accounts... bearly got reply to any of thousands msgs I've already sent....
And this post really says it all Do you really find thousands of women attractive enough to want to spend time with them? Or are you just looking for a wet, warm hole in which to place your penis? "
my guess is warm and wet may just even be a bonus   |
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"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol
I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,
But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation
Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?
Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ? "
You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella |
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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago
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No different than a night out in my opinion, you can politely ask and if a no comes your way then move on. Admittedly in person you have eye contact but surely like minded people feel the Same on here. Been here a short while, several meets with people and hopefully many more to come. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol
I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,
But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation
Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?
Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ?
You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I look at local updates, sometimes someone catches my eye on there for positive or funny posts so update your updates!
And no it’s not dead for single men but please write more than a one liner and if you repeat message please don’t send exactly the same message and pictures as you definitely loose points, also quite a few men assume it’s the man running the couple profile-don’t! X |
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You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella "
No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Corrrrect.
"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male."
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You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella
No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth! "
That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good |
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I can imagine that as a guy, even when they are not making it tough for themselves that it can still be difficult to connect with someone on here.
Tailor your messages to that person...keep it light!
Different things from different messages catch my attention, for me there is no one rule.
A good profile pic always helps too.
Good luck with it all OP.
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You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella
No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth!
That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good "
None of those apply to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re all dead, who’ll mourn us at our funerals?!
You can pre hire people
Meh, what if they don’t perform? "
Well i did think that, how would you know if your rent a mourner didn't show! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on here pre pandemic, people were more open to chat. Came back in the last few months and it seems a lot harder just to get a response or even someone who knows how to hold a conversation. Covid has had a devastating impact on this site. You can go on any dating app/site and it’s the same. It does seem to be people are focussing more on the social side and ignoring anyone who messages them they haven’t met. I’m just looking to do the social side, as messaging people I don’t know and haven’t met is a complete waste of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was on here pre pandemic, people were more open to chat. Came back in the last few months and it seems a lot harder just to get a response or even someone who knows how to hold a conversation. Covid has had a devastating impact on this site. You can go on any dating app/site and it’s the same. It does seem to be people are focussing more on the social side and ignoring anyone who messages them they haven’t met. I’m just looking to do the social side, as messaging people I don’t know and haven’t met is a complete waste of time."
Maybe people have re evaluated their lives ect during that time |
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You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella
No such thing as the Holy Trinity, that's a myth!
That's actually true, as 'Convenience' (as in, can you meet when it's convenient for them), should also be in that list, but 'Holy Trinity' for the three main criteria sounds good
None of those apply to me"
Maybe not, but I bet there are very few single guy profiles in here, 6 months old with 8 meet veris |
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Something has changed. Not entirely sure what. I’m getting nowhere near the amount of views I used to get.
Also, after the first lockdown last summer, Fab went a bit crazy for me, for three months. Since the second lockdown has eased, things have been a lot more calm. Lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You should have just hidden your previous profile, rather than deleting it to start over, especially considering that pandemic thing ruining pretty much every aspect of everyone's lives everywhere!
The Fab 'Holy Trinity' is;
Under 45
6ft or over
Can accommodate.
If you can tick all three of the above, you will have far less 'work' to put in than the bulk of guys (single or otherwise ) in here.
Not everyone is in to beards or tattoos either......
All the best fella "
In hindsight hiding the profile would have been the smart move,
But at the time I had met someone and got into a relationship, she had no interest in the swinging world, so out of respect for her I deleted my profile |
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"Smart phones fueling social media explosions have brought this site to the point where it's saturated with married men, schoolboys, sad weirdos and general dreamers. Men being the vast majority. This in turn has made couples and females become more cautious and in some cases arrogant because they're kind of in a position of power.
Fab definitely used to feel like a much more friendly place for a genuine single male. ...... well said that statement couldn’t be truer ... the funny fact is that I’ve picked up more swinging couples out in real life on nights out than I have on here for the past year "
Very true. There comes a point when you wonder why expend so much time on fabs messaging people when it's easier to find normal people interested in the real world. Singles, couples, freaks. Seems fabs if anything selects for non-singers. Mostly the single guy chancer looking to get a quick 5min lay that will save him a few Bob instead of paying for an escort.
I guess we all have different ideas of what a swinger is.
I always liken dating/matchmaking to the job application process.
1. (single guy perspective) You're more than qualified, but get rejected as people assume you are like the others (2).
2. (couple/single woman perspective) low quality guys message with low quality messages. The Very qualified guys turn out to be major disappointments/fakes, 5 minute men etc.
So again, it's the same everywhere. Your average builder over promises and under delivers. While the exceptional builder has to wade through the crap and prove themselves.
The game isn't really in what you traditionally think. The game is how can single guys determine how to convince people to meet up with them, and how can single women/couples better identify who will genuinely do what their profile purports they can do. A constantly evolving game of cat and mouse.
Investing time to study how it works from both sides definitely helps.
Have to laugh at the single women/couple profiles that put a list of demands down, only to check that their verifications suggest they completely ignore their demands or Simped way to many times with low quality guys/fakes. I'd rather laugh than see the sad state of society that this indicates. |
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Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.
Messages just get buried, go unread or people’s standards are way above what I can deliver. The numbers allow for women and to a lesser extent, couples, to be extremely picky
Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy |
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"Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.
Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy"
The thing is that I'm not sure what you describe is swinging. "Chances" at what? For me, swinging is about getting to know people. It's a community. Maybe it's extra noticeable in South Wales, but everybody seems to know everyone. There's no six degrees of separation here. It's usually one or two. And if you're an attentive sort of bloke who isn't a total throbber, you tend to do OK. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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All these sites are a challenge for solo guys, the perception is skewed. It I not about the others that give the "genuine" (define genuine) guys a bad name, it is about a specific criteria for those that are looking. Very often that criteria is a small percentage anyway. So larger collective would not be considered anyway, as they are outside of that criteria - simples. |
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The ladys seem to want you to make effort.
But when you do there's a lot of rejection.
I send winks and like pictures
As the women must know its a sausage fest.
Its more logical for her to make the first move.
I like the chat anyway.
Makes me horny
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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago
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It’s slow but not entirely dead just alot of people using this as a dating or flirt site and it’s not ok meet new friends but mainly just about having wild filthy sex with no ties or commitments fine if something happens after but it’s not badoo or whatever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is definitely something wrong here. As long I sits here and being more active it's seams to be a huge fake and prank site going.
I have an account 1,5 year, I have no idea how many different women I have texted but never got replies. On forum mostly are same people active each day. From the beginning my profile wasn't so attractive but I have change a bit my profile, added more photos, being active on forum but strange us that selected people just response for comments and doesn't matter if you answer from forum to privet both ways no response but the person is active and commenting comments etc.
So why can't and for mine give answer. I'm always Culter, respectful and honest. Don't have and don't send dick pic. I can't belive that if all will be fine with that site I couldn't find a Fab for myself |
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Just because you song up to something does not mean you will get laid.
If no one messages you back then accept it.
Impossible to attract everyone.
Just enjoy the forums and have a good perv if this place ain't for you its not.
I dont sign up to tinder expecting a wife.
I find leaving it up to the girls gets me more messages anyway.
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"Like most guys, I get far more chances using dating apps than here.
Use fabs for the forums because it’s funny. Don’t use it for swinging as a single guy
The thing is that I'm not sure what you describe is swinging. "Chances" at what? For me, swinging is about getting to know people. It's a community. Maybe it's extra noticeable in South Wales, but everybody seems to know everyone. There's no six degrees of separation here. It's usually one or two. And if you're an attentive sort of bloke who isn't a total throbber, you tend to do OK. "
There’s plenty of single women and couples on other dating apps that are part of the swinging scene
I’ve met more couples from dating apps in a year then I have off my entire time using Fabs
And single women? Like 10x as many
Fabs for me is about using the forums because it’s funny. If someone messages me along the way then great. And I might send out the odd message too, but with less than 5% of them even being opened I don’t see the point anymore.
Use fabs for what you want, what makes you happy, what you find fun. And I can guarantee, as a single guy, sending out 1000 messages for 0 replies probably isn’t fun |
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"It is definitely something wrong here. As long I sits here and being more active it's seams to be a huge fake and prank site going.
I have an account 1,5 year, I have no idea how many different women I have texted but never got replies. On forum mostly are same people active each day. From the beginning my profile wasn't so attractive but I have change a bit my profile, added more photos, being active on forum but strange us that selected people just response for comments and doesn't matter if you answer from forum to privet both ways no response but the person is active and commenting comments etc.
So why can't and for mine give answer. I'm always Culter, respectful and honest. Don't have and don't send dick pic. I can't belive that if all will be fine with that site I couldn't find a Fab for myself "
Women are here on fab for their own reasons, just because they are online doesn’t mean they have to reply to their messages, they are free to use their time as they see fit.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey all! So just recently it’s proving difficult to be able to get a response from anyone let alone a meet lol
I had an old profile on here previously before the pandemic, and it was at lot more responsive to say the least,
But since returning, it just seems impossible to even have a conversation
Do we think this is due to the pandemic or more the overwhelming amount of fake/time wasting profiles that have found there way onto the site ?
Is fab dead for single men ? Or is this just a short phase ? "
Blimey, we hope not! Single guys are our main interest.
Perhaps a lot of couples are staying away from meeting even though restrictions on movement have been lifted. We have to stay in and it is driving us a bit nuts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I almost exclusively look for single males on here, unfortunately lock down did seem to bring a lot of new people (male and female I'm sure) a lot of who seem to be fantasists, the 'Hay available for me to come fuck you right now?' messages are at an all time high and when you point out you don't just meet random people you've never spoken to, have never seen a picture of simply because they ask, the abusive/your such a time waster replies are very boring....
I think there are quite a few women like me who still can't meet post lock down because of thr school holidays, I'm hoping once those are out the way fab starts going back to some kind of normal |
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It’s purely the way of the world on here.
We get numerous messages every day from single guys so we have a choice. Not all of them tick our boxes, a few do.
Admittedly our location doesn’t help but we would love to hear from couples or women but it rarely happens.
Fab isn’t dead for single guys but it’s a very competitive market
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sincerely hope not.. although it is difficult and surprisingly some of the profiles can surprise you with replies.. many weeks later.. hang in there.. respect with your messages pays off.. especially if you can find common ground like the forums.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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and here we go again guys blaming other guys for their non meets its getting boring now and a turnoff in its self a so called bad guy ruins it for himself no one else guys stop blaming others for your getting nowhere .....
its always been the same for guys on here its a numbers game first n formost made worse by the sheer numbers that have joined in the last 2 years add that to the fact alot of women and couples dont meet and then alot of women and couples only meet in clubs slims it down even more....
the ratio just by numbers must be 50 men to each woman the factor in most women like to take there time and again alot of women dont meet just here for friends and then the hey look at me crowd the one that live on fab just to be wanted and liked without ever meeting that leaves an even smaller pool of women that meet making that 50 to 1 seems like 1000 to 1...
add covid and how that has changed every one way of life and how they play then that 1000 to one keeps getting bigger ....
so there it is its a numbers game always have been always will be except the numbers are getting higher..
and how people use the site i would not mind betting that half the women on here dont meet or very rarely meet or along with alot of couiples only meet in clubs or socials (rightly so too their life there choice i might add)
numbers numbers numbers |
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I’ve not had any meets yet but I wouldn’t say it is dead at all. I’ve made some friends already, I’ve messaged a few people and I’ve gotten involved on the forum. I’d like to meet some people, of course, but the social side of things is important too and is helping me to come out of my shell somewhat. |
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