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Should I stay or should I go
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Great clash song.
But attention seeking for thread title..
Oh diddums so the women ar'nt falling at your feet coz you've joined...
Best go where you had more success
Oh hang on that's why you joined fab |
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"Great clash song.
But attention seeking for thread title..
Oh diddums so the women ar'nt falling at your feet coz you've joined...
Best go where you had more success
Oh hang on that's why you joined fab"
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You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
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Hide your profile for a while OP. I regularly take breaks as it gets very samey every once and a while. Hopefully when things open up a bit more, the site will go back to the fun place it used to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just come & go as it suits me because it can become like 'man on a mission'!
Worth staying on as a freebie, forums can be entertaining & you never know with new members joining everyday.
Think all the locals will have checked me out by now if they were really interested in my type they would have messaged me.
I do make the effort with my sent messages, usually get nowhere but I don't worry about it, fret over it & let it get me down or such.  |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"Yes pointless being here is you don't have fun fab is brutal for most men "
I agree, when the fun stops, stop.
But, we've been in lockdown so not a lot of fun to be had anyone; the draught is almost over and more people will be coming out to play so hang around a tad longer before giving Fab the big heave-ho. |
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong.  "
FAB is a social and resource community for individuals exploring that lie sexuality or swinging lifestyle.
It is not a hook up instashag site...
Yes it has a meets section. But it is not the core, not the heart of what FAB is about.
Once individuals understand this. Then they enjoy the site more.
Perhaps your expectation of what the site is about are skewed and this is why you and many others are dejected.  |
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"Couple of the responses here are just rude and uncalled for  "
Yeah I agree. I thought the OP would also be told to 'man up' too. People can have long term sexual goals and desires, but not be brimming with sexual confidence from the start. We've all got to start somewhere!
Op, the Forum's, especially the Lounge are good fun to dip in and out of. Good luck to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong. "
I don't think anyone does anything 'wrong' in Fabland, unless there is abuse
I don't think lockdown has helped any and I think it may be a while before people feel comfortable meeting again
Stuck around the forums and take away the expectations for now as you just put pressure on yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally id just stick around on the forums and maybe make some friends, don’t stress about meeting it’ll happen when it happens with people you find a connection with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
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Blimey don’t hold back daddy lol  |
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I think most who have posted on this thread have got the right idea about fab as a site.
Joining in with conversation and enjoying fab in ways such as the pictures and forums then if one happens across a potential meet then an added bonus is achieved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong. "
Going by your green arrow you havnt set your goals too high in just looking for a bloke to wank with so if you’re not getting any joy I’d take a break at the least!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hide your profile for a while OP. I regularly take breaks as it gets very samey every once and a while. Hopefully when things open up a bit more, the site will go back to the fun place it used to be."
Yep covid lockdowns definitely altered the feel and fun of it on here, I was here before Covid and definitely notice a change. Agree with you, it will pick up again in due course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take a break or reduce the amount of time you use Fab. Use the forums or chatrooms more.
I view it like a pub you go to regularly. Pop in a few times a week, interact with a few people and over time you will connect a bit more with some of them. Eventually everyone will know your name.
https://youtu.be/WB0nC3BkzPk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong.
Going by your green arrow you havnt set your goals too high in just looking for a bloke to wank with so if you’re not getting any joy I’d take a break at the least!!!
Tony"
Oh jeeze brutal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging is a lifestyle choice in my opinion you are either in or out. You as a person determine how you feel.
Don’t take it to seriously and have fun. It really is that easy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fun fact: this thread title has been used more than any other title in Fab history, only on two occasions have women used the time and that was in relation to the song and not leaving, all the others have been men wanting people to make the decision for them, make of that what you will. The title has been used 4 times already this year, all by men, all who stayed, the most since 2014, when it was used 7 times before June. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab can be very hard if your not a woman tv/ts or couples seeking men
Men and couples seeking single female only have it the hardest
If fabs getting you down op hide profile but we’re just about there op
Hopefully the 19th then clubs and such will start open up
Mem and couples seeking women do they best work at clubs op
Hate useing the term but always do as it fits insta shag or insta blow is just not there for single guys
Like it is for woman tv/ts or couples seeking men
Please everyone exuse my rudeness hear don’t mean to be just saying how it is
But if a woman tv/ts or couples seeking men
Want to blow a guy or have they way with guy they just need to send out one message unfortunately it’s not there for guys or couples seeking woman or in less you happen to be that random profile that gets lucky
Not speaking for everyone
But yes there’s times I need that inch scratched and just pick a profile at random to scratch it  oooo god good image down the drain but mind you my pics don’t help that ha ha ok yes I like sex I sed it no sleep
natalie Is the worst I don’t have a filter as it is worse when I been up 27 hours ha ha please forgive me lol
If you do go op take care and come back from your posts apart from one have been good
Sorry everyone for the long windy post natalie on a high form the fights and no sleep mode none filtered that normally
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fun fact: this thread title has been used more than any other title in Fab history, only on two occasions have women used the time and that was in relation to the song and not leaving, all the others have been men wanting people to make the decision for them, make of that what you will. The title has been used 4 times already this year, all by men, all who stayed, the most since 2014, when it was used 7 times before June. "
Sounds like government commissioned research to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All of your photos are in your bedroom. Do you have any other hobbies or interests? Maybe do the things that you're passionate about and get some nice pics. Then you get to enjoy doing the thing you like, fab will become less important, but your profile will be more attractive as people get to see that side of you.
Good luck op. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Fun fact: this thread title has been used more than any other title in Fab history, only on two occasions have women used the time and that was in relation to the song and not leaving, all the others have been men wanting people to make the decision for them, make of that what you will. The title has been used 4 times already this year, all by men, all who stayed, the most since 2014, when it was used 7 times before June. "
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
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No one is born with knowledge, experience or confidence. Confidence is built through small successes. Knowledge is gained through learning. And experience takes time to develop.
Your comment is extremely unproductive...the OP stated his own experience on the site so far and than asked for advise, and your reaction is to tell him to be a big boy and that he should know what to do? Clearly the OP doesn't have the experience you have, but at least he is asking for advice, yet you are gonna put him down (with your passive aggressive reply) for it? Mate get off your high horse ...it's people like you in the comments section that are making others scared of writing anything in the Forums. |
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"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
No one is born with knowledge, experience or confidence. Confidence is built through small successes. Knowledge is gained through learning. And experience takes time to develop.
Your comment is extremely unproductive...the OP stated his own experience on the site so far and than asked for advise, and your reaction is to tell him to be a big boy and that he should know what to do? Clearly the OP doesn't have the experience you have, but at least he is asking for advice, yet you are gonna put him down (with your passive aggressive reply) for it? Mate get off your high horse ...it's people like you in the comments section that are making others scared of writing anything in the Forums."
Fat more polite than is needed or than I would respond but I don't want a time out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
No one is born with knowledge, experience or confidence. Confidence is built through small successes. Knowledge is gained through learning. And experience takes time to develop.
Your comment is extremely unproductive...the OP stated his own experience on the site so far and than asked for advise, and your reaction is to tell him to be a big boy and that he should know what to do? Clearly the OP doesn't have the experience you have, but at least he is asking for advice, yet you are gonna put him down (with your passive aggressive reply) for it? Mate get off your high horse ...it's people like you in the comments section that are making others scared of writing anything in the Forums."
Well said. People can be unnecessarily unkind on here at times. No one person has the same experience, even if the same event.
Op - if you’re not enjoying it, hide your account and don’t log on, or delete you account, or as other have said, just stay and play on the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to consider that this being such a public site that it is you are going to get a certain percentage of time wasters, wind-up merchants, jokers & unfortunately those who are abusive & try to cause problems.
Like many have already said you ignore it, you block them, you report them. If you respond (& a reaction is what they want) chances are they'll just continue so don't waste your time with it. The majority of them are arseholes who hide behind their computer screens & in the flesh wouldn't dare say what they do on line. Pathetic imbeciles!
Don't let them get to you, if you find it gets too much have a break for a while, but as I said before it's a public site, open to many so there's bound to be a number of simpletons & you're above them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong. "
aye it just gets worse so if it's crap for you now
it will get worse
Leave |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong. "
your not doing anything wrong, we are just coming out of a pandemic as has been mentioned, things will get better, I have been surprised as I thought I wasn't anyone's cup of tea.
Just try to chill and relax, it will happen when it happens, social meets are a great way to break the ice, as long as you go in with zero expectation, the organised socials are a great way to meet others, my advise, gow with the flow, it's a marathon not a sprint, dip into the forums, and have a laugh, don't take it too seriously, remember we outnumber our very sexy counterparts something like 50 to one, try make the best of what it is and good things will happen, believe me |
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"I'm thinking of leaving fab it's just getting boring or am I doing it wrong. your not doing anything wrong, we are just coming out of a pandemic as has been mentioned, things will get better, I have been surprised as I thought I wasn't anyone's cup of tea.
Just try to chill and relax, it will happen when it happens, social meets are a great way to break the ice, as long as you go in with zero expectation, the organised socials are a great way to meet others, my advise, gow with the flow, it's a marathon not a sprint, dip into the forums, and have a laugh, don't take it too seriously, remember we outnumber our very sexy counterparts something like 50 to one, try make the best of what it is and good things will happen, believe me"
Thanks for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
No one is born with knowledge, experience or confidence. Confidence is built through small successes. Knowledge is gained through learning. And experience takes time to develop.
Your comment is extremely unproductive...the OP stated his own experience on the site so far and than asked for advise, and your reaction is to tell him to be a big boy and that he should know what to do? Clearly the OP doesn't have the experience you have, but at least he is asking for advice, yet you are gonna put him down (with your passive aggressive reply) for it? Mate get off your high horse ...it's people like you in the comments section that are making others scared of writing anything in the Forums."
Beautifully articulated |
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"Thank you for all your positive replys and to all of those who have been just rude I don't care and I'm going to stay and have a laugh and fun in the forum's for now
Good keep us updated with your fitness journey  Enjoy the forums!"
Thanks for that I'm still working out I would like to get my body like yours but I think I'm to old to get like you
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By *elethWoman
over a year ago
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"You're a big boy now
Should be able to know what to do..
By highlighting your doubts you're just showing your inexperience and lack of confidence to experienced long term swingers..
Are they going to be extending invites..?
Being attractive to others requires a certain amount of confidence not cockiness but confidence...
May be a bitter pill but you need to swallow it.
No one is born with knowledge, experience or confidence. Confidence is built through small successes. Knowledge is gained through learning. And experience takes time to develop.
Your comment is extremely unproductive...the OP stated his own experience on the site so far and than asked for advise, and your reaction is to tell him to be a big boy and that he should know what to do? Clearly the OP doesn't have the experience you have, but at least he is asking for advice, yet you are gonna put him down (with your passive aggressive reply) for it? Mate get off your high horse ...it's people like you in the comments section that are making others scared of writing anything in the Forums.
Beautifully articulated "
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