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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here 
And here  . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it! "
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over a year ago
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Let's just say it isn't great. Unfortunately I think it's this place that has eaten away at it and the lack of interest ( when my filters are open.)
If I knew of any similar places I would use them instead, but there are some people I like perving on so I'm persistent.
I do hope it improves. I'm turning 30 fairly soon so I'm hoping my thirties might be a better decade for me.
I really don't think so sadly.
The one thing I will say to all those who are turned off by a lack of confidence is that I'm confident enough to be honest, unfiltered and completely myself. I hope that counts for something! |
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"Let's just say it isn't great. Unfortunately I think it's this place that has eaten away at it and the lack of interest ( when my filters are open.)
If I knew of any similar places I would use them instead, but there are some people I like perving on so I'm persistent.
I do hope it improves. I'm turning 30 fairly soon so I'm hoping my thirties might be a better decade for me.
I really don't think so sadly.
The one thing I will say to all those who are turned off by a lack of confidence is that I'm confident enough to be honest, unfiltered and completely myself. I hope that counts for something!"
Not to be disrespectful, but from what i've seen on your profile, in that respect you also have nothing to have a lack of confidence. I'm sure it's similar to a lot of others on here though, so we can only help ourselves and help bring each other up. |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it! "
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!! |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!! "
How was your pie chips and gravy?  |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy? "
FITTTTTTTTT |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
FITTTTTTTTT "
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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I'm more confident in myself now than when I was in my 20's & 30's! I've made loads of mistakes & learnt quickly from them.
I don't think there is anything I can't solve now with a bit of thinking & common sense and a few work arounds.
However, I'm finding it harder to keep fitter now. That is a work in progress. But have tonnes of gardening to do so cross fingers -that might work? Hope so! |
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"I'm more confident in myself now than when I was in my 20's & 30's! I've made loads of mistakes & learnt quickly from them.
I don't think there is anything I can't solve now with a bit of thinking & common sense and a few work arounds.
However, I'm finding it harder to keep fitter now. That is a work in progress. But have tonnes of gardening to do so cross fingers -that might work? Hope so! "
another great analagy good on you |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy? "
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me. |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me."
Oh me too . My opinion of me is crap at the moment though. I’m not concerned about other peoples x |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me.
Oh me too . My opinion of me is crap at the moment though. I’m not concerned about other peoples x "
I wish I could ignore other people's opinions. My life would be a lot easier and happier if I did! |
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me.
Oh me too . My opinion of me is crap at the moment though. I’m not concerned about other peoples x
I wish I could ignore other people's opinions. My life would be a lot easier and happier if I did!"
I’ve seen you say that before . It surprises me you get nasty comments. You really are beautiful Molly. I imagine it’s jealousy. I really hope you can ignore them x |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Body confidence same all my life. Due to never been muscular etc. Teased at school for size. Yet very fit. I do not put weight on . Now about 5ft 10in and weigh 70kg
Confidence , ok if chatting to say people in say business situation. If social not good. But then if start to talk will relax and be ok. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me.
Oh me too . My opinion of me is crap at the moment though. I’m not concerned about other peoples x
I wish I could ignore other people's opinions. My life would be a lot easier and happier if I did!"
Eat pie and chips.
Or, start judging others and see how that makes you feel.
Or simply understand that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have got, or they wouldn’t be doing it.
Suspect those who are judging would find a little solace in themselves understand they are doing the best they can, with what they have got.
Ps, we got a semi invite to elite couples recently, didn’t know they had opened up a big bear category. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self confidence, great
Body confidence, not so
Same here
And here . My own fault though and like you I’m doing something about it!
Snap… although failing in the doing something about it so far!!!
How was your pie chips and gravy?
Ha ha, prefer pie and chips to other people’s opinions of me.
Oh me too . My opinion of me is crap at the moment though. I’m not concerned about other peoples x
I wish I could ignore other people's opinions. My life would be a lot easier and happier if I did!
I’ve seen you say that before . It surprises me you get nasty comments. You really are beautiful Molly. I imagine it’s jealousy. I really hope you can ignore them x"
I think these days it's more what people don't say and feeling like the least attractive here. I commented on a thread and the OP had complimented the other women when replying but didn't me. They don't look like they would even be my type but it but me so hard.
No-one will be attracted to you if you don't have some confidence in yourself though. I've got to work on myself and hopefully I'll get there one day.
Also thankyou, and right back at ya. Beautiful inside and out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it. "
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Body confidence same all my life. Due to never been muscular etc. Teased at school for size. Yet very fit. I do not put weight on . Now about 5ft 10in and weigh 70kg
Confidence , ok if chatting to say people in say business situation. If social not good. But then if start wto talk will relax and be ok. "
I should add. Having been on internet since dial up. Looking at tv, online etc. The new “norm “ for a lot of photos and programs . Male and female have to have nearly body “perfect “ shapes. So anyone else is not normal ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Struggle with both to be honest. Have mild Asperger's and have suffered with anxiety for many years so it can fluctuate from very poor to passable. Have very mild psoriasis to boot so body confidence tends to tank when it flares ups or leaves scaring. Still will always keep trying to overcome what I can control and not let the things are can’t drag me down or inhibit me from enjoying life as best I can |
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it.
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you. "
You are absolutely right,No matter how many compliments I receive I believe none of them, but when people are nasty or make snide comments it sticks. Though I find people criticising my character much worse. I wish I had that I don’t give a shit attitude |
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it.
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you.
You are absolutely right,No matter how many compliments I receive I believe none of them, but when people are nasty or make snide comments it sticks. Though I find people criticising my character much worse. I wish I had that I don’t give a shit attitude "
My perceived personality has been criticised so much simply based on status updates rather than getting to know me, and as a result I receive a lot less interest than other women.seem to generate ( going from what I've read in the forums and in profiles.)
That has really upset me and gets me really upset. I'm thinking of just keeping my age range at 99 as it only upsets me if I can't find the people i'm looking for.
So I totally understand where you're coming from.x |
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it.
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you.
You are absolutely right,No matter how many compliments I receive I believe none of them, but when people are nasty or make snide comments it sticks. Though I find people criticising my character much worse. I wish I had that I don’t give a shit attitude
My perceived personality has been criticised so much simply based on status updates rather than getting to know me, and as a result I receive a lot less interest than other women.seem to generate ( going from what I've read in the forums and in profiles.)
That has really upset me and gets me really upset. I'm thinking of just keeping my age range at 99 as it only upsets me if I can't find the people i'm looking for.
So I totally understand where you're coming from.x"
Didn't realise how repetitive I was, sorry! I need to read a thesaurus. |
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it.
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you.
You are absolutely right,No matter how many compliments I receive I believe none of them, but when people are nasty or make snide comments it sticks. Though I find people criticising my character much worse. I wish I had that I don’t give a shit attitude
My perceived personality has been criticised so much simply based on status updates rather than getting to know me, and as a result I receive a lot less interest than other women.seem to generate ( going from what I've read in the forums and in profiles.)
That has really upset me and gets me really upset. I'm thinking of just keeping my age range at 99 as it only upsets me if I can't find the people i'm looking for.
So I totally understand where you're coming from.x"
Honestly if you get a message from a 99 year old please let me know , that would be amazing 
All jokes aside, that’s terrible you feel like that. People are to quick to judge, but I guess people
Do that in everyday life too
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"When I hit 40 my confidence grew but some of the messages I’ve had recently and some comments on the threads I feel it’s put me right back. I hate it.
You look amazing to me, and I think a lot would agree.
It's often the few nasty comments that stick in your mind though. It's much easier yo believe haters than those complimenting you.
You are absolutely right,No matter how many compliments I receive I believe none of them, but when people are nasty or make snide comments it sticks. Though I find people criticising my character much worse. I wish I had that I don’t give a shit attitude
My perceived personality has been criticised so much simply based on status updates rather than getting to know me, and as a result I receive a lot less interest than other women.seem to generate ( going from what I've read in the forums and in profiles.)
That has really upset me and gets me really upset. I'm thinking of just keeping my age range at 99 as it only upsets me if I can't find the people i'm looking for.
So I totally understand where you're coming from.x"
You are going to get the absolute best message from me in 57 years. |
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I lost my mojo for a while in the latter years of my marriage. But now I'm back to my old confident self. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea but that's ok, because not everyone is mine either. |
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"How's yours as I have got older am confident not many worries "
Always been a confident person but as I've got older I worry even less what others think, I'm very direct, I have not time for drama, games, idiots. If people don't like me it's their loss not mine. I'm wearing that dress, swimsuit shorts, people's opinions don't matter.
Shaz x |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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Much more confident than I was at 20, even go swimming now without a top on!
Learned to truly not give a flying monkeys penis about folks' negative opinions on stuff that truly doesn't matter. Wasn't easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not good but me and only me can make it better 
Exactly and that’s so true. Nobody else can and it doesn’t matter how many compliments you get or what people say, it makes no difference x"
Especially here. I remind myself of that often. XXX |
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"My perceived personality has been criticised so much simply based on status updates rather than getting to know me, and as a result I receive a lot less interest than other women.seem to generate ( going from what I've read in the forums and in profiles.)
That has really upset me and gets me really upset. I'm thinking of just keeping my age range at 99 as it only upsets me if I can't find the people i'm looking for.
So I totally understand where you're coming from.x"
Be Kind t'shirt fabbed. Great idea, why not start a thread? Did try messaging to mention, but I'm not 99 (even if I do feel it sometimes!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I really dont give a rats ass anymore about a lot of needless stuff...l know whats important and l know whats not..and no interest in people that crave confrontation and l now have the confidence just to ignore them .  |
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Mines kind of on the floor right now
Had some joint issues since March which is severely limiting everything, just want to get back to normal and embrace life again.
On the flip side I have a new job starting soon which fills me with so much joy
Jo xx
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"Not good but me and only me can make it better
Exactly and that’s so true. Nobody else can and it doesn’t matter how many compliments you get or what people say, it makes no difference x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've always been a pretty confident guy but it's taken a hammering this last year, posted in the body confidence thread about it and it's really affected me. |
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I have very little self confidence, I haven't since my teens. Unless I hide behind a mask.
Stick me on a motorbike with a full face helmet, or abicycle with a fresh hat a pair of oakleys and I can be very self confident.
I think that is the same with putting on make up, wig and womens clothes. I feel very self confident. |
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"Not good but me and only me can make it better "
Same here, and totally agree! I think everyones confidence has taken a hit over the last 18 months being locked away x |
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Sometimes I feel quite confident in myself and in how I look, because I feel good, but then I see photos where there are no filters or flattering angles, or whatever, and I feel disgusting. My face is too fat, I have a big double chin, and my eyes are too small, I have lumpy bits, and I just feel so ugly then and it really dents my confidence for a long time. I don't let people take photos of me anymore, which is really sad, because it's like I don't exist in their lives then. They won't be able to look back on events we went to together and have find memories involving me, because I was always behind the camera, too afraid to be in front of it  |
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In some areas I have an astonishing level of self confidence and self belief, almost to the point of arrogance. That confidence has grown over time and I don't downplay my abilities and talents.
In other areas I have very little self confidence, and that hasn't changed over time. I'm hoping to reach a point of loving acceptance, but it's tough work to get there. I don't believe I'll reach a point of positive self confidence in those areas. |
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