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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Off the back of the self confidence thread, what are your tips for loving yourself more?
Mine are to keep small promises to myself, and to celebrate my little victories.
Over to you … |
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Setting myself realistic goals. Be that taking a walk or going to an exhibition.
Monitor progress, e.g. I'm trying to loose the weight gained over the last year. I photograph myself once a month to measure progress. So I can't argue with myself that I've made none.
Writing down my strong points and my weaknesses. Nobody is brilliant at everything, sometimes it's hard to remember that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give yourself a break
Remember we all make mistakes
The perfect body doesn't exist
Don't obsess over the things you can't change
Accept compliments, don't question them
There's only one of you, take care of yourself  |
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"Off the back of the self confidence thread, what are your tips for loving yourself more?
Mine are to keep small promises to myself, and to celebrate my little victories.
Over to you …"
Just be yourself, and try and become the best person you can be. When you start getting messages on here, as a single male, you know you’re doing something right.
That brings in a self confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to see yourself how others see you... Ask them what they see!
And when you get a complement, dont brush it off, let it stick!
Appreciate it, try and see it from their pov, and accept it!
Thwre is nothing sexier than non-arogant self confidence, but we seem to knock ourselves down more than we allow others to build us up!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would think about every little thing that makes up who I am on a while and not not pick at individual things
I'm a kind caring person whom had his limits like everyone else
I think about my triumphs as much as my failures
My bad points as much as my good
My mental ability as much as my physical
If we wait for someone to love is in the ways we would like to be loved we will be waiting an eternity
Loving ourselves is easy
Convincing ourselves isn't so
I love myself because of the person I am 
People don't tend to like it   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be happy in your own skin and be happy and confident being you because it’s oh so hard to love someone else if you can’t love yourself imho!!!
Tony"
This is so true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's where i struggle i punishment myself and am hypercritical due to a real fear of failure if something goes wrong in my life i take the responsibility as the reason to unburden others iv only ever been truly myself and comfortable a small number of times in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s always very easy to pick faults in yourself , but it’s always important to remember how lucky I am to be healthy and alive
Some people aren’t so lucky
Ever day is a bonus  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Comfort and speak nicely to yourself as you would to a friend going through a bad time x
Take time for self love / care
Have that time out
Don’t say yes when you want to say no
Slow down when you need to
Relaxing baths
Early nights
Book that pamper treatment
Spend time with positive people who respect you
When you take care of you ! You show up better for others xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I get an amen up in here
You can have an aman .. more than one is greedy 
Ooh I say your spoiling me x"
That'll be the ambassador with the Ferrero Roche tray |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I get an amen up in here
You can have an aman .. more than one is greedy
Ooh I say your spoiling me x
That'll be the ambassador with the Ferrero Roche tray
Is he hot "
Well he stacks them like that to hide his excitement when you go for the one in the middle...he knows you like chocolate covered balls |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Can I get an amen up in here
You can have an aman .. more than one is greedy
Ooh I say your spoiling me x
That'll be the ambassador with the Ferrero Roche tray
Is he hot
Well he stacks them like that to hide his excitement when you go for the one in the middle...he knows you like chocolate covered balls "
Mmmmm x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be kind to yourself.
Ignore or challenge negative self talk.
Treat yourself like you'd treat your best friend.
Accept compliments.
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I don't have friends though lol
I have acquaintances  |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Focus on the bits you really like, accept compliments, make an effort on the days you don't really need to. Do it for you and no one else "
This! This is how I live my life now, I accept my flaws and focus on the bits I like, any effort I make is for me and noone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's always going to be at least 1_ person either jealous, envious or intimidated by a person's level of self love or self confidence
The idea is to realise that like you they cannot sh it through wood
In that respect we are all equal
Then go from there and fuck what anyone things
Everything's energy
Confidence is energy
Self love is energy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel better when I’m making others around me smile… and I can still do that even if I don’t feel great x
Love this, totally agree with it too
Jo x"
Me as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Focus all your time and energy on those who reciprocate your kindness and attention. Takers will never stop taking and they'll leave you empty. Givers keep giving. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Focus all your time and energy on those who reciprocate your kindness and attention. Takers will never stop taking and they'll leave you empty. Givers keep giving."
If a person can strip you bare they will
Confidence and self love included |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel better when I’m making others around me smile… and I can still do that even if I don’t feel great x
Love this, totally agree with it too
Jo x
Me as well "
Thanks I’ve always tried to make someone smile every day. And at times it’s been hard but seeing someone smile because of you always lifts me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have no tips as I just can’t but I’m here to see if something works for me. "
This is why I started the thread, in the hope that we can all take something from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do something good walking it helps you appreciate the outdoors and also doing yourself good, smiling too contagious so chin up smile and beauty starts inside too |
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Easier said than done but just learn to accept that you are not responsible for the burden of expectation on you.
For many women in particular, learning to give zero fucks comes later in life and when it comes, its so liberating. You do what's best for you, on your terms and you become happier and love yourself all the more for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Never compare yourself to others you are your own person the strongest people walk alone
I think it’s stronger to ask for help if you need it "
Often when they do it's too late |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Never compare yourself to others you are your own person the strongest people walk alone
I think it’s stronger to ask for help if you need it
Often when they do it's too late"
A lot of people struggle to ask for help. I learnt last year, it’s ok to ask, and people want to help |
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"Give yourself a break
Remember we all make mistakes
The perfect body doesn't exist
Don't obsess over the things you can't change
Love these.
Accept compliments, don't question them
There's only one of you, take care of yourself "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I listen to this!
https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI
"Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself"
...now, where's that thread from the other day about songs that well you up!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always have something for yourself. It could be anything that you love to do. Me, it would be a gig that no else wanted to go to. Sometimes that alone time, doing something you love, perks you up when your down. |
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I like to just get away from it all, even for just a short while. I’ll go sit in a park or just simply take a long walk with either music or a book and just get lost in my own company for awhile. Always clears my head and makes me feel better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Never compare yourself to others you are your own person the strongest people walk alone
I think it’s stronger to ask for help if you need it
Often when they do it's too late
A lot of people struggle to ask for help. I learnt last year, it’s ok to ask, and people want to help"
I know x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Never compare yourself to others you are your own person the strongest people walk alone
I think it’s stronger to ask for help if you need it
Often when they do it's too late
A lot of people struggle to ask for help. I learnt last year, it’s ok to ask, and people want to help
I know x"
So many people find it hard though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Never compare yourself to others you are your own person the strongest people walk alone
I think it’s stronger to ask for help if you need it
Often when they do it's too late
A lot of people struggle to ask for help. I learnt last year, it’s ok to ask, and people want to help
I know x
So many people find it hard though"
Never easy |
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"In recent years I’ve simple learnt to accept compliments instead of trying to convince the people complimenting me that they are somehow mistaken.
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He never accepts compliments and thinks exactly the same |
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"In recent years I’ve simple learnt to accept compliments instead of trying to convince the people complimenting me that they are somehow mistaken.
He never accepts compliments and thinks exactly the same "
A good suggestion I read recently is if you find compliments hard to accept then try replying with "I don't see myself that way but thank you".
Job done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In recent years I’ve simple learnt to accept compliments instead of trying to convince the people complimenting me that they are somehow mistaken.
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Good for you, it's a great outlook. So many of us should take a leaf out of your book |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not a fucking clue at the minute, bit lost if I'm honest
Can we help?
I know why I don't just dont know how to change it or if i can"
Just know that there is a lot of support here for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fucking clue at the minute, bit lost if I'm honest
Can we help?
I know why I don't just dont know how to change it or if i can
Just know that there is a lot of support here for you "
I know, from friends and forum folk
I'm trying to accept the new me but failing miserably |
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"If you're having a tough time, ask yourself what you'd tell a friend in the same position. Then take note of that and follow it. "
I try to speak to myself as kindly as I speak to my friends, and to treat myself with as much love as I treat my friends.
I don't always succeed, but the practice has made a big difference for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fucking clue at the minute, bit lost if I'm honest
Can we help?
I know why I don't just dont know how to change it or if i can
Just know that there is a lot of support here for you
I know, from friends and forum folk
I'm trying to accept the new me but failing miserably"
Sending hugs, its hard x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not a fucking clue at the minute, bit lost if I'm honest
Can we help?
I know why I don't just dont know how to change it or if i can
Just know that there is a lot of support here for you
I know, from friends and forum folk
I'm trying to accept the new me but failing miserably"
Be gentle with yourself . I’m a good listener if you need to talk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep a gratitude journal. It only takes a couple of minutes to write down three things in grateful each day but living in gratitude helps to feel more positive about everything.
And I practise yoga. It's just so kind to your body. I love it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I keep a gratitude journal. It only takes a couple of minutes to write down three things in grateful each day but living in gratitude helps to feel more positive about everything.
And I practise yoga. It's just so kind to your body. I love it. "
Two brilliant suggestions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And spending time in nature. There's a saying that says you should spend twenty minutes in nature every day, unless you're too busy, then your should spend an hour.
It lifts my mood being in nature and I always just feel grateful to be part of the world. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"Not a fucking clue at the minute, bit lost if I'm honest
Can we help?
I know why I don't just dont know how to change it or if i can
Just know that there is a lot of support here for you
I know, from friends and forum folk
I'm trying to accept the new me but failing miserably"
I did a self Compassion course which radically changed my perspective on the idea of accepting oneself. Rather than trying to accept the new you.. Could you send some love or at least firstly merely acknowledge the part of you that is struggling and feels like failure. This is the only thing you need to do. Teeny steps. Patience and softness to human you who is suffering a bit right now xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've literally got nothing positive to add to this. You do either like and accept yourself with any and all imperfections or you hate yourself over all of them.
Accept. If there's anything I have worth saying it's that. Accept who you are and don't see it as a competition with people you might think are "better". You're you and that's all you are. You might be shit compared to others but you might be just right for someone. |
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